Still water's post had me laughing till tears streamed from my eyes.
You got it down pat!!!

OP, if you really want to save your marriage and have a happy home instead of being just one of the statistics, I advise you take all the well meaning advise on here that people have posted on how to make your home work well.
Your wife is you and you are your wife!
Her body is yours and your body is hers!
Your money is hers and hers is also yours
Those were the vows you took before God, if you try to change it be ready for whatever you see.
Don't allow your wife to begin to long for her parents home or begin to wish another man was her husband!
For you to be so extreme in your thoughts and posting suggest the home you grew up in was suspect!
If you want a better home than your parents had, pls work at it, it does not come easy!
Should your kids ask your permission to take food from the kitchen or drinks from the fridge?
You are their dad, what you have is theirs and vice versa!
Your wife is your wife, your lover, she will nurse you when sick, pray for your success(and I tell you Godhears) care,watch and train the children. Pls don't reduce her to a slave!

@coogar.
So you are westernized and know so much?
Ask your friends in the sport section, i'm mixed and don't need a visa to travel to any of the western country.

Lived, schooled and worked in your ''heaven'' you are so proud to live in for many years before coming to Naija.
I'm married to someone who became westernized when you were still playing with used tyres on the street.

That said, i know a thief and a liar when i read of one.
Posters wife is a disgrace to any decent woman. Those supporting her are even worse.

If you wouldn't mind a liar and a thief as wife, though luck.
A woman who has to lie and steal her hubby's money shouldn't be trusted.

That pilfering your hubby's money in 2011 is now legit shows how worthless we have become as a nation.

oyb:

dk abegi

they are adults and it is completely different

what next - so because i stay up late my kids can too ; because u shak your kids can too? etc etc

[size=18pt]So if your child becomes an adult it gives him or her the right to steal from you inflate prices of school fees or handout?

Since the excuse is that of age so a 23yr old child in University has the right to steal small money from his parents, inflate prices of School fees or handout

I am interested in knowing what the next cop out or excuse is to permit stealing.

Cos first they said the wife is family, the kids are also your blood and family

Next the kids are children, But in this case if the kids are adults, Is it permissible for them to steal and inflate prices?[/size]

The whole issue is simple.
Why should a woman lie and steal from her hubby?

People are now talking about the woman must look good bla bla bla.
The op even said he provides for her, so why steal? Why not just ask for money if you have needs.

Mr poster, you have a klepto on your hands.
If a billion people support the wrong thing it still remains wrong.

Don't believe all they are saying here, that they take their husbands monies at will.
It's all e-bragging. A man can give his wife 10million but will be pissed knowing you're scamming him.

Anyways there are always exceptions, some men are spineless while some are under the spell of their women while a few are outright sissies.
You are very much in order to be vexed. 

My advice for you is to set up your wife in business.
Let her make her own money and know what it feels to earn money. Every penny is something.

BlueDiva:

The whole issue is simple.
Why should a woman lie and steal from her hubby?

People are now talking about the woman must look good bla bla bla.
The op even said he provides for her, so why steal? Why not just ask for money if you have needs.

Mr poster, you have a klepto on your hands.
If a billion people support the wrong thing it still remains wrong.

Don't believe all they are saying here, that they take their husbands monies at will.
It's all e-bragging. A man can give his wife 10million but will be pissed knowing you're scamming him.

Anyways there are always exceptions, some men are spineless while some are under the spell of their women while a few are outright sissies.
You are very much in order to be vexed. 

My advice for you is to set up your wife in business.
Let her make her own money and know what it feels to earn money. Every penny is something.

GBAM.

BlueDiva:

@coogar.
So you are westernized and know so much?
Ask your friends in the sport section, i'm mixed and don't need a visa to travel to any of the western country.

your being mixed means shyte. i know a lot of mixed people who have never travelled out of nigeria before.
and from what i know of you - i don't think you have been in an airplane ever before so leave race out of it and tackle intelligence.

Lived, schooled and worked in your ''heaven'' you are so proud to live in for many years before coming to Naija.
I'm married to someone who became westernized when you were still playing with used tyres on the street.

how do you know i am not older than your husband? you are getting too personal.
attack the issue, leave personalities alone.

