steeze:

Okay my story might be a little long. I'm in my early twenties and I've only been in one r/ship. Just one. And people find it hard to believe because of the way I live. People call me a player but I am not. I'm only committment phobic. I broke up my last and only relationship because she wasn't giving me any space. I'm not sure I even loved her. This was a girl who dumped her bf to be with me. After that I just decided that it is better to just be friends with women and if benefits come along, I'll take it.

However it seems no one understands the meaning of true friendship. I find that every girl I hang out with starts to want more. Then comes the goo-goo and questions like "why didn't you call me yesterday?" "Who was that girl I saw you with" At times like that I just develop cold feet and take off. She gets hurt and somehow she is heartbroken. The vicious cycle starts all over again even though we were never in a relationship. All my guys are in relationships but I'm the only one who is single and really not interested.

Is something wrong with me? I sometimes worry that this might affect me sometime in the future.

You are naturally ok my friend!!, y'know not all men must think with their second head, but it's a normal thing na it's just that society may frown on you being a guy, well those with little brain sha, because as a guy ur meant to be doing this and that o well ur different and respect urself so carry on jare, just try to pick ur friends more carefully.

steeze:

@sexkillz, I have a lot of things to attain o. . . In my last relationship which ended around march this year, I used to moonlight as a voiceover artiste on the set of a reality show. The pay was awesome but it meant that I had to travel a lot. The babe refused to understand that I had to be away certain days of the week and even then she would call me at every hour of the day.

That was the period when magic number used to reign. I needed some air so i broke up with her. The gist spread and everyone labeled me a heartbreaker and a player.

I just like to have a sense of freedom and to be able to do anything I want when I please.

steeze:

Thank you o jare. . . I'm just glad I'm not the only guy who thinks like this

The thing is, even when I meet a girl I really like, I don't ask her out even though that's what she wants because I know that I won't be able to give her the kind of attention she needs in a relationship.

Have you noticed that women don't expect much when you're just friends I.e you can call everyday and hangout when you feel like or be with someone else etc. But in a relationship the dynamics change. You have to keep in touch everyday and limit the number of female friends you have and limit the amount of time you spend with your guys.

#etayameojare

steeze:

@pweety4me

Abeg nak me tori what do you see?

@sexkillz

Men na so o. . . But the downside is people see me with so many women so they assume that I'm a player. My reputation even precedes me.

It's so crazy that sometimes even my friends are jealous of my other friends. And when e wan dey pass be careful I just remind them that "hey I thought we agreed that we are just friends. Wetin be dis na" and everything is back to normal.

It does seems kinda selfish but it works for me.

steeze:

Have you noticed that women don't expect much when you're just friends I.e you can call everyday and hangout when you feel like or be with someone else etc. But in a relationship the dynamics change. You have to keep in touch everyday and limit the number of female friends you have and limit the amount of time you spend with your guys.

#etayameojare

Pweety4me:

Maybe u swing the other way, you might aswell stick a paper to your head reading "I am not into women, plse don't near me" .

steeze:

I'm only committment phobic.

You must really think you're on twitter with these your signature harshtags. 

Se o wapa ba i? I didn't type this you know---

steeze:

Is something wrong with me?