Am just seeing this after about 3 weeks.I agree with whoever said people on this site are so uptight!
WHERE,TELL ME WHERE DID I EVER MAKE FUN OF THE CRIPPLED MAN?WHERE DID I SAY I LAUGHED AT HIM?WHERE HUN?
(for your information,i just yelled!).
Does anyone not get the concept of "freaking out"?

cuul down gal, i do

Thank you!
But am still fuming,

dnt, chill out

Huh! Spikedcylinder.

No, spikedcylinder, Explode

Spikedcylinder I'm confused. What are you upset about?

people misconstrued wat u said. but some of the replies were not directly related to wat u posted. some were related to the replies some people gave later on

chinani,am upset because someone assumed that i was laughing at my crippled friend.I wasnt laughing,i just freaked out, in the sense that i started staring embarrassingly and uncontrollably at him and the conversation became a little less smooth.
Being crippled in not a disease,i would never laugh at anyone that is crippled,i just cant find love interest in a crippled person because the appearance of a person is one of the things am attracted to.GEDDIT?

Interesting! So looks now matter in a relationship Nice to meet someone with my kind of reasoning!

Looks matter to me,yes.I cant feel fondly about someone unless am attracted to him.
Am not saying you have to be drop dead gorgeous(as am not perfect myself!)but at least,presentable.

my dear,its in two ways, either u look like a cripple urself orr ur walking is as good as a cripple.

what exactly does that mean?

who said you laughed?

If you read through the whole thread,you'll know who said it.

i did, i didn't see anything

why don't you copy and paste the post where the person said it?

lol.then what exactly was ur reaction?.cause i'm thinking of him holding u arm in arm.sorry if i'm toying with ur feelings but this is a nice one lollllllllll.

No hard feelings ushergirl.

Physical attraction is the first thing you notice about a person. This has to exist if there is to be any physical intimacy. I think the girl's attitude is normal. Most of us would not be interested in a physically challenged person, just because looks are very important.

kip it up cause u may not know he may be ur future patner

He will get married to a lady eventually.

Are crippled people not Human Being , I swear Nigerians are very ignorant. They treat immobilize people badly , and that is what Americans will never do.

And you, omo eko, you have the highest regard for human beings as a non Nigerian abi?

@poster l am kinda confuse here with your post dont you thing this could be offency to the victims. do you really know the word descriminate?. Please take this post out of here ok or l will pray for you for God to make you fall in love for one.

There are many things we left on our in life,
plz don't let us forget the fact that a physically challenged person
doesn't ask or pray for it and besides he's just physically challenged
not mentally or intellectually challenged.
I must tell you that there are pple who will enjoy their marriages with pple who are
challenged one way or the other than those who are upright.
@Poster,
I m not saying u should go ahead with what doesn't suite u as we all have laid down procedures and principles for every aspect of our lives, so if u dont find him upright enough to ur taste why dont u just make him a friend, be proud of him and tell him u have someone u are dating already, im so sure this will make him feel relaxed and always make him happy too by encouraging him.

@ poster,

i cant believe a creature of God is saying this about the other person. for the fact that a person is handicapped does not mean he is an 'osu'. he is human for God's sake and if he has asked you out, he is only being a man.

please dont 'run other people down' like this again. its not fair.

if it is the will of God for u, nothing can change that, u will grow 2 love him

Orimolade:

if it is the will of God for u, nothing can change that, u will grow 2 love him

TRUE.

I want to apologize in advance for what I’m about to say. From what I've read so far, some people are bound to take offense.

All you people who are jumping down other people's throat for not going out or for saying they can't marry someone who's handicapped let me ask you this. . .would you rather they said yes out of pity? I mean obviously those who say they wouldn’t go out with someone who is handicapped would only do it out of pity or societal obligation. Oh I’m sure many here would applaud them, for being “deep” and altruistic and all is well that ends well, la di da. . .right but you’re forgetting something here. . . What would the person they are going out with feel? Bet you didn’t think of their feelings matter and THAT my friends, is worse than a pity date any day any time. Do you think he’d appreciate the fact that PITY is the only reason he scored a date?

From reading all the responses, I have yet to any post asking what the handicapped person really wants. Everyone is just going on the assumption that he doesn’t have a choice in the matter. Did anyone ever picture a scenarios where she does say yes, and after a date or two, he heads for the hills because he realizes she’s not his type (no offense to you poster just trying to make a point). Seriously, how many of you have met someone, thought you liked and after getting to know them, you go “what the heck was I thinking?“ The point is that you people are carrying on as if he’s lost his only chance at love because she refused to go out with him. YOUR reaction to HER reaction says more about YOU than it does about HER. You are the ones who really think his handicap poses a problem to him finding real love. . .if you didn’t, you won’t be on her case for saying no. Again, what you are doing is worse than what the one who rejected him has done. . .you think because he has some form of handicap, he should him to be grateful to anyone who will show him some love. I've seen a situation where a guy in a wheel chair turned down a girl because she's not his type. YES, THEY ALSO HAVE TYPES despite their handicaps they have the same emotions like people who aren‘t handicapped.

Another thing, please stop vilifying those people who have been honest in saying they can’t be with someone who's handicapped. Some people just aren't emotionally strong for it. Emotional strength is very important in ANY RELATIONSHIP. There are so many thing some of us aren’t emotionally equipped to handle. . .in law problems, a husband or wife with a roving eye, poverty and so many more. Everyone has their emotional plateau and it is usually advisable to know what it is before venturing into a relationship. Please, understand that I am not advocating that you cut and run once you identify what you think is your peak. . .I am a firm believer in the saying what doesn’t kill us will make us stronger. I am just saying, in doing do so. . .that is identify what you can take and how far you can take it, you know what areas you need to work on, if you do decide to go full steam ahead into the relationsip.

Two things before I end my early morning rant. . .

1)NEVER CONFUSE PITY WITH LOVE. IT MAKES A RELATIONSHIP DOA (For those who don’t know what that means, it is DEAD ON ARRIVAL)

2) MATTERS OF THE HEART ARE NEVER SIMPLE AND TRYING PRETEND IT IS, ONLY MAKES IT HARDER.

@ Poster
This does not make you a bad person, it only makes you human. . .a honest one at that.