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agabaI23 (m)
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I just saw this advert somewhere and I am wondering if that is a joke or real? Call 07041185403 For A Ready 2 Marry Guy. 28 Graduate
the lady will foot the billsas i dont have a suitable paid employment yet. must be a christian,
Date: Sunday, 14 June, 2009 (5 hours ago)
Location: Ejigbo, Lagos State, Nigeria. |
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~Sissy~ (f)
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some can and do sponsor their weddings
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agabaI23 (m)
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some can and do sponsor their weddings
Can you ? |
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$osisi (f)
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Never!
Will he also wear the skirt and blouse?
A man ought to be a man abeg
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~Sissy~ (f)
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Can you ?
mba oo. if i sponsor it what will the man doing then? |
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agabaI23 (m)
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mba oo. if i sponsor it what will the man doing then?
Then why do those who do it do it? |
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$osisi (f)
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Then why do those who do it do it?
desperation or stupidity I've even heard of women that gave the man money for their own engagement ring  and that man will open his mouth one day and shout that he's the head of the house when he should be pounding foo foo in the backyard |
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TOPE2000! (f)
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Never!
Will he also wear the skirt and blouse?
A man ought to be a man abeg
gbam   |
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FL Gators
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Majority of women would say NO.
Why? cuz we ain't that desperate.
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Secretz (f)
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Yes I could sponsor my own wedding, but whether I would is another thing entirely. Wouldn't bother getting married to him otherwise. What hope is there for the actual marriage if he can't contribute to the wedding itself? No guy better even discuss wedding plans with me, if he cannot even foot 50% of the bill. Mess off. |
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davidylan (m)
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Majority of women would say NO.
Why? cuz we ain't that desperate.
i beg to disagree . . . most nigerian women are indeed desperate even though they like to pretend. |
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~Sissy~ (f)
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desperation or stupidity
yes the desperation is very true~ once that biological clock start ticking it's do or die for some. |
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Desiré (f)
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For me, it doesn't really matter if I do or don't, I mean it is MY wedding also so it doesn't make him any less of a man if he asks for my input. I do know that my parents would not mind contributing.
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TOPE2000! (f)
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Yes I could sponsor my own wedding, but whether I would is another thing entirely. Wouldn't bother getting married to him otherwise. What hope is there for the actual marriage if he can't contribute to the wedding itself? No guy better even discuss wedding plans with me, if he cannot even foot 50% of the bill. Mess off. True talk . . . .i dont mind contributing  |
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FL Gators
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i beg to disagree . . . most nigerian women are indeed desperate even though they like to pretend. Desperate to the extent of paying for our own wedding? I thought Naija women loff to suck money from men, so now the story changed? Stop hanging out with 4Play jare. @Post He'll pay for the wedding and the other 22 after wedding parties |
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$osisi (f)
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yes the desperation is very true~ once that biological clock start ticking it's do or die for some.
If I were in that position and the biological clock was ticking sotay desperation catch me say 40 years or older ,I may consider sponsoring the wedding but the man must be younger in age at least by 10 years.if I'm marrying him,I want one with very little mileage on his odometer It has to be a win win situation |
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TOPE2000! (f)
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If I were in that position and the biological clock was ticking sotay desperation catch me say 40 years or older ,I may consider sponsoring the wedding but the man must be younger in age at least by 10 years.if I'm marrying him,I want one with very little mileage on his odometer It has to be a win win situation Rofl . . . . . .Hehehehehehe |
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davidylan (m)
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Desperate to the extent of paying for our own wedding?
I thought Naija women loff to suck money from men, so now the story changed?
Stop hanging out with 4Play jare.
you havent seen anything yet. Nigerian women are desperate . . . beneath all the veneer of "i dont care". |
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FL Gators
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you havent seen anything yet. Nigerian women are desperate . . . beneath all the veneer of "i dont care". How you take know? Oya start confessing. How many times have you "visited" ajegunle? |
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agabaI23 (m)
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What I think is right is for the guy to take care of the traditional rights. Then if the babe has some money she can contribute for the white wedding assuming they are doing it. But for a guy to wait for her woman to sponsor their wedding it is not very good.
