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PossiblityGod:
Happy easter everyone and trust we are having a good easter celebration. This is a new moniker but an old member.
Please I need advice and suggestions. I did ivf late last year, got pregnant but lost it by 11weeks 5days as a result of no heartbeat. I even attempted suicide because the pain was too much for me to bear, but to the glory of God I'm healing gradually.
I went for the evacuation(MVA) last month, I am yet to see to see my period though.
Before starting the ivf, I took some recommended drugs to boost my egg quality for some months as well with hubby, the two subserol fibroids that were small before the ivf increased to 6.5cm as a result of the plenty progesterone that I was taking,
Now my questions are; what should I do to avoid the reoccurrence of no heartbeats again ie chromosomal abnormalities.
When can I go for the 2nd round of ivf and do I need to prepare myself again? If yes what drugs do you suggest.
Looking at the size of the fibroids now does it need surgery or what can I do to reduce it?
If I should go for ivf again, do I still use same hospital or change to a new one?
I am 35year old married for 5years,hubby has low sperm motility. Please I need everyone opinion on this, please do not read and pass, help a broken sister. @blendy, @zest4alllife, @omojudy, @uridiame

I don't have answers to your questions but just want to urge you to be patient. You do your unborn children a disservice with suicide, it is not the way out. A positive mindset helps in all of this.

This might be helpful to some people--> http://opinions.ng/nigerian-couples-tips-for-overcoming-infertility/

Don't panic but stay out of their way.

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Terrible story.

distinguish:
We have been married for a year now. We have been trying to conceive. Because of the emotional stress attached my wife said she can't be staying at home alone, it causes her stress. She said she wants to start doing something. At least a business.

I took a loan from my place of work and we started the business for over 2 months now. The issue now is that, I don't always have cash on me anymore. Any little money I got it's for the business. Basically, we mostly feed from the business.

Yesterday, after we returned home, she started giving me attitude, I asked her what the issue was, she started telling me how I am killing the business, not taking good care of her, not having money to take care of her and all sort of rubbish, she brought out how incompetent I am as a husband and what have you. I never said a word to reply her and its eating me up seriously, I could not sleep the whole night. This is the person that I sacrificed a lot for. I was supposed a take a professional course this November, but because of her I had to postpone it.

Please I need your advice.

PS: I did not eat the food she prepared last night.

Your wife is doing what women do. As the husband you have to be emotionally deep to overcome these tantrums. Have a hands-on approach to the business to ensure she doesn't wreck you both financially. Communicate with her firmly but with love on the other things.

Most of this modern TV content glamourising violence is messing up with people's minds.

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Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.

We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.

I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.

I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.

I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.

Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.

This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.

So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.

Since today, our relationship has dwindled.

Alot of things have been going through my mind.

I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.

Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

You need to up your game sir. There is more to it than "lasting for 10-15 minutes". Observe the little things that she reacts positively to.

She should also talk about thuggery, cybercrime and cultism by the boys too.

A lot needs to be done.

No, Lukaku is a step-up. No offence, Tammy, you are doing well in Rome.

It is illegal for you to serve if you are above 30 at the point of graduation for your HND/Degree full time course.

By Sani Abdulrazak

True is the saying that, when it rains, it pours. And if the last few weeks have told us anything in Northern Nigeria, it is that we are immersed in an ocean of our own tears and that no one is safe. In the Northwest region especially, it is like we are all waiting to be abducted or killed. Banditry has taken over almost all the forests in the region, overwhelmed most of our villages and has now set sight on our cities, especially the ancient city of Zaria, the pride of the region and fortress of knowledge and ideas, crippling the amity and serenity of one of the country’s true cosmopolitan city with agita, nervosity and incertitude. The poignantly pervasive abductions and killings in the Northwest region recently is almost record defying, some make it to the news while others don’t, and it makes someone wonder what exactly is going wrong? What do these bandits burned in effigy aim to achieve and how much blood of the innocent will quench their seemingly insatiable thirst?

