kimbraa:
How old is this lady? 'cause I would love to know.

I mean, who cancels marriage over some feelings that could die off in no time? Obviously she doesn't respect the feelings of others if she could cancel marriage that a date has already been fixed. The supposed ex fiancé dodged a bullet 'cause such unstable ladies end up being promiscuous in marriage once another man could successful use blandishment to win them over. I pity you, you don't know what's coming 'cause if she could do this to someone she was about marring then she could do same to you.

ade2291:
When two people without sense meet themselves, that is how they will end. How can a reasonable human go ahead to date someone who is already getting married, and as if that wasn't enough u told her to do whatever that pleases her. Mr man u can't run from the blame, for u to tell her to do whatever pleases her means u simply wanted her to ditched that guy and follow u. In this regard, she's not the only one responsible for the abysmal disappointment which was given to her ex and his family. To make it worse u are not even having any sympathy concern the other guy's feelings. Just be prepared, life is like a circle. Don't even expect your reward from her, life is so deep that we can't even know where/when karma will come for us. This should be a lesson to everyone.

To her ex, every disappointment is a blessing in disguise. What a life we live in...

CrescentMoon:


I'm a mathematician; I know when equations with unrealistic variables will cause problems. If she's not corrected now, it will spell doom for us in the future.

CrescentMoon:
Having fixed their marriage date, she met me, and we fell in love. We were long lost friends. She then told me she would not continue with the marriage plan. Please, understand that I'm not rich o. But the way she fell looks as if magic is involved. I didn't know how to advise her and I told her to do whatever pleases her. She ended up shattering the man's heart in a commando-like manner. Note that we were not dating when we were just friends in those days. Now that we started dating, I've been showing her some flaws where she needs to adjust if not totally eradicated. Then she did something and I said, "If you continue this way, I can promise you that we won't end up getting married to each other."

Her response: I shattered someone's heart because of you and you caused the cancelation of the forthcoming marriage and you're saying you may not marry me abi?"

Note that I love her so much, but as a rule, men with balls "no send", and I may choose to hurt her. I told her to apologize for that statement but she refused. Of all the sins in this world, blackmail is the only one not forgivable by me.

Should I do my worst if she refuses to apologize?

rikemsmedia:


Clown

markbenny:
run for your life if you care about your happiness. she can dump you as easy as she dumped the other guy. read the signs and dump her first. you can never have control over such women

CrescentMoon:


Read again and understand the post. Someone cancelled the marriage and you're saying if I don't let her go. Is marriage now by force? Nl kids, eh.

TOMSY:
Oga OP. She left someone because of you. From experience, she's likely to do the same to you.
Note that this woman does not care about the feelings of others, hence she was able to break someone's heart (someone with whom she was planning a marriage) after meeting another person, and bragging about it to the other person, i.e you. Also, she doesn't even respect you, for her to utter words that hurt your feelings and not make any attempt to apologize. Infact OP move on biko, she's not worth this stress you're involving yourself in. Her ex-fiance dodged a bullet. Be like him.

CrescentMoon:
Having fixed their marriage date, she met me, and we fell in love. We were long lost friends. She then told me she would not continue with the marriage plan. Please, understand that I'm not rich o. But the way she fell looks as if magic is involved. I didn't know how to advise her and I told her to do whatever pleases her. She ended up shattering the man's heart in a commando-like manner. Note that we were not dating when we were just friends in those days. Now that we started dating, I've been showing her some flaws where she needs to adjust if not totally eradicated. Then she did something and I said, "If you continue this way, I can promise you that we won't end up getting married to each other."

Her response: I shattered someone's heart because of you and you caused the cancelation of the forthcoming marriage and you're saying you may not marry me abi?"

Note that I love her so much, but as a rule, men with balls "no send", and I may choose to hurt her. I told her to apologize for that statement but she refused. Of all the sins in this world, blackmail is the only one not forgivable by me.

Should I do my worst if she refuses to apologize?

clemmonce:
life has thought me somethings I will teach you some. Choose your fight carefully not every war is worth fighting. It is not everytime you will shoe yourself as the alpha male so times apply wisdom. You like the girl like you said will you now say you broke up with someone you love because she did not apologise for something as flippant like that ?
Sit her down .. Tell her she needs to change not that you won't marry each other but it will only tear you guys apart. Wahala no dey brother.

rikemsmedia:



it's not something to walk over, it's a pointer, every human trait has a deep reservoir it derives its energy and nutrition from, it's not something little. Any human being male or female that can't apologise, or feel apology makes them weak has issues, a complete sociopath, anyone that can't apologise should not bother about marriage at all. In the journey of life, lots of apology is needed for the journey especially marriage. The lady in this condition is not marriageable. From his small texts, you can see many negativities with the said personality, some ladies can't marry, men know this. No matter what is done to them, some ladies can never and will never marry

clemmonce:
smiles.. you have a point though.

