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|Crime / Re: BEWARE OF FRAUDSTERS: How You May Lose Of All The Money In Your Bank Account by abbey621(m): 10:54pm On May 29|
I read a lot and like to practice what I've read. I got so fascinated by I.T security that I partnered with my boss and his company to start a technology consultancy firm specializing in I.T security. Lucky for me, Paypal is one of the companies we do consultancy work for.
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 9:28pm On May 29|
I refuse to believe that a 21 year old girl cannot influence her mother. The first step is to convince her mom to leave, any other method forcing her to leave will not work. They've been together for over 20 years and this level of violence didn't just show up today and I'm sure the man's main source of control is the fact that he's probably the bread winner so involving the police will not solve anything!
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 8:31pm On May 29|
And ask yourself this, what would be the ultimate result? The woman in question is refusing to leave the husband, I can tell you plain and frank that if they lock him up, she would be the first person pleading on his behalf. You seem so out of touch with reality that it's not even funny, this is 9ja forget all the bullsh*t you see or hear in the movies or the radio!
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 8:15pm On May 29|
Tell me what the police will achieve besides locking the man up or even killing him? The Nigerian police that I know might even collect bribe and set the man free, what then happens next?
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 7:53pm On May 29|
No matter what your parents do to frustrate you, shouting at them, calling the police on them or hitting them is a taboo. I don't know about any other situation but this particular case, the child involved is at the age where she should be wise enough to influence her mother, there are ways to do things without making it look like she's the one creating chaos!
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 6:05pm On May 29|
You can continue talking in high fancy language that only works in theory or you can become a realist like me and see the situation for what it really is. After calling the police, what do you expect to happen next? Jail? The father stops his ways? What exactly does involving the police actually achieve besides complicating matters? Or can't you read that the mom is unwilling to leave the dad?
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 5:04pm On May 29|
It's not her place to call the police, no matter how wayward parents maybe it's not the children's place to get them in trouble. What she can do is to try and talk sense into her mother, she's old enough now to be able to influence her mother, what you are asking her to do is called relationship suicide and once its done there's no going back. She mentioned it's not the first time this has happened and yet they resolved it, I refuse to believe involving the police is the best course of action! Unless we all want to deceive ourselves and act like this issue is rare in the Nigerian society, we should all know by now that you can't help someone that does not want to help his or herself, let the woman come to her senses!
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 3:08pm On May 29|
And involving the police is what you call stepping in? Please don't let western ideologies to crowd your judgment. The child can step in by involving family members, she can step in by getting her mother's family involved. She can step in by getting neighbors involved and finally she can step in by convincing her mother to leave. What will she achieve by involving the police? The man gets locked up? The man gets beaten? I'll tell you the result, he'll get out of jail, throw the woman and her child out of the house and life goes on, case closed! I believe the better alternative is for the child to convince her mother to leave if things cannot be resolved by family members.
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 3:03pm On May 29|
You are mixing apples with oranges. For every Titilayo we have out there, we have 1,000 more that were going through the same thing and survived. You are still missing the main point here, it is not the child's place to involve the authorities! I believe the more logical method would be for the child to seek out more family members, more religious/community leaders to intervene on this issue. The person that should be involving the authorities is the wife, if she believes she's not in danger, if she believes that the issue can be resolved without involving the police then it is her right! Don't get the kid in a mess that she cannot handle, even the community would blame her afterwards. What if after contacting the police, the woman refuses to leave? How would the child be looked upon by her father? You are talking about ever lasting hatred here.....
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 2:44pm On May 29|
Show me a child that has done what you are requesting her to do and has gone on in life to be successful?
There are better alternatives that the child can pursue, issues like this happens in majority of naija households, the key is to not overreact. Even the woman in question went to church rather than fight for her cause. If anyone should call the police, it should be the wife and not the child. Children must know their role and play it!
