femi4:
I will pretend as if I read everything

Lol

Willexmania:
:-/:-/

Lmao

ultimate77:
Who wrote this story again?
ok, tell the person its all lies. pictures or we will not believe it.
in short, i cant take this rubbish from you oP. just come and apologie.



Nigga... here it was a catholic church and the Bolded was in charge.



when did catholic church start having pastors? Niggga stop this trash make thunder no locate you o.

Anglican and methodist call their pastors priest too!!

docsam007:


It was copied from a blog.....

The poster might actually be here

Its A Pitty. Hahaha Its A Pity

“Didn’t you hear what the pastor said? This is not the real marriage so we can’t have sex. Hold it together. We are only six months away.”

The lady in question is very foolish quite alright but what should we call the pastor that gave the above moronic advice? 1st Corinthians chapter 7 vs 36 made it explicitly clear that matured people who are bethroded to each other can have sex if they so desire even before marriage. Why advice the couple to wait till after church wedding?

Where is it in the Bible that people must wear white gown and black jacket before they can get married?

For the sake of other foolish people like the lady in question whose brains have been reformatted by their pastors, please be informed that white wedding is the TRADITIONAL wedding of Europeans. It is not superior in any way to your cultural wedding as practised by the custom of your tribe. Don't let fraudulent pastors keep deceiving you.

Poster you did yourself this one o....Dude was calm with you n did traditional marriage,n u stll refused him?see dowry payment is the main marriage...White marriG. Is just a borrowed marriage frm the white...You trynna tell me tjose who did trad alone buu no white didnt marry?i dnt know why some ladies think this way.If u like do wwhitde wedding,n dont do trad,you are still not married.In the nigerian culture.Infact no church will wed u when u have not done dowry payment.Better luck next time

The guy probably ran for his dear life.What if he had died in the process

Poster,better luck next time.

Twoclans:
While reading that epistle ,only martinO kept coming to my mind in place of the martin in the story, biko OP is the martin in the story a nairalander

u dey craze abi come u don dey grow wings now abi OK I see

Justice310:
I met him in church one Sunday morning. He sat next to me and I couldn’t help it but recognize the kind of gentleman he was. He was soft spoken and had this shyness on her face anytime he tried to talk to me. During the service, I realized he was finding it uneasy to sing along with the church because he didn’t come along with a hymn book. I shared mine. We both sang from the same hymn book and got closer as the service progressed.

After the last grace was said by the priest and the church dispersed, he turned to me and said thank you. I smiled and asked his name. “I’m Martin,” he said.

“Nice meeting you Martin” I responded. But before I could turn around and leave, he told me;

"Actually, this is my first time being here.” Amid smiles he continued. “and it’s great finding a friend at my first time in church. Do you mind if I called you sometimes?”

We exchanged contacts and left each other’s presence. Truth be told, I was going through the hardest times of my life. The man I’ve dated for about two years just called it quit and I was very devastated. I was nursing my wounds when Martin came along. He kept crossing my mind all week but I resolved not to call him until he does.

He never called until we met in church again the next Sunday. Inwardly, I felt guilty for thinking about him the way I did all week. That’s girlish. But we had another good service together, singing from the same hymn book and making fun under our breath.

After the service, he called when he got home. We started chatting on Whatsapp and grew closer together as the days pass. I shared my story of broken relationships with him and he was kind enough to offer soothing words. He didn’t judge me. He didn’t condemn my actions or sought to give directions as to how I should have handled things. He gained my trust that way and I opened up more.

He told me a little bit about himself. Nothing of note though, but I was happy he was overcoming his shyness. We grew closer and closer until finally, after about six months later, he made it obvious that he wanted us to date.

He didn’t propose to me. I don’t remember him telling me he loved me or wanted to be with me. He loved to act than to use words. We spoke more about it and decided to be in a relationship. He already knew my fears and easily accepted the conditions I laid down for the relationship. I told him; “I don’t want sex now. At least, if it should happen, it should happen after marriage, that is if you have any intention to marry me.” He only nodded and smiled. That day in his room, I remember we had our first kiss.

