pocohantas:


Which energy are they saving?
I honestly do not understand this particular reasoning. Some ladies have sex with their bfs, he spends on them...then time to cook, she says she is saving energy for husband? Which energy pass the one she burnt on top bed?

These things are nothing. As long as he doesn't put a gun to her head. If you love someone, you won't see these things as anything.

You won't go about thinking your effort will be a waste if he 'dumps' you. You just do you best while you can and leave the rest.

MISEDUCATIONS:
thats what happens when you're banned. control the hate.
or just save yourself the headache and go lesbian.

jessca048:
[quote yes nah ,you will hear a man say he loves independent women the next thing you see him settling down with a leech and lazy person

victorian:











Your head is screwed right !
You've said it all. That's one of the crucial receipe and foundation of creating a lasting marriage and good home.
Nice!

wristbangle:


Aunty labake, there are many good guys out there not "some".

Dyt:



And who says women can't do same?
***rolls eyesss****

highqueen:
lmao.
guys are never pleased.
he will still cheat on you with a lazy dependent girl.

highqueen:
lmao.
guys are never pleased.
he will still cheat on you with a lazy dependent girl.

XhosaNostra:



Hey, what's said on NL is not a direct reflection of my personal life. Believe THAT! I do have opinions (that aren't always PC, I admit) on certain issues, yes. But that doesn't mean my responses are drawn out of some imaginary hurt. No, sir. I've never been touched long or deep enough to develop a complex. No one has that power over me

jessca048:
all what she has listed is good, but she should have one thing at the back of her mind men are unpredictable she shouldn't be surprise when that same nigga leaves her for a Chic that can barely even measure of to her

victorian:


That's a brilliant question .
You may think she doesn't do anything . The work she does is ? Shes a machine on bed . That's why good girls don't marry early but bad girls ,even oloshos marry fast !
And you wonder why are men still crying foul after marriage .
You can't turn a hoe into a wife overnight .

The reason why divorce cases are high is ? Men marry because , she's a machine on bed and possibly she's from my tribe and before few months , belle don enter . Immediately belle enter, he's like lemme marry her ,she's a sweet girl . Forgetting marriage is not all about sex .

After enjoying all styles and million rounds of sex ,he's now like OK, I like home made meals . Nkiru or Basira, what's for dinner ? She looks at you , like u are speaking French and she's like am very tired , please let eat out , have been waiting for u sef.
He will be like what? So all day u didn't cook?
And wait how come everywhere is scattered ? Are u this lazy?
She will be like please ! Am I your maid? You don't complain like this before o!

If this place is not clean enough for u ,biko there is broom in the kitchen, start sweeping . I don't need this stress .. She will then hiss and walk away.

He looks at her with disbelief .lol
After the birth of their baby, he can't cope anymore and he complains bitterly and start searching for his ex, Rose who used to clean,cook and even lend him money when he's down. But because she doesn't want sex every morning and night as gf, in his mind she's not a wife material .

That's where all these divorce cases starts from and majority of women now understand , be a machine on bed , give it to him how and when he likes ,send nude pics, pussy and boobs , pretend to be respectful and viola! She has the ring .

pocohantas:


Yes, that has always been my opinion on cooking in relationships. I don't dig that "what if he dumps me", what if I dump him kwanu?

If I am going into a relationship, I give it my all.

Whatever I do for him within that period, is because I love him and his well-being is my concern. I love to know that whenever I stop being there, he thinks of me and smiles. Not for the sex, but the memories and value I brought to the relationship.

highqueen:

exactly my point sis.
the nigga is somewhere enjoying his life while she locks herself indoors because of someone that hasn't even put a ring on her finger.
nonsense.

XhosaNostra:



Don't care! The hater juice has been chilling, untouched for too long & thus, fermenting.

Now I'm kicking back, getting my high sipping on a cold glass of 100% home-brewed haterade

MISEDUCATIONS:
actually your responses are the most PC responses i've seen on NL . man-hatred is the norm today. you just bringing to NL what is on mainstream media.
no medals for you.

Jaqenhghar:

XhosaNostra:



Loooool. Believe whatever you wanna believe then. One point of correction though, I DON'T hate men. I just dislike the waste of space ones who can't pull their own weight in relationships, which happen to be in the majority, unfortunately. Oops! Really not my fault the world ran out of real men!

Saviour22:
then he should put a ring on your finger asap

punisha:


Naaaaa let's leave her to learn the hard way.

jessca048:
all what she has listed is good, but she should have one thing at the back of her mind men are unpredictable she shouldn't be surprise when that same nigga leaves her for a Chic that can barely even measure of to her

xendra:
lol.... I hope she has trained herself to handle heartbreak? because na dis kind people heartbreak dey kill. she won't see it coming

CorGier:


You show love and care for a SO because it's the right thing to do. Because your affections for them and the emotions they conjure up in you warrants and justifies you giving them your all. You cook him dinner, do his laundry and keep a wet mouth and puss at night for him because in that moment, there ain't nobody more deserving of your "all" than him.

Now here's the bitter truth; if you find yourself doing all that not because of the aforementioned but so you would be termed as a good girl, a wife material - with hope that one day he puts a ring on it, then you're obviously faking and a high value male can see right through all that. So learn to live in the moment, when love comes around embrace it. Cos if you doing all that shít with an ulterior motive and you fúcking for a ring, then you ain't no different from a hoe.

A lame arse hoe at that. Any idíot can cook, clean and fúck...it costs nothing. So ask yourself, how do I stand out?

franchasng:
lol, thanks sis.

Guys need to have mentor and check around, check all the successful great men u know; not the Yahoo Yahoo men and drug dealers and ritualist and armed robbers, I mean real successful men who built their wealth with time; check their wives, they are usually virtuous, amazing ladies who aren't trophy wives married for showoff.

I am not talking about Yahoo men wives, not talking about drug dealers wives, not talking heartless politicians wives, I am not talking about daddies sons that used their fathers influence and wealth to marry trophy wives, I am talking about real successful great men who worked the soil to get to where they are in life. Check their wives, u will understand why they ended up rich and successful.

But will guys of today learn No!

They want Chioma assurance that only come for the money o......they don't want Amaka weh come for the love and joint growth, they want fly fly girls that are yellow like sun with ikebe big like trailer and Bobbi big like tundra, ah, they die there

xendra:
about her stupidity?
mtchwww.....boyfriend not even husband

MISEDUCATIONS:
forgive the guy who hurt you.

MISEDUCATIONS:
is it a compliment?

EliteBiz:

Don't let ur eyes fall down miss

Holamscoh:


Thanks a lot dear. I really appreciate u. Btwn i think we think alike.

highqueen:
lmao. guys are never pleased. he will still cheat on you with a lazy dependent girl.