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Poll: Can u do it or appreciate it?Guyz yes: 55% (105 votes)Girlz yes: 19% (36 votes) Guyz, hell no: 16% (31 votes) Girls, hell no: 1% (2 votes) Guyz nd girlz, not my business: 7% (14 votes) This poll has ended |
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Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by boomssey(f): 5:38pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
qualified: @op, dont allow all these hypocrites talk down on u. Most of them are kids, js bragging n trying to 'belong'.YES O!i lik n cherish a guy who does dat 2 bt it has 2 b a 50-50 tin though.they r also men who dnt apr8 a tin u do 4 dem,even if u lik kil urself 4 him,na u sabi. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by tiebe: 5:43pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
I've always said that a real man is not defined by how little he does in d house or how much money he spends. A real man can help out in d house and still remain the HNIC (that's Head Nigga In Charge). Being a man goes beyond just staying away from chores. When ur woman has issues at work, with her family, with her faith, with her dreams, with herself generally, who does she go to? D ur words immediately bring an end to her issues? Are u the person to meet? Does she knw that U have her back? If u'r not all these and u think simply staying away from the kitchen and bringing some cash when she needs it is all u need to b a man, then u got it wrong man. Help ur woman at home. A woman who disrespects u cos u clean up with her will disrespect u even if you don't. Also, I'm guessing women also use their money for the house which is out of her 'traditional' role. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by boomssey(f): 5:56pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
ocelot2006: Wife: YesNo b gf go turn to wife? |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by nnekamadi: 6:06pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
Yes a guy can cook for his girlfriend |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Nobody: 6:07pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
ti-ebe: We're talking girlfriend here. Not wife and not fiance. Very different dynamics. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Nobody: 6:08pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
nnekamadi: Yes a guy can cook for his girlfriend Cooking is nothing. What of cleaning your house and washing your clothes and soiled panties whenever he is around? You will sooner start seeing him as a houseboy after the novelty and initial joy wears off. Just like how we all take air for granted and sometimes in a whole day never even think about it. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Nobody: 6:31pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
TisaBone: No disrespect at all, but um... Seriously u are coming across as very bitter like someone who you catered to (like a real man should) hurt you badly. TisaBone: I'm talkin to you buffy. Thanks my Gorgeous sis, but I don't have to have experienced any of this to understand the human condition. It is an uncontrollable aspect of our nature to take things frequently done for granted, especially when we are too young and st[i]u[/i]pid and never actually lacked or hungered for that thing in the past in order to truly appreciate it now. As i said, after a woman has "gotten around the block", only then can she really have a better appreciation of what a good man has to offer. Like the way someone that escapes death by a hair's breath afterwards has a much more vivid appreciation for life. In the words of Jesus, "Don't cast your precious gems to dogs. They will simply trample it under their feet and then turn on you". You would notice that God's attitude towards us is essentially the same way, and it's not because He is wicked. My point also still stands that if it is not something you intend to do going forward, best not to even start it as this is just deception. Better to be pleasantly surprised in the future than be silently disappointing. It doesn't make anyone "less of a man" to choose NOT to clean and wash for a girlfriend. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by chukwunwendu(m): 7:06pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
if dis s joke,let it better be.if not don't u ever try dat bullshit again.re u a woman wrapper.c hw u re fooling urself in d name of lv.is she sick,no.and u stil hv d audacity to utter dis nonsense out.be careful |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by tiebe: 7:46pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
2buff: boomssey: No b gf go turn to wife? |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Larrylarex(m): 9:59pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
For girlfriends: LAELAE! Never! For wife: cooking? Maybe. Cleaning? No! |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Weave: 10:20pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
ismhab: That so wrong. You have a typical Nigerian man mentality. Ignorant. I don't see anything wrong with dat. My bf cooks for me alot& I don't take it for granted. It's called love. That y whenever he wants me to do something, I try to do it REALLY well and respect him alot too |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by tiebe: 6:51am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Weave: Tell them jare. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Tinkybabe(f): 9:25am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Witty07: A male chauvinist can never earn my respect..and by a coward,I mean men who try to earn respect by instilling fear.A real man would command his woman's respect by loving,caring and treating her right .Going by your example,it's pretty obvious that the submissive one would loved by the man.I must say I like you analogy cuz you didn't point the man as a bigot.he was openminded to the two women but one chose to be an arse.what I'm saying in essence is that men shouldn't treat women like trash because they probably suffered in their past relationships..All the women you've (don't mean you)dated might be arses but you meet this sweet girl who you have resolved to deal with cuz of the way you were treated not knowing that's your angel you're gonna be mistreating. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Fruitful2: 9:55am On Jun 26, 2012 |
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN ASSISTING YOUR WIFE DOMESTICALLY AS LONG AS SHE DOES NOT ABUSE IT.ITS ACTUALLY FUN DOING IT TOGETHER.RESPONSIBLE WOMEN APPRECIATES IT. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Nobody: 3:23pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
Can't people read? The topic is about girlfriends. Answer if you can clean and wash for your girlfriends (g string et al) and stop answering the one no body asked so you can get thumbs up from women. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by redleich(m): 4:26pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
smh |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by redleich(m): 4:34pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
