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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Walexz02(m): 8:12am On Jul 12
Raskasal:
This post is directed to the matured minds in the house.

I've dated this lady for close to a year now and I have the intention of having her as my wife because of my love for her. She's got good qualities, cooks well, supportive in a little way but temperamental and easily provoked.

But there is this challenge I'm having with her, she puts up surly attitude and would always keep to herself whenever I correct her, and she won't talk to me for as long as we stay together, call or try to get in touch while away. This might last for as many days not until I come out to calm her down. Over times shes been doing this and the only way I've had to let things be normal is for me to talk to her again and beg her not to be angry. But I'm feeling I'm loosing my worth. This is someone that never admits she's at fault, talk less of apologizing. On several note I have had to take blame for her errors even when I'm not at fault just to make sure we're fine.

A recent development was that she came for holiday and was using the rest room within my apartment, I was passing by and asked her to close the door, she murmured, closed the door and she hasn't been talking to me since then and even when I do she'll answer reluctantly for like five days now. I am tired of living under same roof with someone that never feel anything keeping malice and I want her to realize her mistakes and apologize, but she won't, she'll rather stay back in the room, and whenever I go to the room, she be making avoiding moves.

I watched her closely to observe if she's into someone else but I haven't got any traces of that.

I have decided not to call her to terms again not minding if it costs a break up, but then am thinking I might be taking things way far.

Pls How best can I handle this? I really do love her tho and I am afraid of loosing her but I am loosing my worth and this has made her not have regards for me.

Thank you all
Anything that makes you loose your worth is worth running away from.
This is just the beginning, when she finally settled down
You will be the wife, she the husband.
You don't want that to happen? Flee!

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by pryme(m): 8:15am On Jul 12
banchuz:


After walking away is advisable to send birthday wishes after 2 weeks of no calling?

No, sometimes you have to make some people understand your life does not revolve around them.
For some strange reason women tend to respect men that are like this.

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Obodo999(m): 8:17am On Jul 12
LivingFree:
You sound overbearing, is this not an adult who has lived all her life governing herself? How do you come along and start telling her what to do? I think you should let people live their life how they see fit and if you have a problem with the way they're doing things you should recognise that it's your problem and you should reflect on how you can manage it or if it's a deal breaker for you then move on with you're life. Imagine telling someone to close the door when they're using the toilet. It's not everybody that closes the door when they're pissing and they live with their partner. I find it uncomfortable personally so I close my door instead of telling them what to do. You don't sound like a fun person to be around always correcting people upandan like you an eraser. Learn to chill and deal with your control issues.

Thank you for writing this alternative point of view.

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by obi4rmhpservice: 8:18am On Jul 12
delugajackson:
You are dating a woman with so much ego and such woman will never make a good wife. Truth is, you can never control a woman with so much ego. If she can't apologize for little things, then she has no business being in a relationship. Take my word, she has little or no respect for you. The only reason she is with you up till this moment is because she is gaining from you, once she fulfills her aim of running you down, she will leave your áss for good.

I suggest you look for someone else with better attitude, character and finesse that will make life worth living for you, cause once you marry this particular girl, you will experience x2 of what you're suffering now. She will offer you a lifetime of misery! Who wants a stubborn, nagging, disrespectful woman with an over-bloated ego as a wife?

You need to re-consider this cause it seems you're gradually becoming a victim of emotional deficit. And the hard truth is that you both are not meant for each other.

Can u see the number of likes on the quoted comment? There goes the answer you need.

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by ade2291(m): 8:29am On Jul 12
Olifiz:


Pls forget the toilet part. Do you apologize wen wrong or u put up a nasty face n keep malice?

Are you open to corrections or u feel to big to be corrected?

Don’t get it wrong these are the major complains OP is tryin to make. I’m sure u won’t like a guy who won’t apologize to u wen he’s wrong or a guy who keep malice with u wen u correct him.


Thanks for this post. Imagine trying to support nonsense act... Lol, some people are really funny.

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by caslord(m): 8:29am On Jul 12
LivingFree:
You sound overbearing, is this not an adult who has lived all her life governing herself? How do you come along and start telling her what to do? I think you should let people live their life how they see fit and if you have a problem with the way they're doing things you should recognise that it's your problem and you should reflect on how you can manage it or if it's a deal breaker for you then move on with you're life. Imagine telling someone to close the door when they're using the toilet. It's not everybody that closes the door when they're pissing and they live with their partner. I find it uncomfortable personally so I close my door instead of telling them what to do. You don't sound like a fun person to be around always correcting people upandan like you an eraser. Learn to chill and deal with your control issues.