It was awesome! A lot of things started running through my head. Hey, I wasn’t a nun. I’ve had sex before and kisses this intense usually lead to sex. I remember grabbing him intensely like my whole life depended on him. I was shaking. I wanted something more than the kiss but I held on. He was gentle. The farthest he could go was to hold my head in between his palms, look me in the eyes and kissed intensely. I couldn’t breathe. I gathered the little strength in me and pulled away. I was panting like I’ve been running around for hours. The next words that came out were; “No more kisses until marriage. I mean it.”

For the next two years, we didn’t kiss and we never had sex. The farthest we went was to hold hands, lean on each other and occasionally cuddle. Martin was a good boy and I loved him dearly. We decided to get married after two years of being together. When we started counseling, our pastor wanted to be sure if we’ve had sex before. We had all the pride in us when we answered no. I don’t know if he believed us but we were telling the truth and didn’t care if he did. He only told us to be careful since it’s at this stage that all manner of temptations creep in. We knew our strength. We were sure we could scale above all temptations.

Our marriage arrangement was to have the traditional wedding and then do the church wedding in six months later. We started having troubles. The urge to have sex became greater. After all, we were going to marry so what stops us from having sex? In my mind, I wanted our first sex to be special. I wanted to blow his mind off during our first sex and what better moment to do it than to wait for the honeymoon? this thought kept me going. Two weeks before the traditional marriage, we spent most nights together in the same room and on the same bed. We had a lot of errands and arrangements to do and it was better we stayed together. But sex had a way of creeping into our minds.

I remember one night it turned into a serious scuffle. Martin wanted it. I’ve never seen him so aggressive. He was pushing and struggling with me to allow him to have s*x. To him, we were already married and didn’t see the reason to still cover the cookie. I implored. I fought him. At some point, I wanted to scream. What the pastor said was ringing loud in my ears; “it’s at this stage that all manner of temptations creep in.” Amid threats of screaming and loud prayers, I won and slept in peace. That wasn’t the last. We kept having series of minor fights because of s*x.

Days to the traditional wedding was tough. We could go all day without talking to each other. He was angry and I was angry. S*x was killing the beautiful thing we had together. But we soldiered on.

Finally, we did the traditional wedding. The pastor was there to pray and bless the union. During his sermon, he complimented us for staying chaste all this while and told us to still be strong and keep it till after the church wedding. I could see my husband restless and with a subtle frown.

The night after the traditional wedding we had a fight. Our first fight as husband and wife happened on a night we ought to be happy together. What brought the fight? SEX! Not That I didn’t want to have sex, I wanted to but the time wasn’t right. So I told him; “Didn’t you hear what the pastor said? This is not the real marriage so we can’t have sex. Hold it together. We are only six months away.”

After saying this, my new name was launched; “Madam-We-Can’t-Have-Sex, I hear you but tomorrow, I’ll have s*x somewhere else.” Did you hear what he just called me? Madam-We-Can’t-Have-S*x? At this point, I didn’t care who he would have sex with if only that would make him stay off me till our honeymoon.

For a week, we lived in the same room but talked less to each other. He was always angry with me. What a way to start a married life. I was determined. To me, that was the right thing to do. The church frowns on sex before marriage, not that I also frown on it, I had a different motivation. I wanted the first sex to be unforgettable. I was saving my best for last and for no one but him. So why was he rushing?

Then one night things got worse. Martin came home with a friend. He was too drunk he couldn’t have made it home without the help of his friend. We had spent two arduous months together. I was sad for him. “Is he going through all that because of sex?” I asked myself.

I left him in the coach till he woke up at dawn and came to sleep next to me. He was smelling like a rotten fish. I couldn’t stand it so I woke up, picked a pillow and started walking away to sleep in the coach. He pulled me over and tried forcing himself on me. We’ve been through this tussle over and over again and I always won. I was used to it. This time, something was different. He was stronger and determined.