That said, i know a thief and a liar when i read of one.
Posters wife is a disgrace to any decent woman. Those supporting her are even worse.

yet another misconception. this is the nigerian mentality. anything involving misappropriation of money is automatically stealing.
this woman is no thief as she has not stolen any ish. how are we even sure the husband and wife shop in the same area of lagos. there are diapers sold at 300 naira and there are some sold at 2000 naira. if we don't buy it from the same shop - does that necessarily make the wife a thief?
once again, your bush mentality has been exposed without even trying hard.

If you wouldn't mind a liar and a thief as wife, though luck.
A woman who has to lie and steal her hubby's money shouldn't be trusted.

this woman has not lied. products have different price-lists depending where you buy them from.
waitrose and aldi will not sell ordinary class a eggs for the same price.

That pilfering your hubby's money in 2011 is now legit shows how worthless we have become as a nation.

you are a disgrace to womanhood!

does the poster micromanage his girlfriends the same way he's micromanaging his wife?

this is how people develop hypertension.

LOL. . .this coogar is really slow.
Grow up and stop those silly jibes you think you know how to throw.

These community sponsored people always make the loudest noise.
I had to laugh at my not ever entering a plane. . .lolz

Back to the topic.

Why can't a woman just write the real prices and ask for extra money for her needs?
Is that such a big deal?

Maybe you can school me in sports but in issues of marriage, you're a dummy.
I hope you're just trying to win cheap popularity here, i seriously hope you don't reason this way.

What sort of person will pinch 2k or 3k in a month?
Poster, you married a hungry girl, sorry to say.

coogar:

your being mixed means shyte. i know a lot of mixed people who have never travelled out of nigeria before.
and from what i know of you - i don't think you have been in an airplane ever before so leave race out of it and tackle intelligence.

how do you know i am not older than your husband? you are getting too personal.
attack the issue, leave personalities alone.

yet another misconception. this is the nigerian mentality. anything involving misappropriation of money is automatically stealing.
this woman is no thief as she has not stolen any ish. how are we even sure the husband and wife shop in the same area of lagos. there are diapers sold at 300 naira and there are some sold at 2000 naira. if we don't buy it from the same shop - does that necessarily make the wife a thief?
once again, your bush mentality has been exposed without even trying hard.

this woman has not lied. products have different price-lists depending where you buy them from.
waitrose and aldi will not sell ordinary class a eggs for the same price.

you are a disgrace to womanhood!

Thank you Coogar, She is a big disgrace to womanhood, how am i not sure it is a man sitting with laptop on his laps and typing out poo.

I can't even believe that a woman with sense will type all the nonsense she has decided to type.

@ Bluedive, you call people that you do not know liars and a thief, you are definitley one, because a liar knows a liar, pele!!! if you are married to the oldest man in the world and if your marraige has been what? 60 yrs old and you are still a slave to your hubby, since you obviously cannot touch his car.

Yes, this is 2011 and time has changed, people now know the real meaning of marraige, eyes don open, abi what is the essence of education if you cannot apply it to your way of life? And stop calling people small or babies, because you do not know our ages or how long we've been in our own marraiges.

BlueDiva:

LOL. . .this coogar is really slow.
Grow up and stop those silly jibes you think you know how to throw.

These community sponsored people always make the loudest noise.
I had to laugh at my not ever entering a plane. . .lolz

community sponsored people make the loudest noise? you were the one hyping your husband as the first black man to explore europe.
now who's the loudest? i think you need to practise what you preach.

Back to the topic.

Why can't a woman just write the real prices and ask for extra money for her needs?
Is that such a big deal?

what makes you think she wasn't speaking the truth?
is it not possible for the husband to have gotten a different price-list from a store that sells substandard items?

Maybe you can school me in sports but in issues of marriage, you're a dummy.
I hope you're just trying to win cheap popularity here, i seriously hope you don't reason this way.

i have a vast knowledge over every topic. in marriage, i would school you on the do's n don'ts.
the only thing you would know more is the gists in the labour room and how to wear tampons.

