armyofone:

ewwww, what's that inside the pot david ?

20mins egusi is like
please come and eat real ofe egusi from nwa mama (oxtail, ponmo, crayfish, spinach, ugu, bitterleaf, tinko, mangala, bonga, atarodo, tatashe all dey inside). not that Rachel Ray egusi soup of 20 mins you dey take brag here .

dayokanu:

After pot of soup and stew the rest na breeze. Anyone can prepare rice or does rice take 5hours to cook also?

Pounded yam for me alone takes less than 10mins, which 5 mins is to boil the water, Eba takes less time

armyofone:

so if it is that easy, why do guys not want to do it often now?

ronkebp:

Naso you for don know who dey cook and who no dey cook, if pounded yam takes 10 minutes to prepare, i will break, eba na ''fieselu'' you dey make?? dat one simple naa, no need to boil water sef. (just put cold water in a bowl, pour gari inside and put it in the microwave 5 mins tops, then comback and say you have stomach ache.

ronkebp:

Naso you for don know who dey cook and who no dey cook, if pounded yam takes 10 minutes to prepare, i will break, eba na ''fieselu'' you dey make?? dat one simple naa, no need to boil water sef. (just put cold water in a bowl, pour gari inside and put it in the microwave 5 mins tops, then comback and say you have stomach ache.

armyofone:

so you too like that smoked turkey,
i love smoked turkey for egusi. taste like bushmeat

dayokanu:

I still did it last night and prepared Pounded yam during half time of the game I was watching, Boling water takes less than 5 mins and preparing the rest take another 5

Max 15mins if you turn down the burner

armyofone:

so if it is that easy, why do guys not want to do it often now?

dayokanu:

- Most families dont cook egusi daily. Most families cook pot of soup to last them for days and just warm it daily

- The man was eating before he got married either by cooking or buying food.

When you get married, there are some roles you pick up and some you might drop. e.g a man that was cooking for himself before marriage might have to reduce it when married, the woman that was fixing her electrical appliances, taking charge of her security, fixing her car somehow before marriage might reduce it after marriage.

If you insist on both keeping their pre-marriage roles then whats the point living together or being married

davidylan:

I cook my own egusi soup from scratch and it takes me max 20 mins to put ingredients together and no more than 1 hr all together. Seriously what is your point? I cook ofe owerri myself, i make my own pepper soup, efo riro, ewedu, okra soup with panla . . . so exactly what is it that you women do that we shld bow down and kiss your feet for? Laundry - easy: just make sure you have a designated spot for your clothes and get a washer and dryer. Cleaning house - get urself a carpet and hardwood cleaner, run over your floors once a week. What else is special about you?

Thankfully my mom made sure she taught me everything around the house, its always a shock when i tell most of my partners that i would hardly miss them if they dropped off the face of the earth.

dayokanu:

Most guys before getting married had a way of cooking and eating. You dont need to be an excellent cook to feed yourself. I dont throw away food, If it comes out bad, I must eat it that way

and with cooking you can learn on the job. The things you cant cook, read up online, I learnt some recipes from MissyB's page on NL.

I can tell you I eat out max 2 times a week every meal I cook.

In this new world, washing plates = dishwasher, washing clothes = washing machine, Cleaning = vacuum cleaner. even boiling rice nowadays has been made easy buy those rice boliers, plug them to mains and go to sleep shikena!!!

Is it the gargantuan effort to load the clothes in the washing machine or the muscle to load plates in the dish washer?

When girls go to visit their bfs maybe for weekends, he would likely cede control of the kitchen to the woman, but when you are gone, he resumes back to the place

mutter:

The issue of the man helping does not even arise.
A career woman that cannot manage or organise her husband

armyofone:

ewwww, what's that inside the pot david  ?

20mins egusi is like  
please come and eat real ofe egusi from nwa mama (oxtail, ponmo, crayfish, spinach, ugu, bitterleaf, tinko, mangala, bonga, atarodo, tatashe all dey inside). not that Rachel Ray egusi soup of 20 mins you dey take brag here  .

armyofone:

so you too like that smoked turkey,  
i love smoked turkey for egusi. taste like bushmeat  

dayokanu:

I still did it last night and prepared Pounded yam during half time of the game I was watching, Boling water takes less than 5 mins and preparing the rest take another 5

Max 15mins if you turn down the burner

queensmith:

Egunsi is the most popular dish where i come from, an average family will eat it at least 3 times every week. some have mentioned here their husbands dont even eat day old soups? your point please?

since the man was catering for himself before he got married why turn to a reta[i]r[/i]d after?
taking charge of her security? is this administration of an envoy? dont chat rubbish please

chaircover:

I personally am happy to trade housework in exchange for security. What do I mean by security; I am free to work part time, I dont have to rack my brains about finances, I dont have to make major decisions if I dont feel like, I have someone who is able to do damage limitaton on my behalf when I mess up, I dont have to worry about the house being secure - its his job to secure all the windows and doors, if the phone rings in the middle of the night he is the one to ge up and answer it, If my car makes a funny noise or is low on petrol,  just I pick up his car keys instead, I spend knowing that if I get in a fix someone will sort me out, I have a backbone I can lean on, depend on and run to.

