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|Celebrities / Re: Tonto Dikeh Sparks Outrage with Photo Of Her "Maid' Wearing Her Gucci Sandals by abbey621(m): 1:19pm|
Jobless Nigerians, always having blood pressure over another person's matter. If Dangote called most of you to become his maid, butler or gateman you would jump at the opportunity, so spare me the crap! A maid is a maid, simple. Half of you probably wish your parents treated you as well as Tonto treats her maid/daughter
|Family / Re: Facing The Hypocrisy Of Men by abbey621(m): 1:32pm On Jul 21|
Another gender bashing thread, all is well! Male or female if everyone plays their God giving role then everything would be okay. Majority of men are afraid to get maried because they've either witnessed first hand the devastating consequences of a marriage gone sour or a narrative from frustrated couples. In Nigeria, the male is regarded as bread winner, ATM machine, the sole provider and even though it increases the man's ego, it does not help in the long run. Nigerian males must learn to live and let live, a strong woman can be tamed just as easily as a strong man, it all depends on understanding. Forget culture or traditional sentiments, nowadays the best spouse is one who has something to bring to the table. I rather marry an educated woman, who is financially smart, a hardworker and caring attitude, than marry a woman with low self esteem, confidence and a rundown attitude.
|Celebrities / Re: Very Pissed Off Fans Curse Out Peter Okoye & Lola For Shunning Jude's Wedding by abbey621(m): 4:04pm On Jul 18|
Senseless beings..... Their mama died, all hell broke loose. Because of overflowing wealth, they all lost focus on what's mostly important: FAMILY. Yoruba, Igbo or Hausa, a wife must know her role, she can't allow emotions to overwhelm her cos when things gets tough between the husband and her, it's his family she would turn to for help. Can't really blame Peter as he's only being a man, anyman would be upset in his situation. The only person that can resolve this is Paul, twins have a way of bonding with eachother, a bond no one else can understand, talk to your twin paul, talk to your elder brother also, use your mama as an example, life is too short for all these trivial issues.
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 6:14pm On Jul 16|
Story for the gods!
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 10:30pm On Jul 15|
It still dey hot for your body, no worry I get am plenty plenty inside cooler for you....
Only paid you a compliment cos you said something that actually makes sense, women should take charge of their destiny, respect your man & he'll respect u back....shikena!
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 10:19pm On Jul 15|
Now you are making sense, not all that asaba talk you were yarning earlier....
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 10:17pm On Jul 15|
fellis: This, this this this a thousand times this. You nailed it right on the head. One thing the people advicing Op to stay and be a dutiful wife do not realise is that mental scars from this type of emotional hurt tend to last for a long time. You might forgive him or at least force yourself to but the thoughts will always be there at the back of your mind, the bitterness, the hurt from betrayal. Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life? Being bitter and forcing yourself to be loving and submissive (lwkmd) to a man that treated you like crap earlier in the marriage?
And what about the stigma from divorce, the emotional toll having to start over entails. You do have a point though, not everybody can endure, life is too short. I just wish the op would try her very possible best to save the marriage before abandoning ship, 4 months with no physical abuse, I can't in good conscience advice her to quit her marriage!
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 8:52pm On Jul 15|
Komot here, lost self-esteem bawo! I only see you as amusement, I'm really enjoying it. It made today's office hours go by fast....
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 8:10pm On Jul 15|
Heyyyyyy champion man well said, defender of the meek, protector of the loud mouths, oga pack well and focus on your issues!
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 8:07pm On Jul 15|
If your opinion truly matters I would be bothered, unfortunately sweetheart, I'm too busy with the females over here. I'm the type that support my woman, emotionally and physically, she would never lack. I got the resources, the intelligence and the confidence, if my woman goes out of line I correct her, if she's not willing to play by the rules, I don't chase her, I replace her. Forget that feministic crap, play your role and I'll play mine. Once again I hate to bust your bubble, but the truth shall set you free, I'm the type of guy you can only dream of....
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 7:55pm On Jul 15|
Unintelligent argument bawo, I've enjoyed this
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 7:46pm On Jul 15|
Wow, madam twister! Show me the statistic that confirms Nigerian girls generally date African men, at least I have sisters and cousins here who dated and/or are still dating white or black Americans. Furthermore, I never for once mentioned shortage of Nigerian men but rather shortage of good quality men......Twister Twister I don catch you...
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 7:40pm On Jul 15|
My dear it's not bragging if it's the truth! Quality men are confident, quality men ain't got time for some feminist complex. I don't know about your world but I'm the master of mine; I'm the type of guy you only see in dreams, too far beyond your reach sweetie....
