I find NL as an interesting forum - and because it's faceless, it provides a platform to have a discourse with open minded people. I find most people on NL interesting, and being a guy who finds pleasure in discourse with knowledgeable people (not necessarily intellectuals) when I'm less busy - I think we can all learn from one another.

Whilst growing up, I was never a 'girlist' - I was just one of those guys who are fascinated by tits - but never really the type who thought girls should be best friends with guys. I wasn't a sexist neither, I was just that hiphop guy - with a hustler's state of mind. My thing was getting paid before anything else. I never really paid attention to girls - though most girls thought I was cute - but being in a relationship wasn't really my thing. To cut the story short, all the girls I checked before I turned 21, either moved to me first or flirted with me - before I moved to them. I never checked none of them for more than three month - I used to get bored of girls easily because of my make money first mentality, though we go our separate ways without any animosity. I can proudly say, I'm still cool with all them. And don't get it twisted, it wasn't because my game was wack - I had a lot of tricks up my sleeves when it comes to girls, and I pride myself in being vast in a lot of things. I can start and maintain conversation with anyone including girls, on any subject matter - and I'm also a mini-poet, and a R&B lover. I can switch from being a thug to an academic, and talk intelligently on different subject matters from politics, religion (I have both Muslim and Christian background), culture, tradition, Pan-Africanism, travel and tourism, international relations, geography, fashion, novels, sports, music, science and technology, to Eurocentrism. I'm well read and educated due to my background - and my thirst for knowledge - and I believe I'm eloquent and well spoken as well. I think I'm the best of both worlds!

My thing used to be, never fall in love, and marriage was an institution I'll never like to enroll in. Everything changed when I met this girl. I heard a lot about her from my friends who lived in the same ends with her before I met her, and how she has rejected everyone. I just kept asking myself, who's this girl who keeps rejecting everyone? - though they told me she wasn't stush and she talks to everyone who chirpse her. As fate would have it, I met her on a very sunny summer afternoon on the road - then I decided to check the girl out - to find out what she was about. Chatting to this girl blew me off my feet - though she was just average looking - her demeanour and intelligence were mind blowing - and I liked her and wanted her straight away. I played my cards right, and within three months she told me she was in love with me, and she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. She was always there for me, and did things that I don't think anyone on this planet would have done for me. She showed me true love; the type of love I never knew existed, and she would take a bullet for me if she needed to. Being a guy with a soft heart, I decided to open up and reciprocate the love. I thought I found the person I'll spend the rest of my life with. I took down my guards down - and went against my own hypothesis, which were: "Love is for su.ckers and marriage is for the weak hearted." Quickly, I started planning my future with her - she became the focal point of my life (which was one of the greatest mistake I ever made but I don't regret it).

Then suddenly, the unthinkable happened - she told me too many things were going on in her life - and we needed to take a break. Her attitude started changing towards me, and I became a stalker. My life was put on hold for three months, all my masculinity fizzled out - I was weak and downtrodden, and love took its toll on me. I discovered love was mental slavery, and the enslavement of the subconscious mind. I discovered it was something real men striving to make great strides in life should never believe in. Love is for the weak hearted, and the fragile soul. We all learn from our mistakes, and I've since moved on to greater and better things. It's now two years after the 'love' fizzled out, the girl is still one of my best friends - back then, I was blinded by love but now I can see. I can see that love is a four letter fallacy - that people dabble into to hide their insecurities. Love died a painful and sorrowful death long time ago.

I know some posters would want to believe I'm saying this because someone broke my heart - but I've got news for you, I was mentally enslaved but now I'm free. And no one can break my heart because my heart is larger than life. You don't need love to be in a relationship - or for your girl to be the rock behind you. All you need are: likability, connection, tolerance, care, and understanding. I'm still cool with the girl, and we're happier whenever we're around each other - than when we were, when we were blindly in love. Love breeds sensitivity, and sensitivity breeds jealousy - go figure.

Yours Truly,

Shymmex the Don!

Hope it wasn't with a Nigerian girl? Ugliness don't deserve love.

Ok.. ok..
Make sure not to 'fall in love' again when another 'special' girl blow you off your feet tomorrow. Hehehe!
PS: NEVER, Ever stalk a girl! Don't!!

I had to correct some typos.

Emmerlee: Ok.. ok..
Make sure not to 'fall in love' again when another 'special' girl blow you off your feet tomorrow. Hehehe!
PS: NEVER, Ever stalk a girl! Don't!!

Thanks, bruv... I learned the hard way.

@Emmerlee

Can you share your experience with me?

shymmex: @Emmerlee

Can you share your experience with me?

Shymmex, I hope to produce an interesting piece someday concerning my voyages with the ladies right from the very beginning.
However, the lessons are always the same for the guys at the end of the day..

Truth is when it comes to the beautiful ladies and our relationship with them, there are rules of engagement ohhh! Ignore the rules at your own peril.

It is well Bro.

Emmerlee:

Shymmex, I hope to produce an interesting piece someday concerning my voyages with the ladies right from the very beginning.
However, the lessons are always the same for the guys at the end of the day..

Truth is when it comes to the beautiful ladies and our relationship with them, there are rules of engagement ohhh! Ignore the rules at your own peril.

It is well Bro.

I hear that, bruv.. Everything in life has pros and cons - and ignoring them leads to destruction. I guess too much of everything is problematic and nothing lasts forever.