What sort of person will pinch 2k or 3k in a month?
Poster, you married a hungry girl, sorry to say.

and any man grumbling over 2-3k every month is a loser, a moaner and a crybaby!
such men would not complain when his mistress demands 50k for a round of s[i]e[/i]x he gets freely from his wife.
life is about check n balance. even if i find out my wife inflates the prices of her groceries, i would even pretend i didn't notice.
men should be men not cry babies.

coogar:

community sponsored people make the loudest noise? you were the one hyping your husband as the first black man to explore europe.
now who's the loudest? i think you need to practise what you preach.

Back to the topic.

what makes you think she wasn't speaking the truth?
is it not possible for the husband to have gotten a different price-list from a store that sells substandard items?

i have a vast knowledge over every topic. in marriage, i would school you on the do's n don'ts.
the only thing you would know more is the gists in the labour room and how to wear tampons.

and any man grumbling over 2-3k every month is a loser, a moaner and a crybaby!
such men would not complain when his mistress demands 50k for a round of s[i]e[/i]x he gets freely from his wife.
life is about check n balance. even if i find out my wife inflates the prices of her groceries, i would even pretend i didn't notice.
men should be men not cry babies.

GBAM!!!!!!!!!

Ronke,

Are children allowed to inflate prices of items to parents too? Like school fees, groceries etc

Since they are your flesh and blood

dayokanu:

Ronke,

Are children allowed to inflate prices of items to parents too? Like school fees, groceries etc

Since they are your flesh and blood

You said children!!!!!!! the relationship between a husband and wife and children and the parents are two different things. Nobody is saying, what the woman did is right, but for the poster to be tearing skin over the fact that his wife ''chopped'' N600.00 from him (her hubby) is that not too much? If sahe does not eat her hubby's money, whose money would she be spending

BlueDiva:

LOL. . .this coogar is really slow.
Grow up and stop those silly jibes you think you know how to throw.

These community sponsored people always make the loudest noise.
I had to laugh at my not ever entering a plane. . .lolz

Back to the topic.

Why can't a woman just write the real prices and ask for extra money for her needs?
Is that such a big deal?

Maybe you can school me in sports but in issues of marriage, you're a dummy.
I hope you're just trying to win cheap popularity here, i seriously hope you don't reason this way.

What sort of person will pinch 2k or 3k in a month?
Poster, you married a hungry girl, sorry to say.

MADAM, ABEGI leave this boy alone,

Throwing Jibes with him, gives him erecting joystick.

He gets easily irritated when you don't buy his view.

ronkebp:

You said children!!!!!!! the relationship between a husband and wife and children and the parents are two different things. Nobody is saying, what the woman did is right, but for the poster to be tearing skin over the fact that his wife ''chopped'' N600.00 from him (her hubby) is that not too much? If sahe does not eat her hubby's money, whose money would she be spending

First of all Many on this thread have justified what the woman did that it wasnt wrong

You and your wife are one family, Just like you and your children

Would you tear skin if your children your siblings or anyone chopped/inflated the prices of things

I can also ask, If your children don't chop your money, Whose money should they be spending?

dayokanu:

Ronke,
Are children allowed to inflate prices of items to parents too? Like school fees, groceries etc
Since they are your flesh and blood

why do nigerians find it so hard to compare like for like?

man and wife. . . .2 adults
what has this gotta do with the kids?

so because a man and his wife are having s[i]e[/i]x in their bedroom now means the kids should join in?
nigerians and their uncanny ability to spew rubbish! you guys don't get tired of baloney.

^^ Does it matter if the kids are 12 yrs old or 24yrs old?

A 24yr old who inflates the prices of handout and school fees is allowed to because he/she also needs money to look good

If ppl see your 22yr old son/daughter looking cute and compliment I am sure the man would smile

Paraphrasing some of the ridiculous excuses some posters have used to justify the wifes thieving attitude

This does not seem like a healthy relationship.

Moreso if the guy is not financially stable/comfortable.

If he is, then if there are no other issues, maybe, just maybe it is still salvageable.

If she is doing this and is also completely selfish, the guy should cancel all his life insurances and let her know they are cancelled otherwise na high risk.

