saweide:
Pls something is really bothering my mind and I pray I will find good advice here.

I reside in Port-Harcourt about 1 and half years ago Iost my cousin. He died of heart attack. After his death, his wife has been getting closer to me, always calling me and visiting me and am still single. I have had failed relationships in the past. I have been so unlucky with the kind of ladies I met. They are always violent and disrespectful which I dislike so much.

But during my cousins lifetime, she was so good, cool and caring to my cousin and they never had any misunderstanding and they married for just 6 years here in Port Harcourt before he died and they never had a child due to infertility on the side of the cousin. But now everyone like friends and family knows me and scared if I should make advances to her if they won't be saying things against me or should I just forget and look for another lady to marry.

Pls i need ur serious advise. She has fallen in love with me already.

there's over 4 billion ladies in the world, yet you chose your late cousin's wife. hmm...

saweide:
Pls something is really bothering my mind and I pray I will find good advice here.

I reside in Port-Harcourt about 1 and half years ago Iost my cousin. He died of heart attack. After his death, his wife has been getting closer to me, always calling me and visiting me and am still single. I have had failed relationships in the past. I have been so unlucky with the kind of ladies I met. They are always violent and disrespectful which I dislike so much.

But during my cousins lifetime, she was so good, cool and caring to my cousin and they never had any misunderstanding and they married for just 6 years here in Port Harcourt before he died and they never had a child due to infertility on the side of the cousin. But now everyone like friends and family knows me and scared if I should make advances to her if they won't be saying things against me or should I just forget and look for another lady to marry.

Pls i need ur serious advise. She has fallen in love with me already.

Nothing bad about it
Just ask yourself if you can do it and follow your mind
About the fertility you need to check medically for you not to regret your action . God be with you

Make ur intensions known to ur siblings lowkey, then her pregnant and see if it was ur cousin that was infertile as you claimed...🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃

isabi2lof:
Thanks .. I'm a lady.

Oh sorry... A lady of wisdom.

I never see platform wey no get sympathy and can judge like people on nairaland now now the guy don turn murderer na wao

Hmmm...I rest my case

1. Do you like her?
2. Is she a woman of virtue?
3. Does she like and connect with you?

If yes, consult the elders of your family to relay your intentions to them. They will in turn relate same to the girls family.

Na the husband die. She no kii person. She should not be stigmatized.

saweide:
Pls something is really bothering my mind and I pray I will find good advice here.

I reside in Port-Harcourt about 1 and half years ago Iost my cousin. He died of heart attack. After his death, his wife has been getting closer to me, always calling me and visiting me and am still single. I have had failed relationships in the past. I have been so unlucky with the kind of ladies I met. They are always violent and disrespectful which I dislike so much.

But during my cousins lifetime, she was so good, cool and caring to my cousin and they never had any misunderstanding and they married for just 6 years here in Port Harcourt before he died and they never had a child due to infertility on the side of the cousin. But now everyone like friends and family knows me and scared if I should make advances to her if they won't be saying things against me or should I just forget and look for another lady to marry.

Pls i need ur serious advise. She has fallen in love with me already.

Atleast discuss it with sensible elders and siblings in the house b4 deciding on her.


Just to avoid future family problem.

Tey tey

Caramia2020:
What if what happens to your late cousin happens to u in 5 years time? Because of a woman u are now labeling your late cousin infertile not minding whether it's the woman that damage her womb during abortion like that other lady? Happiness is free but don't bring your complain to us later on when jungle mature. I believe you guys have started having sex. Continue.

Yeah, no biggie, you may just go as your cousin went, then another relative will follow suit.

It depends on the culture of your land. In places like Ebiriba in Abia State, you can marry you direct brothers wife

EmptyGarden:
Well, since she’s the only woman left in the world… go right ahead. SMH! Na covetousness Dey worry you!

😂😂😂

I wonder oh. How would he feeling during sex sef?? I can't even do such a thing

YOUNGELDER1:
I am sure there are decent women out there you can get married beside your late cousin wife.

Have a talk with your family first.

Killermamba:

What is weird about it?

Why my gbola go even stand for my late cousin brother's wife? Not weird right? U go fit r@pe ur brother's wife aswear.

JuanDeDios:

So what is weird about this story now? ehn?

Why my gbola go even stand for my later cousin brother's wife? Not weird right? U go fit r@pe ur brother's wife aswear.

In islam , it’s permissible but I don’t know about ur religion and culture

saweide:


Actually when the husband was alive I never even see the wife throughout the we don't even tlk ..but life is a mystery

If you say you haven't seen the wife since as started in your statement, how then did you conclude she never gave the husband any trouble and how did you know she was a good wife to your cousin?

