Daboomb:


Just read what this clown is writing, all in an effort to get "likes" from faceless women! All these men tha have been "de-balled" sef!
Again, l also need to ask you, 'How old are you and have you ever married in your life" because your 'blissful ignorance' is mind-boggling?

Since you have data and can type on nairaland, it is shocking that l need to lecture you that:
1.) A woman (wife) does not spend 20yrs in her husbands house, raising "his dynasty".
It is foolhardy to pretend that the man owns the children of the family.
At worst, they both own them so, she is "raising her own dynasty as well" and needs no "COMPENSATION" for contributing to the raising of her own children, just like the husband needs no compensation for raising or feeding his own children.

2.) Marriage is between two people and as l have pointed out in my former post on this thread, everything a husband enjoys in marriage, the wife also enjoys it so, NO ONE HAS DONE THE OTHER ANY FAVOR TO WARRANT ANY COMPENSATION.

Be it sex, they both enjoy.
Be it fame, they both enjoy (ask wife of presidetns or Governors, even when she contributed nothing to his dabgerous political venture)
Be it wealth, they both enjoy it (even with the likelyhood that the husband brings more to the table)

If the marriage subsists for twenty or a hundred years, they are both enjoying and contributing to it, during those years and none of them is due any special compensation, afterall, they chose to marry themselves ..... for the benefits they both think there is, in it.

Just NAME ONE THING that the Women BRINGS or GIVES TO THE MARRIAGE............. that is SOLELY for the benefit of the husband, and let us examine it properly.

All these silly, falacious and ignorant dtatement that "She-men" without a brain like oyu make, may make the women have an orgasm but that is just how far it goes.

if your own woman is "suffering in your hands", dont for one minute think that is how the women of others are suffering in their hands, you are just not up to it. [/s]

The KEY FACTOR, in my own opinion, that should determine what a woman gets when her husband wants out (divorce) is if the basis of the divorce was for infidelity or not.
Once infidelity is proven, she gets NOTHING from him.
End of story.

Daboomb:


Look at this Dindinrin!
When you said "Naija males and their delusions" ....l guess that is a complement?
People like you are so foolish you just talk banally and throw words around..

Its a pity that you cant think beyond "Emabssy Visa Application" like that is what marriage is all about!
What about people who have dual citizenship (Nigerian and European/American) and dont have to go to an Embassy before travelling abroad?

Suffice to say, your comprehension skills are non-existent and its a shame you cant see beyond your nose.
That you fall into the category opf "No Future Ambitions (NFA) and will still remain poor after thrity years, is quite understandable...
especially with your type of mentality and shortsightedness, that's 'given'.

Now Buzz-off and let me discuss with intelligent people joor.

Blonchilli:

Leave that guy. Sometimes I find it hard to believe the guy is married, I just pity for his wife at home. His kind will throw her out with not even a tissue paper to her name

Sterope:
Yes. She might gain a bit but not a lot like her western counterpart. Our law needs a reform but not to the extreme like the west.

Elder001:


reforms for what?

I'm not surprised..

Sterope:
Don't worry, you will be fine.Before then, don't develop HBP on top women matters.

Elder001:


Free your heart from the hate you have for me and you'll realize I'm a good person.

What makes you to think I got married to a lady who doesn't have anything in her name already?

I've already clarified my stance on this page already;

I'm not totally against registry wedding .if at all it must be registry then make sure the woman has her own properties and she also has her own money.. anything other than that don't attempt registry wedding. 





Nobody goes into marriage with the hope or thoughts of divorce but this is the 21st century ,everything is possible. There are times in marriage when divorce becomes inevitable .Love doesn't keep a marriage rather it is communication and understanding that keeps a marriage .If you marry because of love, love will fade some day and all those good characters will also fade some day thus making the marriage unreconcileable. 





This is one of the reasons I don't support getting married to a broke woman or turning your wife into a full time housewife. 



A broke individual can never be trusted. It is the broke ones that will go any length to share your properties and make you emotionally devastated. 

Broke people can be greedy and very dangerous 



If the woman has her own properties and her own money there's no way court will share any properties because she can't prove that you wasted her life. 



