Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by TheUpsetGirl1(m): 12:10am On Apr 21, 2018 |
UDUJ:
Okay TheUpsetGirl1 let me give you some inkling as to why most guys are scared of marriage:
Basically it could be the reason of independent decision making which is generally curbed after marriage. A lot of responsibilities , tension ,anxiety creeps in to your mind as you have to make sure you handle everything efficiently which may lead to several health problems thereby decreasing your life span.
Men love to be carefree , absolutely free to do whatever they love to do , which is not possible after marriage for we become tied to our family and its members.
Also many a times there are chances of arguments, quarrels and domestic violence on account of mismatch of ideas, misunderstanding, clash of opinions, etc which disrupts the smooth running of life.
Life is short with an uncertain duration and no one knows what is going to happen with him in the next birth, so he wants to enjoy everything he wants to in this birth itself and tries to avoid marriage as much as possible.
Most of us view Marriage as a Mirage. Peace of mind goes after few days .You feel bonded ,and fall in a dilemma which you cannot share with anyone .
Your personality is shared , you loose your privacy .If your views are not common you develop contradictions.
If your mother develops contradiction with your wife there is another headache. If your wife has some male friend and you are not open minded you develop another psychological dilemma with what to do or not to do. If u have a female friend and you don’t tell your wife you have a guilty feeling and if your wife gets to know 95% of time her reaction will be negative.
If your wife does not conceive you become worried, if she becomes pregnant you remain worried till delivery. After delivery if your child has some handicap your whole life becomes hell. You worry about the family, the future, societal pressures to meet up etc etc.
The truth is, most of us feel this way when we have doubts about the partnership (who we are bonding for life with). Once there are no doubts we jump headfirst into marriage without thinking. We listen to no one and follow our hearts and the heart never fails. That's how you know you've found the right one. But the possibility of finding the right one these days is getting smaller and smaller sadly
nice write up. you're very intellectual Kudos ✌ |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by TheUpsetGirl1(m): 12:12am On Apr 21, 2018 |
koyyes: How about the fact that:
1. Most of them are not well bred. They lack basic responsibilities that a normal human being must be taught like how to respect your elders, how to respect women, how to take care of yourself and environment, how to show courtesy outside the home. Most males are raised to reason and act like animals. How on earth can they cope in marriage?
2. They are not given proper orientation of marriage neither are they raised to look forward to it just like the females. Because of this, they do not value marriage and the vows that comes with it as do the females.
3. They have a misguided sense of self entitlement. This has led many into thinking they are scarce commodities so therefore, they can linger around doing nothing while they have 1-7 women feeding and clothing them.
4. Most males are victims or witnesses of domestic violence. This is one of the reasons why a lot of males do not have a good relationship with their fathers who should have been a good role model to them. little wonder the young men think they would be horrible fathers. And yes, a lot of them end up repeating the virtuous circle.
Look around you, males are everywhere but very few of them are man enough to embrace the responsibilities that comes with marriage. what responsibilities? |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by crafteck(m): 12:16am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat Can you pound yam like you mother... Bunch of lazy oloshos 7 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 12:21am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1:
what responsibilities? To keep loving, to provide and to protect. Any other falls under these three. |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by badboyharmony: 12:26am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat say that to you great grandfather's father your mates are busy trying ways to satisfy their man buh ya here spitting bs ogun faya ya puzzay there 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Madisonsqua(m): 12:46am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat lmao....do u really say this? But remember our mothers were also not forming feminist like the new generation Nigerian ladies.....The only time a Nigerian lady will allow her husband to be the head of the house is when it comes to finances. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by steveDpro: 12:49am On Apr 21, 2018 |
|
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 12:55am On Apr 21, 2018 |
2 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by TheUpsetGirl1(m): 1:32am On Apr 21, 2018 |
koyyes:
To keep loving, to provide and to protect. Any other falls under these three. most ladies come with too many problems. immediately you get married, the responsibilities become too much. The worst thing is some women aren't helping matters. Any lady who can't help with those stuffs you listed isn't fit for marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by laudate: 1:41am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1: When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, clubs among others. Now I'm going to list 6 reasons why Nigerian men run from marriage.....
