I am really happy to hear this, ur endearing courage to date someone younger than you and to be entirely open about it is very impressive, not all ladies would do that.

You must realize that your relationship is a very sensitive one, because of the factors you have mentioned, that means that you and ur partner must try as much as you can to avoid the influence of a third party in decision making, always strive to sort out ur problems within each other. you must also accept the cultural differences both of u have got and try to assimilate each others culture.

If you are able to handle this factor, i believe all would be well with both of u.

All the best.

@ poster
hope i am not too late.

be very cautious with this relationship.

take your time before investing ur emotions or money into this.

i ll tell u more when i leave work.

i will give you some signals to watch for. remember its a nigerian man we r talking about here.the most dangerous specie on the african soil.

more to come

@claremont

Thank you for the wonderful compliment, I do my best to take care of myself in order to take care of others, and yes i will disregard the negative comments and do as I see fit!

Thank you.

Can U ask him which local government in Akwa Ibom, Is he from and probally the village, the college he attend and other little info, so that we can do the background check 4 u!

Also find his migration status in Mexico?

@ubong ekpe

Yes I will do that, Thank you very much, for your help, greatly appreciated!

kistehsia

@ Ubong Ekpe, what do you need his local government  for? That's his own personal life. Just advise her and stop pokenosing!

koolkamzzy:

@ Ubong Ekpe, what do you need his local government  for? That's his own personal life. Just advise her and stop pokenosing!

I wonder which "background check" he claims to be capable of doing in Nigeria?! The very same Nigeria we all come from!

Don't mind him jor. Becos he's also from Akwa Ibom, he's beging to act like a FBI

claremont:

I wonder which "background check" he claims to be capable of doing in Nigeria?! The very same Nigeria we all come from!

God help you

come to my church u will not regret, God still loves you

@claremont

I am wondering so myself, am I not supposed to trust the Man i call my bf, we have exchanged a lot, what check are we talking about before i go divulging personal information about someone i care deeply about?

just curious,

Follow ur heart, keep third party as far as u can, ur relationship is a very sensitive one.

B4 being crucify here i don't need those info 2 sale out the guy, but then to be able to advise her, since those premise she gave out are still not enough, come to think of it, if we all will be sincere 2 ourselves wn asking a girl out, there are certain things u find out about her, not just going into blind date.

Am out of this place, but the end will justify the means!!! All the best.

(Having a Koyoke moment) 

A Nigerian man in Mexico     Be safe in Mexico     Good luck getting him to Canada.

@ Poster and EVERYONE. Why is it that SHE is the one traveling to go see him? Is it that he can't come to Canada? That's kinda suspicious to me.

Lax75:

@ Poster and EVERYONE. Why is it that SHE is the one traveling to go see him? Is it that he can't come to Canada? That's kinda suspicious to me.

Lax!  I swear you my brother from another mother! 

I didn't want to say nothing but thank you for saying it because they will accuse me of being too vocal.  Thank you boo boo 

It is sad women going to see men on the FIRST MEET.

To put some things to rest, I am going to Mexico, I have friends who live there, it is a holiday for me, and yes he will then come visit here with his VISA, which is in the works, thank you for the concern

Red flags.

if he is 7 years younger than you,forget about him.
why should you go to mexico to meet him?why not the other way around?

never disclose your financial standings to him.social security cards,id,home adress and so forth until you know for sure.

the cultural difference and how to make it work will only require patience on both parts.the longer you stick together and discover each other,the easier it will get.

online long distance relationship have a better chance to hold and deliver only if you have at least one thing in common. like religion,scientific appetites or vocations,carreer.but if it's just the usual " i love him.he is so cute " , it doesnt last more than six months.

i hope you and your friend get closer and closer and that you become a succes story

kistehsia:

To put some things to rest, I am going to Mexico, I have friends who live there, it is a holiday for me, and yes he will then come visit here with his VISA, which is in the works, thank you for the concern

If you didn't have any friends in Mexico would you still go see him?

Lax75:

@ Poster and EVERYONE. Why is it that SHE is the one traveling to go see him? Is it that he can't come to Canada? That's kinda suspicious to me.

maybe the guy does not have the resources to travel to canada.
there's nothing wrong in the woman going to meet the man first. . . . .it's the woman that is more likely to be suspicious of what the guy has claimed he does. let her go and find out the man has not lied to her.

@ Mrs. Chima

No Sir I would not go to Mexico, I would wait till he came here to Canada,

kistehsia

kistehsia:

@ Mrs. Chima

No Sir I would not go to Mexico, I would wait till he came here to Canada,

kistehsia

That's what I thought.

coogar:

maybe the guy does not have the resources to travel to canada.
there's nothing wrong in the woman going to meet the man first. . . . .it's the woman that is more likely to be suspicious of what the guy has claimed he does. let her go and find out the man has not lied to her.

Resources? If he is an engineer with a job then why wouldn't he have the resources?

That's an excuse.

Mrs.Chima:

Resources? If he is an engineer with a job then why wouldn't he have the resources?

That's an excuse.

he will still have to apply for a visa with his nigerian passport(engineer or no engineer).
it's easier for the woman with a canadian/american passport to travel to mexico - it's like strolling.

besides, let's assume the man has told some few lies, how would this woman know the lies he has told if she doesn't go there herself to see what he does, his business and his lifestyle and the kind of company he keeps. the naija man is one liable to be verified here, not the woman.

coogar:

he will still have to apply for a visa with his nigerian passport(engineer or no engineer).
it's easier for the woman with a canadian/american passport to travel to mexico - it's like strolling.

besides, let's assume the man has told some few lies, how would this woman know the lies he has told if she doesn't go there herself to see what he does, his business and his lifestyle and the kind of company he keeps. the naija man is one liable to be verified here, not the woman.

She will know all of that on a short stay vacation in Mexico?  Let be real. 

She also said if she didn't have a friend in Mexico that she could stay with she wouldn't go. Then how else would she verify his story? Exactly.

Mrs.Chima:

She will know all of that on a short stay vacation in Mexico? Let be real.

Still suspicious to me. Wonders what kind of immigration status he's on in Mexico. I really wonder.

Mrs.Chima:

She will know all of that on a short stay vacation in Mexico?  Let be real. 

why not? a visit to his place of work would confirm what he claims he does.
the poster is not dumb!

She also said if she didn't have a friend in Mexico that she could stay with she wouldn't go.  Then how else would she verify his story?   Exactly.  

and she would have probably ended the relationship at the start.
maybe what swayed her to go into the relationship was the fact that she knew she could travel to mexico as she pleases.

Lax75:

Still suspicious to me. Wonders what kind of immigration status he's on in Mexico. I really wonder.  

Work visa.

coogar:

why not? a visit to his place of work would confirm what he claims he does.
the poster is not dumb!

Oh I forgot boys let women come see them on a first meet.  My bad. 


All bullshit to the side, a real man would have said let me come see you and then all is well you come see me. If he only has a Nigerian passport and a Work Visa then I can see why she is working on getting him a visa.

Mrs.Chima:

Oh I forgot boys let women come see them on a first meet. My bad. Carry on.

he could be busy as well.
he's an engineer. . . . .

coogar:

he could be busy as well.
he's an engineer. . . . .

He must not be too busy.

Mrs.Chima:

He must not be too busy.   

the op is satisfied to make the trip.
you should encourage her and wish her good luck - don't discourage.

Hmm, it's ok. I guess time will tell then. Let the poster go on her trip and then come give some feedback. I don't get this whole having a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife w/out meeting the individual though. Why do people take this BIG risk?