teebee22:
she is not been smart, she is just protecting her right, which is keeping the cert. I assume she was given the cert to keep at the registry and not u. pls don't let some of these people who are not too enlightened on this issue spoil ur beautiful marriage. Build ur home, make ur woman happy and with the help of God u would tell ur kids how good their mum is. she may be scared of giving u the original cos I av heard of cases where the man took the cert and set it on fire; cos of ignorant friends who deceived him that the woman will have more say than him cos she is holding the cert. pls sir, I dnt know u but court or no court a loyal and well trained woman will always be one. my sister has been married for more than 11 years and their marriage is still Swt as its first year. mind u they did court marriage.

ImaIma1:



Exactly!! It could mean that he is trying to play a fast one. It is better if he doesn't bother getting married at all.Most churches only wed you after you have gone to the court.

Seahawk:
Or she can rent her own house and live comfortably. She doesn’t have to be in her father’s hut.

tete7000:
People go into marriage thinking it won't last. Marriage built on foundation of sand of distrust and mutual suspicion. Na by force to marry if you already from inception thinking it is not going to work? Devil has indeed taken over the hearts of people and enslaved them with his reign of fear.

egojeny1:
There's a marriage certificate normally issued by the local govt. Can it serve as a marriage cert. from the registry?

......An earlier judgment by Justice Oyindamola Olomojobi of the Federal High Court, wherein the court declared that only councils have the powers to register marriages by virtue of Section 30 (1) of the Marriage Act and Section 7 (5) of the 1999 Constitution.

However, in the said judgment delivered on June 8, 2002, Justice Olomojobi clarified that other lawful authorities could “celebrate or contract marriages.”

Justice Olomojobi listed “Lawful bodies or authorities, which can celebrate or contract marriages for intending persons, who are desirous of getting married as husbands and wives, as “Registrars in places designated as an office; recognised ministers of a religious organisation in a licenced place of worship; and marriages contracted under the licence granted by the Director General, Ministry of Internal Affairs; Director General of a state government in charge of marriages; any officer in the ministries the Minister of Internal Affairs.” https://guardian.ng/saturday-magazine/local-government-can-issue-marriage-certificates-in-accordance-with-marriage-act-say-lawyers/

Sterope:
The Nigerian family law will not ask the husband to share the properties with the wife if he built it with his money. It would ask only if the wife can also prove that she also contributed to the property mostly financial. It is rare for Nigerian courts to share properties and assets between husband and wife if it is owned by one of them. That is why smart women should insist to have their names on properties.

Also, unless your wife is cray cray that is she can handle herself but if she can't and you love your children (not necessarily her), you will legalise your marriage. The reason is the issue of inheritance after your death.

If you care about her too and the way go your family might treat her, you will legalise your marriage.

LaIabobo:
Madam, customary marriage under your native laws and customs is completely legal in Nigeria.

Enice:
all marriage certificates (registry, church/english, customary/native, muslim, etc) are the same in Nigeria. The difference is under what law (common law, sharia law, or native law) are you getting married? Under common law (church and english), you are entitled to one wife at a time. Under sharia law (muslim), you are entitled to as many wives as sharia law permits and under native law, you are entitled to what your custom or culture permits. In the case of divorce, you will be judged according to the law you married under. The most important thing is the government recognised official that officiates/signs off the proceedings of the marriage certificate. For church the priest, for english the marriage registrar or any justice of peace, for muslim the imam or whoever according to sharia law, and for native the recognised person according to your native law,
note: the law you marry under will be the law that will guide your marriage and divorce.

HARDDON:


A woman only live in two places all her life time:

In her father's house or her husband's.

The name she bears, bear testimony to this.

So whether she rent an apartment or not, she is still living with her father, whose name she bears. u dig?

bebe2:
Yes am a full time housewife.

It works for us.

U can throw ur kids to minders and nursery or even househelp that will be doing the unthinkable to them, We decided that our kids will be raise by us, drop off at school, get lunch ready before they come back, pick them up , feed them , take them to football or swimming lessons. Get dinner ready for hubby , prepare school and Hubbys things for tmrw.

If I didn’t this, nanny will be busy beating my kids for no just reason, the driver will be probably be fingering my 7yr old without my knowledge and the house girl will be using my sons dick to practice, my husband will be eating buka food and having dysentery every now and then.

And I won’t work till my last child is in secondary school, yet I can bet a million that am still financially better off than u.

