Ziggylady:



Read my answer again(not like i owe you one)...slowly this time,perhaps you will understand better

MariaLavina:
As simple as that....
Why are guys acting up?

IamD18:
Zicoraads, I just don't want to believe that this writeup came from you. Even a demented and dimwitted slowpoke cannot stoop so low to scribble such rubbish.

>Relationship shouldn't be a financial means of a woman. It's should be relationship, not a job for a lady.

>The only set of ladies allowed to form class should be a lady who is rich and can afford her needs without depending on any man, which means classy ladies are not suppose to depend on men because they are rich and can fend for themselves.

Simply put: Hungry ladies who asks men for money in a bid to form classy are nothing but riffraffs and poor ladies.

Question is; Why should a poor lady live a level of life she can't maintain without depending on a man?

zicoraads:
I've seen countless narratives on Nairaland about ladies and their love for money. The most annoying one was the one I saw today of a guy complaining that his girlfriend would always want them to eat out where he'll end up paying 2k or 3k. But let's be honest with ourselves, that narrative is very wrong.

Now I'll show you why it is.

There are different types of ladies in a university. As someone who comes from a modest home, go for the ones who are serious with their studies and are more into guys who know why they are in school. These ones are more of the future than the present. They don't even mind drinking garri with you. Others, however, are the ones whose houses off campus are tastefully furnished and who live in apartments worth 150k. They also dress to kill. You think all of these fell from the sky? She has a lifestyle that needs to be maintained. As her man, realize that you also have to contribute to that. Don't ask her out and if she starts demanding, you run to Nairaland, shouting about how ladies are materialistic.

There are also these types of ladies in the larger society. A working class lady will most likely not follow you to the woman who sells beans and bread around your area. She will most likely prefer to lodge or eat Golden Tulips, Jevinik, BluCabana etc. Not her fault, she is classy and has taste. She has probably passed that stage where she followed her university love to the beans and bread seller. She is not about that life anymore. She still loves you a lot though, her taste notwithstanding.

Point being, at every point in your life, know how to cut your coat according to your size. And if you want to punch above your weight, don't go shouting about ladies' love for money. They are most likely just above your league.

uncjay:
I remember back then in 2012, had this girl I like so much and desperately want to date...... I have a big bro I confide in, I told him about my intentions and desire to date the said girl.

the first question he asked was 'do you have enough money to maintain this kind of girl?'

The question jolted my curiosity because I believe that relationship should not be based on money at first but genuine love from both partners. He however said, not that she's money centered but there are things she grew up with, things she like to eat, drink, places she love going to and a whole lots.....he said Oga I'm not trying to discourage you, but I can tell that you two are two parallel lines, you don't live her lifestyle, and even if things work out for you and she loved you, financial aspect of the relationship will pose a lot of problems, because she will always want you to meet up to the standard she grew up with. Are ready to wear that kind of shoe?

I reasoned with him. That was the first time it occur to me that everyone actually have their places.

I will agree with the OP.

zicoraads:

Thank you!

It's the reality of life. Unfortunately, the ones you find on Nairaland will hardly ever be able to reason. For most of them, shouting obscenities is their way of having a conversation.

LilSfc:
Op you are right
I don't use to have problem with my girlfriend. She's a church girl and also very serious type academically. So anything I give her, no complaints even when I offered her nothing. We are still cool �

revson:
First and foremost, good afternoon friends.

One thing which is disheartening but we have to live with " life is in phases and men are in sizes". Even though we try to shy away from the fact that your financial muscle is a defining variable in the success or otherwise of any love affair, it is. It oils the wheel of progress and make the relationship worth the while of parties.

If whoever wants to build a particular have to count the cost, then whoever wants to start a relationship should do likewise. If as guy you desire ladies with certain attributes, it only make sense for you to ensure you have what it takes to handle such. For example, you are a jobless and you want to date a lady that is well read and used to a certain lifestyle that is way above your means, it might happen but it with long shot.
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If you make her understand upfront about your financial strength and she is willing to take a haircut on her lifestyle, then it makes sense to shot your shots with every gusto and fervency in you.

My opinion, if you desire a particular class of ladies, please work on ability before firing your arrows.

Relationship should never precede your desire to take your career off the ground. All of those school dating builds up your EQ but do little good on your career, in most instances though.

Lastly, just my opinion, you can critic but with logic.

Regards

iLegendd:
There are two kinds of people on this thread.

1. Those who agree with the op. These people are:
A. Beta males who make money just to impress women.
B. Women who are broke, but try to form classy because they see themselves as beautiful or endowed.

2. Those who disagree with the opposite. These people are:
A. Alpha males who invest their money in businesses.
B. Bad boys who know what's up.

The op tried, but where he made a mistake is the classy ladies' description. Classy ladies don't demand, they spend. The kind of classy ladies that demand are the broke ones who pretend to be classy.

As someone who has dated classy white, Asian, and black ladies, none of them demand. What they do is spend on me. These are not sugar mommies, but beautiful and endowed girls I'm even older than.

Money is not their problem. They are rich and their parents are rich, so why should they demand? All a real classy lady needs is a bad boy who is great in bed, intelligent, and in control.

Any classy lady who demands is not a classy lady. Any man who supports the op on the classy lady description is not a real man, but a beta male who gets controlled by a woman. He is a weakling.

I said the truth from experience. I'm out. Let the kids argue.

Bye.

iLegendd:
There are two kinds of people on this thread.

1. Those who agree with the op. These people are:
A. Beta males who make money just to impress women.
B. Women who are broke, but try to form classy because they see themselves as beautiful or endowed.

