slimyem: ^no be only you o.
I am discombobulated!

I'm complicatedly obfuscated. . .

~Killz~:
Playing Cards = Manipulation. . . Right?

Emmerlee: **clears throat**

Em, which one is better btw:
- Playing your cards right to make him/her fall for you or;
- Becoming a looser yourself and then having no one look your way at all?
Aside from the very few 'natural' card/game players out there, I believe pple 'play cards right' because they realised it's suddenly working for them..

But then again - If you got him/her by playing your cards right then bera be prepared to continue playing those cards for as long as you intent to keep that fire burning.

Onegai:

Nothing wrong with playing your cards, just don't accept all you see as the truth. Because I've seen too many people complain they didn't realise the other person was like that.

Onegai: And btw, guys, every girl who has played her cards right to get you, does not love you. Trust me, I've played my cards right, and my feelings were in check, I didn't really send the n#@$er, he was a means to an end. Once I started to like him and give ear to my emotions, gbam, we started having problems. He too was playing cards right. The truth caught both of us. We're in Time-out now and I don't know if it's permanent.

Onegai:

Yup

Onegai: And btw, guys, every girl who has played her cards right to get you, does not love you. Trust me, I've played my cards right, and my feelings were in check, I didn't really send the n#@$er, he was a means to an end. Once I started to like him and give ear to my emotions, gbam, we started having problems. He too was playing cards right. The truth caught both of us. We're in Time-out now and I don't know if it's permanent.

Onegai: At this point in time, almost no-one I know actually believes in Love. Because we've misunderstood it and twisted it to an unrecognizable feature. There's so much I wanna talk about, but I'll start with this one: Playing your cards right.

Last week, I created a thread, asking why Nice girls finished last. I got a lot of feedback, in particular from guys, who kept advising my girl to "be herself". I wondered about it and came to a realization:

MOST OF THE FAILING RELATIONSHIPS YOU SEE, THE REALLY BITTER ONES WHICH HURT YOU A LOT, AT SOME POINT, THE PEOPLE IN THEM PLAYED THEIR CARDS RIGHT

Playing your cards right is another way of saying Manipulation. Hence we tell girls, if you play your cards right (bleep often, be nice, be friendly, cook), that man will marry you. And it works. We tell guys "spend, don't call her too often, be in charge, trip her" and it again, works.
So why's the divorce rate going up, since we've all become sooooo smart?

You see, it's easy to behave like wife and husband material. The problem is that playing cards is a euphemism for games, and all games MUST end at one point. So the couple begin to see the truth of each other. And kasala go she le.
I know at least 3 marriages in which I can confirm the ladies played their cards right and got the guys. One, 6 months in, she was in Hell She's still there. The other, it took 2 years for her to realise she married a very laid-back, strongly yoruba guy (and she's not yoruba and she doesn't compromise). Small action film dey, but luckily, her husband's too close to his family to cheat. The 3rd, well, no-one likes accidentally going to visit the couple for long visits, his wife makes the word "rude" come alive.
For guys, you charm the girl, then once you get her, settle into your real character. Same thing happened to my babe. God help her if she had married that dude in the first 6 months, she's seeing his character now and it's upto her to decide whether she can live with what she sees (it takes 6 months of live-seeing to start seeing the truth, which is why I don't like online dating). So then, the ladies begin to complain: you're too careless with your words, you don't give me enough attention. But imagine if they had both played their cards right and married in the first 6 months of seeing in person. So you see the best marriages nowadays belong to those whom dated from Uni or earlier, where they didn't know how to hide. They still have problems, but they rarely pack up. Because both parties in it are like our parents, i.e they've been together for long, they don see finish, na wetin you wan use surprise anyone.
Playing your cards right is selling your market. But it should come with a tag: Buyer Beware, Goods sold may be different from what is Priced.

Rocktation: Hmmn, good point. It kind of takes things deeper though. It makes it seem as though life in its entirety, must be based on manipulation. I mean, who does anything like tells stories about themselves, without anticipating (subconsciously or not) a reaction/end effect to/of it...be it good or even bad? I get where you're coming from yeah, but you implied so yourself; the remaining 30percent of cards played right cases you know, account for exceptions.

Lord_Reed: @Onegai
I appreciate the structure of your thoughts out here. Your words remind us that building good character is more essential than simply appearing to be desirable.

Onegai:
At this point in time, almost no-one I know actually believes in Love. Because we've misunderstood it and twisted it to an unrecognizable feature. There's so much I wanna talk about, but I'll start with this one: Playing your cards right.

Last week, I created a thread, asking why Nice girls finished last. I got a lot of feedback, in particular from guys, who kept advising my girl to "be herself". I wondered about it and came to a realization:

MOST OF THE FAILING RELATIONSHIPS YOU SEE, THE REALLY BITTER ONES WHICH HURT YOU A LOT, AT SOME POINT, THE PEOPLE IN THEM PLAYED THEIR CARDS RIGHT

Playing your cards right is another way of saying Manipulation. Hence we tell girls, if you play your cards right (bleep often, be nice, be friendly, cook), that man will marry you. And it works. We tell guys "spend, don't call her too often, be in charge, trip her" and it again, works.
So why's the divorce rate going up, since we've all become sooooo smart?

You see, it's easy to behave like wife and husband material. The problem is that playing cards is a euphemism for games, and all games MUST end at one point. So the couple begin to see the truth of each other. And kasala go she le.
I know at least 3 marriages in which I can confirm the ladies played their cards right and got the guys. One, 6 months in, she was in Hell She's still there. The other, it took 2 years for her to realise she married a very laid-back, strongly yoruba guy (and she's not yoruba and she doesn't compromise). Small action film dey, but luckily, her husband's too close to his family to cheat. The 3rd, well, no-one likes accidentally going to visit the couple for long visits, his wife makes the word "rude" come alive.
For guys, you charm the girl, then once you get her, settle into your real character. Same thing happened to my babe. God help her if she had married that dude in the first 6 months, she's seeing his character now and it's upto her to decide whether she can live with what she sees (it takes 6 months of live-seeing to start seeing the truth, which is why I don't like online dating). So then, the ladies begin to complain: you're too careless with your words, you don't give me enough attention. But imagine if they had both played their cards right and married in the first 6 months of seeing in person. So you see the best marriages nowadays belong to those whom dated from Uni or earlier, where they didn't know how to hide. They still have problems, but they rarely pack up. Because both parties in it are like our parents, i.e they've been together for long, they don see finish, na wetin you wan use surprise anyone.
Playing your cards right is selling your market. But it should come with a tag: Buyer Beware, Goods sold may be different from what is Priced.