Is she a virgin or she told you so?

If she is pls dont do it,, but the only way for you to actually know is to visit that area

D-sense:

OP.
Tell us you fictionalized this your story . . . . . . This is impossible . . .Pls get a life and stop framing up poo.

u dnt have to believe it if it sounds fictional to u at least lots of NLers dnt think that way. d world is a strange place incase u dnt knw yet. as for d life part of ur post, am very happy and i live a near perfect life mayb u shld try searching d archives for any past posts against my name b4 u judge next time

if you want to be BFF (best friends for life), do not do it! because later wen she sees clearly that their is nothing much about s 3 x, she will feel u took undue advantage of her, moreso if ha husb appreciates virgins! if she wants to end d friendship, let ha be, but she will cherish you for life!!

okooyinbo:

Kros, please dont be annoyed, but I have a question for you. Is your girlfriend/wife a virgin when you started dating /married her? If she was, what a lucky man you are. If the reverse is the case however, dont you think she has been adventurous too since you were not the one that disvirgined her?

yes! i met my woman a virgin and i wnt call it luck its sumtin abt d guy dt makes it so.

@ Poster

You have gotten all the advice that cld be given. Hopefully, you wld make the right decision and not betray your girlfriend and remain as an honest a friend as you can be to your friend.

If you're still not sure, take it to God in prayer (i.e. if you're a christian).

Good luck.

Just be wise!
You probably already have the answer you need, popular opinions can be very misleading.

@ all
funny enough most of u guys here did nt quite understand my question in d first place. i was seeking d best way to tell her 2 let go of her idea AND NOT d best way to bleep her as most of we NLers suggested 2 me

I might want to digress a bit from the common assumptions about this post.
As a veteran in this battlefield, methinks you guys have been up to some show of emotions and have made 'compromising' physical contacts already-only stopping short of going the full hog. Such requests hardly surface from the moon-trust me! Dont get me wrong-I know damsels for what they sometimes could be. But more commonly, there would have been some holding, petting, kissing, smooching e.t.c for such 'strange' desires to erupt.
If that is the case, such needs to be stopped forthwith.
Then, a journey in the murky waters of tactfully navigating the somewhat slippery terrain between the sexes can begin.
But more importantly, if U really dont want to 'do it', you have to admit that it is a battle you might not win. At the end of it all, you guys might not really be friends anymore-dat is if U refuse. Even if you accede to her demands, you still might not be good friends afterall.
In essence, no matter what decision you take-and however you go about executing the decision-this might just be the end of another 'great friendship'.
If it does happen that way, dont worry cos it's not the first and it wont be the last!

As I said in my first reply, Fornication is fornication. Whether you have done it once or countless times, with one partner or multiple partners. The only sexual relationship justified by the Almighty GOD is the one in marriage. Any sexual intercourse outside marriage is at your own risk. Only hypocrites do not practice what they preach and you very well know that Hypocrisy is the most practiced Nigerian religion. You cannot preach to your best friend to abstain when you do not abstain from fornication. If you want to lead by good example, then you must stop sleeping with your girlfriend until you marry. Then you can pray and advise your best friend to wait on the Lord until her wedding night to give her virginity to her husband. The morality of not doing it, because you have a girlfriend is just your personal choice. It does not make you holier than any guy who would do what she asked you to do in confidence. Lest we forget, virginity does not mean purity. There are lesbians who are still virgins and we have virgins who are addicted to pornography. Do you know that there are girls and ladies who have never had sexual intercourse with men, but indulge in worse sexual orgies than those who are sleeping with their boyfriends?

@poster,
hehehehehehe!
i saw this story on a recent punch news paper. But tanx 4 keeping nairalanders busy wit your imagination.

^^ Really?

All this romance issue self, na so so fiction full there.

@Poster

Just bang that girl already. Whats the hiccup?

Ask your friend, how would she feels if she was in your girlfriend's position.  Tell her you don't want to put the friendship at risk, and that you really love your girlfriend.  If she doesn't understand, then she is not a good friend.  If you sex her, she will fall in love.  She will say she won't; but she will, and then you will have another problem on your hand.  She will use it against you if things don't go her way; she will tell your girlfriend.  Don't say I didn't warn ya

@Poster,

Update me when you'd banged your best friend. It sucks when your best friend is an opposite sex. Please, no dulling, nack the girl.

^^^ Your candid advice?

