Jenifa_:

in what part of my post did I mention the word 'loose'? 
I never said AAs were loose. I do not think they are. Why do you interpret my comment to mean that AAs are loose?

aminalib:

who says african women and AA are not in relationships? there are many, just as African men back home who think everything about america is good, there are african women who will just want to be with an aa man because of what they see on tv, thought most african women would not want to date AA men after being here in america and seeing for themselves, alot of african women view think the normal stereotypes of AA men, they do not work, cant take care of their kids, are very disrespectful towards women and want to use women for money and have no goals, there are good AA men who have great careers and do good by women and those are the kinds i would date, mind u on a daily basis even when i was single i wold have AA men, chinese, u name it try to talk to me, but i would rather date an african guy or carribean, someone who is familiar with my culture.

Kadata:

Female sexuality is stricto-senso deemed 'loose' in this part of the globe, if it is described as ''expressive'' or ''less frigid''.
     

Kadata:

it is quite obvious that the Akata women have a more liberal expression of their sexuality than their Nigerian counterparts.

677ano:

Naija men are attracted to these women because they are not frigid and they are expressive, independent not stuck up with pretense

Mrs.Chima:

Jenifa,

I do not have an honest answer for the reason why African women not marrying nor dating AA men.  I do believe white men will most likely to be sought out more because of the representation of wealth that society placed on white men.  

I am not saying that African women chase white men, but I am saying that in society's eyes AA men are not high on the totem pole when it come to success and prosperity.  

Any African women want to share the reasons African women and AA men are not in relationships?

Jenifa_:

obviously you are the one who think they are loose because this is your own comment below (and 677ano's) that I was quoting.

Kadata:

I knew it would come to this, that's why I used the word ''loose'' in between inverted commas. This represents a metaphorical meaning and not a literal meaning as your perspective projects.

Mrs.Chima:

The New Age Movement referred by AA community as the shift in NUCLEAR BLACK FAMILIES. I didn't mean to lecture. You should know I hold many seminars and lectures in my field. It a natural thing please forgive me.

I am also an essayist. I will write a sentence and it will become a book by the time I am finished. Hee hee.

Princek12:

Naija girls must be dreaming if they think AA males will seriously pursue them. Why on earth will AA males leave all of their hot AA girls to pursue mostly wowo-looking Naija girls who, for the most part, are socially incapacitated? I respect some of my Naija girls who are holding it down, but AA males who are into African chicks  usually go after Ethiopian, Somalian, and other African chicks.

It is Naija dudes (even married ones) who chase after AA girls because of their big Ikebes. I am just keeping it real.

Princek12:

You are more likely to run into Jamo, akata, and Islander women with who have wide hips and huge backsides. It is insanely difficult to run across Naija women who possess those characteristics. Naija men love huge backsides and wide hips, and many Naija girls are just straight like one okan.

Princek12:

Naija girls must be dreaming if they think AA males will seriously pursue them. Why on earth will AA males leave all of their hot AA girls to pursue mostly wowo-looking Naija girls who, for the most part, are socially incapacitated? I respect some of my Naija girls who are holding it down, but AA males who are into African chicks  usually go after Ethiopian, Somalian, and other African chicks.

It is Naija dudes (even married ones) who chase after AA girls because of their big Ikebes. I am just keeping it real.

Slap yourself twice and then jump off of a moving truck please! Thanks!  

Jenifa_:

of course human attraction to the opposite gender is normal. I think Jamo, Akata, Island ladies that OP mention probably also inhabit the same space as african immigrants do. Same neighborhood etc. maybe due to similar income categories. this might contribute to that. there is a familiarity from close association.
but I do not think "ancestorship" has anything to do with it. Africans don't consider akatas or jamos to be africans. lol generally they are as different as latinos or asians or white. But there is the connection that we share though and that is mostly when africans are concerned with racism that we experience. that is the uniting factor among us blacks. but I don't think naija men are particularly interested in carribean or akata culture or ancestry. lol in fact they may complain about that. Maybe they like your looks or your looks are comparable to african women or find you more approachable. again it goes back to sexual appeal.

it's interesting to hear your view anyway. esp. the nigerian single moms thing.

I agree with you that we foreign black women, being from the same racial category but being that "outside" black makes us "interesting" and worth a try so to speak by African men, however that line about us not "being seen as African", is nobody's call but ours. We are the ones that decide what we are (African or not). Only we have that right due to historical reasons.

MzD@rkSkin:

^^but not Jamos

Mrs.Chima:

Okay.  You basically saying the same thing I am saying Jaybee.  Men!  Now again, why was you frowning was it something I said?  You did tell me to stop fighting people and I haven't really fought nobody. (Please don't go to the do nigerian men stay faithful to oyindo thread)  

jay bee:

I love me Jamos as well especially when they cook me some rice peas and jerk chicken. lol
Yeah right Q  

LOL!!! I heard that. . .*runs to get the jerk sauce*. . .[/COLOR]

Mygoldie:

OH! really? allow him to like me then, you and mrs chima, should back off!!!!

[color=#0055bb]*puts the jerk seasoning back in fridge and backs away from Jaybee*
Sheesh!! Meanie.

MzD@rkSkin:

LOL!!! I heard that. . .*runs to get the jerk sauce*. . .[/COLOR]

[color=#0055bb]*puts the jerk seasoning back in fridge and backs away from Jaybee*
Sheesh!! Meanie.