She can only be awarded child support if you both have kids and she was also awarded custody of the kids. 







anything other than that I won't advice any man to do registry.

Elder001:

I'm still surprised that the Nigerian lawmakers we all know will pass such bills.. seems like they don't know the implications.

95% of nass is made up of men.. still don't understand how these bills got passed.

Especially northern lawmakers... if they could pass this bill in 2004 why didn't the same NASS pass the 2014bill which would've allowed females to inherit properties in Nigeria?.

between the two which is more dangerous?

sounds funny... The same Nass that voted enmass 80% to flush out the bill that would've allowed females to inherit parents properties in Nigeria because of religious and tribal nonsense.


Nass of this century knows what's up..


Those reforms you're waiting for ..you must be dreaming.

Other than child support women shouldn't benefit any other thing from divorce... unless they contributed in acquiring a particular property then that one can be shared.

Nobody is barring you guys from making money and acquiring your own properties during the duration of marriage.


LOL, YOU HATE ME SO MUCH THAT YOU WANT ME TO DEVELOP HBP?

free your heart from the hate you have for me and you'll realize I'm a good person.

Elder001:

I'm still surprised that the Nigerian lawmakers we all know will pass such bills.. seems like they don't know the implications.

95% of nass is made up of men.. still don't understand how these bills got passed.

Especially northern lawmakers... if they could pass this bill in 2004 why didn't the same NASS pass the 2014bill which would've allowed females to inherit properties in Nigeria?.

between the two which is more dangerous?

sounds funny... The same Nass that voted enmass 80% to flush out the bill that would've allowed females to inherit parents properties in Nigeria because of religious and tribal nonsense.


Nass of this century knows what's up..


Those reforms you're waiting for ..you must be dreaming.

Other than child support women shouldn't benefit any other thing from divorce... unless they contributed in acquiring a particular property then that one can be shared.

Nobody is barring you guys from making money and acquiring your own properties during the duration of marriage.


LOL, YOU HATE ME SO MUCH THAT YOU WANT ME TO DEVELOP HBP?

free your heart from the hate you have for me and you'll realize I'm a good person.

Sterope:
I thought a woman is meant to minimise her ambition to take care of the family...is she not again? You can't eat your cake and have it. She deserves something for spending the time she could have used to develop herself to take care of the family. And if you do not like it, are you willing to share family chores with her, take time off for your kids, attend their social events and take paternity leave? Those responsibilities affect ambitions. It is selfish to expect her to maintain the home and make money at the same time. She doesn't need to maintain the same lifestyle she had while married but she surely deserves a slice of the cake. For housewives, they deserve more than a slice.


If there is one thing I know about life, it is time. Wait for it and let's see if the reforms won't happen. I pray we will live long to witness it.

What will women not 'cook up', just to gain an advantage?

But a "supportive and failthful" wife deserves everything her husband can shower on her.

allanphash7:
Registry favor women than men and moreso its a borrowed way of getting married



Our cultural way remains the best

Daboomb:


In other words, "men DONT take care of the family", right?
Only women do!

When it suits women, you claim women are working because they need to be equal to men.
When it does not, you claim they are minimizing their ambition to take care of the family!

What will women not 'cook up', just to gain an advantage?

But a "supportive and failthful" wife deserves everything her husband can shower on her.

Sterope:
Who spent more time making sure you are fine at all times? Your mum or your dad?

This is not an argument because I can't remember any one searching for a homely husband. Can you keep me out your issues?

Daboomb:


Just come and see woman "wayo-sense"!

A husband that is capable of keeping family assets like share certificates, Land titles, Passports.... the only thing he is not capable of keeping is Marriage cert!

Mariage cert IS NOT a woman's right. It belongs to the "married couple".
You people shoudl stop talking dumb.
Chisox, these our Nigerian women sef.

