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Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by mojojojo(m): 2:28pm On May 18, 2021 |
It is not uncommon for issues to surface at the eve of weddings. Do not be so quick to judge your fiancee as the devil uses this opportunity to come between bride and groom. Your mum will always suggest alternatives that will align and favor you. Such is the love of a mother. Perhaps you already set expectations for the bride to do both weddings at different locations and decided to withdraw due to cost. As long as your fiancee's behaviour is a one off and not a pattern, find a solution to work it out amicably and resolve. 4 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by sunbreaker: 2:28pm On May 18, 2021 |
Don't argue with her,as much as she doesn't contribute anything to know how hard is it to get money. Just say byebye, a lot of girls are out there to accept your 'one stone to kill two bird' pattern. 1 Like |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Peterosky(m): 2:28pm On May 18, 2021 |
Your mum's advice is perfect. If your wife to be is against it and she has no financial support for the wedding, I am afraid you are still single and searching or be ready to come back here after marriage with stories that will touch the heart.Besides, why spend 2m for marriage in this Buhari economy? Bros wise up. 1 Like |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Bishop(m): 2:28pm On May 18, 2021 |
Annoms: My son,there is a great assurance that your marriage may end up with regrets. I speak from experience. Going forward, request her financial input into the wedding.she must provide 40 percent of the cost. You must sit down together and discuss very sailient point. 1.Especially how to run your homes,home keeps she must also contribute. 2.How many child (ren) you will both have 3.she must work and not be a house wife. 4.Ensure you make her know that you are the head of the house by being very very firm about your decisions. 5.Be prepared for the worse.once their likes work they tend to be very disrespectful not only to you but to your parents. 6.Your income or how much you are worth should never be revealed rather it should come as a surprise when the time arises. I come in peace. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by jditimiya(m): 2:29pm On May 18, 2021 |
Bros use your head, no make your wedding become your marriage. Bros that woman no be better woman for you, she dey greedy and selfish i swear. Inside this country if you fit do the wedding as your mum talk u will have a better life ahead. Bros that is not your wife to be but if you want to go on. I beg no come here complain again before i go send some fire to you. 4 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Blackdisciple(m): 2:29pm On May 18, 2021 |
Bros listen to Mama's advice oo and discuss it with your woman. Remember all the expenses will be on you. Women with this their white wedding sef. The white shit only certisfy them alone because they don't always know how it is financially. 1 Like |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by TemmyDayo50(m): 2:29pm On May 18, 2021 |
Wedding ceremony most times has always been a childhood fantasy for ladies and a form of accomplishment plus security... If you really want her, talk some senses into her head.. Your mum is correct here and the sensible one... If you compromise this sensible opinion of your mum to that of your woman's unnecessary fantasy, then you're a simp and not ready to handle a home! 1 Like |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by baralatie(m): 2:29pm On May 18, 2021 |
iamDrRhymes:Will The woman getting married contribute 1 million inside the 4 million of the wedding? |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Longman8: 2:29pm On May 18, 2021 |
Some women wil nt understnd. Until after spending a whole fortune on an ordinary wedding. Dats where dia eyes wil finally open. Baaaa! |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by domaya21(f): 2:29pm On May 18, 2021 |
Uncle leave her to do the white wedding in town alone |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Jonathan39: 2:29pm On May 18, 2021 |
Divide the cost into 2, and tell her to pay the half if she doesn't want to understand why you are trying to cut cost. |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by uthlaw: 2:30pm On May 18, 2021 |
Kingk47:what are you trying to say.....wife over mother abi! 2 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by 9jaRealist: 2:30pm On May 18, 2021 |
SweetCuntess: What would Nairaland be without CRUDE MISOGYNISTS....smh > |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Blackdisciple(m): 2:30pm On May 18, 2021 |
Chris2863: Maybe na the whole village and the whole city people go come for the wedding sha |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Kokaine(m): 2:30pm On May 18, 2021 |
9jaRealist:guy I dey vex abeg I no mean am I'm particularly angry because of how naija girls take wedding. My guy in America didn't do a big wedding |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Luak(m): 2:30pm On May 18, 2021 |
Annoms:what she wants for your wedding is normal for girls. My worry is her approach to it; it's an indication of what you will be facing if you eventually marry without working on your communication and sense of understanding. Married life is quite challenging these days with the economic demands it places on the family especially where one partner is the sole provider 1 Like |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by sunbreaker: 2:31pm On May 18, 2021 |
mojojojo:if she stand on doing it at two location,let finance one side while the other location finances will belong to the man |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by eclectic90: 2:31pm On May 18, 2021 |