You better try as much as possible to have sex with her so as not to cut off your friendship, if u dont wanna loose your friendship!!!

kross_01:

u dnt have to believe it if it sounds fictional to u at least lots of NLers dnt think that way. d world is a strange place incase u dnt knw yet. as for d life part of your post, am very happy and i live a near perfect life mayb u shld try searching d archives for any past posts against my name b4 u judge next time

Sorry . . .It's non-fictional story

kross_01:

u dnt have to believe it if it sounds fictional to u at least lots of NLers dnt think that way. d world is a strange place incase u dnt knw yet. as for d life part of your post, am very happy and i live a near perfect life mayb u shld try searching d archives for any past posts against my name b4 u judge next time

Sorry . . .It's non-fictional story

another senselessly insane thread. makes no sense @ all. what's the big deal about Virginity @ 28? why will she want to get rid of it with you when most guys will want to have the pleasure and experience @ busting the dam and taking off, story doesn't just make sense and neither does the friends stupid reasons for wanting to help his friend out

i mean, just c'mon! she is asking you for a no guilt assistance, not asking you to marry her afterwards. if you are believable, she says, burst it for me and piss off, ill handle the rest by myself and all of a sudden, you twist her offer and believe you will carry the guilt of her virginity for life. doode wake up, your story is unbelievable

if you want to start a thread, better to ask, 'can you dis virgin your friend if she asks you to' and not some dumb assed story about you not wanting to feel guilty

will rather believe GEJ and Obama were siblings! pah!

^^^I told him . . .But he started castigating me
Pple like framing up weirdo stuffs.

my guy,abeg no try am,its not worth it,d regret afterwards its not truly worth it.Make her understand that she is is beautiful just d way she is,she shouldnt cheapen herself.This is what happens once,she cant lose her virginity twice,so why not give it to a man who will appreciate her for waiting this long?, Guy abeg no do am

Oloko Nla:

another senselessly insane thread. makes no sense @ all. what's the big deal about Virginity @ 28? why will she want to get rid of it with you when most guys will want to have the pleasure and experience @ busting the dam and taking off, story doesn't just make sense and neither does the friends silly reasons for wanting to help his friend out

i mean, just c'mon! she is asking you for a no guilt assistance, not asking you to marry her afterwards. if you are believable, she says, burst it for me and piss off, ill handle the rest by myself and all of a sudden, you twist her offer and believe you will carry the guilt of her virginity for life. doode wake up, your story is unbelievable

if you want to start a thread, better to ask, 'can you dis virgin your friend if she asks you to' and not some dumb assed story about you not wanting to feel guilty

will rather believe GEJ and Obama were siblings! pah!

oh bros! Take am easy na! Make d poster no come begin cryo!
Like i said in my first post, i saw same story on a recent Punch newspaper. And all the gurl was saying was that any guy that approaches for marriage, on telling him that she is a virgin @28, the guy immediately quits.
So, she was saying that now, she is in need of a guy who can disvirgin her urgently.
@op,
nice topic, such fictions made Nairaland what it is today. where Seun na? oya oya come pay this chairman for a nice constructive paper post lol

wtf
whr exactly is she i ve not had a virgin since u re not interested tell her u know someone who is besides my girl left me u see i havent got a girl to feel guilty for.
Her contact pls

she wants to land u period

So what's the problem? If u advise each other as u said, then talk to her as a friend even if it means ending the friendship. Unless u don't want to let go of her in which case u're a greedy fellow. I say greedy not to insult u but because u need to know the problem in order to deal with it.

If the lady has been wit u years and it takes this to make u realize u cant let go of her, u need to do some adjustment. u need to answer the question can u do without this friendship. if yes, then let her go. u're too close to her. If not, marry her now.

life is better than u think, we just like to mess up a good thing.

Hmmm! Different views nd opinions. Sum say its fictional,sum say meaningless,sum say impossible while poster says its REAL! But in all, I must say its a nice thread cuz I've learnt some things from d guys dat gave d right advice to d actual request of d poster. If its fiction,gud. If its real,poster u've got some gud ideas here nd I'll like add U have ask why she shld do dis now wen she has passed tru times of temptation in sec sch nd uni. She might think "who cares bout being a virgin?" make her 2 knw a whole lot cares,especially God. Also she shld understand d implications of d act in ur own side. Loosing a close friend iz not easy nlanders. I've been a victim. So poster try ur possible best 2 talk her out of it witout loosin her frndshp. GOD BLESS NIGERIA.

@ poster.

Please please please. dont do it, Give her to me let me do it for you, by so doing, she will get what she wants , and you will not loose her friendship.

Is she Ugly? If not introduce her to me. Wouldn't mind marrying a Virgin.

Kia! y dis kind opportunity no go come my way? She could ve been glad 2 ve me as a frnd after bustin d thing.

I guess by "sleep with" u don't mean a sleep over/slumber party with ur b/f. Why do we say 'sleep with' when we mean have sex with? There's obviously not going to be any 'sleeping'. Don't mind me, I'm just thinking out loud.

P.S
O! Don't do it.

Av bin readin all ur comments. Bt i tell u, 'dnt do it'. Even if u presses u on cs if u do av sex wt ha, ur relatnshp wt ur gal wud b destroyd. U might sooner or lata develop hatred 4 ur frd. D brk up of a relatnshp is more tragic dan a frd's. B warned

nAIL HeR tO tHE kRoSs KrOsS, dAMMIT