DatIjebuBoi:
He has to!!.Can u trust someone who does not trust you?,He needs it for the same reason she does if not she should give him the original and be content with the photocopies or she should do what I suggested earlier.its funny how women say things like bad influence,not being a real man when things dont go their way because the reason the wife is holding to the certificate is to protect herself and their is nothing wrong with that.what I have a problem with is the fact when the man wants the same protection he is supposedly influenced by bad people.

lefulefu:
There are prenuptal agreements b/w couples preceding court weddings. Had it been in court weddings dat the woman must inherit all the man's property following a divorce then gold diggers would have been hooking with Dangote,otedola,adenuga and other wealthy nigerian men in court weddings and after one week or a month of marriage they had sue for divorce and inherit all of dangote's or otedola's properties. Its not as simple as it looks.

Sterope:
I thought a woman is meant to minimise her ambition to take care of the family...is she not again? You can't eat your cake and have it. She deserves something for spending the time she could have used to develop herself to take care of the family. And if you do not like it, are you willing to share family chores with her, take time off for your kids, attend their social events and take paternity leave? Those responsibilities affect ambitions. It is selfish to expect her to maintain the home and make money at the same time. She doesn't need to maintain the same lifestyle she had while married but she surely deserves a slice of the cake. For housewives, they deserve more than a slice.


If there is one thing I know about life, it is time. Wait for it and let's see if the reforms won't happen. I pray we will live long to witness it.

teebee22:
u deserve a kiss Darling. Abeg help me tell them na. Ayam not understanding all these their share property saga o. which property sef the tokunbo car or the three bedroom flats. empty barrels been making noise since the time of Baal.

teebee22:
Oga wat if during the middle of an argument or misunderstanding the man asks for the cert. let me state mg point her "If anything happens to that cert, while the woman has a lot to loose, the man has nothing to loose.
Wat the hell are we even arguing abt? Hav u heard a woman throw her man out?, rather its the men u does that more often. In such scenario what will the woman hold on to? I dnt want to believe the people arguing this shit are enlightened adults. WTF!

KevinDein:

Teebee22, please respond to this comment I quoted. He made a valid point and it deserves your response.

Thank you, Ma

Elder001:


I don't know whether to call you dumb or not.

Pre-nup is necessary for any man that wants a registry whether broke or rich.

You've been ranting all over the thread calling people empty barrels and shouting tokumbo car.

I can bet that you don't even have any car but you won't allow people to hear word with your ignorant and ridiculous statements.



If the man can't keep the cert the woman shouldn't also keep the cert.

You've ulterior motives.

Sterope:
Who spent more time making sure you are fine at all times? Your mum or your dad?

This is not an argument because I can't remember any one searching for a homely man. Can you keep me out your issues? I don't have time for unreasonable argument biko.

Daboomb:


I am sure and it is rather unfortunate that you are saddled with 'sickly-boys' who need you to make sure they are fine.
On the other hand, its most likely you were spawned by one of those useless, drunklen absent fathers who never stay home nor contribute to your psychological and mental paucity.
That is your lot in life so bear your cross gleefully.


Real, matured men like us can take good care of themselves and the children they bring forth, with a supportive and faithful wife in tow.

......and by the way, with your level of extremely low I.Q, you dont qualify to argue with me 'cos l dont do arguements with simpletons.

teebee22:
lolll @talking dump. that same man this is capable of destroying the cert cos he wants to trample on the woman's right. and mind u this is not church wedding o or traditional wedding. it is REGISTRY, that's if u understand. And it's very clear u dnt, so I don't av time to argue with u. Make ur findings and come back let's conclude.

teebee22:
You all know men are very convincing. And the next thing he does is to remove it from there, when he has been wrongly informed and then uses the phrase "I am the man of the house, I own u and married u with my money". Guys u know wat I am saying o, but I hope that convincing spirit would let u agree am saying the truth. Even at the registry, the registrar will tell the woman to keep the cert cos its her right.

teebee22:
u dnt even av to call me dumb cos I already see one in you or should I say u feel insecure. oga abeg park well. I dnt av a car, yes! but am proud not to be dependent on any one. Ask my family and friend, I am very dependent, i stick to my plans and ain't taking no shit from nobody. if my future husband refuses to have a registry, I av no issue with that and that will even be the more reason i will work more for mine.