Dont worry dearie, when you are 40 and menopause is knocking, e go clear for your eye lipsrsealed lipsrsealed

Na una type no dey allow person rest for Shiloh angry angry angry

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by biafraisdead(m): 8:30am On Jul 12
igbodefender:
Great question. Did you find out the answer?
op's girl is from Ogun state while mine is from the eastern part.
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by millionboi2: 8:31am On Jul 12
Raskasal:
This post is directed to the matured minds in the house.

I've dated this lady for close to a year now and I have the intention of having her as my wife because of my love for her. She's got good qualities, cooks well, supportive in a little way but temperamental and easily provoked.

But there is this challenge I'm having with her, she puts up surly attitude and would always keep to herself whenever I correct her, and she won't talk to me for as long as we stay together, call or try to get in touch while away. This might last for as many days not until I come out to calm her down. Over times shes been doing this and the only way I've had to let things be normal is for me to talk to her again and beg her not to be angry. But I'm feeling I'm loosing my worth. This is someone that never admits she's at fault, talk less of apologizing. On several note I have had to take blame for her errors even when I'm not at fault just to make sure we're fine.

A recent development was that she came for holiday and was using the rest room within my apartment, I was passing by and asked her to close the door, she murmured, closed the door and she hasn't been talking to me since then and even when I do she'll answer reluctantly for like five days now. I am tired of living under same roof with someone that never feel anything keeping malice and I want her to realize her mistakes and apologize, but she won't, she'll rather stay back in the room, and whenever I go to the room, she be making avoiding moves.

I watched her closely to observe if she's into someone else but I haven't got any traces of that.

I have decided not to call her to terms again not minding if it costs a break up, but then am thinking I might be taking things way far.

Pls How best can I handle this? I really do love her tho and I am afraid of loosing her but I am loosing my worth and this has made her not have regards for me.

Thank you all
Better run for ur life
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by biafraisdead(m): 8:37am On Jul 12
banchuz:


Is it advice able u wish her birthday wishes during this course of not calling each other?
I will never do that, ever since I broke up from her my mind and is very much at peace with me, I don't wish to have anything to do with her again not even a call I went through hell for the 2 years we dated I really endured to see if she would change but she kept exhibiting same stupid characters.

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Lekzile: 8:39am On Jul 12
May God lead you through, you need to retract a little and watch her closely. am thinking she has hidden agenda

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Victoriaomotola(f): 8:43am On Jul 12
It is well o... Person we get head no get hat

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Elliot2(m): 8:44am On Jul 12
Truth is,u haven't bleeped dat biatch to a point her toto hurts. luk bro.,there is just one reason dat a girl wil brazenly disregard u despite dat she knws u luv her very much...dat is a mind blowin sexual prowess. dis can tame d most arogant of dem.
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by lyrose(f): 8:45am On Jul 12
delugajackson:
You are dating a woman with so much ego and such woman will never make a good wife. Truth is, you can never control a woman with so much ego. If she can't apologize for little things, then she has no business being in a relationship. Take my word, she has little or no respect for you. The only reason she is with you up till this moment is because she is gaining from you, once she fulfills her aim of running you down, she will leave your áss for good.

I suggest you look for someone else with better attitude, character and finesse that will make life worth living for you, cause once you marry this particular girl, you will experience x2 of what you're suffering now. She will offer you a lifetime of misery! Who wants a stubborn, nagging, disrespectful woman with an over-bloated ego as a wife?

You need to re-consider this cause it seems you're gradually becoming a victim of emotional deficit. And the hard truth is that you both are not meant for each other.

forget all these negative mindset!maybe he is the type that likes controlling, put that plate on the right place, lock the door while urinating, forget all the flaws, with time they will understand themselves.
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by igbodefender: 8:46am On Jul 12
biafraisdead:

op's girl is from Ogun state while mine is from the eastern part.
Okay. Thanks for the feedback. Regards.
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by PeaceGord: 8:49am On Jul 12
biafraisdead:

Months back I was in a similar relationship before I finally call it a quit(I also intend to keep her as a wife, I have even introduced her to my people). I always apologise to her even while she was at fault and she will never admit been at fault or even say sorry, though she would stupidly tell me at times that her bad side is her being too proud and that she was working on her self to correct it. the day I ended the relationship was a day she insulted me and I just told her I won't call her again but she thought I was joking and since that day(over 7 months now) I haven't called her neither has she called me(because of pride). But I know she is seriously dieing now her problem is for her to call me and say 'I am sorry' she keeps calling me with unknown numbers and each time I pick she would end the call without saying anything but I know she is behind those calls, also she keeps stalking me on LinkedIn, she doesn't know LinkedIn sends u profile of people viewing ur profile. so my brother if u try to change her and she is not changing I would advise u to let her go; imagine what u would go through when u finally marry her, we shouldn't allow love to block our senses at times. any man or woman that can't say sorry is not worthy to be a husband or a wife. By the way where is she from cos we may be talking about the same girl.