We struggled and fought for about fifteen minutes. He seemed to get stronger by the minutes while I was losing steam. He managed to tear off my pant and held my two hands apart with his two hands. We were both left with our legs to struggle with. I got tired and realized I couldn’t fight any longer. I kept my calm. He sensed the victory and quickly dashed over to have me. That was when I raised my right knee and unfortunately, my knee caught him in the balls. He fell over and screamed out loud. He suddenly got frozen. I’ve never been scared in my life. I thought I had killed him.

I tried calming him down but he kept whining in pains. Neighbors who heard him screaming started knocking on our door. I rushed to put on a dress and opened up the door. It was very embarrassing seeing neighbors in my room trying to help him regain his calm. After a lot of going up and down, he regained his calm. We were left alone.

The next morning, he packed what he had in the house and left. I didn’t ask him any question. I feared he might hit me. I left to my parent. I kept playing out the incidence in my mind over and over again. I kept asking myself; “Did I take this no sex thing too far.” I believe I did. He never picked my calls for three days. My parent and I went to meet him and his parent to try and resolve the issue but he didn’t listen to a word of what we had to say. All he said was he wanted a divorce. Two weeks later, his parent and other family members came over to dissolve the marriage.

That was it. My marriage lasted for only two and half months. What breaks my heart is the fact that I gave sex to those who didn’t deserve it. They had sex and left anyway. This one—Martin did everything right but I allowed fear to take over my senses. Recently, I heard from another pastor saying that traditional marriage is also marriage and sex is allowed after traditional marriage. If that was true, how stupid could I be? I was married and I didn’t even know it?

Three and half years after our break-up, I attended a wedding—Martin’s wedding with another lady I knew so well. I’m here, still single after six years of our breakup. Guess what, I had a boyfriend. We had sex but the relationship didn’t go well so we broke up. Back to single again.



http://silentbeads.com/not-sex-marriage-destroyed-marriage/#.W5RCDGko80M

Nice fiction. Keep it up

chineloSA:

No religion should be above your culture.

gbam chinelo chinelo for this comment you go born six children once! Amen!

ultimate77:
Who wrote this story again?
ok, tell the person its all lies. pictures or we will not believe it.
in short, i cant take this rubbish from you oP. just come and apologie.



Nigga... here it was a catholic church and the Bolded was in charge.



when did catholic church start having pastors? Niggga stop this trash make thunder no locate you o.

Its not deep mehn....

If you must fulfil the no sex thing,you should not have stayed together and be sleeping on the same bed all the time,he already knows you are not a virgin so what are you trying to prove?

chineloSA:


No religion should be above your culture.

come twoclans, Jacqueline22 chineloSA I here by join una as friends

una dey always make me laugh everytime wey I see una comment

again e get one babe wey dey always from back door view comments, she know herself amongst una nor dey hide again oo coz I dey check everybody profile anytime I enter this forum

Ioannes:

Church boy...you sef must admit say she no do well nau

What a pity ,but don't blame yourself,you were not meant for each other.Struggle continue s

Justice310:
I met him in church one Sunday morning...

So what do you want to do now? Start giving sexx to every Adam and Ahmed till you find 'the one'?

OP this your novel no follow. Please Ladies stand for your Values. Let no story teller deceive you into what you may later regret!

memories1:
Traditional marriage IS marriage. Every other marriage is a borrowed culture. Having a priest present to bless the union then is good enough. For the sake of legal documents, a court marriage can be added. End of.

Absolutely, once a girl's parents have taken their dowry for their daughter, marriage has been contracted, church marriage is a ceremony that's not necessary unless traditional marriage was not going to be involve as you seen in Christians who don't believe in trado marriage.
Church wedding is the European's traditional marriage and in the church.
This cultural confusion has been given to us and is affecting so many people, it makes getting married more expensive as most ladies demand even after expensive trado marriage.

Digitalwitch:

Would you had done just traditional wedding only if you were in the lady's shoe? Many ladies are responsible for this madness of white wedding

why not?