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 7:34pm On Jul 15|
I can only laugh....I only corrected your assumptions that shortage means none. Baby in my dictionary shortage means scarce or not enough. Again what you believe is irrelevant, the truth however remains the truth, humble thyself so that you might one day deserve a quality man like me......
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 6:57pm On Jul 15|
bukatyne: Don't make it personal
Hahahaha.... Sister pls. Any man worth his weight controls his home, end of story!
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 6:54pm On Jul 15|
Leave it to a woman to twist every word.....lol Of course there are quality men, I'm a prime example, well educated, financially independent, great charisma and so on but we are very rare, we don't setlle for over sabi women not willing to humble themselves, no matter how attractive they may be, we know our worth as men and always get what we want, it's not bragging when you know it's the truth...
Honey I've dated nurses, doctors, lawyers and bankers, one thing they all have in common is the need for a good man, stop your feminist crusade and get with the program, it's a man's world!!!!!
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 6:15pm On Jul 15|
Stop deceiving yourself, U.S has the highest rate of divorce, same kind marriage is quickly gaining momentum and the majority of men here are so frustrated which leads many to do questionable things. Real quality men are getting scarce with each passing day. Not to brag or anything, as a guy with a lot of things working in my favor, women too plenty cos face it who no like good thing.... Here in ATL, it's even worse, men don vex, they no want woman again, na men dem dey face but no wahala I'll be here for dem women, mending those broken hearts
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 6:03pm On Jul 15|
And by nonsense I presume you mean seeing a man being faithful to his wife, and longing for same in her own home.
Ask and you shall receive, if you don't understand I'll explain: Most girls of nowadays have fallen in love with the fairy tales they watch on tv, when things goes slightly wrong, they panic and are just so quick to abandon ship.
I just dont know how some of you think. When I see you and your type say things like this, I thank God for the Generals I have for brothers, not some egoistic, twisted traditional men.
A man is egoistic when he states the obvious and traditional when he claims his role as a man, sister save your story for the gods! Like it or not, a fact is a fact!
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 5:33pm On Jul 15|
The funny thing about facts is that you don't have to like it to accept it. A lot of our young ladies today watch so much nonsense on television that they try to emulate it only to end up being shocked! In terms of finding a wife that na story for the gods
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 5:26pm On Jul 15|
Small pikin talk! Right from the beginning of time they were not created equals and till the end of time they can never be equals, hate it or love it that's just the way it is
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 5:11pm On Jul 15|
Even here in the United States, there is a shortage of real men. Forget this 21st century talk, no marriage is perfect, if you are not tolerant or willing to endure then you might as well remain single.
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 3:42pm On Jul 15|
MissMeiya: My dear, I suspect your husband, his girlfriend (not ex, they are still together), AND your mother-in-law are waiting for you to get pregnant and give birth before they kick you out.
And when she leaves, what's the certainty that the next man would be better?
|Family / Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage Barely Four Months Into The Marriage by abbey621(m): 3:13pm On Jul 15|
@op The mere fact that you expose your marital life is a sign that you don't have the support system a newly wedded wife should have. I see comments advising you to leave, some even abusing the guy. Let me be frank with you, do not let your emotions cloud your judgment! You have elders in your family, the same for the guy. Start by talking to your husband, plead with him, there's no need for argument, pray for him and believe in your marriage. Give it another 2 to 3 months and see if things get better, if not call a family meeting, I'm sure the guy is not insane, if he did not love you he would not marry you. 4months is way too early to be contemplating divorce and speaking solely from the psychological point of view, your miscarriage also plays a huge part in this discussion. How did he feel? How did you feel? Did both of you discuss the cause and effects? Any counseling?? My dear anything worth doing is worth doing well, if you love this guy, then you must be willing to fight for him, not all guys are strong, some of us need a strong woman to pull us through!!!
|Family / Re: Quit 'waiting For Mr Or Mrs Right: Take Action by abbey621(m): 1:51pm On Jul 11|
Reading this thread alone makes things very clear, most people are master advisers but are yet to master their own relationships. Talking from personal experience, there is no such thing as a Mr/Miss. Right, in every relationship it takes two to make it work, if you keep an open mind and lean not only on your own understanding but wisdom from above then sooner or later everything would fall into place. Happiness comes from within, if you are not happy being single, why in the world do you think you'll ever be happy married to another human being? When looking for a partner, I ask myself 3 questions:
1: What am I bringing to the relationship?
2: What can she offer me besides the obvious?
3: Can she endure?( Everybody loves sunny days, but how many can stay through the rain?)
|Religion / Re: Bitter Truth About Blessed Virgin Mary by abbey621(m): 9:07am On Dec 17, 2013|
Sal C: Are you greater than the angels because you said so?