3. Nigeria weddings are expensive In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. Presently the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N700,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost.
4. In search of a ‘working class’ Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home. Number 3 - Nigerian weddings don't have to be expensive, if you and your potential spouse can sit down to agree on how to cut costs, prune your wish list and streamline your desires. Do a small traditional introduction/engagement in the bride's father's parlour, involving only immediate family members, and not more than 5 people, from the extended family. Remove alcohol or wine & beer, from the drinks list. Serve your guests only rice & chicken. Nothing more. Following day, march into the registry to sign the dotted lines. From there, pack into your husband's house. Wetin remain? Number 4 - Forget that hype about searching for working class ladies. Those working class ladies full banks, telcos and multinationals, but most of them are still 'happily' single, with the Ms. prefix, firmly in front of their names, despite all their efforts to shift it. Many have even joined the senior singles club. So what is the hype about working class ladies? It is just an excuse some guys use to dodge matrimony. Ok, if working class ladies were in such high demand, how come many of them are still single? |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by laudate: 1:53am On Apr 21, 2018 |
johnkey: when I'm toasting a girl all I think of is getting between her legs, not sure they can offer anything else than sex hmm. Isn't that the only thing you are offering them, too? |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by laudate: 1:58am On Apr 21, 2018 |
reuben79: (1)no wife materials...........no responsible man in Nigeria will marry person like cece There are wife materials in Naija, but the only problem is that my Naija brothers are not looking for them. Or at least, they are not looking for them in the right places, or with the right mindset that would help them find such materials. They prefer to run after the glamour girls or glam mamas, slay queens, instagram junkies, fashionistas etc. And then turn round to complain there are no wife materials, in sight. Do you know how many men have left wife materials in the lurch, only to run after fashionistas and slay queens? 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by TheUpsetGirl1(m): 2:13am On Apr 21, 2018 |
laudate:
Number 3 - Nigerian weddings don't have to be expensive, if you and your potential spouse can sit down to agree on how to cut costs, prune your wish list and streamline your desires. Do a small traditional introduction/engagement in the bride's father's parlour, involving only immediate family members, and not more than 5 people, from the extended family. Remove alcohol or wine & beer, from the drinks list. Serve your guests only rice & chicken. Nothing more. Following day, march into the registry to sign the dotted lines. From there, pack into your husband's house. Wetin remain?
Number 4 - Forget that hype about searching for working class ladies. Those working class ladies full banks, telcos and multinationals, but most of them are still 'happily' single, with the Ms. prefix, firmly in front of their names, despite all their efforts to shift it. Many have even joined the senior singles club. So what is the hype about working class ladies? It is just an excuse some guys use to dodge matrimony. Ok, if working class ladies were in such high demand, how come many of them are still single? sorry, you made no sense. |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by laudate: 2:15am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1: sorry, you made no sense. Yeah...it probably doesn't make sense to you, because you would actually need an IQ of some sort, to understand what was written, and it appears you lack one. 3 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by TheUpsetGirl1(m): 2:21am On Apr 21, 2018 |
laudate:
Yeah...it probably doesn't make sense to you, because you would actually need an IQ of some sort, to understand what was written, and it appears you lack one. Sorry ,I don't deal with minors. I didn't tell you to quote my post. quote your useless life |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by laudate: 2:23am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1: Sorry ,I don't deal with minors.
I didn't tell you to quote my post. quote your useless life |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by TheUpsetGirl1(m): 2:37am On Apr 21, 2018 |
. |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by AlPeter: 3:07am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat ... Takes only a randy she-goat to know a lazy goat..., well done #publictoilet number 1 2 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by AlPeter: 3:17am On Apr 21, 2018 |
2 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by johnkey: 3:57am On Apr 21, 2018 |
laudate:
Isn't that the only thing you are offering them, too? to make the equation balance |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by AlPeter: 4:00am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1:
most ladies come with too many problems. immediately you get married, the responsibilities become too much. The worst thing is some women aren't helping matters. Any lady who can't help with those stuffs you listed isn't fit for marriage. i know you're annoying with some silly 'wacked' ideas(every one got one or two) but i'm seriously bemused whenever i see you fraternizing with those certified retarded slowpokes on this thread. Babe stop joining bhad ghangs. 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 4:01am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat While you made some sounds points you didn't have to end it in such an uncouth manner Nuff said |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by AlPeter: 4:08am On Apr 21, 2018 |
lestat:
While you made some sounds points you didn't have to end it in such an uncouth manner
Nuff said dude, what were you expecting? Dog's bark, goat's bleat and a public toilet has no choice but to stink 2 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 4:14am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1:
Nigerian guys are tired of the "head of the home" title..