I'd take it that you knew she was the high end type of girl before you decided to marry her, so you shouldn't blame her for wanting what she wants because you can't foot the bill now. However, I think if you have looked very well and sure you were marrying a reasonable person, you should have asked her opinion first because the marriage involves the both of you even if you claim now she is not willing to contribute which I find strange. If the both of you couldn't come up with a reasonable means of cutting cost at the time and you discussed it with your mum and she gave the good suggestion, then you should have presented it as your own suggestion instead of another person's idea. The need to put the story here for jobless people who don't know the story to bash and call her names is irrelevant. You must have dated her and know her character and still decided to marry her so I don't see the need for complaints here because she did not just present the attitude because of wedding |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by sorepco(m): 2:31pm On May 18, 2021 |
Stand ur ground man....if u go bankrupt she go sleep around for money. One babe tried that with me in 2009. Insisting i budget 2.5 mill for white wefding alone as her laeyer friends n judges shall be present. She no know when i cancel the damn wedding...she begged for 3 months! Na police i take frighten her away! She made it clear her family will not drop anything! Laughter wan kill me!lol. Annoms: 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by berrystunn(m): 2:32pm On May 18, 2021 |
Negative |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by sorepco(m): 2:32pm On May 18, 2021 |
Stand ur ground man....if u go bankrupt she go sleep around for money. One babe tried that with me in 2009. Insisting i budget 2.5 mill for white wefding alone as her laeyer friends n judges shall be present. She no know when i cancel the damn wedding...she begged for 3 months! Na police i take frighten her away! She made it clear her family will not drop anything! Laughter wan kill me!lol. She wants a cream-de-la-cream kind of wedding but she's not ready to assist financially to make that happen. (she's an awaiting corper) I told her that the cost of transportation and lodging people from the village (hers and mine) to the city for our white marriage alone is gulping about 500/600k. That's transportation & lodging alone ooo.. I'll now spend if not x2 of what I spent on trad for white.. Why not just do everything in the village and move on with our lives? We can actually have it in the village and it will still be all nice and glamourous. She said she wants to have a say in how her marriage will look like. Her imput is welcomed. But if she still insist on having the white wedding and not putting finances into consideration. I'm thinking that she want the white wedding on the city because of her friends who will attend which is not enough reason to go bankruptcy for. It was a heated argument yesterday. We both went to bed angrily and not in talking terms till now Pls advice accordingly. Thanks[/quote] |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by sageer1706(m): 2:32pm On May 18, 2021 |
Nobody can come and stress me for something of just 2days or even a day sef... Me I can't go into borrowing for anybody ooo 2 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by uthlaw: 2:32pm On May 18, 2021 |
Stefenijoan002:think about what....who owns the money! 1 Like |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by baralatie(m): 2:32pm On May 18, 2021 |
Jonathan39:O boi! The op said the wedding cost him #4 million! How much he Lexus jeep 330 |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by LordIsaac(m): 2:32pm On May 18, 2021 |
If you follow her rather than being THE MAN, you'd be committing the same blunder Adam committed. And like Adam, the ground of your marriage would be cursed for your sake as you'd be handing over the reins to her. I thought a poor girl shouldn't be dictating, but should be humble to follow your guidance. With all due respect, you don't have a fiancee yet! Quote me daily till you remember these words if you go ahead with her. 5 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by DAramis: 2:32pm On May 18, 2021 |
baralatie: OP is trying to cut cost. The suggestion might be comfortable to her wife to be than the issue of doing both in the city. Every woman would like her traditional wedding to be done in her father's house or extended family compound. It shows where she is coming from, and put a stamp on her non-avaliability. Summary of the whole statement of mine is that, both should come to a compromise before the event proper. It would be bad if their union is started on a bad note with hatred and acrimony of wedding issue. 2 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Enasuarez(m): 2:33pm On May 18, 2021 |
Why not go to her village and do the traditional rites without making too loud. Pay for the stuff without calling any party, then come back to lagos and do the white wedding according to your pocket size? Never allow a woman to pressurize you into plugging yourself into debt, that you'll later regret. I know it's her wedding, but wisdom demands that you wise in decision making. Take few people with you to her village, and carry someone from that zone along with you, in order for it to be easy for you during negotiation of traditional list stuff. 2 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Nobody: 2:33pm On May 18, 2021 |
Biglittlelois:Well said and shared!. |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Catechizm: 2:34pm On May 18, 2021 |
Annoms: na classy music video una dey shoot? |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by zimmaking(m): 2:34pm On May 18, 2021 |
fatymore:You correct jare. |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Rimsd(m): 2:34pm On May 18, 2021 |
Annoms: 2million wedding?? Well if you think she's the right woman for you make her see reasons why you two should go with your mums advice, if she refuses then I guess you know the kind of woman she is... |
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