My parents never had a church wedding, their court wedding came ten years after their traditional marriage and by then they had 3 kids. White wedding is overrated, it's only purpose is to wear white dress and snap fancy pictures in fancy places

Whether this story is true or made up, the saddest reality is; this scenario happen in our society almost everyday.

Ladies make lots of mistake; most of them keep their virginity for a man they call future husband who does not even merit it....a man that has been busy deflowering uncountable number of girls, and u are there keeping your virginity to please him, who told u he cares

If you must remain a virgin, please and please do it for the sake of God Almighty your maker...do it to please God alone and not to please any bomboclat that calls himself a future-husband gallivanting around having sex with everything in skirt.

No man deserves a virgin wife....I repeat, no man deserves a virgin wife

So if u as a lady or girl wants to keep your virginity, do it alone to please God, and while doing it, do it completely....don't preserve the hymen alone while u are busy kissing, romancing, handling, squeezing breast, fingering and sucking....if u do this, I tell u sister, whether u allow the man to penetrate your engine with his rod or not, u are no longer a virgin in the eyes of God...because your spirit is soiled...your spirit, conscience and motive have been deflowered, so u can't fool God.

If u want to be a true virgin till marriage, please flee from relationship....don't keep boyfriend, don't even keep male friends

....and to all the gullible men who agree no-sex till marriage with ladies who have had sex before, more oil to una engine o, make una kontinu to the fool una self u hear

"Recently, I heard from another pastor saying that traditional marriage is also marriage and sex is allowed after traditional marriage. If that was true, how stupid could I be? I was married and I didn’t even know it"?


Thank God u realized how stupid u were!

I only respect your decision if you are a virgin but if not why not enjoy the sex life And believe in nature,what will be will surely be,sin is sin it doesn't matter if it's sex or lie.

sisisioge:




Church boy...you sef must admit say she no do well nau

Lol. Howdy? Been a while. Hope you're good.

Ioannes:


Lol. Howdy? Been a while. Hope you're good.

I bam o...hope you're good too. Cheers

sisisioge:


I bam o...hope you're good too. Cheers

Yeah, I am. Cheers.

BecaciaBarbie:
Cooked up story.....he waited 2 years but couldn't wait for few weeks or months? Really?

Have you ever held urine for 4 hours but just for 30 seconds to opening the toilet's door, you start sweating badly?

Gabriel99:
I and my wife waited for 4 years and didn't get this naughty in the last important hours, no disrespect ma'am..but it's all lies, It's either you are trying to get to someone that is holy or you're trying to discredit purity in marriage. I see this message as directly insulting a Christian holy living.

Did you and your wife marry traditionally within that 4 years and stayed together?

A gentleman that tried to rape you, tore your pant. is that one a gentleman. To add salt to ur injury,he divorced you for not allowing the rape to succeed

seunmsg:


The lady in question is very foolish quite alright but what should we call the pastor that gave the above moronic advice? 1st Corinthians chapter 7 vs 36 made it explicitly clear that matured people who are bethroded to each other can have sex if they so desire even before marriage. Why advice the couple to wait till after church wedding?

Where is it in the Bible that people must wear white gown and black jacket before they can get married?

For the sake of other foolish people like the lady in question whose brains have been reformatted by their pastors, please be informed that white wedding is the TRADITIONAL wedding of Europeans. It is not superior in any way to your cultural wedding as practised by the custom of your tribe. Don't let fraudulent pastors keep deceiving you.

Hmmm I didn't see that clearly. My version says


"if anyone is is worried that he mightening not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if hiso passions are too stronfar and he feels he ought to marry, he should do so as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married"

From this passage I am not sure you can do as you want. The passage says they should get married.

You over played your game... what’s the essence of keeping what he owns for him.... I wish my so girlfriend too can read this....smh

okerekeikpo:
I don't believe in no sex till marriage , if we are dating then we must fucck, I can't waste my money for nothing

Bad guy