father lawd... Don't say that |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by AlPeter: 4:17am On Apr 21, 2018 |
IamD18:
As usual, not surprised, foolish girls who can't even wash their pant will always quote me and run on this forum whenever they realize their foolishness.
She said men won't go round asking what a woman can offer, but her little fish brain couldn't allow her ask herself if women will go around asking men what they want.
A simple question that was asked, got her pained, upset, annoyed and disturbed.
Well, what do I expect, when the only thing you can offer is your smelling pussy to the society, why won't you be angry with my question.
C'omon will you get out of here!
Dummy! lol..., that Safiaa girl is just too si.**y always thinking every discuss on here is about prostitutes. Poor marketing strategy. 2 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 4:28am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1:
what responsibilities? In a way I can agree with you in some.points raise, but I wouldn't term it laziness, I would say cowardice. Some are so scared of the unknown that they try to rationalize and manage everything as they see fit. For some it's marrying a woman who works to just in case For some they would rather not marry a lady who has more problems than they do For some it's marrying someone who has a thriving business I choose not to believe they are lazy but just scared of the unknown |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 4:36am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Who knows you never can tell what this broke guys are up to I followed all your comments, if you look back at the time you spent responding to comments with the aim of insulting certain users whom you termed as broke guys you would be surprised how much time you could have used to pass a positive message that some young ladies might learn from. I know it's hard but try to resist the urge to be abusive irrespective of how preemptive the comment may be You are a lady, (that doesn't signify wekaness) and no it doesn't mean men have Monopoly of acting guttery But we still hope to look to you women to remind is what a prime and proper character should be Alot of your posts made me smile though (dark humor) Oddly enough I find you very interesting, your edgy feminist stance makes you wuite appealing and scary at the same time But I understand feminism is born out of an oppresive system that tries to subjugate women which is very unnatural We should be friends 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by 2016v2017: 5:23am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1: When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, clubs among others. Now I'm going to list 6 reasons why Nigerian men run from marriage
1. No wife materials Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria.
2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole.
3. Nigeria weddings are expensive
In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. Presently the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N700,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost.
4. In search of a ‘working class’ Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.
5. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships.
6. Trust issues Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.
|
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by 2016v2017: 5:26am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1: When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, clubs among others. Now I'm going to list 6 reasons why Nigerian men run from marriage
1. No wife materials Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria.
2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole.
3. Nigeria weddings are expensive
In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. Presently the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N700,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost.
4. In search of a ‘working class’ Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.
5. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships.
6. Trust issues Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.
� |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Cutehector(m): 5:28am On Apr 21, 2018 |
2 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by civiadj: 5:30am On Apr 21, 2018 |
|
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by highpriestess: 5:48am On Apr 21, 2018 |
IamD18: It's not a deluded statement, blame her not for making such statement because ladies of this generation have being ruined, this generation is fvcked that women marry for money and to ease pressure.
I stand with her with that statement because a woman can only pretend to be a wife material when there's money, disguise yourself and see how they'll flop woefully.
The post below was made by a Nigerian lady for you to understand what I mean.
No! Sex is not free in a marriage, you are indirectly paying for it.
Even if they spend 300k for their wedding, it still doesn't mean it isn't expensive, we'v got different financial worth.
Marriage is expensive in Nigeria both for the rich and the poor, that's the truth.
Go and get married to Dangote's daughter, then I'll believe that inlaws don't give unrealistic expectations.
Trust is the very last thing most partners pay attention to in a relationship.
A woman will channel her concentration in your financial abilities, while a man will channels his concentration in your loyalty and respect.
Even, we are not even suppose to trust anyone.
What can you offer a rich man?
Absolutely nothing! what can you offer a rich woman,absolutely nothing. |