Frankyboy1:
Rule number 1: never trust a woman! Seen.it all, done it all, banged countless girls whom their bf will swear on their lives re faithful! The longer a relationship the more boring it gets to a woman, women re more eager to explore as long as the bond of secrecy is enacted,due to judgemental societal pattern! Before ur docile gf can be this secretive about a guy, trust me the probability she likes him is 100%, that she has been banged 80%, except he is not a bad ass nigga.
Look bro, u re in line, never trust a lying bitch, never give a woman 100% of ur heart, once they ve it, they spill it, give her in.bits,nd watch her chasing for more, never gve her ultimate security, except she is ur wife! Lol, my friend just laying a babe in my apartment rit now ,whose wedding is next Saturday, nd u know wat, d bf is keeping her for d d day nit

So true, my friend once dated a girl who was engaged, as in she Dey sample the ring Fo Hand. My Nigga will be banging her and her fiancé will call, bros with dick inside her puxxy she will answer her fiancée call and even tell him “I love you”
I think guys that fall in love are those who haven’t done some crazy stuff.. trust no babe, because an average girl doesn’t know what she wants so they can always be vulnerable.

Simplep:
Fix ur relationship my dear,its a good one judging frm ur write ups,,,u are jst overreacting on something u guys can jst sort out in no time

U forgot to ask a question, why did she hide the real reason for wanting a number in respect to someone who the OP is suspecting is wooing her?. Don't forget that she never hide stuffs from him, so why now?...in my opinion, he has every right to be worried knowing the kind of person that she is.

giftlygifted:
The more you get old, the more you realise that even your poor parents are trying.

GIVE THEM ACCOLADES NOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE.






This Generation tire me
Girl to Girl..
Girl 1: I have a boyfriend now!
Girl 2: Is he cute? Girl
3: Does he have money?...


Boy to Boy...
Boy 1: I got a new girlfriend now!!
Boy 2: She get yansh?
Boy 3: You don fxck her?...
I'm tired of this generation

Lmao!...no be lie aswear!

One of my stupid friend, when u tell him u have a new babe, the first thing he says is,...u don fvck her?. If u say no, he'll say then she's not ur GF yet.

I personally think a breakup should happen in person. It's far more respectful. However in this day and age, a phone call is better than a text or a snapchat or a random FB post. Point is, any rules that used to exist on this topic are no longer applicable. We live in a tech world. So my advice is, be a good person. Don't hide behind technology. Respect the time you had together. Breakup in the most honorable way possible for your situation. I wish you the best.

The issue here is your girlfriend's gullibility. Its really frightening. U have been with her for 3 yrs. If u have entertained this fear of her not being able to handle little things or manage herself, all these yrs,then u should think twice abt the relationship

Frankyboy1:


The longer a relationship the more boring it gets to a woman, women re more eager to explore as long as the bond of secrecy is enacted,due to judgemental societal pattern!

Before ur docile gf can be this secretive about a guy, trust me the probability she likes him is 100%, that she has been banged 80%, except he is not a bad ass nigga.

Never give a woman 100% of ur heart, once they ve it, they spill it, give her in bits,nd watch her chasing for more, never gve her ultimate security, except she is ur wife!

This ur points are the bitter and gospel truth that most folks will not want to accept, especially the 2nd line I edited.

masterfactor:
abeg which dstv station go show Nigeria match

SS 223 HD

buske:


If your glasses are really working and you can read behind the lines, you'd understand that it was only anger/quarrel. We haven't really broken up.

Permit me to say you are an egocentric, arrogant, insolent....... You don't even know how to talk to people, you are so immature and insecure. You think everybody is out to get you, this lady has the nicest heart to me and from the look of things she actually cares for you, she might be indecisive and easily deceived but damn! Who doesn't have a weakness?. Yours is even worse and you are here judging her when you are so so wrong. Why will you break a relationship of 3yrs because she wants to get a rev number for a male friend?? How does that relate to cheating??. Or isn't she allowed to have male friends again?? . The fact she needs the Rev contact mean her friends need some spiritual help which she wants to keep between herself and the guy, must you know everything??.... how old are you again?? You graduated from the university 3yrs ago and life haven't told you things?? A school cert wouldn't do this!!!

That geh is better off without you.