The bold statement is incorrect! Try not to read the bible word for word but look at the deeper meaning, Hebrew 2 verse 7 talks not about importance but physical attributes, the angels are majestic beings and have certain attributes humans do not have but humans were created in God's image and represents God's greatest creation. Furthermore read more about why the devil was cast out of heaven and you'll understand why humans are called God's greatest creations.
|Religion / Re: Bitter Truth About Blessed Virgin Mary by abbey621(m): 8:12am On Dec 17, 2013|
Drizzyjusti: Nope God sent his son Jesus BUT Jesus is also God..read Genesis 1:1 In the begining was the word(Jesus) and the word was with God,and the word was God
It's people like you that makes Christianity seem like a joke! You offer no proof and yet somehow in your twisted mind you equate Jesus as the word and him ultimately being God. Stop spreading nonsense and get some education!
|Travel / Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part5 by abbey621(m): 5:08pm On Dec 10, 2013|
Hi pals, my friend just got her visa today at the Lagos embassy. Her interview was at 7:30am.
VO: Hello pass your documents
her: Hello ma, passed first set of documents
VO: Why are you going to the U.S
her: For my undergraduate studies at Kennesaw State University
VO: Why did you chose the school
her: I chose it over 2 other schools because they have a well structured program and they are genuinely interested in helping international students succeed.
VO:How old are you?
VO: Who will sponsor you?
her: My mom
VO: What does she do?
her: She is a retired accountant and now manages the hotel business left by my late father.
VO: Can I see her income statement?
her: passes document
VO: Your Waec result please
her: passes WAEC result
VO: Kept staring at screen and documents, smiled and said congratulations, you can pick up your visa on Friday.
The biggest key here is confidence, she came prepared with the answers to every possible questions thanks to Nairaland, yet her interview was determined by God's grace and her confidence, also a word of advice, when completing the DS160 make sure it is completed as accurately as possible. Research is the key, VO's are humans too, thanks pals.
|Travel / Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part5 by abbey621(m): 7:37pm On Dec 09, 2013|
jaskinbo: Hi gurus in the house.....I went for my interview today and below was the transcript.
The major red flag is the perception that your dad is sponsoring you yet you have a medical doctor has a wife. Also you are going for safety management, yet your work experience is in marketing? What does a degree in safety management do for your present career?
|Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Reasons New Graduates Cant Get Jobs by abbey621(m): 7:35pm On Dec 03, 2013|
The number one reason graduates are not able to secure jobs is that the ratio of employers to graduates is highly skewed. Everyone wants to graduate and secure jobs, zero innovation, zero foresight! I know lots of graduates that are still looking for jobs since we graduated in 2008, 5 years ago. How can you secure a job when people are not creating enough. My advice to those in school now is to develop business skills, learn a trade, something that can fetch you income, this will give you the necessary backbone to withstand any economic hardship till your dream job arrives. Not everyone is meant to work for someone, some were born to be inventors, creators, entrepreneurs!
|Travel / Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part5 by abbey621(m): 5:23pm On Nov 29, 2013|
Well done clap for yourself, you are a true professional! It's no use arguing with you, I know what I know and I'm sticking with it. I do not feed you so I cannot tell you how to act or talk. Good luck 2 u!
|Travel / Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part5 by abbey621(m): 4:09pm On Nov 29, 2013|
This is what I hate about Nigerians, mixing apples and oranges in order to make a point. Bro stop it! Her result says not available, it never said canceled or invalid. I told you I called ETS and spoke to someone in charge, as of now, they are currently reviewing all scores from Nigerian test takers over the last few months. Until ETS informs my friend that the result is not valid or informs the school, I refuse to be drawn into mere speculation, you have no authority on this matter, your opinion while noble remains nothing but an opinion until you call ETS yourself and verify things, don't call me confused, I find that very insulting!
|Travel / Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part5 by abbey621(m): 3:31pm On Nov 29, 2013|
Bro slow down, let's take it a step at a time. Firstly, if a result was canceled it is an automatic zero, the schools and candidates are sent notification of this. If a result is under review or not available that means there's still hope that it can be released, you cannot say such a score is invalid or zero.
Furthermore, remember I said each person should do what is best for him or her! In my friend's case, her official score report was sent to her chosen institution and they made a decision based on that, until ETS informs them that the result is no longer valid, I have no reason to doubt its validity.
Lastly, opinions are different from FACTS, most of us are guilty of mistaking one for the other, each candidate affected by this should call ETS or email them at email@example.com if in doubt or confused. May God help us all!
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