Your partner is unemployed while you are gainfully employed or both of you found yourself in labour market for no fault of yours.


Oftentimes, we humans are tried in life especially love. One of such trial is a situation where for one reason or the other one or both of the partners has no job. At times, it may be that he/she lost his her job after the two of you have committed into the relationship. Such a situation can be very traumatic. It is often the cause of infidelity in relationship.

If you found yourself in this situation, how would you manage it?

If its the girl that is out of job then its all good but if its the guy,i bet you the relationship wont last

Why shouldn't it? After all she benefited from the guy when the going was good. Are ladies that insensitive?

@olanajim say something better.

like?

Easybaby:

The relationship will still workout irrespective of who lost job but only if they were sincere, truthful, faithful and understanding with each other. In abscent of these, it won't work

Baby, you're not far from the truth

@olanajim,


LIKE UR DIEING DAY

How could you be so ruthless with words? Please be specific.

yu know as individuals we av a limit!!!!!!!!!

Easybaby:

The relationship will still workout irrespective of who lost job but only if they were sincere, truthful, faithful and understanding with each other. In abscent of these, it won't work

no matter au hard one tries lets face it we are humans, bound to default cos of the weakness of our flesh!!!!!!!!!
it takes God ooooh!!!!!!!!
ko easy abeg!!!!!!!!!!
money is the root of all EVIL!!!!!!!!!!

marriages break cos of it,pple kill cos of it!!!!!!!!!
no matter au hard yu try to be faithful and understanding omo dere is a limit one can take oooh!!!!!!!!!it rili takes God,

the love of money is the root of all evil.if the unemployment is a chronic thing there's alot of work for the both of em to do.but i kno that if the wade thru the situation successfully they ll njoy a deeper level of their relationship. but, everybody power no be the same.

My people, It takes God o, It isn't easy.

I've been there and I know what it takes, It's really God, your love for the person and self determination.

I think if the guy is unemployed and he has an understanding girlfriend or spouse as the case may be, things can work out but it depends on how supportive the girl is.

Men find it harder to deal with unemployment, their pride gets hurt if the babe now becomes the 'breadwinner' of the relationship. Its now the woman's duty to reassure the man that things are ok and not to rub it in his face at every opportunity!

NaijaDub:

Men find it harder to deal with unemployment, their pride gets hurt if the babe now becomes the 'breadwinner' of the relationship. Its now the woman's duty to reassure the man that things are ok and not to rub it in his face at every opportunity!

NaijaDub, i hail you oh for the yarning.
You've said it all.

olababe:

My people, It takes God o, It isn't easy.

I've been there and I know what it takes, It's really God, your love for the person and self determination.

My dear thank God for you.
Money and sex are the main causes of marital katakata.

@ topic,if a man loses his job and is out there,actively looking and even doing odd jobs to help out while searching,any woman would love his efforts.
But if he gives up on life and begins to vegetate on the couch,watching "Jerry Springer" and eating kpoff kpoff.
He will see fire!

My dear thank God for you.
Money and sex are the main causes of marital katakata.

@ topic,if a man loses his job and is out there,actively looking and even doing odd jobs to help out while searching,any woman would love his efforts.
But if he gives up on life and begins to vegetate on the couch,watching "Jerry Springer" and eating kpoff kpoff.
He will see fire!


well said!

+osisi:



My dear thank God for you.
Money and sex are the main causes of marital katakata.

@ topic,if a man loses his job and is out there,actively looking and even doing odd jobs to help out while searching,any woman would love his efforts.
But if he gives up on life and begins to vegetate on the couch,watching "Jerry Springer" and eating kpoff kpoff.
He will see fire!

@ +osisi
Word, word.!, my-o-my

Dont let him see fire d best u can do is to reassure him dat things can still be better u know men are like babies they need 2 be urged b4 they will make things happen.

osisi, does the slouching also apply to ladies? or they are exempted

am waiting for more naija girls to comment oooo!b4 i come up with my 2cents(got a tori to tell sef)and the title ,wait for it.

Money makes the world go round

lekuchi:

Dont let him see fire d best u can do is to reassure him that things can still be better u know men are like babies they need 2 be urged before they will make things happen.

@  lekuchi
they saying is that experince is the best teacher,having a women is inevitable
and beleiving me,they are synonmous with MONI  ,
let's be frank, no matter how hard they want to show you they can stand the pressure!
yet they cave-in when least expected, dont be suprised

+osisi:



My dear thank God for you.
Money and sex are the main causes of marital katakata.