2. Those who disagree with the opposite. These people are:
A. Alpha males who invest their money in businesses.
B. Bad boys who know what's up.

The op tried, but where he made a mistake is the classy ladies' description. Classy ladies don't demand, they spend. The kind of classy ladies that demand are the broke ones who pretend to be classy.

As someone who has dated classy white, Asian, and black ladies, none of them demand. What they do is spend on me. These are not sugar mommies, but beautiful and endowed girls I'm even older than.

Money is not their problem. They are rich and their parents are rich, so why should they demand? All a real classy lady needs is a bad boy who is great in bed, intelligent, and in control.

Any classy lady who demands is not a classy lady. Any man who supports the op on the classy lady description is not a real man, but a beta male who gets controlled by a woman. He is a weakling.

I said the truth from experience. I'm out. Let the kids argue.

Bye.

zicoraads:

Let's try and keep it civil, shall we?!

That said, I'll tell you my reasoning. I totally agree that relationships should never be a financial avenue for anyone, man or woman. I also agree that the only woman agree to form that level of class should be a financially independent woman.

Since we have agreed on the above, I'll like to ask you some few questions.

I think we can also agree that a lady like Linda Ikeji falls into that category. Now if, for instance, you ask her out and she agrees to date you, do you think because she is financially independent, she wouldn't want diamond necklaces, wrist watches, original designer shoes and bags as gifts? Or won't you surprise her by taking her to the best restaurants in town, or even a getaway weekend at a good and expensive hotel or even to other places abroad?

I'll love you to answer the questions above.

Getting her those things won't change the fact that she is financially independent.

But how about when you date the lady in your street? Will she want all of that? Of course not!

So why ask a "Linda Ikeji" out? Instead of asking that lady in your street out. Which one do you think will be more financially draining on you? The answer you have is the reason why this thread was created.

zicoraads:
I've seen countless narratives on Nairaland about ladies and their love for money. The most annoying one was the one I saw today of a guy complaining that his girlfriend would always want them to eat out where he'll end up paying 2k or 3k. But let's be honest with ourselves, that narrative is very wrong.

Now I'll show you why it is.

There are different types of ladies in a university. As someone who comes from a modest home, go for the ones who are serious with their studies and are more into guys who know why they are in school. These ones are more of the future than the present. They don't even mind drinking garri with you. Others, however, are the ones whose houses off campus are tastefully furnished and who live in apartments worth 150k. They also dress to kill. You think all of these fell from the sky? She has a lifestyle that needs to be maintained. As her man, realize that you also have to contribute to that. Don't ask her out and if she starts demanding, you run to Nairaland, shouting about how ladies are materialistic.

There are also these types of ladies in the larger society. A working class lady will most likely not follow you to the woman who sells beans and bread around your area. She will most likely prefer to lodge or eat Golden Tulips, Jevinik, BluCabana etc. Not her fault, she is classy and has taste. She has probably passed that stage where she followed her university love to the beans and bread seller. She is not about that life anymore. She still loves you a lot though, her taste notwithstanding.

Point being, at every point in your life, know how to cut your coat according to your size. And if you want to punch above your weight, don't go shouting about ladies' love for money. They are most likely just above your league.

IamD18:
Zicoraads, I just don't want to believe that this writeup came from you. Even a demented and dimwitted slowpoke cannot stoop so low to scribble such rubbish.

>Relationship shouldn't be a financial means of a woman. It should be relationship, not a job for a lady.

>The only set of ladies allowed to form class should be a lady who is rich and can afford her needs without depending on any man, which means classy ladies are not suppose to depend on men because they are rich and can fend for themselves.

Simply put: Hungry ladies who asks men for money in a bid to form classy are nothing but riffraffs and poor ladies.

Question is; Why should a poor lady live a level of life she can't maintain without depending on a man?

Pataricatering:
the problem with you guys is you feel every woman must be accessible to you ! Some women are not your mate ! Whether they use olosho to get the money o , they worked for it o , their father gives them money o - it doesn’t matter - there are levels and some women will never be your mate !

Pataricatering:
the problem with you guys is you feel every woman must be accessible to you ! Some women are not your mate ! Whether they use olosho to get the money o , they worked for it o , their father gives them money o - it doesn’t matter - there are levels and some women will never be your mate !

MrCork:





....Bro. .so u tryna start trouble on nairaland encouragein women to be gold diggers making it difficult for us guys to catch them. ..correct?

funmisticqueen:
broke ass nigga spotted

funmisticqueen:
broke ass nigga spotted

MrCork:



^^^she ain't even lightskin sef! ! ((Shake my head 5th message))

IamD18:
Zicoraads, I just don't want to believe that this writeup came from you. Even a demented and dimwitted slowpoke cannot stoop so low to scribble such rubbish.

>Relationship shouldn't be a financial means of a woman. It should be relationship, not a job for a lady.

>The only set of ladies allowed to form class should be a lady who is rich and can afford her needs without depending on any man, which means classy ladies are not suppose to depend on men because they are rich and can fend for themselves.

Simply put: Hungry ladies who asks men for money in a bid to form classy are nothing but riffraffs and poor ladies.

Question is; Why should a poor lady live a level of life she can't maintain without depending on a man?

funmisticqueen:
how has lightskin helped your destiny? broke ass immigrant with no prospects

MrCork:


..

..am in London,i have moiney. .. .u in Nigeria, u have Nadal..this means I can easily get any woman I want..single, married, you included.

..bleach to lightskin & u will stand a shance dating me....I date lightskin females.. u don't even have nyansh! ! (Shake my head) . .big shame

funmisticqueen:
how has lightskin helped your destiny? broke ass immigrant with no prospects