Abeg poster,talk anoda tory.

i read your story half-way.
too long and boring!
Please summarise!
Then again....my answer on true love depends on your definition of it!

Hmmm, I feel for you. I'm at the same point in my life, and about to make the same decision you're making. However, I believe in Love, I just think we mess it up too often, so we should just look for compatibility rather than Love. But there's something in your OP which caught my attention, and I was already planning on starting a thread about it, so OP, go look there. It's called "Playing your cards right".

Onegai: Hmmm, I feel for you. I'm at the same point in my life, and about to make the same decision you're making. However, I believe in Love, I just think we mess it up too often, so we should just look for compatibility rather than Love. But there's something in your OP which caught my attention, and I was already planning on starting a thread about it, so OP, go look there. It's called "Playing your cards right".

Thanks, babes.. I'll check out the thread, when you post it.

slimyem: i read your story half-way.
too long and boring!
Please summarise!
Then again....my answer on true love depends on your definition of it!

Everything about you smells ignorance and stupidity. How do you pass exams?

tasandra: Abeg poster,talk anoda tory.

Another 'tory' na how crayfish bend.

olodo!

shymmex:

Everything about you smells ignorance and stupidity. How do you pass exams?

oh really?
Tell me about since you know so much,
ode!

@OP: I must say that it's not every day one gets to read a well-written, literary masterpiece like yours here on Nairaland. Your article is like a a golden needle found in a hay-sack. Whenever I see excellent write-ups like yours, I remain optimistic that there still remains hope for the youth of Nigeria.

As per your title, I don't believe in the existence of a concept known as love for so many reasons. In my opinion, love is a mere glorified term for primordial relationships that have existed amongst human beings for centuries.

@op
U re right. Love doesn't exist in dis our generation. It has gone into extinction. Our fore fathers were d ones privileged enuf to exprience it.

Shymmex + Slimyem = I'm confuse

~Killz~:

Where's BABE? There's work to do. . .

In jail for shoplifting weight gain medication.

@bittyend please don't you insult nigeria girls b/c there are millions of pretty nigeria girls that are better than your sisters! That's if you have one!

claremont: @OP: I must say that it's not every day one gets to read a well-written, literary masterpiece like yours here on Nairaland. Your article is like a a golden needle found in a hay-sack. Whenever I see excellent write-ups like yours, I remain optimistic that there still remains hope for the youth of Nigeria.

As per your title, I don't believe in the existence of a concept known as love for so many reasons. In my opinion, love is a mere glorified term for primordial relationships that have existed amongst human beings for centuries.

Thanks for the compliment, bruv. I happy a lot of people are seeing through the illusion called: "love."

I'll be very glad if you can share some of your past experiences with fellow NLers.

Thanks.

switcyndy: @op
U re right. Love doesn't exist in dis our generation. It has gone into extinction. Our fore fathers were d ones privileged enuf to exprience it.

GBAM!

Can you share your experience with us? And have you ever been in love?

slimyem: oh really?
Tell me about since you know so much,
ode!

I know you're a certified troll in this bytch, and you spew ignorance every time.

~Killz~:

Dies Death. . .

My other source said she's in Jail for lifting arse enlargement medication!

Lord have mercy loool. That arse is all gone already. Btw who the Bleep is this shymmmass negro

REALITY101:


Lord have mercy loool. That arse is all gone already. Btw who the Bleep is this shymmmass negro

Watch what you say about me, bummy arse faggit. You and your sissy bf need to take to love life off this thread - this is about STRAIGHT PEOPLE - not homoerectus.

See the truth: both parties manipulate and put their best self out there. Which is what happened to you. This is why you should be your self, don't be nice unless you feel like being nice, don't say sweet words when you don't mean it, do not go out of your way. It is better the babe falls in love with your flaws and happily discovers your good points. All relationships reach that point when the truth comes out, just pray the ring is not the finger by then. Love exists, we don't know how to handle it, so let's settle for compatibility. Not all of us were meant to be D'banj(no talent, all the money), some of us have to be Eedris (no career)or Eldee (awesome talent, not enough recognition) ; likewise some of us will marry and hate it, most of us will marry compatible people and be okay and few will love and e go pain you everytime you see dem.

shymmex:

Watch what you say about me, bummy arse faggit. You and your sissy bf need to take to love life off this thread - this is about STRAIGHT PEOPLE - not homoerectus.

REALITY101:


Lord have mercy loool. That arse is all gone already. Btw who the Bleep is this shymmmass negro

Awww c'mon guys. Let's not fight here. People have different experiences so can we at least agree on that? Please?

Onegai: See the truth: both parties manipulate and put their best self out there. Which is what happened to you. This is why you should be your self, don't be nice unless you feel like being nice, don't say sweet words when you don't mean it, do not go out of your way. It is better the babe falls in love with your flaws and happily discovers your good points. All relationships reach that point when the truth comes out, just pray the ring is not the finger by then. Love exists, we don't know how to handle it, so let's settle for compatibility. Not all of us were meant to be D'banj(no talent, all the money), some of us have to be Eedris (no career)or Eldee (awesome talent, not enough recognition) ; likewise some of us will marry and hate it, most of us will marry compatible people and be okay and few will love and e go pain you everytime you see dem.

Do you have any past experience you can share with us, love?

shymmex:

GBAM!

Can you share your experience with us? And have you ever been in love?

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