Banditry has crippled economic activities in the Northwest. In a region known for its agricultural prowess, farmlands today are being deserted with the ripple effect being a looming food crisis. We have abandoned some of our major roads linking strategic cities due to fear of being attacked, this has further worsened the economic condition of the region with unemployment hitting the roof. When thunderclaps bellowed few years ago, the region hurriedly bathed themselves in mud in anticipation of rainwater, now these thunderclaps are ceasing without raindrops. Truth is, when expectations are so high, the lows can feel that much worse. The seemingly outdated and predictable approach by the leaders of the region seem ineffective in halting the drift into abyss. They seem devoid of ideas and logic on how to realistically tackle the miasma of insecurities bedeviling the region that you wonder if their thinking is frozen in the Antarctic glazier. Hardly a day goes by without the sad news of abduction and killings by bandits. How do these evil forces carry out their operations and the life of their victims in captivity?

This army of hexed evil force receives their own intelligence report and swiftly swing into action like bees. Time of the day means very little to them because they believe they are well and truly above the law. Who wouldn’t in their own position after all? This ‘mobile mortuary’ swamp their target community in dozens and sometimes in hundreds on motorbikes, armed to the teeth, shooting sporadically and yes, because taking lives means nothing to them. And when they get to their victim(s) location, they care less about doors and windows or their sophistication, instead they raze down walls with all the weapons and tools available to them, and gain entrance. Boom! They have their target, and move out swiftly killing anyone that stands their way leaving behind trail of sorrow and pain. In a bolt of fear, the victims are tied and strapped like luggage in the most insensate manner and taken to the forest while the captive’s loved ones poignantly left behind receive condolences and prayers as they anxiously await the next line of action.

Back in their den, the victims regurgitated and palpable fear becomes even more seismic, it is an environment of fear, of destruction and blood. You see the excruciating torture meted out to other captives knowing fully well that the same or even worse awaits you. How women are serially raped in captivity and how in the most unhygienic and inhumane manner some pregnant women give birth in the bandits’ den. The migraine tension is amplified further when you watch how some captives are mercilessly killed because payment of ransom is delayed or negotiations have broken down with their relatives. You drink from the same water source as other animals, food is rarely available, so they feed on fruits and sometimes even leaves. Hygiene and disease contamination don’t exist in that part of the world. Life under this portmanteau of evil is so soulless, callous and capricious that you only live by the second, knowing every time you draw a breath might be your last because you wouldn’t bet against an obdurate one among them putting a bullet in you against the group’s wishes. In the bandits’ den, the captives could but only consistently seek divine intervention in the choicest of their righteous prayers because they may be alive, but they are literally not living.

A healthy percentage of captives make it out of the forest alive, and the ones that do are usually greeted to wild jubilation from family, relatives and the community at large. It is like another chance at life after death. Sometimes you break news of hope or despair about other captives. But sadly, it lasts very little as the situation is so overwhelming to communities that psychological aid to the captives are given very little thought, because they are either busy negotiating the release of others or working hard to avoid or repel further bandit attacks.

A captive becomes ‘reborn’ both psychologically and financially. He begins to pessimistically see life generally from a different prism. It triggers a shift in his view and understanding of life. He probably might never be the same again as a result. He also loses almost everything financially as a result of payment of ransom, the house he labored for years and sometimes decades to own must have been sold in order to get him or his loved ones freed. The farmland is also not spared as it is also gone. To the civil servant, the investment you worked so hard for might also be gone and then retirement is well and truly staring you in the face with nothing to fall back to. To the businessmen, his capital might also have been depleted along with his properties. The biting economic condition will not spare him either. This is happening not because they didn’t plan, but as the saying goes ‘it is what it is’.

