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Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by sandraa(f): 12:00pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
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Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by Mobinga: 12:03pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
Yawn? You better close your mouth before your husband rams his manliness into your mouth. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by r231(m): 12:09pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
like somebody rightfully said somewhere on this thread . . . . . . Marriage is not for everyone Case close |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by SALady(f): 12:19pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
Mobinga: @Mobinga, mobinga, mobinga, was it really necessary to call her a biatch, really? You couldnt come up with a constructive argument and get people talking, you just had to insult her, it's the best you could do? Your last two lines is all you needed to say. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by Omolola1(f): 12:22pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
that is to show dat guys also av loose mouth |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by ShyOne(f): 1:09pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
@ Chima woowwww u just didn't get it. period- there was no cookie cutter anywhere in my post. But that is alright - those that needed it - definitely got it. in no way, shape or form is this aimed at you AT ALL. if u had experienced anything that i posted in "your marriage" you would be able to immediately relate to what was posted. i have experienced it very deeply in my previous marriage and am experiencing it right now as well. hence the reason i strongly relate to it. obviously nothing is for everybody. obviously it wasn't for you. my apologies if for some reason you didn't agree or took offense - where none was meant. many people definitely do agree and have experienced similar. when u marry the right person - the marriage institution in itself - does definitely offer protection, security, love, strength and bonds those 2 individuals to be a much stronger as a unit versus single entities. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by dbigrod(m): 1:51pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
Shy-One:thank u jare |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by URFATHER: 1:54pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
Can u imagine tok, 'we the ladies are doing u guys favour by marrying you'!!!!!!! You lucky say na internet we dey if not I for slap the SAN for your name leave only DRAA …….OMO O DO like u…, ATUTU BOYOYO BALOGUN u think I don’t know its u…. u come here day claim Sandra for us!!!! the Sandras I no tok wiv sense. May be u should say u re doing ur ‘dulling’ husband a favour by marrying him or ur bf . Like 'D big rod' said marriage is not for err one u were not forced. Men like me will not want to get married so I can f*uck as many babes as I can!!!! Do u think its easy watching only one channel when there are many channels!!!!!!!! think and stop yarning trash well if you like give them bad advice sharp babes reading will know nobody is doing anyone a favour by getting married!!!!! The earlier u get that in ur small brain the better for u. OMO O DO like u(house girl like u) |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by sandraa(f): 2:21pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
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Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by sandraa(f): 2:26pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
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Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by MrsChima(f): 2:56pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
Shy-One: Shyone, I have opinions just like you have opinions. When opinions aren't on the same page it will not BE AGREEABLE. I am a realist and I am of the world. Sugary realities aren't my specialty. I did not say YOU SAID IT WAS COOKIE CUTTER, I said that MARRIAGE ISN'T COOKIE CUTTER. I used me as an example because I am married and I can speak on it. Once again, Marriage is what YOU MAKE OF IT. Do you people. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by Mobinga: 4:11pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
SA Lady:Seriously? You should have read the first page meticulously rather than jumping into conclusions. What is with you ladies and the "biatch" word? Silly. You girls call yourselves binches, and get angry when a male says it. Junk This romance section has been colonized by immature people. Shame |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by Mobinga: 4:17pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
And you say I shouldn't use the B word? Smh sandraa: I better get back to the politics section before I eat you ladies alive |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by Nelson6(m): 4:37pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