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 2:40pm On May 29|
Young girl listen well, I will not repeat myself! Stop letting the devil use you to fulfill its mission! Your father will always be your father no matter what, I know the situation looks drastic right now but everything happens for a reason. The best thing you and your mom can do is to try all possible means for a peaceful resolution. This means staying away from sometime and getting elders involved. If your father wanted to kill your mother, he would have done so long ago and as long as your mother is not willing to leave him then it is not your place to force her. Trust in the God you serve to protect her, be very prayerful as most issues such as this are more spiritual than physical. Finally, at the age of 21, you are on the right track, get through NYSC, get a good job and use your success to fight for your mother, that I believe is the best form of revenge! To get the police involved now or to do something drastic would only form a lifelong hatred between you and your father. I don't know where you come from but in Yorubaland if parents placed a curse on their child, it is usually very potent!
|Family / Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 2:33pm On May 29|
Stop giving rubbish advice, a child should report his or her parent to the police, for what exactly? Very careless statement!
|Family / Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by abbey621(m): 8:40pm On May 28|
You don't get it, I'm the one doing much of the disclosing. I should be the one to keep quiet but I chose full honesty, the girl I'm with now is not perfect but she's honest and I value that more than anything. I don't care how beautiful you are or how intelligent you might think you are, the truth will always come out, all I'm saying is I prefer to hear it from you than from someone else.....I don't know how much more I can explain
|Crime / Re: BEWARE OF FRAUDSTERS: How You May Lose Of All The Money In Your Bank Account by abbey621(m): 8:36pm On May 28|
Trust me, even if given a year it can't be done!
|Webmasters / Re: Why Do Nigerians Hate Commenting On Tech Blogs? by abbey621(m): 8:35pm On May 28|
Your Alexa rank of 974 is it world rank or to a specific geolocation?
What about your google rank? How does Google view you, do you use Google Analytics?
|Family / Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by abbey621(m): 4:39pm On May 28|
Are you willing to take that risk? Watching your back for the rest of your life hoping that someone somewhere does not blabber? Wouldn't it be easier to just be honest?
|Family / Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by abbey621(m): 4:38pm On May 28|
Every girl I've been with I've disclosed to my current partner, even before we got serious. It helps them make an informed decision, they can decide if they want to stay or not, that's the premise behind honesty! When I first start a relationship, I ask lots of personal details, some girls have been heart broken thru no fault of their own, their stories helps me understand the situation better.
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|Crime / Re: BEWARE OF FRAUDSTERS: How You May Lose Of All The Money In Your Bank Account by abbey621(m): 4:34pm On May 28|
He gave up, guess I'll have to look for someone else to take my money
|Family / Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by abbey621(m): 4:33pm On May 28|
I suggest you look up the difference between a relationship and a marriage. Let me keep it simple cos I hate going back and forth. In business before investing, an investor likes to make an informed decision by calculating all the risks, if the company or person being invested in does not disclose past misdeeds, the result could be catastrophic! I still maintain my stance, I'd rather hear the gist from my girl than from an outsider!
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|Family / Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by abbey621(m): 4:10pm On May 28|
Another bad example, what I would suggest here is for the girl to change her type, to change her preference in men. I refuse to believe all guys think the same! If a guy truly loves a woman, past incidence are easily forgiven, especially if the girl was honest from the start. Most Nigerian university girls are worse than prostitutes so that's nothing new, if the girl kept the secret, got married and after some years one of the senator happens to be the guy's employer or kin, what would she do?
|Family / Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by abbey621(m): 4:04pm On May 28|
You're still missing the point, it's not about the deed itself, it's not about how traumatic the deed was or how frequently, all that matters here is the ability to share anything with the one you love or the one you claim you want to spend the rest of your life with. People marry prostitutes everyday, people marry former drug addicts, there's no big deal in that, what matters is that both parties involve understands one another and there are no skeletons in the cupboard. Believe it or not, most guys appreciate hearing a confession from the person who erred than from an outsider!