2buff:Oga 2Buff most men are not taught the need for domestic-ation[permit me to use that word] by their mothers when growing up. They think washing, cleaning up and cooking is a woman's job. Please show me which manual of being a man emphasises that he should not do all these. Again whatever negative or positive trait a man exhibits when single is the same he will portray in his own home weda na for babe, concubine or wife. If you have an oportunity to make her smile by helping out why not, afterall it doesn't take anything from you!!!!1 1 Like |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by redleich(m): 4:41pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
2buff: Can't people read? The topic is about girlfriends. Answer if you can clean and wash for your girlfriends (g string et al) and stop answering the one no body asked so you can get thumbs up from women.Seems u be minor, hence your manner of discourse and obvious reactions to responses!!! Try not to trivialise issues and keep and open mind for constructive arguements. Here no be anybody Papa house or towns meeting so why should anyone want to be a crowd pleaser? |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Nobody: 5:05pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
redleich: I'm a minor for telling people to stop derailing threads? Wonderfully deduced. Why should anyone not help their wives around the house? The topic is aimed at something else entirely. redleich: It depends on the woman. I'm sure you can also read and see the life experiences of your fellow men on this same thread who did in the past and have furthermore sworn off it for good reason. It may not take anything from you but sometimes, doing that stuff is not the way to go (which is also good because you are left with more time for yourself. Not everything is necessarily "bad" ). Just as well, there is a big difference between being domesticated in your own house and going to another woman's house to go and be doing domestication steadily . When you are married, you are in your house. I can cook for my girl in my house when she visits easy. But that Akpan/houseboy/thong-washing thing is not going to happen. She'll enjoy that if I end up wifing her. In the mean time, she'll know I love her, but it would be through other means. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by DECOtech(m): 8:17pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
uihebom: wash g strings? eeewwwwww dats disgusting.Disgusting, right? yet you will rush to bury your dik in that same hole that the G.string covers. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by edakedkay: 3:35am On Jun 27, 2012 |
The whole idea is laudable but from a woman's view point,most of us will take you for granted,like your ex already did. My hubby was such a -0 when it came to anything kitchen. Everything was on me.i never knew he was secretly learning how to cook until he surprised me one day with beans and yam. The meal was so appalling but i loved the effort. Today he's a guru. We take turns. He's got loads of cookery books and surprises us from time to time. Then people complained that i wasn't the wifey material because i wasnt doing his laundry,housekeeping etc. That was because "he never let me". These attributes combined with his whole gentlemanness made me quickly say yes when he proposed. So OP, keep doing what you do. I pray you do it for a girl that'll appreciate you. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by edakedkay: 3:38am On Jun 27, 2012 |
The whole idea is laudable but from a woman's view point,most of us will take you for granted,like your ex already did. My hubby was such a -0 when it came to anything kitchen. Everything was on me.i never knew he was secretly learning how to cook until he surprised me one day with beans and yam. The meal was so appalling but i loved the effort. Today he's a guru. We take turns. He's got loads of cookery books and surprises us from time to time. Then people complained that i wasn't the wifey material because i wasnt doing his laundry,housekeeping etc. That was because "he never let me". These attributes combined with his whole gentlemanness made me quickly say yes when he proposed. Managing the home front is so easy for me cos we're a team.So OP, keep doing what you do. I pray you do it for a girl that'll appreciate you. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by ayosmiles(m): 12:41am On Dec 16, 2012 |
whats ur take? |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by DECOtech(m): 10:26am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Bluetooth2:Honestly, I would not mind kissing her's if she kisses mine. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by valkaka(m): 4:18pm On Jul 18, 2014 |
Except if am in a movieworld. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by eteba(m): 4:21pm On Jul 18, 2014 |
hmmmm, na wa..o |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Nobody: 8:16pm On Jul 18, 2014 |
Maybe you WERE too attached but just didn't know it. 1st person perspective vs 3rd. There is a difference between being caring and being a mugu. By terminology, being "caring" really means showing love on your own terms. Being a mugu is showing love on the other person's terms (and by that definition, I am sure you can see that being a mugu just never makes sense....ever). Self-respect CAN co-exist with showing love. Meaning you will not debase yourself or allow your gestures to be abused while caring for the other person. And that you certainly wouldn't continue if it seems that you are the ONLY one putting in these efforts. The same applies to girls who attach to their man and over-follow him everywhere like a puppy. The guy would eventually lose respect for her because it just seems like she has no life of her own. The feeling is much worse for a girl thinking of a man like that, because unlike men, it is absolutely impossible for a woman to love a man she does not respect (or fear). She may form "we are a good couple" for the sake of face, but when real men she respects enter the room, she will beam at/walk to them and forget the mugu standing behind her that night. Such is life. The girls saying they will "appreciate" a man doing that for them are thinking of the man they already fantasize about or respect, doing that for them NOT the mugu-minded man (he gets no such mental real-estate). If they have no respect for you to begin with, if you like wash all their blood-stained pynt and cook for them every week, you will get nothing but reproach and will be called a f00l behind your back...or even in your face while you dey wash her kpata. Ofcourse, like all things, when the girl becomes an old woman with less options, menopause running to meet her with speed, and none of her prime targets were interested enough to make a decent woman out of her, ofcourse the mugu starts to look like a catch. But by then he is usually just licking the dirty plate clean after the other men with self-respect had the full meal. |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by ayosmiles(m): 12:41pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
Maybe you WERE too attached but just didn't know it. 1st person perspective vs 3rd.Damn that's scary! |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by Raalsalghul: 3:20pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
Tinkybabe:This one na story for the gods |
Re: Guys Can You Cook & Clean For Your Girlfriends? by justmag(m): 3:26pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
When a woman gives that legendary beeping, there's no telling what a man will do after. He may clean her house, iron her clothes, go buy her sanitary pads, grocery shopping, buy weave and more. ... No! I am not talking about me. I have my shitt together. |
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