hbabe:

I honestly cannot believe some people's comments here!
I wish I had time to reply to some really silly comments but work comes first.

I have been well advised by some really intelligent people here especially the working mothers amongst us and I am working on those tips.

I advise people like Freshcvv and Mutter to stick to the topic and quit the insult.  Just offer ways you have coped or seen people cope; lets act like adults, please.

@Freshcvv
I do have a plan B; that's the reason I married my husband.  Put that in your pipe and smoke it!

hbabe:


lol
What happened to sharing chores?

Tobiegal:

@uju:
And u actually tik i wash d car?

I just drive it to d garage to get it washed , max i'd ask our cleaner for office to wash it,

No biggie, really.

dayokanu:

That was when queensmith was championing that all chores should be split

In days you hear noise in the living room at night, Do you take turns to check if there is an intruder?

When the car breaks down, Do you take turns to get under the hood, Go to autozone, buy parts and fix it.

When electrical appliances develop faults do you take turns to fix it? when plubing works needs to be done, do you take turns at it too?

When lawns need to be mowed, Do you have a timetable for it?

emmatok:

HMM,

WOMAN!!!

Na wetin you wan do next.

Abegi small small oo

dayokanu:

That was when queensmith was championing that all chores should be split

In days you hear noise in the living room at night, Do you take turns to check if there is an intruder?

When the car breaks down, Do you take turns to get under the hood, Go to autozone, buy parts and fix it.

When electrical appliances develop faults do you take turns to fix it? when plubing works needs to be done, do you take turns at it too?

When lawns need to be mowed, Do you have a timetable for it?

ileobatojo:

My husband is almost completely hopeless at doing the ‘manly’ things in the house. Even the simple ones he can do like changing the light bulbs, he won’t do until I nag, nag and nag. I do probably up to 90% of those things and the ones I’m not willing to do, we pay someone to do it.

Mowing the lawn? It does not happen until I nag nag nag. This year, we paid someone to do it for us. Split the payment 50/50. Shikena. Same for clearing our snow. After the first year of our driveway being the most unkept in the neighbourhood, we were glad to pony up the money for the snow clearing company!

Plumbing work? Na me and google dey do am.

Car breaks down? No one’s looking under no hood. Straight to mechanic. He takes his car, I take mine.

Hearing a noise outside in the dark? He will do a cursory look after I blast him for not looking. I will often go and check again!!!

My husband is a good cook and cooks at least 50% of the time, often more.

Funny thing is the CEO at my new job is the exact same way. Not a single technical bone in his body. His wife does it all!

I also have to say that these manly chores come up at far less of a frequency than cooking and cleaning so IMO even if the guy does the bulk of them, he has not contributed fairly to the work of the house yet!!!

hbabe:

I think I may have married your husband 'brother'.
My husband cannot fix simple electrical things that I can do, he doesn't even do a check of faulty equipments; he just calls the technicians.

Dyt:

^^ hmmm
u v got a chicken dere ma'am
so sorry

ileobatojo:

Lol! At least he calls the technician!! Let me not talk again o!

I’m glad he listened to you when you spoke to him. He’s not doing the 'manly' or the ‘womanly' things? Ah ah. E wan kill you? Hopefully things will change now.

hbabe:

Nothing to be sorry about. You will be surprised to learn where his strength lies.
We all have our strength and weaknesses.
Things will change.
I plan to draw out a schedule over the weekend so we know who does what. He cannot cook to save his life so cooking still comes to me but I intend to teach him how to make basic meals.

Sagamite:

I hope you used my Ferrari analogy for him?

I hope you told him you were a Ferrari that needs to be handled with care?

It helps with the clarity.

queensmith:

@saga's post, that bunch of hypocritical racist bull poo should be added to a thread titled the dumbest i've ever heard! mshew!
what a whole load da crap! i cant get over how silly you sound. dear lawd almighty- black men date white women because they have swagger? they are strong? o spare me the arrogant bull crap PUHLEEEEZE!