Bossontop:

Well i wiil jus mind my business

Bossontop:

Well i wiil jus mind my business

lol

udemzyudex:


Showsports TV, stream with your phone using Ntel sim #1k for 12gb and never miss any world Cup football match

1k for 12gb?, pls explain lil further

kenlinzo:


You must always learn to respect the opinions of ur partner in a relationship if u want to succeed in it. She has given u the reason why she needed the number from u so why press further for unnecessary answer if u are not looking for an avenue to break-up with her. To me, the girl never did any thing wrong. U'r just been jealous unnecessarily. U have been with a girl for 3yrs now and u still don't trust her, the girl sef try to stay with u this long. Pls grow up and amend ur ways with her.

Even if u don't want to be dating/sleeping with a girl/boy again doesn't mean u should break up with her. Boy/girl relationship is not only for sex but for companionship.

Note: For the fact that u are dating a girl/guy doesn't make u a lord over her/him, it is only marriage that gives u the overall privilege over ur spouse..

Thank you ooo...what the way he keeps pressing on answers one will wonder if he is her dad or hubby. He doesn't even respect the gal at all...... how can u break up with someone whose 3yrs u took just like that??over the fone for that matter without a concrete reason??

This is why babies shouldn't be going into relationship because they don't know way commitment is....

enonche85:


1k for 12gb?, pls explain lil further

Are you in lagos?

udemzyudex:


Are you in lagos?

Yes I am. Lekki phase 1.

dukeprince50:
are u talking about Brazil match? I think Brazil match is 1pm, Nigerian match is 6pm

Nigerian match is 4pm

[i]For get that beach she ain't loyal

Never trust those guys that advice u to
1.Bleep a girl and move on.
2.Don't love,it's childish
3.Every woman is a hoe don't give a damn about them.
4.Forget that bitch,she ain't loyal
Those guys are the very ones that worship their gf's in the room,they can't even talk back to their gf's when they speak,spend on them like Oyibo magas.Forming boss online. Na those kine guys deh mumu pass.



My advice 3 years is a long time for u both to give to ur selves and just mess it up so casually.Go talk things out with ur girl. Their's a reason uv bin with her all these while.

You and the lady are kids.... Wish it's possible to unread this Bullshit.

buske:


Thank you very much. You understand!

Like...I am very concerned about that her vulnerability. Sometimes... I can't even trust her wit herself.

This part really made me lol

Until you have evidence that she's cheating you can't make accusations. But you can discuss with her that you are not comfortable with her friendship with this person and you want to her to cut off the friendship.

Don't draw conclusions on a hunch. Being friends first before being is a relationship is a good thing. You can talk to her as a friend when things are not going ok.

If things don't work out, you can break up and still remain friends.

Frankyboy1:
Rule number 1: never trust a woman! Seen.it all, done it all, banged countless girls whom their bf will swear on their lives re faithful! The longer a relationship the more boring it gets to a woman, women re more eager to explore as long as the bond of secrecy is enacted,due to judgemental societal pattern! Before ur docile gf can be this secretive about a guy, trust me the probability she likes him is 100%, that she has been banged 80%, except he is not a bad ass nigga.
Look bro, u re in line, never trust a lying bitch, never give a woman 100% of ur heart, once they ve it, they spill it, give her in.bits,nd watch her chasing for more, never gve her ultimate security, except she is ur wife! Lol, my friend just laying a babe in my apartment rit now ,whose wedding is next Saturday, nd u know wat, d bf is keeping her for d d day nit

False. If he is the type that doesn't like her talking about men around him she might lie. The issue here is that she doesn't even know how to lie sef. Some will weave a story around it just to hide the truth. She just tried to use gra gra to avoid talking more about the issue. Not all men Bleep everything they see. Giving bed to a friend in your home to Bleep another mans future wife is a taboo and speaks so much about your lack of morals and so how can a foul person like you judge someone else?

I still can't see where she lied.


Withholding information from you is not the same thing as lying mbok

PrinceCEE:


Show me the way to make the 500k - 1m naira. I'm ready to quit my own relationship...

This is a very serious young man.

bejeria101:
Welcome to my world! She went back to her ex who got her pregnant,she gave birth to twins and he got married the week the twins were born. For her mind she thought she was smart abi?

delishpot:



False. If he is the type that doesn't like her talking about men around him she might lie. The issue here is that she doesn't even know how to lie sef. Some will weave a story around it just to hide the truth. She just tried to use gra gra to avoid talking more about the issue. Not all men Bleep everything they see. Giving bed to a friend in your home to Bleep another mans future wife is a taboo and speaks so much about your lack of morals and so how can a foul person like you judge someone else?

