Amaka G29:
Don't you have goals for yourself? I believe in marriage and I know the pressure you are feeling is palpable, but men can sense desperation and it's a turn off. If you focus on being the best you for yourself, the husband will come. Focus on being well read, well dressed, and well traveled...really anything that makes a happier and better you. People who take care of themselves and are genuinely happy attract others are them. Focus also on building strong friendships and family ties. Creating good relationships with others will make you better at navigating romantic relationships. You never know who may know just the right person for you.

From a practical stand point, putting yourself in situations to meet quality, serious minded men without hunting for them could be fruitful. It won't be the club, but it may be the library, cafe, or friend's wedding. A smile and pleasant conversation goes a long way (even with a nice older woman who has a son.)

You have a whole life ahead of you to be married, have children, and be tied down. Why not explore the freedom you have while you have it?

lucrecia: All my sisters have gotten married, and i am the only one left behind. Meanwhile the right time for a girl to settle down is 25yrs. My question is at my age can i still settle down? i'm desperate to settle down, but i am not in any serious relationship. what should i do?

odiaero: I knew it b4 that nairaland is full of desperados, now they are no more ashame to keep it secret, am waiting for Rokiatu and Hotima to confess too, water don dey pass garri small small

Missy_B: You're just 28 and you're already desperate? When you get to my age and you're still single I wonder what you'd do. Enjoy your life while you patiently wait for him, a time will come when you'll miss being single.

Ammyng:

Sorry I gotta laugh 2 this

rokiatu: Damn another marriage thread, I am beginning to worry. What is happening to our young men?

You telling me they are all turning gay?

crusifis:

get a good job, make ur own money, get pregenant, and have ur own kids urself. its nt a must u get married. thanks

odiaero:

@ 35, you are still single, i wonder why u have not announce your desperation

buJu-234:
Re: I'm 28 Desperate To Settle Down. by rokiatu(f): 16 hours & 35 minutes
Damn another marriage thread, I am beginning to worry. What is happening to our young men?

You telling me they are all turning gay?[s][/s]

my dear; its jst cash that is holding many Nigerian matured men...

and also u ladies dont help matters too;

a friend got married to this lady who told him that she will manage with him; after 1yr..
the wife started:-
this house is too small
i can stay in this kind of area any more (sango-ota)
how can i b using 150k per mth for chop money abeg its too small
my mother needs some cash (HOW MUCH? 300k)
i need to change my wardrope;(BUT U JST DID 2mths ago?)

etc etc etc

meanwhile; my friend boss is planning to downsize because of the economy; come and see this bobo now;;; thinking wan kill d guy

so when single guys see people like this... o boy its better that that lady remain a single woman
in her father`s house than to come and give me High BP...

Leyelyzo:

Did Missy-B personally told you she's 35 or that's what you could conjecture? You might be wrong u know, she might just be 33

Leyelyzo:

Did Missy-B personally told you she's 35 or that's what you could conjecture? You might be wrong u know, she might just be 33

odiaero:

Lol @ 33, she told you that too? well just cracking some jokes

bros856: I guess nobody has written exactly what this lady will love to read. Its not easy for a lady to come out this open. A lot of people interpret it as she being desperate but i tell you guy no, she is not desperate but an honest person. So many men go begging women that are not willing to settle down and give peace for marriage and When they encounter an honest ready to stay house wife like this lady they disregard them and call it names. Well my dear send me a mail on umo.benson@yahoo.com. My Cousin want to settle too, so i will recommend you to him. I like your courage, it shows you know what life is all about. I know you are there already. Problem shared is half solved.

lucrecia: All my sisters have gotten married, and i am the only one left behind. Meanwhile the right time for a girl to settle down is 25yrs. My question is at my age can i still settle down? i'm desperate to settle down, but i am not in any serious relationship. what should i do?

Killz.:
Another desperate thread? This is serious.

Killz.:
Another desperate thread? This is serious.

Missy_B:



I could have sworn it's not exactly rocket science to discern from my posts that I'm in my early 40s.