CrescentMoon:
Having fixed their marriage date, she met me, and we fell in love. We were long lost friends. She then told me she would not continue with the marriage plan. Please, understand that I'm not rich o. But the way she fell looks as if magic is involved. I didn't know how to advise her and I told her to do whatever pleases her. She ended up shattering the man's heart in a commando-like manner. Note that we were not dating when we were just friends in those days. Now that we started dating, I've been showing her some flaws where she needs to adjust if not totally eradicated. Then she did something and I said, "If you continue this way, I can promise you that we won't end up getting married to each other."

Her response: I shattered someone's heart because of you and you caused the cancelation of the forthcoming marriage and you're saying you may not marry me abi?"

Note that I love her so much, but as a rule, men with balls "no send", and I may choose to hurt her. I told her to apologize for that statement but she refused. Of all the sins in this world, blackmail is the only one not forgivable by me.

Should I do my worst if she refuses to apologize?

CosmicJames:

Bro, when you cancel a marriage because of another girl, supposing you were the one, what does it mean?

You must finish what you started.

By the way, the lady haven't offended you yet.
She only asked you a question.
Instead of you to answer her, you are asking her to apologise.

Karma is already after you because of the pain you caused the other guy.
Just be very careful.
Leaving this lady will not save you from karma.

ImaIma1:
You shouldn't be threatening her with not going ahead with the marriage plans. She offend you and the next thing is to threaten her with not marrying her.

Is the marriage a favour to her? Are you perfect yourself that you never offend her?

You are also wrong.

dairykidd:
Op if this ur story is true. It only shows how shallow the girl is. For her to leave a relationship that has made it to wedding stage for u her friend hmm... And ur acting like ur all that from ur comments & post but ur not wise at all.. A wise man knows never to be indebted to any one.. Indebted here i mean owe no one no favours, most especially WOMEN... It will get u down faster than u know it. U will never be able to pay her back for what she's claiming she did for u.. Lolzz u just got urself fvcked up but u don't know.. The only way out is to be passive about the whole thing & pray it expires so u can be free...aww sh1t u said u "love her so much"...ogbeni na problem u put urself so. How can u love someone who did that sh1t to another man for u it is finished

rikemsmedia:




This one strong Leaving this lady will not save you from karma

rikemsmedia:
How is my/our one and only Rorachy aka Chikita66 doing today, i don miss you tire. Babe wey no dey take nonesense

rikemsmedia:



Before taking any non-Churrch Nigerian lady serious, take them to church is what i can advice guys, many of these ladies are demon-possessed and their attitude has been spoilt by the inter-twining of demonic activity with their spirits being the under-cause of their filthy character lots of times

Chikita66:
Been busy dear

clemmonce:
that is my number one advice. Pray before you get married. Character is one thing Spiritual cleanliness is another thing. Pray hard. I like your sense of reasoning thumbs up... I almost gave up on nairaland.

obillyj:
Love your neighbour as yourself. Lack of compassion n empathy to our neighbour is part of d reason we still go round in this nation. Op, u knew she had fixed date with someone, u didn't put urself in his shoe but permitted her to break d guy's heart n took her in now, u want out if she dosen't apologise. what goes around comes around.
Why does she have 2 apologise?what she said was right? U are d chief blackmailer. Why would u threaten to break up with her after what she did for ur sake?why is ur ego making u pompous as thou u hold d key to her marriage?u talk of flaws but urs are glaring. Better work on making urself a better person. By ur actions u are suppose to marry her cos u can't bring her out n leave her stranded but then to avoid future marital crises, if d r/ship does not work, then both of u shld separate. Marriage must not be based on sentiments, pity, debt etc. A broken date is better than a broken marriage. She will cry over it for sometime n move on after all she caused her own doom. But woe to u Op if she is d vindicative type cos u must be ready for acid bathe or even worst.
She on her part was foolish to abandon substance n pursue shadow. She is unstable as water.she sure doesn't knw her marital priorities. I hope she has learnt n is making amends. She better go n apologise well to d guy n obtain his forgiveness if she wants happiness in her home. There is nemesis.

Chi59:
A person who broke her engagement because of you and now threatens not to marry you. What does that tell you?
She doesn't care about the feelings of others. She's selfish and self-willed. And she's trying to guilt trip you by making you the reason for breaking her engagement. That's emotional abuse. And if she's this way unmarried, she'll bring you much more pain once she's wedded to you.
You are seeing red flags. Don't allow emotions block your reasoning.
Count your teeth with your tongue and run as far as you can from her.

CrescentMoon:


Smashing my heart in this age? You're a learner.