kistehsia:

@lefulefu

I am looking forward to a long lasting relationship,  we are making sure we do everything right!  I am remaining positive in spite of what others may have to say,  I do not, nor does he find our relationship something to laugh at or make jokes of,  we are very serious about the commitment we wish to make to one another,  We have talked at length and touched on every subject and have a common ground where this relationship lies,  we are very committed to making this work, 

I want to say thank you to all the positive feed back I have received,

kistehsia

deekay29:

Mrs Chima pls do some spell checking before killing us with your inept understanding of the English language. We Nigerians are not used to the ignorant rantings of an Uneducated Morbidly  Obese, Ugly ahole of an Akata woman who thinks she can throw insults at people as she sees fit.

i Know your kind, if it wasn't for the development of America, someone of your low mentality could never survive anywhere else. i detest dumb bleeps, if you are so smart you would at the very least know how to spell.

Someone you have never met in your life asks for your kind advice, the least you can do is be candid without throwing insults at the OP and other Nairalander's. You wonder why the lot of you are born bastards, at least you can't deny that 7.5 out of 10 are born bastards in the African American community, therefore you wouldn't know how to love or understand it if it were in front of you.
i am done with you

all4naija:

@OP

I am into interracial relationship! What it takes to make it worthwhile  is to have great understanding and patient if you really know the partner is for real. I take time to educate my girl about my father traditions and my people. Well, we are into the relationship for some months now and it turns out to be interesting. Let respect also be the watchword !

pendo89:

I love that part.

I think if I were in the op shoes I would let the dude fly down to canada first. work out the visa and let him come.That will prove a few things.
If money is the issue, then all4naija said it well,It takes patience and understanding.
And if you are not patient enough then feel free.

Mrs.Chima:

That's all Lax75 and I was saying.  Let him come SEE HER FIRST and if it work out then go visit him at his stomping ground wherever that is.   

Why is she helping a grown man get a visa to come see her?  Nevertheless, you said the key phrase. If you are not patient enough then feel free.

pendo89:

You are right.let him be man enough and come down.

If he loves me that much as he claims he would do it. But if I did it I would look desperate.

Let the man take the lead.

kistehsia:

It appears I will mot be needing to go to Mexico as his visa will be ready by the end of October, so I am staying put!  Will patiently wait for his arrival.

We talk a lot, about different things and we have talked at length about my my age and reassures me it is not an issue so we have agreed the subject is to not be brought up again.   It was an insecurity of mine and I am dealing with it, the inter-racial part never crossed my mind it was the age gap that hindered me.  I look forward to learning about my Man and he about me, it is a journey we have the rest of our lives to travel.

kistehsia

all4naija:

^^^^
Do you remember the time you used to play hard to get!?

! !

all4naija:

^^^^
My girl is 19, she didn't play hard to get. She knows who I am and quite understand!

all4naija:

^^^^
It even shows in your comment. Good things come to those who wait sensibly. Doesn't necessarily mean you have to play hard to get!

kistehsia:

It appears I will mot be needing to go to Mexico as his visa will be ready by the end of October,  so I am staying put!  Will patiently wait for his arrival.

We talk a lot, about different things and we have talked at length about my my age and reassures me it is not an issue so we have agreed the subject is to not be brought up again.   It was an insecurity of mine and I am dealing with it,  the inter-racial part never crossed my mind it was the age gap that hindered me.  I look forward to learning about my Man and he about me,  it is a journey we have the rest of our lives to travel.

kistehsia

Age has often been described as "mind over matter"; if either of you don't mind about the age gap, then it doesn't really matter. The main challenge I see in inter-racial relationships doesn't lie with either parties, but rather, it lies with how they will manage the narrow-mindedness of ignorant people who choose to criticize them. If both of you are mature enough to deal with the ignorant insults and vile emanating from narrow-minded jealous bigots, then I don't see anything preventing your relationship from succeeding. There are risks in every step we take in life, and the greatest of all men/ladies are those who will still keep on taking steps forward regardless of the risks therein.

I can see that you have been able to handle maturely the immature nature of some of the respondents to your thread, and that is the way you should behave outside the confines of this forum. Good luck, and may the gods be with you!

all4naija:

@Mrs.Chima

I am teaching her about my traditions don't have anything to do with hard-to-get girls! Nigerian girls need to learn something about men and what they want. .

all4naija:

@Mrs.Chima

I am teaching her about my traditions don't have anything to do with hard-to-get girls! Nigerian girls need to learn something about men and what they want. .

all4naija:

^^^^
Okay! I give up! You've won!This what women are good at!Hard to win them in argument -bringing different sides to it!