Guy you are obviously lying on something and not saying the entire truth herre.
How did you also know your cousin was infertile?

You and the woman have been dating each other.

You think we are babies here?

ashawopikin:
..and he died of heart attack

The guy is definitely hiding something, his statements are contracting itself.

Caramia2020:
What if what happens to your late cousin happens to u in 5 years time? Because of a woman u are now labeling your late cousin infertile not minding whether it's the woman that damage her womb during abortion like that other lady? Happiness is free but don't bring your complain to us later on when jungle mature. I believe you guys have started having sex. Continue.

you really use scence here.

Warlord2014:

Oh sorry... A lady of wisdom.

You're welcome, thanks.

Stay away from her. She will kill you and inherit your cousin's property and yours too.

But if the family bequeath her to you as it is practiced in some parts of the country, you can consider. Who knows she killed ur cousin simply because u wants to marry you? Don't forget, she's the one that is making advances and by your observations, she has already fallen in love with u.

Stay away. Who know whether u have already knacked her but just conscience tormenting you

No women for PH again?

tonymyke4life:


If you like use any premium brand paint to coat ur story to become sweet. The truth is that you are not a serious human being. Like for you to have entertained that thought alone shows how sick you are. You have a big problem. Your late cousin wife! Bros, with all due respect, you are not normal.

With similar respect, you’ve got a myopic reasoning
The lady is good to him, her husband is dead as such she’s got no links with the husband’s family, she’s free to have a life, OP and the lady are both comfortable, they don’t need anyone’s advice/support; Family or otherwise
Happiness is free
Most comments bashing/discouraging the OP are just due to the mindset that the African man’s brain is stereotyped that the woman must always loose in marriage.
Is it a bad thing for the woman to live happily ever after on the demise of her husband?
This same audience, par adventure, the story was reversed and the Man was alive and wanted to marry even his late wife’s sister/cousin, everybody would be giving encouragement and calling it the wheel of fate

OP, flex your chic, you dunno whether na fate kill your cousin to link you up with your destiny helper☺️
The road to success, all man get he cross✅
Life na personal journey, no pain, no gain
Lastly one man’s poison is definitely another man’s balanced diet 🙃

Shalom 👋

Bros don't you ever touch that lady. How would the family sit and collect bride price from you when they had already collected it from your cousin? In my community this would be termed abomination. People will talk and you can't stop it. Go and look for a single girl, they are everywhere and some very responsible. Finally Bros be warned, what killed your cousin might kill you. A word is enough for the wise.

saweide:
Pls something is really bothering my mind and I pray I will find good advice here.

I reside in Port-Harcourt about 1 and half years ago Iost my cousin. He died of heart attack. After his death, his wife has been getting closer to me, always calling me and visiting me and am still single. I have had failed relationships in the past. I have been so unlucky with the kind of ladies I met. They are always violent and disrespectful which I dislike so much.

But during my cousins lifetime, she was so good, cool and caring to my cousin and they never had any misunderstanding and they married for just 6 years here in Port Harcourt before he died and they never had a child due to infertility on the side of the cousin. But now everyone like friends and family knows me and scared if I should make advances to her if they won't be saying things against me or should I just forget and look for another lady to marry.

Pls i need ur serious advise. She has fallen in love with me already.

What did your tradition say about it.
Consult your family first

What evidence do you have to show that your cousin is actually the cause of their childless Union

I think you're sick in the brain because of a lutavanderious you barely know how past life history you jump into conclusion that your cousin is the cause.

Well go right on and marry her since she's the only woman on earth but don't come back her to worry us

Yes even your mother and sisters mumu

Innobee99:
Why my gbola go even stand for my later cousin brother's wife? Not weird right? U go fit r@pe ur brother's wife aswear.

In your head, a widow is equivalent to a married woman, and marrying someone is comparable to raping someone. When you're standing upside down, you will think everyone else is upside down.

JuanDeDios:

In your head, a widow is equivalent to a married woman, and marrying someone is comparable to raping someone. When you're standing upside down, you will think everyone else is upside down.

Are u not the one upside down here? How will u enjoy be thinking of sexual relationship with ur late cousin's wife?

Ur brain is definitely in ur armpit aswear

JuanDeDios:

In your head, a widow is equivalent to a married woman, and marrying someone is comparable to raping someone. When you're standing upside down, you will think everyone else is upside down.

My comment meant no harm with ur fish brain

statistics1:
If your intentions are of good, pray and Related it with the elders in the family first before embarking.

Best advice ....

Discuss with the elders in ur family first .