harakiri:

@biolabee. . . On what grounds must a woman have half the assets a man toiled night and day to acquire? Is it because he was dumb enough to sign a legal binding document all in the name of marriage? If the woman was the rich billionaire who married a poor struggling guy, would you still hold this argument that she must part with half her assets? Please be honest with yourself for once. The same women screaming for equal sharing of assets would label such a man a gold digger. Picture this, a man single handedly built himself up to billionaire status,he marries a lady,all she does is phuck him and goes out on shopping sprees,she has a kid after 2 years, wants a divorce. How on earth can you rationalise splitting his wealth 50/50 with a woman who has no idea how he made his money,runs his business or acquired the assets. She met him as a MADE MAN! All these western brainwashing, biased laws and total corruption of the foundations our forefathers laid down for marriage is the reason why i choose to avoid it like a cancer. Men gain NOTHING from marriage. If anyone feels different,then try thinking just ONE thing marriage "offers" a man that he can't get WITHOUT marriage. At the end of the day, it all boils down to yielding to societal pressure and personal insecurity. Shikena! ! !

chaircover:

Saga o! That wasn't too traumatic one down two to go 

Hopefully DK and Harakiri will be as polite when they come back here to dissect my post  

seriously though, many many people underestimate the worth of a woman (well a good one anyway) and because one can not easily see or quantify the woman's achievement compared to the man, people think that she inst doing much. Everyone can see a jeep & a big house but you cant for example see support or encouragement which a lot of women do.

Many men are able to make money because they are relaxed enough to focus on whatever that they are doing because they know that the home front is being taken care of. in a family where both husband and wife are fiercely ambitious other things suffer such as the childrens well being and so on.

Good wife's bring stability to the home, you cant buy that with money and women generally speaking tend to give up their hard nosed approach to reach the heights of their careers so the family doesn't suffer. How many men cancel meetings and take time off at the last minute if a child is unwell? many wives will say go to work darling and i will look after junior. All this adds up and when promotion time comes women get overlooked because we are seen as unpredictable & unreliable.

How many women work away from home? Many women are as qualified as their male colleagues but they are needed at home, they have to prioritize even of it means a lesser paying job

I think these are all the things and more that were taken into consideration before alimony was thought up. We also have to remember that the longer one is out of the work place, the less confidence they have and the more unlikely it is to find a good job.

What do you do with a 15 year old degree but with no work experience?

harakiri:

I can leave lagos for weeks at a time sourcing for product to export to europe without bothering much about who misses me or not. If another business opportunity turns up,i can jump on a plane and leave the country without thinking twice. Would i be this focused with a madam in the house? NO! So what on earth are you people talking about? I am not emotionally needy. All the "support" i need comes from my brain.

Sagamite:

Apart from her feeling neglected because you just travel off at the drop of a business pin, she will also start directly accusing you of cheating if you travel a lot. She passes her insecurities over to you. That is not the problem, it is the crude and exploitative way it is passed that is annoying by most girls. It is very nice if a girl misses you, but quite annoying if it is brought across as a fight or emotional blackmail.

How many guys have never heard "Why are we going out if we don't get to see each other"?

As I said, a single man can achieve far more than a married man.

chaircover:

I know you guys are saying that having a wife is a distraction to making money, which in some cases may be true but a wife sure does bring balance to things. Men are quicker to take risk without thinking about things all round. Not all risks are profitable and as they say, two heads are better than one. A team is stronger than an individual and I think long term a man will make better decisions & achieve more with a good wife beside him rather than if he was alone.

Harakiri, as humans, we are genetically geared towards relationships. Generally speaking we are happier when we are around people, especially our loved ones. I don't have figures or stats but if I am to go by what I read in the newspapers, many of the people who commit suicide are actually single peeps; many of them rich so it does prove that money does not in fact guarantee happiness. You can be rich and still very lonely.

Dayo the truth is that many women are as capable as men, but they have accepted their role as being in charge of the home front whilst the man goes out to bring in the bacon and I tell you something, for me, and I am sure that I am speaking for a lot of women here; working a few hours at my desk each day is a doddle compared to what I come home to face.

chaircover:

You think so but in reality this isnt true. Yes you may start out to make heaps of money, but if you don't have the right steer you could end up in a right mess.

Your wife will tell you what other people are too scared to tell you. Your wife is also your number one fan. She has nothing to gain if your business falls flat and it is in her own best interest to ensure that you are successful.

You need a committed person beside you and that person is no other than your wife.

chaircover:

Gents lets leave Heather Mills out of the picture. Hers is not a common story. I am talking about all the thousands and thousands of women (some of us know of at least one) who start from scratch with the man but when things get better, he trades in the old wifey in for a newer model and the old banger of a wife is thrown out.

chaircover:

I know you guys are saying that having a wife is a distraction to making money, which in some cases may be true but a wife sure does bring balance to things. Men are quicker to take risk without thinking about things all round. Not all risks are profitable and as they say, two heads are better than one. A team is stronger than an individual and I think long term a man will make better decisions & achieve more with a good wife beside him rather than if he was alone.

dayokanu:

Seriously what do Men gain from marriages except grey hairs and someone to nag at you 24-7 why it goes down share your fortune down the middle

chaircover:

You think so but in reality this isnt true. Yes you may start out to make heaps of money, but if you don't have the right steer you could end up in a right mess.

Your wife will tell you what other people are too scared to tell you. Your wife is also your number one fan. She has nothing to gain if your business falls flat and it is in her own best interest to ensure that you are successful.

You need a committed person beside you and that person is no other than your wife.

chaircover:

You have a poor impression of women and it puzzles me. Do you work? Dont you have women in your establishment?

I can hand on heart say that not one of my friends is a housewife and Many many women all over the world work their socks off and at the same time juggle family life.

Knit all day? you are having a laugh   Please give us some credit.

Your millionaire theory wont work because millionaires are not a true reflection of the real world that we live in. How many millionaires do you personally know compared to Mr & Mrs Average?

Risks Yes by all means as a single man you can take as many risks as you want but that is no guarantee that you will make a penny out of it. Ask all those guys walking around aimlessly in country's I cant even locate on a map.

chaircover:

saga, yes lots of men have made it in their own, just as a lot of men have achieved more than they started off with, thanks to a "solid" woman by their side.

chaircover:

Dayo how many questions do you want me to answer?  

In a nutshell, whether we like to accept it or not, women do bring value to their men just as men do to women. It is not a one way street and if marriage was really that bad and of no benefit whatsoever then wedding planners would have gone out of business a long time ago.

Agreed there are 2 types of people; the good and the bad. Thats life. There is always someone ready to play a fast one.

re your millionaire theory, everyone knows that when it comes to the nitty gritty a man will always be preferred over a woman when it comes to the crunch in high places.

@saga a woman doesn't have to know anything about anything before using her commonsense. i.e I dont have to haven an MBA from Harvard to know that it doesn't quite sound right.  Heard about woman's intuition  

On this note I am going to have to leave you and go join Mr CC in bed or he will be asking for my half of all my assets and we cant have that