I don’t think you should blame the guy whose house was used for a suspicious transaction. They are both adults and the onus rests with the person getting married to keep herself for her husband. That being said, the ops girlfriend is obviously having an affair.

statusquoante:
When the Bible says we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers we say it's old school.

I mean, what is stopping anyone from sleeping around

Yours truly is only held back by the fear of God else I would have loved to screw any fairly okay lady that comes my way.

If you truly fear God you would not say this cause the only thing left is for you to do it physically. But by your write up you have already done it in your heart so it is judged as done because even the bible said so in Matthew 5:28 . Stop punishing yourself, chose one to do it and face the music or to truly serve God by keeping your body and mind wholesome.

kenlinzo:


You must always learn to respect the opinions of ur partner in a relationship if u want to succeed in it. She has given u the reason why she needed the number from u so why press further for unnecessary answer if u are not looking for an avenue to break-up with her. To me, the girl never did any thing wrong. U'r just been jealous unnecessarily. U have been with a girl for 3yrs now and u still don't trust her, the girl sef try to stay with u this long. Pls grow up and amend ur ways with her.

Even if u don't want to be dating/sleeping with a girl/boy again doesn't mean u should break up with her. Boy/girl relationship is not only for sex but for companionship.

Note: For the fact that u are dating a girl/guy doesn't make u a lord over her/him, it is only marriage that gives u the overall privilege over ur spouse..

Am tempted to ask you o, how long did your last relationship last? How many relationships have you been in? Infact what is relationship to you? I will appreciate answers to this questions or am I even wasting my time, all this shidren on public forum. See people are different, so are relationships depends on who you are with. You can't even talk about his relationship that you know nothing about, just the little you heard about his relationship you are already drawing conclusion, how he wanted to quit the relationship, someone say he is confused as to if he had made a mistake and you say he wanted to quit, if he wanted to quit why did he bring the issue here

delishpot:



False. If he is the type that doesn't like her talking about men around him she might lie.

If she even needs to lie, she shouldn't still be with him. Surely, there are many open-minded men who would love to date her.

buske:
I have been dating this girl, since after my graduation from the university three years ago. Prior to that we've were very close friends.

Our relationship has been the type where we know very much about each other. we talk about everything. We practically know each other in and out.

She's the very soft time, in the sense that she finds it hard to say no or shout at people irrespective of what they've done. To give you a picture of what I'm talking about, with a very confusing episode...a man once collected her phone and practically walked away with it in broad daylight without any form of resistance. Another episode; The other day, after waiting for about 5 months to get the complete amount to purchase a phone, she took the whole sum and gave it to a person she hardly knows and we've been looking for him ever since.

While I'm the analytical type of person. This has its own downsides too as atimes, I tend not to know when to just let things go.

Okay..Let me give you the main gist of what transpired so you can tell me if I could have reacted or done things better or it wasn't my fault.

So yesterday, she called me and was like "emmh..baby, can you give me Rev. David's number, I want to pass it to a friend who needs spiritual counseling" (Rev
David is my bossom friend who just got out of the Seminary, They two are hardly acquainted due to obvious reasons.) "aaah... I should give you Rev. David's number??...Wait who is the person?...doesn't he/she have a church/pastor he/she can go to?" I was perplexed by the request. Since we share a lot, I was expecting at least an overview of the reason for the request. My girlfriend became defensive instead," Are you giving me the number or not? ".. At this point, my interest is hightened. So I ask her to at least give me minor details about the person or the situation at hand. It became a drag and led to a slight argument. She got angry and for the first time in many years..cut the call on me.

"aaaah....what is the problem, what is making this girl get all worked up like this?" I called and called back but she didn't pick up. I was mad and confused.
Now, like I said at the beginning, besides the fact that we talked about everything...she is also the type that can easily be defrauded. So this made me put up guard and she is ignited my interest in the case by her dodgy attitude.

So I sent her a text, giving her one last chance to pick my call and threatened to never call again if she failed to. So she called!

After dragging the issue for long and lying(something she's never done) here and there. I got to find out that it was about a guy whom I was suspecting she was having an affair with. (she never knew I was suspecting her though because I never showed it. I was looking for the perfect time to make a case)

I was mad!