You've made my day.

You talk well.

Pls take am say me don dash you 10k.
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by dbaptist1(m): 8:52am On Jul 12
biafraisdead:

mine is from the eastern part.
Are you sure it's not the eastern part of ogun state, and is still the same girl
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by BestDude: 8:53am On Jul 12
Elliot2:
Truth is,u haven't bleeped dat biatch to a point her toto hurts. luk bro.,there is just one reason dat a girl wil brazenly disregard u despite dat she knws u luv her very much...dat is a mind blowin sexual prowess. dis can tame d most arogant of dem.
u b Munu but u no know grin

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Bostin(m): 8:58am On Jul 12
Raskasal:

I understand. Ohh she's from Ogun state
I have similar case with the OP and she is also from Ota Ogun State,but am stuck in with her with a daughter but we are not legally married. She has left my house now with the baby in support of her mum. I used to call her to make peace even when she has gone but she always nag and shout on phone, now I've stopped calling her and she never call me either. So confused but I love my daughter.
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by romenna: 9:01am On Jul 12
biafraisdead:

thanks for the correction.
all d best boss
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Skmoda360(m): 9:03am On Jul 12
delugajackson:
You are dating a woman with so much ego and such woman will never make a good wife. Truth is, you can never control a woman with so much ego. If she can't apologize for little things, then she has no business being in a relationship. Take my word, she has little or no respect for you. The only reason she is with you up till this moment is because she is gaining from you, once she fulfills her aim of running you down, she will leave your áss for good.

I suggest you look for someone else with better attitude, character and finesse that will make life worth living for you, cause once you marry this particular girl, you will experience x2 of what you're suffering now. She will offer you a lifetime of misery! Who wants a stubborn, nagging, disrespectful woman with an over-bloated ego as a wife?

You need to re-consider this cause it seems you're gradually becoming a victim of emotional deficit. And the hard truth is that you both are not meant for each other.
Bros you too much oooo

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Elliot2(m): 9:04am On Jul 12
BestDude:
u b Munu but u no know grin
r u a learner? respect is earned,not given!!
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by lala45: 9:06am On Jul 12
Keep it up,just tell her its over,and dont call her,she will come back to her senses.It has happened to me,my ex used to always appologise even when am at fault.but the day he made up his mind,I was now begging but said he meant it,no going back.I moved on uote author=Raskasal post=69262208]This post is directed to the matured minds in the house.

I've dated this lady for close to a year now and I have the intention of having her as my wife because of my love for her. She's got good qualities, cooks well, supportive in a little way but temperamental and easily provoked.

But there is this challenge I'm having with her, she puts up surly attitude and would always keep to herself whenever I correct her, and she won't talk to me for as long as we stay together, call or try to get in touch while away. This might last for as many days not until I come out to calm her down. Over times shes been doing this and the only way I've had to let things be normal is for me to talk to her again and beg her not to be angry. But I'm feeling I'm loosing my worth. This is someone that never admits she's at fault, talk less of apologizing. On several note I have had to take blame for her errors even when I'm not at fault just to make sure we're fine.

A recent development was that she came for holiday and was using the rest room within my apartment, I was passing by and asked her to close the door, she murmured, closed the door and she hasn't been talking to me since then and even when I do she'll answer reluctantly for like five days now. I am tired of living under same roof with someone that never feel anything keeping malice and I want her to realize her mistakes and apologize, but she won't, she'll rather stay back in the room, and whenever I go to the room, she be making avoiding moves.

I watched her closely to observe if she's into someone else but I haven't got any traces of that.

I have decided not to call her to terms again not minding if it costs a break up, but then am thinking I might be taking things way far.

Pls How best can I handle this? I really do love her tho and I am afraid of loosing her but I am loosing my worth and this has made her not have regards for me.

Thank you all[/quote]
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by HEFAIROHLUWA(m): 9:08am On Jul 12
Raskasal:
This post is directed to the matured minds in the house.

I've dated this lady for close to a year now and I have the intention of having her as my wife because of my love for her. She's got good qualities, cooks well, supportive in a little way but temperamental and easily provoked.