(CNN) — Eric Abramovitz's hard work had paid off: The accomplished clarinet player had been accepted to his dream school. But he never got to hear the good news.
That's because when his acceptance email arrived in 2014, Abramovitz's then-girlfriend, Jennifer Lee, deleted it and sent him a fake rejection email from the school. It was a $265,000 mistake.

"It was really devastating to feel that incredible betrayal," Abramovitz told CNN. "It made me think of our whole relationship and it made me feel like everything might have been a lie."

Where it began

A college sophomore studying music at McGill University at the time, Abramovitz had applied to a two-year, full-scholarship program to finish his bachelor's degree at Colburn Conservatory of Music in Los Angeles. Itching to study with a renowned clarinet teacher, Abramovitz spent many late nights in practice rooms to prepare for his audition, which he thought went well.

The full scholarship -- which includes tuition, room and board -- is worth about $50,000 a year and Abramovitz said graduating from Colburn would have set him up for a high-paying symphony career. When he was rejected, Abramovitz said he was crushed.
"It was a disappointing feeling," Abramovitz said. "I had such high hopes."
Abramovitz would have studied under Yehuda Gilad, who is considered one of the best clarinet instructors in the world, he said. Gilad accepts only two new students each year at Colburn, and Abramovitz was one of them.

How she covered her tracks

This Wednesday, a Canadian court ruled that Abramovitz's ex-girlfriend owed him more than $265,000 (350,000 Canadian dollars) for damages including loss of reputation, educational opportunity and two years of potential income. Roughly US$37,000 of that final amount was added on by the judge for Lee's "despicable interference" in Abramovitz's career.

To convince Abramovitz that Colburn had rejected him, his girlfriend posed as Abramovitz and replied to the school's acceptance email, writing that he would not accept the scholarship because he planned to "be elsewhere." Then she deleted the acceptance email from Abramovitz's inbox.

Lee went one step further, creating a fake email address for Yehuda Gilad: giladyehuda09@gmail.com, and sending Abramovitz a rejection email that offered him a spot at the University of Southern California with a $5,000 scholarship instead. Tuition at USC is more than $50,000, a price Abramovitz said his girlfriend would have known he could not afford.

"It still puzzles me why she even added that," Abramovitz said. "She knew it wouldn't be realistic, so I had to turn that down even though it wasn't real."
Defeated, Abramovitz completed his studies at McGill. He and Lee broke up a few months later for unrelated reasons, he said.

The moment it all came together

Fast forward two years to 2016, when Abramovitz auditioned for a graduate program at USC, where Gilad also teaches. Abramovitz still had no idea his rejection from Colburn was fake. Each man thought they had been rejected by the other.

Abramovitz described a confusing scene at his USC audition in which Gilad asked why he was there, because he had rejected Colburn, and in turn, his instruction.
"With all due respect, I believe you rejected me," Abramovitz said he told Gilad.
He said Gilad repeated that it had been the other way around. Abramovitz figured Gilad was confusing him with another student.

It wasn't until Abramovitz's classmates asked why he had rejected the Colburn offer that he began to think something was fishy. He went back through his emails and forwarded the rejection he had received in 2014 to Gilad, who said he had never written it.
"I knew I'd been had, but I was still far from knowing by who," Abramovitz said.

His friends became involved in the case and suggested his ex-girlfriend might have played a role.
"It was scary to even confront that thought given how much I trusted her, but over time it started to sink in and I became more and more suspicious that maybe she had done it, as unpleasant as it was to imagine," Abramovitz said.

Abramovitz tested some of his ex's old passwords to sign into the account that sent the rejection email two years earlier, and that's when the pieces started coming together. The account's recovery information was his girlfriend's email and phone number.

"It was a simultaneous stab to the back and the heart," Abramovitz said. "It really was the last person I would have wanted to find out it was."
When served with the initial lawsuit, Lee did not respond to Abramovitz's lawyers, so she lost by default. Under Canadian law, a defendant in default "is deemed to admit the truth of all allegations of fact" made in the plaintiff's claim.
CNN made attempts to locate Lee, but she could not be reached for comment.
The process was long, Abramovitz said, but he hasn't let the experience affect the way he trusts people.