@ topic,if a man loses his job and is out there,actively looking and even doing odd jobs to help out while searching,any woman would love his efforts.
But if he gives up on life and begins to vegetate on the couch,watching "Jerry Springer" and eating kpoff kpoff.
He will see fire!

affirm

It takes the grace of God to be supportive to your partner if he or she is unemployed.
If you were given ur partner 50% TLC before, Now is the right time to give your 100%.
And above all be very patient and trust in God

90% of Nigerian womena are just thieving, money-grubbing bi***es. See them lying about "I will stick with him". Yeah, right.

[center]DMX - What These Bitches Want
Aiyyo, I think about when a nigga didn't have (YEAH)
and a nigga told a joke, and the bitches didn't laugh
See now I do the math, I see if you got this
and this and this to some cats, that nigga's the shit (aight?)
And that's all they fuckin with, but see these bitches don't know
If these bitches ain't for real, these bitches don't go
Knock on door, no show, I'm sleep tryin to creep
wit yo' best friend, put it in, dig deep[/center]

@ Poster,

While either of the couple losing job should not be a biggie in a REGULAR home, both losing their staff of bread at the same time could be disastrous. I believe maintaining a good communication at this period is the key to getting back without doing the forbidden. They should both be open to one another concerning how to resolve the issue and make conscious effort not to let seeking for meanings of livelihood tear them apart. One cannot overemphasize the rate at which communication can disappear when a couple is faced with the issue of survival.

On the other hand, I will say there are situations that prevention is the best solution. Couples (and even singles) should endeavour  to have enough fund in cash or in an easily convertible means to take care of at least  3 months expenses in order to provide a comfort zone while trying to find their feet if this unfortunate incidence should befall them; knowing they can keep afloat for 3months without their jobs gives them enough rooom and peace of mind to think clearly on what to do to remedy the situation as quickly as possible.


Shalom

gentlemen of nairaland let us tell ourselves some hard truths, never pray to be unemployed while ur partner is working. if that happens, you will see the "other side" of women in ur partner. you'll lose respect and honor before her and u'll be reminded as often as possible who is paying the bills, u'll endure any shit to avoid a quarrel b/c every quarell will be punctuated by. . ."how much did you bring"

leave all these babes wey de yarn encouragement for this thread. just pray it doesn't happen to you, and woe betide you if it happens to you and the partner in question is an ibo babe life go tire you

if it's the babe that's unemployed, life would go on as normal. very very normal, but for you heheheheheheeeee. problem dey

that, my brothers, is the sad truth

truth hurts

toshmann:

gentlemen of nairaland let us tell ourselves some hard truths, never pray to be unemployed while your partner is working. if that happens, you will see the "other side" of women in your partner. you'll lose respect and honor before her and u'll be reminded as often as possible who is paying the bills, u'll endure any shit to avoid a quarrel b/c every quarell will be punctuated by. . ."how much did you bring"

leave all these babes wey de yarn encouragement for this thread. just pray it doesn't happen to you, [b]and woe betide you if it happens to you and the partner in question is an ibo babe life go tire you[/b]if it's the babe that's unemployed, life would go on as normal. very very normal, but for you heheheheheheeeee. problem dey

that, my brothers, is the sad truth

truth hurts

Chineke God of Abia State.!!!!!!!!
Tosh,wetin Igbo girls do?
na we u dey yab so?

toshmann:

gentlemen of nairaland let us tell ourselves some hard truths, never pray to be unemployed while your partner is working. if that happens, you will see the "other side" of women in your partner. you'll lose respect and honor before her and u'll be reminded as often as possible who is paying the bills, u'll endure any shit to avoid a quarrel b/c every quarell will be punctuated by. . ."how much did you bring"

leave all these babes wey de yarn encouragement for this thread. just pray it doesn't happen to you, and woe betide you if it happens to you and the partner in question is an ibo babe life go tire you

if it's the babe that's unemployed, life would go on as normal. very very normal, but for you heheheheheheeeee. problem dey

that, my brothers, is the sad truth

truth hurts

i concur.if na man lose job omo him go turn rag or will become the problem of the relationship.especialy 4 naija setting

Tosh,even if na okada we fit manage till life better.
But we won't tolerate a man tying wrapper,walking around and giving orders after the  poor woman has been under the hot sun at Alaba market for 12 hours slaving away.
He will hear nwii,if he tries it LOL.

Yeah right. Okada my ass. That's when you'll remember that ur parents had one rich chief in mind and they are "pressuring you", and you'll leave the guy