Bojc7:




If she, @omega, writes like a teenager, then u write like a toddler!
A woman spends 20 solid years in ur crib raising u a dynasty and in ur elderly (sic) wisdom ufeel she shd leave ur house exactly as she came? I guess she also entered d marriage with those children from Siberia, shey?
Jesu!
Indeed women have suffered in our hands.
SMH!!!

Ziggylady:



True talk sis..Imagine doing only traditional marriage like one is a herbalist and fore-going court marriage..Story for the press!!...

What then is the evidence to the state we are married??...Marriage Certificate issued by the court is what embassies even require and recognise....and like you said,churches legit churches insist on Court marriage before they wed one in church..

P.s..is actually funny how some guys who 'managed' to agree to Court marriage are talking about 'pre-nup'....'Pre-nup' in their one-room apartment with one mattress,stove,TV and fan

9ja males and their delusions no go kee me

Unlike the Nigerian woman/wife, the moment she decides to marry, her eyes are already on the property you are yet to acquire and being who they are, that she would bring you a 'bastard' child from a cheating relationship with your neighbour, driver or ex-lover, is almost certain.
So, she needs to tie you down properly with a registry marriage, with the assurance that one day, her shennanigans would be revealed.

tete7000:
People go into marriage thinking it won't last. Marriage built on foundation of sand of distrust and mutual suspicion. Na by force to marry if you already from inception thinking it is not going to work? Devil has indeed taken over the hearts of people and enslaved them with his reign of fear.

LaudableXX:

Never heard of marriage certificates being issued for traditional weddings......! Where on earth did you get that one from?

Ziggylady:



True talk sis..Imagine doing only traditional marriage like one is a herbalist and fore-going court marriage..Story for the press!!...

What then is the evidence to the state we are married??...Marriage Certificate issued by the court is what embassies even require and recognise....and like you said,churches legit churches insist on Court marriage before they wed one in church..

P.s..is actually funny how some guys who 'managed' to agree to Court marriage are talking about 'pre-nup'....'Pre-nup' in their one-room apartment with one mattress,stove,TV and fan

9ja males and their delusions no go kee me

poseidon12:


Companionship, according to the good book, the Bible. The Westerners that brought us Christianity understand that, but Nigerians don't seem to. That is why everyone around will start counting for you as soon you get married. If by the second year and still no pregnancy, the typical Nigerian dude and his mom will start considering their options which might include leaving the marriage.
Since you were asking, I guess you fall into this category of Nigerians.

Enice:
http://www.naijalegaltalkng.com/article/family-law/marriage/72-marriages-in-nigeria

For a marriage done in a church to be legal, it must be done in consonance with the provisions of the Marriage Act or it is no marriage at all. This brings us to the place of marriage.

A statutory marriage must be celebrated in the Registrar’s office and the licensed place of worship i.e. a church. The licenses for churches to conduct marriages are obtained from the Ministry of Interior to enable it conduct statutory marriages after the fulfillment of certain requirements... http://www.naijalegaltalkng.com/article/family-law/marriage/72-marriages-in-nigeria

tete7000:
People go into marriage thinking it won't last. Marriage built on foundation of sand of distrust and mutual suspicion. Na by force to marry if you already from inception thinking it is not going to work? Devil has indeed taken over the hearts of people and enslaved them with his reign of fear.

DatIjebuBoi:
So in essence he should just trust her while she doesn't trust him back.How about placing somewhere where they both have access and no one can remove it without the other consent.

pocohantas:


True story. It usually comes with a change in status, which is why women and humans generally, should improve on themselves.

When the man starts climbing up the social ladder, he might not want to be seen with the lace and gele wearing wife. Isn't this how escort girls make money? They follow rich men for functions and get paid.

We should give GEJ some respect. He is a real man for sticking to Mama Peace

Elder001:


You're asking me that?

do registry marriage with a lady who knows the constitution very well and you'll know who's going to enforce it.

If you like go and do registry marriage.. suicide will end it last last

LaudableXX:

Oga, nothing in the article you cited states that marriage certificates can be issued to cover traditional marriages or customary marriages! Stop trying to mislead people. Only statutory marriages (i.e. registry/court marriages or church marriages conducted under the Marriage Act) are covered by a valid marriage certificate, issued by the Ministry of the Interior/Internal Affairs.

Ziggylady:



Yeah right!

LaudableXX:

Wills are being contested every day in court. In fact as I speak to you, I know a case where the wife of the deceased has sued the executors of her husband's will, simply because the man forbade anyone from selling his properties after his death, and the wife is hell bent on doing so. This is the 5th year after the man's death, and none of the terms of the man's will have been executed, simply because his wife went to court to place a caveat on it.