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|Webmasters / Re: Why Do Nigerians Hate Commenting On Tech Blogs? by abbey621(m): 3:50pm On May 28|
If Nigerians are not commenting on your tech blog, it is because you've done a poor job in marketing the blog. Make your blog interesting, dedicate time and effort towards marketing and other PR methods only then will you see an uptick in user engagement.
1. What's your Google rank
2. How are you reaching Nigerians?
3. Do you offer freebies on your blog? Such as free software, PDF and so on...
4. How dynamic is your blog?
I suggest you stop blaming the consumer and invest more in your business.
|Family / Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by abbey621(m): 1:07pm On May 28|
Based on the write up I can conclude that the writer is either not married or in a very crappy marriage! Leading researchers have shown that the number one cause of divorce are secrets, some secrets are unraveled in a short span while others are discovered 5 to 20 years down the line, the longer the secrets the more devastating it becomes when the truth is finally revealed. For example: You cheated on your husband, 5 years ago and didn't tell him, since then you've had a child for him, he later discovered the truth somehow somewhere, not only have you betrayed his trust but you've made him question everything he had with you including the paternity of that child! We all humans and we make mistakes but the greatest mistake is to underestimate the value of trust in a relationship.
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|Family / Re: Pic: Nigerian Proposed After 6 Months, Then Told Wife He Only Wedded Her 4 Visa by abbey621(m): 12:51pm On May 28|
And they call this news? No be today things like this dey happen. In fact due to stricter immigration laws and other factors, the number of fake marriages has drastically gone down. In the 80s and 90s, 90% of Nigerians in the USA or UK came illegally, obtained their stay thru fake marriages and are now naturalized citizens. I feel no pity for these women for they are only paying for the sins of their fore fathers(slavery) and to a hustling 9ja guy, the end must justify the means!
|Food / Re: Terrible.. Look What I Saw In My Drink by abbey621(m): 1:44pm On May 27|
People aren't asking the right questions! How do we know that the bottle was not opened by OP and the item inserted and closed? If you pursue legal action, your case can be dismissed easily!
|NYSC / Re: Photo: Naija's Oldest Corp Member-2015 by abbey621(m): 2:49am On May 27|
I'm glad I skipped youth service, the whole idea is rubbish! After going through federal or state university and spending an extra year or two due to strikes and other nuisances, they now force you to waste a year of your life in a run down town and then after leave you struggling to find a job that'll pay you half your worth. Absolute nonsense!
|Crime / Re: BEWARE OF FRAUDSTERS: How You May Lose Of All The Money In Your Bank Account by abbey621(m): 9:18pm On May 26|
Okay I understand, tomorrow it is!
|Crime / Re: BEWARE OF FRAUDSTERS: How You May Lose Of All The Money In Your Bank Account by abbey621(m): 9:10pm On May 26|
How long shall I wait? Just tell me bro, what you need to make the job easier and I'll get it for you....
|Crime / Re: BEWARE OF FRAUDSTERS: How You May Lose Of All The Money In Your Bank Account by abbey621(m): 8:19pm On May 26|
Dude once again public info., this sh*t is getting boring ***Yawn****, let me give you the full phone number 4046923999, DOB: March 29...198*, what more do you want my niccur!
|Crime / Re: BEWARE OF FRAUDSTERS: How You May Lose Of All The Money In Your Bank Account by abbey621(m): 8:17pm On May 26|
I can tell you how it will end, he's going to fail! Because Nigerians are not that skilled in hacking and I forgot to tell him that I'm a certified ethical hacker (CEH)
|Crime / Re: BEWARE OF FRAUDSTERS: How You May Lose Of All The Money In Your Bank Account by abbey621(m): 8:02pm On May 26|
Glad to be of help.
|Crime / Re: BEWARE OF FRAUDSTERS: How You May Lose Of All The Money In Your Bank Account by abbey621(m): 7:51pm On May 26|
Dude stop clowning yourself! I already made the hacker's job easy. If he/she can get my SSN, mother's maiden name and DOB, then there's a chance of success, otherwise you are sitting on a long thing.....I'm giving you a golden opportunity here to make some money, don't let me down
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