But there is this challenge I'm having with her, she puts up surly attitude and would always keep to herself whenever I correct her, and she won't talk to me for as long as we stay together, call or try to get in touch while away. This might last for as many days not until I come out to calm her down. Over times shes been doing this and the only way I've had to let things be normal is for me to talk to her again and beg her not to be angry. But I'm feeling I'm loosing my worth. This is someone that never admits she's at fault, talk less of apologizing. On several note I have had to take blame for her errors even when I'm not at fault just to make sure we're fine.

A recent development was that she came for holiday and was using the rest room within my apartment, I was passing by and asked her to close the door, she murmured, closed the door and she hasn't been talking to me since then and even when I do she'll answer reluctantly for like five days now. I am tired of living under same roof with someone that never feel anything keeping malice and I want her to realize her mistakes and apologize, but she won't, she'll rather stay back in the room, and whenever I go to the room, she be making avoiding moves.

I watched her closely to observe if she's into someone else but I haven't got any traces of that.

I have decided not to call her to terms again not minding if it costs a break up, but then am thinking I might be taking things way far.

Pls How best can I handle this? I really do love her tho and I am afraid of loosing her but I am loosing my worth and this has made her not have regards for me.

Thank you all
Are you really really really really really over really extremely really sure you apologize when wrong grin and the I stand to be corrected type of guy if yes then DITCH HER ASS bro.. Yorubas arent known to be so egolistic grin You dating an egolistical babe..Delugajackson said it all..Last thing an hardworking guy needs is a nagging quarrelling woman as his eternal companion grin..Ditch that thing and thank me later..it's not going to be easy bro I know how it feels like when you like someone so much but it's a wise thing to do..

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by lala45: 9:12am On Jul 12
U nailed it cos there is one,she will meet,its not Jupiter that will tell her to calm down.i think the guy is so much in love with her.This same thing has happened to me before,the guy kept on apologising but we aint together any longer.The one am dating,if I try rubbish,he will stop calling,unless I call to know what is happening.so such is life.uote author=delugajackson post=69262348]You are dating a woman with so much ego and such woman will never make a good wife. Truth is, you can never control a woman with so much ego. If she can't apologize for little things, then she has no business being in a relationship. Take my word, she has little or no respect for you. The only reason she is with you up till this moment is because she is gaining from you, once she fulfills her aim of running you down, she will leave your áss for good.

I suggest you look for someone else with better attitude, character and finesse that will make life worth living for you, cause once you marry this particular girl, you will experience x2 of what you're suffering now. She will offer you a lifetime of misery! Who wants a stubborn, nagging, disrespectful woman with an over-bloated ego as a wife?

You need to re-consider this cause it seems you're gradually becoming a victim of emotional deficit. And the hard truth is that you both are not meant for each other.
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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Skmoda360(m): 9:13am On Jul 12
Elliot2:
Truth is,u haven't bleeped dat biatch to a point her toto hurts. luk bro.,there is just one reason dat a girl wil brazenly disregard u despite dat she knws u luv her very much...dat is a mind blowin sexual prowess. dis can tame d most arogant of dem.
You fit Bleep girl all day and every days in a week wih quadrillion orgasms she go still fume for you....do you think sex can turn an egomaniac woman to virtuous one.?
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by franklingud(m): 9:14am On Jul 12
Bro let me give my final advice in a few words.

Girls like hard guys, be hard on her, don't hit her.

You can give her a manual reset. Don't double it.

Her ego is so over blotted.
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by BestDude: 9:14am On Jul 12
Elliot2:
r u a learner? respect is earned,not given!!
so Na tru fucckk u go get the respect?
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by BestDude: 9:16am On Jul 12
Skmoda360:

You fit Bleep girl all day and every days in a week wih quadrillion orgasms she go still fume for you....do you think sex can turn an egomaniac woman to virtuous one.?
the guy na Mumu but him no know. I know someone who bragged about being a porn star but got cheated on along with over 25m he spent on the who're
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by adetes: 9:16am On Jul 12
Every man experienced this same situation, the truth is they r girl friend material and nt wife material

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by ujampie: 9:17am On Jul 12
Women are great asset and blessings to men,. ... They develop characters based on experience from past, and � family background,, ,,,
When choosing a woman as a wife, u need to put divers possibility in check...... Go for the woman u can tolerate without complain. ...... No woman is perfect,,,,,,,, I personally don't like pretenders, so u should be grateful to God she did reveal her true colors to u on time... .. My brother it's either you deal with it or you back out of her life.. .

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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Skmoda360(m): 9:20am On Jul 12
BestDude:
the guy na Mumu but him no know. I know someone who bragged about being a porn star but got cheated on along with over 25m he spent on the who're
I dey tell you some guys are so delirious and have this alpha self believe in dunking a woman on bed will make her to be submissive.

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