as a matter of fact, . marriage is for mutuality, no one is forcing anyone into it. both parties entered into it on their own volition known in the recess of their minds the responsibilities attached to it. marriage is a synchronization of hearts. it takes more than love to make it work, complaints and nagging wunt change the fact that marriage is meant for the matured and responsible. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by MrsChima(f): 4:47pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
Sighs. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by MLSwiss: 6:22pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
Self pity is such an embarrassment ! Keep on crying, keep on loathing men. *yawn* |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by MrsChima(f): 7:19pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
Sighs. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by ShyOne(f): 8:13pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima: EXACTLY!! since you have acknowledged that VERY true fact. let's take it a step beyond - please, ok? hear me out this is a forum - a forum is a place to air opinions and that forum should be devoid of "retaliation" for expressing opinion(s) - as the beauty of any dialogue is sharing and discussing various ideas, choices, lifestyles. that is the beauty of a forum. ------------------------------------- you then commented that I was some sort of brown noser as though I wasn't stating my true thoughts but just posting something to "impress others, " when you stated this to filani in reference to me : "You smile upon arse kissers huh?" But I wasn't talking to you, I was doing what you did throughout the thread - "expressed my belief and my opinion - genuinely" --------------------------------------- then you went paragraph by paragraph - answering each statement as though I was "talking to you personally" - which I wasn't - your response makes it glaringly obvious that Your skills of comprehension on more than one level need expansion - so let's do it then Shy-one Typed [b]Marriage [/b]should improve the human species, becoming a barrier against vice, a protection to woman, strength to man, and a centre for the affections. Chima Typed Marriage is a contractual partnership between two people, ie Male and Female. It does not provide any protection whatsoever. Marriage is not a gun nor a shield against anything. Even if you are in a partnership, you still have to fend for self. If a man doesn't have strength BEFORE marriage, how can he have STRENGTH AFTER? No one can give you strength for strength is from within. There different "types" of marriage and a huge proportion of married couples ARE NOT AFFECTIONATE with each other/people nor show affection. If you are not an affectionate person, how can you exude such? My Response Marriage is definitely protection and it provides that to BOTH PARTIES - take it to a level that you cannot taste with your tongue or smell with your nose - if you are fending for yourself within a partnership/within a marriage - i pity that person - "someone in that marriage needs counseling and intervention from the other partner or a 3rd party" - If I am operating as though I am in the relationship by myself - then there is a problem, either I haven't made myself clear and/or I married the wrong man. When you date and marry the RIGHT PERSON [color=#990000]you spend most of your free time living your life with that person versus inanimate objects or objects outside of your mate - such as "you aren't on the computer all day, on the phone all day, talking to others about him/her" - INSTEAD you are LIVING what you married - you are physically and verbally interacting with that person that you call "husband." You can believe that once I marry, NL won't see much of me as my time will be filled with that person - Strength my dear comes from a billion sources - God and your mate are TWO OF THE MAIN SOURCES for the AVERAGE PERSON - they assist in your life and are available to lean on when troubled, lean on just because, lean on for sexual fulfillment - and you provide to each other so many different versions of strength in the name of laughter when sad, differing view points when views are limited, suggestions, etc, - Strength that you have within - was placed there by everything and everyone around you. You were not born with strength. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by Dsense(m): 8:13pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
OP. Here we go again . . .right? Lot of women outta there tryna have sex with dawgs and other animals. . . . . . . Lot of women outta there mastu.bate every 2 hrs . . . . . . Lot of women outta there tuning to homosexual . . . . . Lot of women outta there unfortunately turned to suicidal simply cause men turned her proposal down . . , , . . So if we decide to help you wemen out ,They pay back is these insults? |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by ShyOne(f): 8:16pm On Feb 10, 2011 |
I am going to answer you paragraph by paragraph - to further give you a "differing opinion" but now - I have a huge contract to fulfill with clients and need to disperse until tomorrow. will be back cheers |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by naijafrend: 12:16am On Feb 11, 2011 |