After dropping the call. She texted me. Disclaiming having an affair with him, telling me that he had made her promise that it should be just between them.

See...This is a girl that tells me everything about her friends...from the friend who just had an abortion, to the one who almost had her womb removed, to the one whose parents are quarreling, to the one cheating on her boyfriend and so on. Why was this case so special that I couldn't even get a hint??.

I replied, telling her that I never believed her and told her I wasn't going to call her again and that she shouldn't bother calling me. Next thing I know, she turns it on me, accusing me of breaking up with her over the phone. She had repeated this accusation in the past. So I told her that since she's so 'eager' about us breaking up over the phone, her prayers had finally been answered today..I didn't reply any messages henceforth.

Now I'm confused, I don't know what to make out of this episode.

I'm friends with this kind of girl currently, I initially had a romantic interest but I had to get over it.

...they have a good heart and a moral standard but they're imperfect especially when it comes to intelligence, so you having a Romantic relationship with her is doomed, try staying friends anyway.

Everyone is replaceable, you will find someone else so will she.

DukeNija:


I don’t think you should blame the guy whose house was used for a suspicious transaction. They are both adults and the onus rests with the person getting married to keep herself for her husband. That being said, the ops girlfriend is obviously having an affair.

The bible says flee from evil and do not mingle with bad crowd. If God decides to strike he might even choose the brothel owner who makes his home available to fornicators and adulterers before facing individuals for their own sins. Just like when Govt wants to clamp down they first destroy the hideouts or accomodation where evil people or law breakers hide before facing the criminals or offenders themselves.
Plus if he has such lose morals why is he yapping and condemning the other? The man knew he was sleeping with someone's betrothed and he saw no qualms in it. How is that morally ok?

zaralady:



Permit me to say you are an egocentric, arrogant, insolent....... You don't even know how to talk to people, you are so immature and insecure. You think everybody is out to get you, this lady has the nicest heart to me and from the look of things she actually cares for you, she might be indecisive and easily deceived but damn! Who doesn't have a weakness?. Yours is even worse and you are here judging her when you are so so wrong. Why will you break a relationship of 3yrs because she wants to get a rev number for a male friend?? How does that relate to cheating??. Or isn't she allowed to have male friends again?? . The fact she needs the Rev contact mean her friends need some spiritual help which she wants to keep between herself and the guy, must you know everything??.... how old are you again?? You graduated from the university 3yrs ago and life haven't told you things?? A school cert wouldn't do this!!!

That geh is better off without you.

@bolded she better be o, so because one is a graduate he shouldn't have relationship problems? Perfectly educated woman, professional relationship expert will ask to see both partner to give an advice on way forward, have you asked yourself if he has moved on since you are have already concluded, and did you or the lady drag him here to share his story and seek clarity... Yeye de smell. Spits on comment... Conductor drop me here! I no go again... @op abeg it is not every comment here you read to make meaningful decision o, just imagine sharing your story under Oshodi bridge, where the audience are all manner of people from different background and experiences, tomatoes sellers, shoe shinners lol and you will be forced to hear the one's whose voices are louder,? Guess who? Agbero's does that mean they are the right ones? No! But take time read through there is a word from wise one's take it and run with it, I will say this we don't have institutions that handles this cases professional, I don't know if Yaba left give relationship advice, churches are the ones I that does this, some of them de try but it is still not done by professional's, that is why regardless of wrong advise and bashing when you post your story on Nairaland I believe if comments like this one above is not the first you see, lol you will get something here @ buske

Puntiff:


If she even needs to lie, she shouldn't still be with him. Surely, there are many open-minded men who would love to date her.

Go and tell those women and men killed by their spouses even as they stick it out with them until their end. Many people don't know how to move on. They'd rather stay and keep lying to save the so called relationship. We can not deny that many men and women lie to avoid negative or unwanted reaction from their partners no matter how small and unnecessary the lie.

delishpot:


If you truly fear God you would not say this cause the only thing left is for you to do it physically. But by your write up you have already done it in your heart so it is judged as done because even the bible said so in Matthew 5:28 . Stop punishing yourself, chose one to do it and face the music or to truly serve God by keeping your body and mind wholesome.

You have a point, only that it is not valid.

Temptations must come. To your mind and physically. The most important thing is what you do with it.

You can't stop a bird from flying over your head but you can stop it from perching.

I won't give in to those thoughts and I try my best to discard them as soon as possible.