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Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by SmileyB: 12:16pm On Jun 19, 2011 |
I will like to give you guys an illustration here. In November, a corp member asked me to allow her stay in my apartment for a few weeks. I allowed her. During the whole time she was with me , before she went home for the christmas break, she was not cleaning the apartment. She dont cook or clean. Goes out and comes in as she likes! I hated it but i had to allow her cos i had agreed to her staying. After the christmas break, she still came to ask for more permission to stay longer. Hmmmnnn, I accepted thinking she would leave very soon. I started cooking proper in my house, This girl still cant cook or wash the plates she uses to eat. I didnt like that about her but i refusd to force her to do it. i decided to clean and do the right things cos IT IS MY HOUSE! I liked her for company and jist and seeing of movies but i didnt like some of her behaviours. Now, she'll be staying with me till she finishes NYSC. She still dont cook cos she dont like it. I had to give her reasons why she should clean the house and wash plates without making her feel like she was squatting with me. It took lots of patience and self control to do that but today, we're best of friends. It also had something to do with Manner of approach! I believe this also relates to the person you date or marry cos you will certainly live with the person! You need to be patient and accomodating no matter what! Try not to make your partner feel bad no matter how angry you get! You'll make the person like you back and then you can love each other! It dont matter who likes one person than the other! Pls dont forget God too. Love dont hold relationships or marriage. God does!!! |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by N101: 3:26pm On Jun 19, 2011 |
@ Nayah Funny enough I had a conversation on this topic with a work colleague. She made an interesting point: often when we go with the one we love, although we love them for the right reasons the feeling isn't mutual. If we go with the one we love and they don't love us in return, at some point that love and trust will be abused. They can easily destroy that love you have for them because they have nothing to lose have they? When you marry the one you love, you have a choice; either take advantage of their love, or treat them as they deserve. The intention, from what your mother said, is that there is a likelihood that those who love us will stick with us whatever happens. Having seen it from both sides, it is better to go with the one who loves you so long as you love them in return. Mutual love breeds mutual appreciation. Anything else is short-changing the other person and yourself. |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 4:50pm On Jun 19, 2011 |
It's quite rare to see the same love shared, there's always or most of time someone who's more passionated |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nobody: 8:48pm On Jun 19, 2011 |
Dear all, OP said “Get married to someone who loves you and not the one you love” OP didn’t say “Get married to someone you do not love” OP didn’t say “Get married to someone you have no passion for, no attraction to and zero chemistry with.” Again, OP said “Get married to someone who loves you and not the one you love” Thank you all, TheCongo, |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 10:14pm On Jun 19, 2011 |
The Congo many thanks. |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nobody: 10:35pm On Jun 19, 2011 |
Nayah: Je vous en prie. |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 10:42pm On Jun 19, 2011 |
Super tu parles français aussi, es tu congolais? |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nobody: 11:53pm On Jun 19, 2011 |
Nayah: Bien sur, je le suis. |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 12:18am On Jun 20, 2011 |
lol ok moi je suis d'origine Camerounaise Mboté? sango malamu |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 12:40am On Jun 20, 2011 |
First of all hello Pak and good french you have! I'm amazed for someone who said he's got only notions lol Anyway the last phrase is in Lingala ( Congolese language) which simply means , hello how are you |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by pak: 12:45am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Nayah: You think wrong Its an issue here Infact, I still got more questions, CAN I ASK ? |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 12:49am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Lol Pak even though I'm afraid about your " wave of questions" go ahead |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by pak: 12:54am On Jun 20, 2011 |
first off RELAX !!! Nothing harmfull |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Orton10(m): 12:55am On Jun 20, 2011 |
What about the person doing the loving? |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by pak: 1:00am On Jun 20, 2011 |
@Nayah Some of the ques might not be too cool for an open forum like NL Do you YIM (yahoo messenger). If you do my email is below, you can drop your YIM ID and I'll buzz you yyyyyy@gmail.com hope am not goin toooo far yet |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 1:02am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Orton explain yourself more Pak ok go ahead for normal ones lol |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by pak: 1:09am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Nayah, The 'normal ones' quite half as interesting as the 'other ones' (trust me ). Especially considering the time. I'll so much prefer to start with the other ones. Just wondering, what time is it at your end ? |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 1:12am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Don't really know for time cause here it's 2AM so, I'm waiting for your questions |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Orton10(m): 1:13am On Jun 20, 2011 |
i.e. looking at 'it' from a partner's point of view - If everybody were to marry someone who 'loves' them and NOT the other way around, then the word Marriage will cease to exist! |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 1:15am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Orton please re read the Congo he has resumed everything, this is not about NOT LOVING on way round brother |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by pak: 1:17am On Jun 20, 2011 |
You waiting for my questions ? Me - am waiting for your YIM id in ma mail Seriously, I'll appreciate it - just got one or two curious stuffs to clear out of my mind. Or alternatively you can send you email addy to my mail above and I'll mail back |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 1:19am On Jun 20, 2011 |
actually pak you told me you got some questions but you could'nt expose here ok but the others can be so I' mwaiting for that i can not give you my e mail adress like that hope you'll understand |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Goldieluks: 1:21am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Pak guy,go ahead and ask the question here, free this girl jor! |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Orton10(m): 1:26am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Hmm. **Am I drunk?** Ok, for the final time: This is the topic in question : " Get Married To the Person who loves You & NOT the One You Love" Right?? So If everyone heeds to the above cliche/advice, then Do you think Anybody will get married?? Who would do All the "loving" if both partners share that same opinion about marriage? BTW, who's congo? |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 1:28am On Jun 20, 2011 |
orton the Congo is a forumer like us who resumes it all Goldielucks lol you sond curious sister hehehe |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Goldieluks: 1:30am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Lol Nayah,yes he should ask you the question here, instead of posting you |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by pak: 1:32am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Nayah, you Nayah: Nayah, am trying to but I dont understand. It wont do much harm giving it to me. Am not a vampire you know. Je suis simplement intéressé à vous @Goldie which ones na ? dem send you to me You should be focusing on your books/work/family or sleeping @ this time of the day. And allow me to finish my night business |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Goldieluks: 1:34am On Jun 20, 2011 |
pak: so you no get work,books,family or you no dey sleep too? oh ok you have internet to use to chat up girls, your full time business,huh?? |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by pak: 1:36am On Jun 20, 2011 |
@Goldie Na wa O Should this be construed as wickedness ? abi U know me bifor ? Am sure you are one of these 'naija girls' (lol) |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 1:37am On Jun 20, 2011 |
I didn't say you were a vampire but this is you brother who came up with this so I said go ahead |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Goldieluks: 1:38am On Jun 20, 2011 |
pak: Ta! face front,Pakistani boy |
Re: "get Married To Someone Who Loves You And Not The One You Love" by Nayah(f): 1:50am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Pak please be more respectful this is a woman plus it's just a conversation and yes I got what you've said but I 've already answered you , haven't I? If you want ask me something respectfully of course I'll respond properly. |
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