I witnessed it recently though. I will tell you later
A friend of mine got into it in naija. he refused to tell me about it. He had to use my car as his only contribution to the wedding.
The in laws who were footing the bill were ordering him around.
It was awful.
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davidylan (m)
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What I think is right is for the guy to take care of the traditional rights. Then if the babe has some money she can contribute for the white wedding assuming they are doing it. But for a guy to wait for her woman to sponsor their wedding it is not very good.
I witnessed it recently though. I will tell you later
A friend of mine got into it in naija. he refused to tell me about it. He had to use my car as his only contribution to the wedding.
The in laws who were footing the bill were ordering him around.
It was awful.
Very sad state of affairs . . . one of the reasons i am determined to stay off weddings until my pockets are well padded. I wont stand in-law interference either in my wedding or marriage. |
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davidylan (m)
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How you take know?
Oya start confessing. How many times have you "visited" ajegunle?
you mean your ajegunle? I've lost count dear. |
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~Sissy~ (f)
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If I were in that position and the biological clock was ticking sotay desperation catch me say 40 years or older ,I may consider sponsoring the wedding but the man must be younger in age at least by 10 years.if I'm marrying him,I want one with very little mileage on his odometer It has to be a win win situation true and thats prolly the age range of those who sponsor everything in their weddings as long as the man agrees to marry them. just marry me and i will do everything and anything. |
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FL Gators
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Thou shall not corrupt the innocent mind.
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$osisi (f)
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Tope imagine this na You pass 20,pass 30,reach 40 begin pass no man and you get the means. Here comes a man nearing 50 asking for your hand in marriage without shishi,living with his mama or crashing on someones couch Hoping to move into your house after the wedding which you'll sponsor what on earth would posess anyone to marry such a man. The man must be below 35 and agile then we can begin to talk. I'll help him find a job |
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stillwater (f)
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@topic Hmmm no. what will my family say? |
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Secretz (f)
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Very sad state of affairs . . . one of the reasons i am determined to stay off weddings until my pockets are well padded. I wont stand in-law interference either in my wedding or marriage.
my point exactly. . . . if you both can contribute yourselves 50/50 then the plans and how you both want things are down to you, no one else. But seriously, which self respecting man would leave his fiance to foot the bill, only for her and her family to remember it later during the marriage. If a woman's sell by date is coming up, then is there much need for a big wedding if the man can't afford it. Go get married behind the rocks.  |
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$osisi (f)
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David you don't even have to be well padded
The wedding can be simple and within your budget
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~Sissy~ (f)
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@topic Hmmm no. what will my family say? they will congratulate you first for finding a man and second for paying the wedding |
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stillwater (f)
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David you don't even have to be well padded
The wedding can be simple and within your budget
Abi. Before he gets heart attack over nothing. they will congratulate you first for finding a man and second for paying the wedding Lol, they will fight tooth and nail so I wouldn't marry him in the first place. |
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davidylan (m)
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my point exactly. . . . if you both can contribute yourselves 50/50 then the plans and how you both want things are down to you, no one else. But seriously, which self respecting man would leave his fiance to foot the bill, only for her and her family to remember it later during the marriage. If a woman's sell by date is coming up, then is there much need for a big wedding if the man can't afford it. Go get married behind the rocks. i dont even like 50/50 contributions . . . especially if i'm marrying a fellow nigerian. Better to wait to afford it 100%, of course i wont complain if she decides to chip in. But let it not be said 5 yrs down the line that i didnt play my role as a man then. David you don't even have to be well padded
The wedding can be simple and within your budget
Lets face it, depends on the woman and the family involved. If they say they want an elaborate wedding what do i do? Beg them? |
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TOPE2000! (f)
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Tope imagine this na You pass 20,pass 30,reach 40 begin pass no man and you get the means. Here comes a man nearing 50 asking for your hand in marriage without shishi,living with his mama or crashing on someones couch Hoping to move into your house after the wedding which you'll sponsor what on earth would posess anyone to marry such a man. The man must be below 35 and agile then we can begin to talk. I'll help him find a job Death I agree jare |
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