There are enough reasons behind why banditry flourishes to fill a series of books, some of them clearly visible to the blind and audible to the deaf. All these are happening in a region already with the highest number of out of school children, this is further worsened by bandit attacks on schools in the region. Also, with an implausible number of higher education vis-à-vis population and further worsened by astronomical rise in cost of education in a state in the region. A region that is now the poverty capital of the world and further aggravated by an unprecedented rise in food inflation in the region. This is not unconnected to farmers in the region deserting their farmlands over fear of being attacked. Most of our industries especially the textile and glass industries that have sustained us for generations are in comatose with little efforts at reviving them, thus, escalating the inconceivably oceanic unemployment level experienced in the region. At the moment, we believe we’ll surmount these challenges because sometimes it may look like sunset, but in reality, it is dawn.

Source: http://opinions.ng/banditry-northwest-life-captivity/

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Ishilove:
Your kids will be motherless if you lose your life in the process of enduring a loveless marriage for their sake.

This is a critical point.

Interviews have started. Apply if interested before recruitment closes.

This is not professional

JARUSHUB:
Vacancies still open.

oK

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I meant placing it on a storage like flash drive and waybill sir

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Note the video is close to 7Gb

What of waybill sir

Keep the stunt UP
Me staring at this nation like

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The should also work in that of the north, not all about funding them

The Darkening Clouds Over Northern Nigeria

By: Nazaru llc. U.S.A

The Trade with Africa Business Summit convenes trade experts, policy makers, global business leaders driving trade with Africa

While the world is laser focused on the U.S. – China trade war something equally significant that will reshape the global landscape for the next 30 to 50 years is emerging in Africa. With the African Continental Free Trade Agreement (AfCFTA) entering into force, there is a repositioning of the continent that disrupts the old way of engaging with its individual nations.

Power is being centralized in the African Union (AU) and those looking to enter commercially in the future would have to realign – should they seek to move with speed on their trade & investment agenda. Ignoring the African Union policies and structures in your long-range ‘African strategy‘ will be a missed opportunity. The African Union (AU) under AfCFTA has become a stronger negotiating trade bloc positioned to better serve Africa’s smaller countries. There is no doubt that the AU will play a much bigger role in the global landscape in years to come especially when it chooses to exert its influence on global matters.

External pressures on the continent is at an all-time low thanks to Covid-19, British Exit and Trump’s Presidency. Countries have turned inwards to face their own internal issues which has led to reduced foreign interference in African affairs. Africa’s leaders have used the opportunity to consolidate power and for the first time the continent has a window of opportunity to chart its own course by putting Africa’s own agenda center stage.

There are opportunities emerging on the continent but those who seek to engage must listen to the aspirations of Africans. Instead of creating artificial demands to sell products to Africa, tap into their quest. Listen to what African are trying to accomplish then offer your products and services as the ultimate solution. This would serve as win-win and is a more sustainable way of doing business. Afterall, if you seek to serve Africans as consumers of your products, understanding their pain-points should be your central focus.

Here are 5 ways that Africa will increasingly reshape and impact the global economic landscape:

Supply Chain disruption

The global buying community has been disrupted by the ongoing U.S. – China “trade war” and they are now seeking alternative sources of supply to realigning to for future purchases and deals. Africa has always been the originating source for raw commodities used by the rest of the world. From Cocoa in Cote D’Ivoire to Cashew from Nigeria to Gold in Ghana to Diamonds in the Congo the rest of the world has been powered by Africa’s resources. Africa is now seeking new and innovative ways to power itself with its own resources. In the future entire value chains and industries will emerge on the continent creating wealth for its people and those who choose to invest.

Agriculture

The missing link has always been Value Addition. With Africa owning 60% of the remaining arable land in the world, Agriculture initiatives would help create a brighter future for the region. Today Sustainable Agriculture conversations have heightened and investments in the Agriculture value chain is growing to ensure that Africa not only plays in the Cocoa business but in the Chocolate industry.

