ayosmiles: I used to have this girlfriend I loved so much that I would go to her place, sleepover and cook her breakfast. On weekends I would help her tidy her room before takin her out. When she left me, I thought she felt I was too attached but now she's back beggin me to come back, sayin she made a mistake and no guy could care 4 her like me.

Guys, is it wise to do those things for your woman? Girls, will you appreciate a guy that does that?

abysirius:
How u feel about this depends on ur person and d understnding with which u're doind it. Left to me, I won't feel less or abused if i find d grace to help her in this regards. She's my world.

TisaBone:


i don't think that there is anything wrong with it at all. a male who caters to his woman is the ultimate man. he is secure enough in himself to know that cooking and cleaning does not make him any less of a man, but that taking care of his woman ensures that she is happy. if his woman is happy and pleased, she in turn will do her best to please him back.

I got cooked breakfast the other day, and the gesture was very sweet and clued me in to what was in store if I play my cards with this particular guy. A man such as the one described in this post wants his woman to depend on him totally, fulfilling all of her needs, so that she will want no other but him.

ayosmiles: I used to have this girlfriend I loved so much that I would go to her place, sleepover and cook her breakfast. On weekends I would help her tidy her room before takin her out. When she left me, I thought she felt I was too attached but now she's back beggin me to come back, sayin she made a mistake and no guy could care 4 her like me.

Guys, is it wise to do those things for your woman? Girls, will you appreciate a guy that does that?

2buff:

Because it happened "the other day". If this happens often enough you would take it for granted.
Unless you're one of those 30-ish+ year old women I talked about earlier who may have the maturity needed to appreciate such things from their men.

Adetayo100: If you help a lady she will take you for granted

2buff:

FAIL, FAIL, MEGA FAIL

You sound really young. For the sake of your mental sanity and the health of your relationships, always consider such words as "things you tell her", not things you tell yourself. These girls, their brains are fried my friend. If they feel they can do whatever they want to you and you're still going to be licking their boots, then extreme abuse is inevitable.

Girls fair better when they know they are with a guy that cares, but WILL drop them like a hot kettle if they act a certain way.
Again to my point, If you let your children walk over you just because "they are your world", what good are you truly doing?

2buff: Most importantly, if you know yourself and you know you won't continue it, don't start it...

As I like to cook certain things, i have no issues whipping her something up if she visits me, but I am NOT going to her house for cleaning or washing her pata for her.
Na so see-finish dey start be dat.

2buff: I laugh at how all the girls here are like "YES I want a man to be like this" only for them to come across him and then totally abuse him with her friends because they can never look at him the same way again after he washes her used thongs . He would instantly be seen as a bich-made nigga.

Please have better aspirations and things to do with your time than trying to please women. You will be the better for it, and your relationship with the more confused gender will most likely work out better that way.

Omogbhollahorn:
u gurlfriend na ur world watin u wife o come b na

MsDarkSkin: "It's tha thuggish ruggish boooone!"
what up Tisa? lol missed you hun...

*off to read replies*

MsDarkSkin:



what is the meaning of this Buffy?

2buff:

FAIL, FAIL, MEGA FAIL

You sound really young. For the sake of your mental sanity and the health of your relationships, always consider such words as "things you tell her", not things you tell yourself. These girls, their brains are fried my friend. If they feel they can do whatever they want to you and you're still going to be licking their boots, then extreme abuse is inevitable.

Girls fair better when they know they are with a guy that cares, but WILL drop them like a hot kettle if they act a certain way.
Again to my point, If you let your children walk over you just because "they are your world", what good are you truly doing?

abysirius:
If I really understand you, You must be living in fear- the fear of the unknown. May be if I show her too much care she could start taking me for granted or if I give her too much attention she might start thinking she's irreplaceable...all these stuffs run thru your dirty mind I suppose. But for your information let me advice you; a man needs not be a steel to control a woman's mind and manage his relationship efficiently. All u need is God's wisdom and grace to help u balance things up at the size of equilibrium if possible such that one side will not out-weigh the other. Besides, there two different things: it's one thing for you to show that you care and it's another thing entire to let her know that you av principles. please go loosen up as this will help u a great deal and pls get all these freaking rubbish thoughts off ur mind. You need character to keep a woman not machoism.

redleich: Let me emphasize here that a man doing domestic chores around the house for his woman does not show weakness, rather it goes a long way to demonstrate the affection and care he has towards her.
That doesn't mean a woman's role around the house has been taken over, but he is willing to help out every now and then.
For me cooking is something i have a flair for, so whether woman dey or not o, if i wanna cook what i feel like eating i go for it!!!