@emmatok

Don't mind coogar. We know ourselves very well.
He likes to argue and deludes himself that he wins every arguement.
He's my pally though.

Anyways, this topic has lost it's flavour and i'm out.

The op should get his wife something to keep her busy and earn her own income.
That might just cure the klepto illness she has. 2k ni? What a cheapstake!

dayokanu:

First of all Many on this thread have justified what the woman did that it wasnt wrong

You and your wife are one family, Just like you and your children

Would you tear skin if your children your siblings or anyone chopped/inflated the prices of things

I can also ask, If your children don't chop your money, Whose money should they be spending?

Oh because i take my hubby's money, my children to will now grow muscles to go and take their father's money abi dem never hala!!!!! the cane they will chop no get part two. Now!!!!  You do not still get the ''relationship thingy'' between a man and woman, that is why you keep asking the ''what if your children, '''? questions. A man and woman who have come together to be an entity should ''share'' what ever!!! ''overlook'' whatever! (except infidelity). His wife asked for N3000.00 for pampers, and the pampers cost N2400.000 BIG EFFING DEAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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BlueDiva:

^^^^
Don't mind coogar. We know ourselves very well.
He likes to argue and deludes himself that he wins every arguement.
He's my pally though.

don't try to be silly now.
there's no difference between 2400 naira and 3000 naira.
the difference in pounds sterling is less than £3.

Anyways, this topic has lost it's flavour and i'm out.

The op should get his wife something to keep her busy and earn her own income.
That might just cure the klepto illness she has. 2k ni? What a cheapstake!

be forming there! only the cross knows how many times you have stolen your husband's credit card details to buy stuffs.
anyway, the man is a loser, a moaner and a crybaby. i need you to prove he isn't instead of this megedefegede you are spewing.

dayokanu:

^^ Does it matter if the kids are 12 yrs old or 24yrs old?
A 24yr old who inflates the prices of handout and school fees is allowed to because he/she also needs money to look good

he is a kid - he's not allowed to.
when he marries, let him steal from his partner.

again, i'll ask you to compare like for like - a task you find difficult to accomplish.
the wife has not stolen from her parents. she stole from her husband. let the kids steal from their spouses as well when they get married!

If ppl see your 22yr old son/daughter looking cute and compliment I am sure the man would smile
Paraphrasing some of the ridiculous excuses some posters have used to justify the wifes thieving attitude

let the son/daughter steal from their spouses when they get married.
the wife has not stolen from her parents. your analogy is stupendously daft!

chaircover:

hiya sagakanu  . . . . . . Somehow I knew that you'd show up soon    

Dont mind the woman jare . . she only managed to steal N600 when her mates are killing their husbands for the life insurance money  

So you even agree she stole something.

Well, my boss ordered his wife arrested  for stealing his money.

Na wa for this NL sha. OP, does your wife work? If she doesn't, do you provide enough for her needs ?

My dad always said ' okunrin gidi ni lati l'amojukuro nibi awon nkan yepere' . . . . . . a real man ought to ignore inconsequential matters.

ronkebp:

Oh because i take my hubby's money, my children to will now grow muscles to go and take their father's money abi dem never hala!!!!! the cane they will chop no get part two. Now!!!!  You do not still get the ''relationship thingy'' between a man and woman, that is why you keep asking the ''what if your children, '''? questions. A man and woman who have come together to be an entity should ''share'' what ever!!! ''overlook'' whatever! (except infidelity). His wife asked for N3000.00 for pampers, and the pampers cost N2400.000 BIG EFFING DEAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why should your 23yr old daughter be caned for inflating prices and chopping money that belonged to her dad?

A man and his wife have become one entity? Are you saying a man and his son/daughters are two entities? Do you know they share the same DNA which the wife doesnt?

You share your wealth with your kids and in your analogy should overlook all acts of pilfering

If your 22yr old daughter inflates the prices of stuffs from 2400 to 3400 then there shouldnt be any Big deal also

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naijababe:

Na wa for this NL sha. OP, does your wife work? If she doesn't, do you provide enough for her needs ?