DatIjebuBoi:
So in essence he should just trust her while she doesn't trust him back.How about placing somewhere where they both have access and no one can remove it without the other consent.

Lilimax:
Tha's the state we are in! People go into marriage and expecting it to pack up any most moment God forbid! Where is the vow of for better for worse till death do them part May God help us! GBERRA, what do you have to say one this matter?

Daboomb:


It is the IGNORANCE of you Nigerian women and your alter-ego male arse-kissers, is what would kill una.

You dont have to do a court marriage, to be considered husband and wife, in the eyes of the law.
Even in the USA and Europe, under the column 'type of marriage', there is the option called "PARTNER".

Yes, the man you are married to, whom you both live together as husband and wife and have children together, is defined as your PARTNER.
The implication of this, in the eyes of the Law is that you are entitled to all the reliefs (including tax) of Registery/legally married couples BUT without the LEGALISE of a registry marriage.

Anyone who has lived abroad for a considerable length of time can attest to this.
The couples simple decide that they chose not to do a registry marriage ...and there are those who do the Registry marriage (after lving all their lives as "Partners" ) when they attain a very old age and all their children have moved out to their own family homes (married) sometimes as old as 60yrs!
I am sure we have all seen such marriage of 'old couples'. Infact, a majority of couples fall under this category, in Western countries.
The beauty of this arraingement is that both husband and wife have "seen it all and seen each other inside-out" and each one has nothing to fear of the other and their trust has been built solidly over decades.

Unlike the Nigerian woman/wife, the moment she decides to marry, her eyes are already on the property you are yet to acquire and being who they are, that she would bring you a 'bastard' child from a cheating relationship with your neighbour, driver or ex-lover, is almost certain.
So, she needs to tie you down properly with a registry marriage, with the assurance that one day, her shennanigans would be revealed.

Smart but Evil.

BTW: Pre-Nup is not only done by those who have wealth 'at present', it is also put in place by those who "Have POTENTIAL", to safe guard against whatever they make by themselves.
For example, if l am a software designer with great Potential to make huge money (say lile Zukerberg of Facebook), l might sign a Pre-Nup saying that in case of divorce, she is only entitled to 5% of my net-worth when it happens or that l am not entitled to whatever money she makes 'personally' if say she is trained Medic..
Living in a single room certainly does not preclude anyone from signing a Pre-Nup, unnugo?

Pre-Nup is basically a private agreement betwene intending couples, signed willingly and made bindong on both of them.
The Court will enforce any private such agreement as long as it is not void, ab initio.

Your Mumu is becoming too glaring o.

ImaIma1:


This got me in stitches hahahaha. So that she won't take the stove and mattress if they divorce

Daboomb:


Just read what this clown is writing, all in an effort to get "likes" from faceless women! All these men tha have been "de-balled" sef!
Again, l also need to ask you, 'How old are you and have you ever married in your life" because your 'blissful ignorance' is mind-boggling?

Since you have data and can type on nairaland, it is shocking that l need to lecture you that:
1.) A woman (wife) does not spend 20yrs in her husbands house, raising "his dynasty".
It is foolhardy to pretend that the man owns the children of the family.
At worst, they both own them so, she is "raising her own dynasty as well" and needs no "COMPENSATION" for contributing to the raising of her own children, just like the husband needs no compensation for raising or feeding his own children.

2.) Marriage is between two people and as l have pointed out in my former post on this thread, everything a husband enjoys in marriage, the wife also enjoys it so, NO ONE HAS DONE THE OTHER ANY FAVOR TO WARRANT ANY COMPENSATION.

Be it sex, they both enjoy.
Be it fame, they both enjoy (ask wife of presidetns or Governors, even when she contributed nothing to his dabgerous political venture)
Be it wealth, they both enjoy it (even with the likelyhood that the husband brings more to the table)

If the marriage subsists for twenty or a hundred years, they are both enjoying and contributing to it, during those years and none of them is due any special compensation, afterall, they chose to marry themselves ..... for the benefits they both think there is, in it.

Just NAME ONE THING that the Women BRINGS or GIVES TO THE MARRIAGE............. that is SOLELY for the benefit of the husband, and let us examine it properly.

All these silly, falacious and ignorant dtatement that "She-men" without a brain like oyu make, may make the women have an orgasm but that is just how far it goes.

if your own woman is "suffering in your hands", dont for one minute think that is how the women of others are suffering in their hands, you are just not up to it.

The KEY FACTOR, in my own opinion, that should determine what a woman gets when her husband wants out (divorce) is if the basis of the divorce was for infidelity or not.
Once infidelity is proven, she gets NOTHING from him.
End of story.