Technology Adoption

Africa does not have the same limitations in new technology adoption that the western world struggles with. The region will leapfrog into 5G ahead of the rest of the world. While other regions are seeking business cases for technology adoption, African countries are quickly taking these concepts mainstream. From drone technology adoption in Rwanda to Kenya leading the world in digital payments, these technological innovations would be adopted much faster in Africa which will create unique advantages for the rising young population.

Youth Workforce

Africa’s population is projected to double from 1.2 billion to 2.2 billion by 2050. While the rest of the world is struggling with an aging population, Africa’s youth population sits at 60-70% and will continue to grow. For example Nigeria is projected to become the world’s 3rd most populated country next to China and India by 2050. Its current population is estimated at 200 million. These figures will present opportunities and challenges; security and immigration challenges if not managed properly. Regions with current food insecurities would become more strained so it is in everyone’s interests to put plans in place and initiatives to drive productivity on the continent. If the region gets it right, the energy of the youth could be harnessed to power innovation and manufacturing.

Manufacturing Epicenter

Africa will become the manufacturing capital of the future. With labor cost going up in China and the saturation they are facing, Manufacturing has steadily began shifting to the region. Africa is centrally located geographically and well positioned to serve the world faster and cheaper. Also with the AfCFTA, manufacturing products on the continent for a growing and emerging middle class is a no brainer. For example, demands for baby products would rise as the projected population rises.


Source: 5 Ways Africa will Reshape the Global Landscape



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By: La Jolla Montessori School

Tips for Parents to be more present for their child both physically and mentally

One positive outgrowth of the pandemic has been this: improving parenting skills. As parents have sheltered-at-home with their children, more mental and emotional engagements are taking place.

“Parents have shut down cell phones, interacted with their children in deeper ways, communicated and engaged with them in making choices and forged more positive bonds,” says Kelly McFarland, Director of La Jolla Montessori School.

“As a parent of twin boys, three months of down time has taught my husband and I that cell phones at home are a distraction. We’ve learned to be emotionally all-in with our kids, to better set priorities with them, and to create real family time at home and appreciate each day,” she says.

Becoming a better parent involves creating a safe, secure, participatory and non-stressful environment for your child. Here are tips on how you can create that:

1. Building a New Middle Ground in Parenting
For those that find themselves as either the ‘helicopter‘ parent or the ‘present but not there’ parent, there are ways to transition into the Montessori parent that supports childhood independence.

“The hovering parent does everything for their child, watches everything they do and intercedes to avoid mistakes,” McFarland says. “By contrast, the ‘present but not there’ group is distracted, overwhelmed, over-scheduled and multi-tasks every moment.”

“What we recommend while teaching parent education classes is for parents to guide their children to do for themselves and to make the best use of the precious few hours we’re together every day, which guides the child to a lifetime of self-confidence” McFarland says.

After all, learning to become a better parent is all about physically being present AND being emotionally there for our children, too. And you can make these changes tonight!

2. Your Ultimate Strength: Apologizing
A less positive story during the sheltering-at-home time frame has been parental bad behavior. Millions of cooped-up parents have yelled at their kids during moments of stress. “It’s strengthening to both the child and the parent to apologize for bad behavior,” McFarland says. “In the same way that we ask our kids to apologize, we should repay them the favor.”

“Apologize by saying, ‘I’m sorry. I made a mistake and I’ll try to correct it.’ More importantly, show them that you are sorry so they can emulate your positive behavior. And children, who are truly accepting, will know that everyone makes mistakes and we all have moments when we’re not proud of our behavior or for losing our temper. When you apologize, and show the efforts made to apologize, you’ve improved your parenting skills and taught them a valuable lesson: you’re human and it’s okay to make mistakes as long as you show ownership of your behavior.

Summary
These tips about engagement, interaction and emotional presence will help your child build confidence and self-esteem, and in turn, will help you with improving parenting skills. So, relax, enjoy your kids and be there on all levels for them.


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