@ OP Yes , definitely women are doing men a favor. But aren't they returning it too? The first ever woman was created on this planet to give company to a man(atleast that is what bible says). Had he (Adam) been selfish and said I'm fine on my own, I don't need company, there wouldn't have been any Eve. How much ever we rubbish men off, the truth is there for all to see- there is no wo[b]man[/b] without man. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by MrsChima(f): 12:52am On Feb 11, 2011 |
Shy-One: We do not need to go back and forth. You stated what you feel and I stated what I feel. It isn't that serious. All we are going to do is be redundant and I am sure you have better things to do. One more thing, if I was calling you an arse kisser. I would have said SHYONE IS AN ARSE KISSER. I TOLD YOU AND OTHERS, I wasn't referring to you and I ASKED THE DUDE that question based on what he said about the post. It had nothing to do with you. IF you felt that was the case then I have no control over that. I AM ONLY PARAPHRASING: You stated that marriage is about running through the garden of Eden with honey dew socks and all that. I am sure there are people who agree with that. I, however don't agree with that. Let agree to disagree. Truce? |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by Konjour(m): 12:53am On Feb 11, 2011 |
(Going strictly by the topic,without any form of referrence to previous comments): Any woman who can figure out that a prospective partner would take her for a ride cuz he's gonna marry her as a 'favour' lacks self-esteem if she goes ahead to marry him, and she'd be stupid to think she can change his mentality by marrying him. On the flip side,marraige is a deliberate union between two members of opposite genders,and it ain't forced in any legal state of the world, (don't know 'bout places where the theme of civilization has never been broadcasted,though ). Yeah,attidudes differ and a couple of guys might seem/look cocky towards their fiancees,but its a very democratic world and no one will die if the lady decides to opt out. Marraige is an instituition,and like any other instituition,it has its own black spots,but it has also had a much higher success rate. If you get the right partner,you will never wanna stop being married, and you'd realise you've missed a whole lot by being single. Cheers. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by MrsChima(f): 1:03am On Feb 11, 2011 |
Konjour: I hear what you are saying. It still go back to what I said MARRIAGE ISN'T COOKIE CUTTER. What one couple do in their marriage may not be what another couple will do in their marriage. There are couples who are not married happily in love with each other longer than the average married couple. I am not saying marriage in itself is bad. I am saying that PEOPLE NEED TO STOP sugarcoating as if MARRIAGE IS THIS BIG DEAL AND FESTIVITY because it is not. Some people can be married to the perfect man or woman doesn't mean they will be happy. You only make the marriage or relationship what you feel it should be. There are a lot of people WHO WILL NEVER BE MARRIED and will be in a long term relationship. This is a new day and age and EVERYTHING CHANGES. Marriage isn't what OUR ANCESTORS experienced and the only different between marriage and relationship. One is legal and the other is not. Some people get married so their relationship can be legal. There is nothing special about the two. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by chic2pimp(m): 4:17pm On Feb 11, 2011 |
Lol @ the poster calling peeps unintelligent . The Idiom "The Pot Calling The Kettle Black" Immediately Comes To Mind. Or can she point out one thing(Just one ooo) of note she's said this far. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by ShyOne(f): 9:41am On Feb 12, 2011 |
Mrs. C: Speak for yourself and stop cutting down and walking all over other people's opinions if they don't agree with your own. We all - ALL OF US - are due the right to our opinion. There are many, many marriages that are definitely sound, close, connected and are INDEED SPECIAL because those individuals work hard to make it so. Nothing is cookie cutter - everything is effort and energy expended - the smallest minded individual is aware that what you put into a relationship individually and as a couple dictates its outcome. And that goes from 1000 years back up til today. That's what I take issue with - not you personally because as you know many times I have deeply appreciated your input and your thoughts and humor - but there are times that your lack of restraint and impulsiveness in your approach and method appears directed at pushing and/or trampling on thoughts that don't agree with your own and you seem intelligent enough to know that when you do this it is neither right nor fair as it IS in direct opposition of WHAT A FORUM such as this is set up to OFFER to its members. A forum is special because it allows all to air their ideas - if you don't agree - that is understandable too - many times I don't agree but I will hold my tongue unless I feel very strongly about something. However, I don't disagree every time someone doesn't agree with me as it is their right to form their own opinion - just don't dump all over mine as though your thought(s) is the only option or the only truth - because it/they definitely is/are not. Btw - many, many, many times you speak on items and in areas that my view is COMPLETELY OPPOSITE - when someone else opens a thread and you post in response to the topic - I notice that if someone holds a differing opinion you will then fire back on that stranger as if they have personally affronted you because they think differently and their experience in life has been unlike your own. Our thoughts are a direct mirror of what our experience has been in this life. So to run at them unfavorably is to say that their experience isn't worth listening, acknowledging or respecting and you are in no position to do that to others. You say you don't specialize in "sugary" - I DO - I definitely do and I go out of my way to make sure that sugary is in the home especially because we work so hard (everyone under my roof in the U.S. and in Lagos). I do focus on seeing the glass FULL versus half full or empty and because I do - more times than naught - I receive sugary in return from people as it becomes fruitage that I receive from the choices I have made and continue to make in my life. I leave abrasive people, abrasive behavior, abrasive thinking and abrasive choices out of my video. That is my reality and it has been quite rewarding to me and mine. People will treat you as you carry yourself - if you are a loud, cursing individual, many times you will receive that in return and if you command respect and give respect and deference to others - you in turn will receive it as well. Also, it is a "great person" who allows others to be themselves without attempting to "constantly control the outcome, responses" - as control limits knowledge and growth. Your thoughts many times, I see that they allow and encourage growth and in turn my thoughts should encourage growth in you as well. I purposely Open my thought to what you and others have to offer to me. In turn, instead of approaching my ideas and beliefs in a manner of "shutting me down because you don't agree," try to learn from me as well because it will be quite beneficial for you too. I have alot to offer and am very valuable in my many different areas of expertise. My manner is one small area. Killing them with kindness and coming at them when they least expect it (lovingly versus mob squad) achieves much more on global levels versus projecting your image as though you stand on a local street corner. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by WackyJ1(m): 10:57am On Feb 12, 2011 |
Go shy-one! |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by Konjour(m): 5:58pm On Feb 12, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima:I don't seem to understand how your comment is related to the message of my post. You'd do great to summarise your points so i'd understand better. Anyway,the headlines for my news bulletin is that neither gender does the other a favour by marraige. They get married,i think,because they are in love and think they'd fit and increase their bond,raise a family and stay together by getting married. I also went further to point out that(even though i'm single)if you get married to the ideal person,you'd wish to marry him/her again if re-incarnation is anything much more than a superstitious belief. Peace. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by MrsChima(f): 7:06pm On Feb 12, 2011 |
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Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by MrsChima1(f): 7:19pm On Feb 12, 2011 |
Shy-One: Okay. After reading the long essay, We have finally agreed on some things. I don't specialize in sugary and I see things as they are. We both have rights to our opinions and know that others will either disagree or agree. Now here is where we do not AGREE. I am not shutting you or anyone down. Just because I express an opinion doesn't mean that it applies to you or anyone else. I have stated this previously. IF we took the time to actually filter out what may offend people or not then we wouldn't have the threads as we do. People will not always agree with everything you say. There are going to be people who disagree with you or agree with you. There is no such thing as a right way to express an opinion. It is the message that you are offended by not the delivery. If everyone agree with everything there would not be any challenges. Challenges is what get people to mentally think and go beyond just accepting what someone is saying. You have MULTIPLE TIMES stated things that I felt was farfetched but I respected your right to express how you feel. You say that you have noticing a lot of things about what I do, you would have noticed that I do not always respond to everything people say. It is easy to notice negativity than positivity. I don't blame you. We can go back and forth with this but what are we proving? That we can write long essays? You will still have your opinions and I will still have my opinions. We can either AGREE TO DISAGREE or nothing at all. |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by Mobinga: 7:44pm On Feb 12, 2011 |
Mrs Chima, I can see the spambot is dealing with you. looooooool |
Re: Who Told You Guys U R Doing A Woman A Favour By Marrying Her Sef? by Mobinga: 7:55pm On Feb 12, 2011 |
Lemme help
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