sauer: Okay. Out of curiosity I just started this thread. Is it possible to find a Nigerian man/woman who could enter into a "marriage" that is a partnership with dual control. No one is superior to the other. Both are not bound by any medieval oath of faithfulness to each other. In addition, the woman does not take the man's name, and the man does not demand this. Both are financially independent of each other, and are only in the relationship for the sake of companionship.
Is this possible at all? opinions.

sauer: Okay. Out of curiosity I just started this thread. Is it possible to find a Nigerian man/woman who could enter into a "marriage" that is a partnership with dual control. No one is superior to the other. Both are not bound by any medieval oath of faithfulness to each other. In addition, the woman does not take the man's name, and the man does not demand this. Both are financially independent of each other, and are only in the relationship for the sake of companionship.
Is this possible at all? opinions.

pendo89:

LOL Funny the way you put that. I am not best placed to answer so I skip.

Lord_Reed:

This is not marriage in the traditional sense, more like cohabiting. People do it all the time but not for very long periods because there is nothing really 'binding' them.

slimyem: ....that's a complete contract relationship.
That's not a marriage...if that word means a union of two people becoming one....

sauer:

This is really not a contract relationship. Well, at least, it's not meant as such. Only the two parties have resolved that it's the best way to enjoy mutual benefits in the relationship. Must a marriage entail one depending an awful lot on the other? Can't people ever be independent?
I think with modernity a lot has got to change about the relationship between male and female. And it's not out-of-place for women to demand equal control in a relationship. As a man, I'd be willing to give this cos I find it understandable.

sauer:

This is really not a contract relationship. Well, at least, it's not meant as such. Only the two parties have resolved that it's the best way to enjoy mutual benefits in the relationship. Must a marriage entail one depending an awful lot on the other? Can't people ever be independent?
I think with modernity a lot has got to change about the relationship between male and female. And it's not out-of-place for women to demand equal control in a relationship. As a man, I'd be willing to give this cos I find it understandable.

sauer: Okay. Out of curiosity I just started this thread. Is it possible to find a Nigerian man/woman who could enter into a "marriage" that is a partnership with dual control. No one is superior to the other. Both are not bound by any medieval oath of faithfulness to each other. In addition, the woman does not take the man's name, and the man does not demand this. Both are financially independent of each other, and are only in the relationship for the sake of companionship.
Is this possible at all? opinions.

Mynd_44: It is possible but rare as most people don't look for their equal when looking for a spouse

sauer: Okay. Out of curiosity I just started this thread. Is it possible to find a Nigerian man/woman who could enter into a "marriage" that is a partnership with dual control. No one is superior to the other. Both are not bound by any medieval oath of faithfulness to each other. In addition, the woman does not take the man's name, and the man does not demand this. Both are financially independent of each other, and are only in the relationship for the sake of companionship.
Is this possible at all? opinions.

horny4u:

I swear I am not being sarcastic...

Why do people not look for their equal when looking for a life partner.

Birds of a feather nko?

fresh_dude: Isn't that the kind of relationship between Steadman and Oprah?

Mynd_44:
First of all, I said most not all. And secondly to answer you question, most men when searching for a spouse look for a woman they can dominate. A woman who they see as "submissive" and one which they can easily overpower emotionally and psychologically. This is because most men have ego issues.
Most Women on the other hand go for men who they can look up to not just financially but in almost everyway. Most women have install this damsel in distress attitude in them and so they believe a "real man" is one that is strong and shit like that.

fresh_dude: Isn't that the kind of relationship between Steadman and Oprah?

sauer: Okay. Out of curiosity I just started this thread. Is it possible to find a Nigerian man/woman who could enter into a "marriage" that is a partnership with dual control. No one is superior to the other. Both are not bound by any medieval oath of faithfulness to each other. In addition, the woman does not take the man's name, and the man does not demand this. Both are financially independent of each other, and are only in the relationship for the sake of companionship.
Is this possible at all? opinions.

Mynd_44: Is Saucekid a member of NL? This is nice. Ode

Jojo Armani: No for nigerians cos we re cultured people. But it might work in developed countries.

Mrs.Chima:


Yes. People have no idea how many marriages in this world that have similar format as you have mentioned. There are thousands of marriages practicing dual control methods and are together for decades. It is about communication and understanding. If you guys are established with what rules are to be followed and options to be tested in your marriage...it shouldn't affect anyone else nor your marriage.

The only surefire way to have LESS complication in your marriage is CONSTANT COMMUNICATION AND HONesty. It can be done and it has been done. It doesn't change your manhood nor womanhood unless you allow it of course.

sauer:
Actually that's it! Honesty and communication. Perhaps I forgot to add that these two will not cheat on each other. Once they feel less satisfied with the relationship there's room to walk away. Some may argue that the feelings of the other at that instant matter, but sometimes we have to understand that if someone does not want you there is not much you can do to sustain the relationship.