Pls something is really bothering my mind and I pray I will find good advice here.

I reside in Port-Harcourt about 1 and half years ago Iost my cousin. He died of heart attack. After his death, his wife has been getting closer to me, always calling me and visiting me and am still single. I have had failed relationships in the past. I have been so unlucky with the kind of ladies I met. They are always violent and disrespectful which I dislike so much.

But during my cousins lifetime, she was so good, cool and caring to my cousin and they never had any misunderstanding and they married for just 6 years here in Port Harcourt before he died and they never had a child due to infertility on the side of the cousin. But now everyone like friends and family knows me and scared if I should make advances to her if they won't be saying things against me or should I just forget and look for another lady to marry.

Pls i need ur serious advise. She has fallen in love with me already.

NOTHING WRONG but pls do you due diligence in finding out properly about her thoroughly.
Being a widow is not a stigma
May God give you wisdom.

Weird things are really happening in this life




How ur gbola go dey stand for ur late cousin's wife?

Hmm. Let God direct you.

Do you please!

Don’t give a Kentucky fried fvcks about what anybody thinks. Your happiness is the most important!

If you have genuine feelings for her, please go ahead.

make talk no circulate say na you and the lady kill your late cousin o ,I don talk my own.

If your intentions are of good, pray and Related it with the elders in the family first before embarking.

I am sure there are decent women out there you can get married beside your late cousin wife.

Marriage ends with death of a partner

Ballzproblem2:
make talk no circulate say na you and the lady kill your late cousin o ,I don talk my own.

Just me thinking maybe they mixed something in drinks for the dead Cousin since no child involved, to be able to play love

Well, since she’s the only woman left in the world… go right ahead. SMH! Na covetousness Dey worry you!

Just pray about it... And seek spiritual guidance

Everyone deserves happiness even a widow

Jeromestark where are you. Jerome pls come and teach the Op how to go after a virgin and forget about the idea of going after a fairly used wife of a dead Cousin.

Haba!!......

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Just me thinking maybe they mixed something in drinks for the dead Cousin since no child involved, to be able to play love

😂

It's okay, just let the families know in time

What if what happens to your late cousin happens to u in 5 years time? Because of a woman u are now labeling your late cousin infertile not minding whether it's the woman that damage her womb during abortion like that other lady? Happiness is free but don't bring your complain to us later on when jungle mature. I believe you guys have started having sex. Continue.

Too many things to sacrifice make me wonder if it's worth it.

1)People might think U guys were having affair and poisoned ur cousin

2) you couldn't verify maybe she's part of the people who escalated ur cousins hypertension problem

3)How sure are you she would give u a child just like she never gave ur cousin

Just do what will make you happy without regrets. In this century, dying happily is a luxury

The way you type it shows that you both have been close together even when your cousin was alive and it shows that you’ve been having s€x with her don’t lie


You are not ashamed your cousin your blood relation wife . That was married to your cousins for 6 years that your cousin was sleeping with her you still want to continue from where he stop it is not good and you eat and drink with your cousin when he was alive now you are fu(king he’s wife when he’s late can you pray your own cousin to have S£x with your daughter answer me

You just an attention seeker going by the kind of threads you open

It's a normal thing bro. In my place u don't need to pay any form of bride price, u just perform some rituals with a cockerel, local brew drink (burukutu) nd some kola nuts. Then u can take her as ur wifey. But remember the ritual will be perform by the head of her late husband's clan nd not u in person.
My question, are u truly in love or lust toward the widow?

I know you have slept with her.
But marrying her might come with stigmatisation.

Caramia2020:
What if what happens to your late cousin happens to u in 5 years time? Because of a woman u are now labeling your late cousin infertile not minding whether it's the woman that damage her womb during abortion like that other lady? Happiness is free but don't bring your complain to us later on when jungle mature. I believe you guys have started having sex. Continue.

Abi oooo, only want court of public opinions to validate what they have been doing in the secret, see how he labeled his cousin and made the wife innocent before public.

Anyway, man that has been having different failed relationship wants to marry widow of his cousin. Time will tell.

I don't like it.

Caramia2020:
What if what happens to your late cousin happens to u in 5 years time? Because of a woman u are now labeling your late cousin infertile not minding whether it's the woman that damage her womb during abortion like that other lady? Happiness is free but don't bring your complain to us later on when jungle mature. I believe you guys have started having sex. Continue.

as in eh i couldn’t believe my eyes. They both killed his cousin I don’t need any more evidences.

Fp

This guy don go find trouble
You leave vetting when you go vet her and consult your family if it's appropriate, you went to nairaland to consult people that are not even in a relationship for advice.
Here you go, them say na you kill the man...

I don't think there is anything wrong with marrying the widow of your late cousin but just be aware that some people might start gossiping that you may have had a hand in his death

My man! Don't let anyone misjudged u cuz u are in love with your late cousin's wife moreover We just gat only one life to leave.... If you know she will definitely makes you happy den go for her in as much u didn't have anything to do with your cousin's death and let people think whatever dey like.

Use ur tongue to count ur teeth. I won't say more than that

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Marry her. You and her tick all the boxes

saweide:
Pls something is really bothering my mind and I pray I will find good advice here.
I reside in portharcourt about 1 and half years ago Iost my cousin he died of heart attack after his death her wife has been getting closer to me always calling me and visiting me and am still single i have had failed relationships in the past I have been so unlucky with the kind of ladies i met they are always violent and disrespectful which I dislike so much ,but during my cousins lifetime she was so good ,cool and caring to my cousin and they never had any misunderstanding and they married for just 6 years here in Port Harcourt before he died and they never had a child due to infertility on the side of the cousin but now everyone like friends and family knows me and scared if I should make advances to her if they won't be saying things against me or should I just forget and look for another lady to marry pls i need ur serios advise .she has fallen in love with me already

You can, people might want to run their mouth, do your best to ignore them, what is most important is you guys happiness, best of luck.

I think you should speak with your various families.
If they accept, then go ahead.
But if they don't, I think you...

Forget what people will say