Without being racist, let me tell you. The reason most interracial couples are blackmen/whitewomen is because black men are the least loyal of all races, they are least respecting of black woman. and only black men use the women as an excuse for their life failures.
Unfortunately when it comes to black women, the sentiment isn't reciprocated. I would have stated white men actually do find black women attractive but that will just be speculation I have no time to prove. Nevertheless the women serve the men with undeserved loyalty, and that is why they don't tend to date other men.
and if i was to be racist, i will say it's because black men are easy, and will date anything in skirt.

Dayo, your having a laugh arent u? Your having a joke? your going to compare DAILY COMPULSORY activities to the odd hypothetical one? SERIOUSLY? SERIOUSLY? I cant indulge the argument it's a foolish one. If a man will compare mowing the lawn (something i'm sure most of them don't even do!) to strenious things women find themselves doing every day, like cooking for 5 hours. Then I don't see the point.

talking like every man is a mechanic or knows a damn thing about electrical appliances, mshew, men are not needed for anything around the home. Any woman that says otherwise is as slow as the men that drive their wives as slaves.

queensmith:

who said anything about medical schoolmoron?

dayokanu:

^^ And where in the world do women cook for 5hours everyday?

Even people that run canteens dont cook 5 hrs perday

Sagamite:

Shut up, cretin!

White men or Black men will not want your Obese arse. No fcking loyalty can save you from that.

queensmith:

it amuses me to see you sulk like this, i find it amusing.

carry on id[i]i[/i]ot!

queensmith:

is that your new argument? That it doesnt actually take long to cook Nigerian food so it's not actually strenious? Or are you just nit picking?
ah you must be right dayo- it only takes 10minutes, thats why all these women are cooking over long weekends and storing it in the freezer for months on end. It's actually indomie they are cooking like that.

queensmith:

^ i think i can sum both those points up.

1) I mentioned earlier, i have no intentions of arguing how long it takes to cook african food. Maybe for you preparing a pot of egunsi takes 5 miniutes.We know the truth and the reality of our foods- that our men demand. It's not an easy thing. Talkless of the amount of time it will take Nigerians to trudge through those disorganised markets looking for ingredients, an extra kudos to those that eat proper pounded yam. It's no walk in the park, it will be disrespectful to suggest so.

The amount of time i spent writing this reply i couldve finished a white persons dinner- even a posh one like roasted salmon in white wine sauce, [s]they dont need the food properly cooked most of the time anyways[/s] (ok that was racist )
anyways Dayo if the food is soo easy to prepare- then it shouldnt be soo difficult for the men to prepare it. Unless a man is physically handicapped I struggle to see why he shouldn't do anything in the house. Thats just pure lazy!

queensmith:

^ i think i can sum both those points up.

1) I mentioned earlier, i have no intentions of arguing how long it takes to cook african food. Maybe for you preparing a pot of egunsi takes 5 miniutes.We know the truth and the reality of our foods- that our men demand. It's not an easy thing. Talkless of the amount of time it will take Nigerians to trudge through those disorganised markets looking for ingredients, an extra kudos to those that eat proper pounded yam. It's no walk in the park, it will be disrespectful to suggest so.

The amount of time i spent writing this reply i couldve finished a white persons dinner- even a posh one like roasted salmon in white wine sauce, [s]they dont need the food properly cooked most of the time anyways[/s] (ok that was racist )
anyways Dayo if the food is soo easy to prepare- then it shouldnt be soo difficult for the men to prepare it. Unless a man is physically handicapped I struggle to see why he shouldn't do anything in the house. Thats just pure lazy!

davidylan:

I cook my own egusi soup from scratch and it takes me max 20 mins to put ingredients together and no more than 1 hr all together. Seriously what is your point? I cook ofe owerri myself, i make my own pepper soup, efo riro, ewedu, okra soup with panla . . . so exactly what is it that you women do that we shld bow down and kiss your feet for? Laundry - easy: just make sure you have a designated spot for your clothes and get a washer and dryer. Cleaning house - get urself a carpet and hardwood cleaner, run over your floors once a week. What else is special about you?

Thankfully my mom made sure she taught me everything around the house, its always a shock when i tell most of my partners that i would hardly miss them if they dropped off the face of the earth.

armyofone:

Na pot of soup you go dey chop for those few days? and how abt the remaining days? eh dayokanu