A bright future

Today, Abramovitz has a new girlfriend.
"We are coming up on two years soon and it is a really healthy relationship with trust and honesty," Abramovitz said. "I'd like to think my judgment of character has improved a little bit."
Abramovitz has also found success in his professional life. He won a position with the Nashville Symphony Orchestra and was recently appointed the associate principal clarinetist of the Toronto Symphony Orchestra.
Abramovitz says he doesn't "harbor any ill feelings" towards his former girlfriend and hopes she can learn from the experience and live a more honest life.
"Despite what happened I think I landed on my feet and the trajectory I'm on is still what I wanted for myself," he said.

Source: https://edition-m.cnn.com/2018/06/15/us/dream-school-false-rejection-letter-trnd/index.html

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ARE YOU ALSO AGAINST "WHITE WEDDINGS" SINCE IT'S A BORROWED THING?

I'VE NOT SEEN POSTS FROM ANY OF YOUR COLLEAGUES SAYING PEOPLE SHOULD ABANDON ALL THE BORROWED WAYS OF GETTING MARRIED AND FOCUS ON JUST OUR CULTURAL WAY.

Blonchilli:

I apologize for my behavior on my thread and for misjudging you. I do not have any hatred towards you neither am I calling you out to troll you. I love interacting with people who argue intellectually and not attacking one personality or generalizing, that's what made me loose my cool on the other thread.
I agree with you on marrying a broke person. A lot of people, especially female see marriage as a poverty alleviation scheme. In a situation where a man and a woman had struggled together and in the future they separate it's only right to share whatever they have. Personally I'm repulsed by women with no idea or goals in life and are desperate for marriage, woe beside the unfortunate man. I take my stance based on personal experience. As a kid I saw my mom and dad make a fortune together through thick and thin only for the man to walk out later in life with everything, it got to court and despite the court orders he still did what he wanted to do. Now with almost zero, mother raised us and we're doing good. Now if my mom had the awareness we had today the matter would have worked in a way to benefit both parties. It's the right of every woman out there who struggled with her man to enjoy the benefits too. Even if she's just a house wife ,raising kids are damn hard, not to talk of raising kids with good moral standards or a woman that manages house chores with a 8-5 job and taking care of the kids . But if it's a man who has worked hard for his money and a gold digger comes later it will be foolish if he does a registry. The point is know the kind of woman you are getting married, don't use love to make foolish decision. A lady who can foot her bills and even if she's not working but brings a lot to the table deserves some kind of benefit after divorce.

Blonchilli:

I apologize for my behavior on my thread and for misjudging you. I do not have any hatred towards you neither am I calling you out to troll you. I love interacting with people who argue intellectually and not attacking one personality or generalizing, that's what made me loose my cool on the other thread.
I agree with you on marrying a broke person. A lot of people, especially female see marriage as a poverty alleviation scheme. In a situation where a man and a woman had struggled together and in the future they separate it's only right to share whatever they have. Personally I'm repulsed by women with no idea or goals in life and are desperate for marriage, woe beside the unfortunate man. I take my stance based on personal experience. As a kid I saw my mom and dad make a fortune together through thick and thin only for the man to walk out later in life with everything, it got to court and despite the court orders he still did what he wanted to do. Now with almost zero, mother raised us and we're doing good. Now if my mom had the awareness we had today the matter would have worked in a way to benefit both parties. It's the right of every woman out there who struggled with her man to enjoy the benefits too. Even if she's just a house wife ,raising kids are damn hard, not to talk of raising kids with good moral standards or a woman that manages house chores with a 8-5 job and taking care of the kids . But if it's a man who has worked hard for his money and a gold digger comes later it will be foolish if he does a registry. The point is know the kind of woman you are getting married, don't use love to make foolish decision. A lady who can foot her bills and even if she's not working but brings a lot to the table deserves some kind of benefit after divorce.

Masterppower:


True talk my sister...

how are you doing