Why am I saying all this? because marriage is not just all black and white and there is a whole much more that goes into it apart from housework, baby making and providing finances & team work is the key.

I can check my oil, I can do DIY, I can set up the barbeque from scratch, paint my garden fence and other "manly" things but I am not very good at it so If I Can, I leave that to the expert 

nobody fixes their own car unless they are a mechanic, and cars do not require daily servicing like these men do. try again please

ronkebp:

oh, now i gat you, i was thinking of the real ponded yam, naija style, so what do you use to eat the pounded yam, water?

armyofone:

like you lift heavy stuff every day eh? but you must eat good food everyday, common don't compare apple and orange

dayokanu:

Ah ah.

Who in this current world especially those staying in Obodo Oyinbo would have time or the luxury of pounding yams?

Have you seen any Naija man living abroad who insist his wife prepares him Pounded yam (by mortar and pestle) daily after she returns from work.

This is a house and incidents happen everyday its either one happens or the other.

ronkebp:

I be proper Ondo girl, so when you talk about ''ponded yam'' i think of the real thing not the counterfeit. I don't mind doing the mortar and pistle thingy ooo, na the yam be dey koko.

dayokanu:

Have you seen anyone do that mortar and Pestle thing in America? Lailai

With all these wooden houses before you crash the whole edifice altogether

queensmith:

For someone that wants to seem religous you sure do like to lie. It takes you 20 minutes to go down to the market and buy the ingredients required for egunsi?
everything else you've said is utter nonsense. if it's soo easy i still don't see why the men can't do it? what is soo special about you that you cannot do your own laundry and mop the floor? what? does yourpenis prevent it?then why

dayokanu:

Ah ah.

Who in this current world especially those staying in Obodo Oyinbo would have time or the luxury of pounding yams?

Have you seen any Naija man living abroad who insist his wife prepares him Pounded yam (by mortar and pestle) daily after she returns from work.

mutter:

QUEENSMITH sometimes women can be so amazing.
A Career woman and I mean one that values her career, in the first place does not go marrying a man who is not compatible with her career. I know what kind of woman I am and how spontaneous I can get when it comes to such things so I made sure I married a man ho can accept me as I am. My husband has never stood in my way and God knows there were times i was working as much as 13 hours a day. However at that time my husband was back to school and had more time for the home.
My husband is reasonable enough to know my limitations and he helps me where he can. And yes I am not a feminist, I see no need to go get my car washed or tanked, what for? And you might find this hard to swallow, but I do see the house chores as my duty, so it`s simply about saying please and thank you. And yes I love being a slave to my husband Why not, its just one of the many roles I play as a wife and my husband is everything and more to me. He is my hold in my weakest times and my greatest strength and inspiration.

kbdrim:

Thank U my sister, that is the wish of every man out there, When I get married And my wife makes such a bold claim to slave for me I will also gladly slave for her too not just by saying it but practicing it day by day, Love isnt about being wise its about being ffolish together,  I wish most men will understand that If u cant die for Your wife I mean literally then u aint being a true lover. Love is a decision and u must be willing to serve each other no matter what. May ur Husband find it easy to slave for you too.
Those who have chosen to be ''wise'' in love I wish them all the best and pray that They never fall so sick in life that their partners also become ''wise'' in love.people have become so wise in this age and it is this generation that is saddest in relationship. So many failed relationships/marriages and heartbreaks yet we dont learn. we think with our feelings and take decisions without reflecting deeply on philosophies. Our lives are simply soap operas, Its pathetic

c.fours:

lol@ davidylan's 20min egusi soup 

c.fours:

you are finally making sense. both partners should be equally committed to the hard work it takes to keep a household together.

davidylan:

another dumb broad who cant read. Where did i claim you cook egusi in 20 mins? 

he's been saying the same thing since. You just werent comprehending.

c.fours:

shurrup there fool.
his entire earlier tirade on this thread was about how naija women were "trash."  it seems like he's back on his medication.

you should go take yours as well. . .after your egusi soup is done cooking.

c.fours:

shut up. it clearly says 'naija women' not 'c.fours'
abi you don't know the difference?