My dad always said ' okunrin gidi ni lati l'amojukuro nibi awon nkan yepere' . . . . . . a real man ought to ignore inconsequential matters.

a fact that evades bluediva and her army of lunatics supporting the husband.

what kind of husband gets that petty? he probably keeps a record of the people that eye-ball him, the ones who don't say hi to him, the women who don't kneel properly for him and so on and forth. any man this petty is a loser and a man not to be toyed with. people like him metamorphosed to abdul-mutallabs.

sadistic twats!

emmatok:

So you even agree she stole something.

Well, my boss ordered his wife arrested  for stealing his money.

tell that boss of yours he's a loser.
quote me anytime anyday. matter of fact, print this comment of mine and show him i said so.

chaircover:

Dayo there is no relationship like husband and wife. I didnt make any vows with my children I dont sleep with my children and one day my children will pack their bags and leave my house leaving me and my husband behind. They will be one with their own partners and they can pilfer each others money then.

You cannot compare any other relationship to marriage. The two become one and what belongs to one, belongs to the other.

This is a woman who will wipe your brow when you are ill, pray for you, support you, cheer you on and have faith in you when no one else does. She knows things about you that no one else knows and understands every sigh or tense brow that you may have. This is the woman who has your back but yet you cant indulge her the access to a few notes in your wallet without compaining about it. Something is wrong somewhere.

You get time sha, na dayokanu you dey follow yarn dis kain matter ?

chaircover:

And your boss is a very brave man to sleep with both his eyes closed at night

chaircover:

Dayo there is no relationship like husband and wife. I didnt make any vows with my children I dont sleep with my children and one day my children will pack their bags and leave my house leaving me and my husband behind. They will be one with their own partners and they can pilfer each others money then.

There is no relationship like Mother and children. You gave birth to your children and you didnt give birth to your husband

By Law you are MANDATED to take care of your children and not so much your spouse

One day even before you know it, your spouse can pack their bags and leave your house. A man or woman can marry as much as 100times in a lifetime

But your children would always be your children

You cannot compare any other relationship to marriage. The two become one and what belongs to one, belongs to the other.

A parent-child relationship supersedes anything. You can have another husband or wife, You can not have another person give birth to you. You can not share another persons DNA.

This is a woman who will wipe your brow when you are ill, pray for you, support you, cheer you on and have faith in you when no one else does. She knows things about you that no one else knows and understands every sigh or tense brow that you may have. This is the woman who has your back but yet you cant indulge her the access to a few notes in your wallet without compaining about it. Something is wrong somewhere.

These are children who would be there for you, wipe your brow when you are ill, pray for you, support you, cheer you on and have faith in you when the wife can decide to disown you

ARE YOUR CHILDREN ALLOWED TO STEAL YOUR MONEY ALSO?

chaircover:

Dayo there is no relationship like husband and wife. I didnt make any vows with my children I dont sleep with my children and one day my children will pack their bags and leave my house leaving me and my husband behind. They will be one with their own partners and they can pilfer each others money then.

You cannot compare any other relationship to marriage. The two become one and what belongs to one, belongs to the other.

This is a woman who will wipe your brow when you are ill, pray for you, support you, cheer you on and have faith in you when no one else does. She knows things about you that no one else knows and understands every sigh or tense brow that you may have. This is the woman who has your back but yet you cant indulge her the access to a few notes in your wallet without compaining about it. Something is wrong somewhere.

Your children being your flesh/blood and mirror image of you arguably have even more of a bond than yourself.
Why is it right to scold them if the inflate prices and turn the left cheek if it's the other half?

chaircover:

hiya sagakanu  . . . . . . Somehow I knew that you'd show up soon    

Dont mind the woman jare . . she only managed to steal N600 when her mates are killing their husbands for the life insurance money  

See ya mouth.

No wonder my babalawo told me to cancel our engagement asap.

naijababe:

Na wa for this NL sha. OP, does your wife work? If she doesn't, do you provide enough for her needs ?

My dad always said ' okunrin gidi ni lati l'amojukuro nibi awon nkan yepere' . . . . . . a real man ought to ignore inconsequential matters.

You see!!!

Dem don pull out the "real man" ideology sharp sharp.

If you don't accept all the egregious faults of a woman, you are a fake man or a boy.  

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