Atheist:-D:


In a nutshell. A total, accurate analysis. Look at the virgin issue. People quote the bible and Koran when mentioning virginity with women but when we ask about male virgins they get suspiciously quiet. It is obvious that more needs to be done by men in society, government and society as a whole to make things better for women, to support them financially and give them proper rights. They are almost in servitude .

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plaetton: Unfortunately, everything seem to work against the female gender in our semi-primitive pre-industrialized society.
The economic system , the political system are built in favour of men.
The women always need to depend on men for sustenance.

Also, we have a very corrupt system that has over the many decades, infiltrated our domestic and social relationships. Corruption seem to have a greater and more devastating impact on a society when the economically disenfranchised females get corrupted. This is because the females are the pillars of society, so when they are corrupted, the society begins to lose its moral cohesion.

So what we have today in Nigeria is that because of entrenched system of economic and political disenfranchisement, women have become more needy, more desperate, and therefore much more corrupt.

Another unfortunate thing for women is that, unlike men, a woman's sexuall history is often permanently imprinted on her psyche , and this leaves long lasting behavioural cues in the way of attitudes, pretences, deceit and secrecy.
In other words, ladies are afraid to reveal their true selves to their prospective mates out of fear of revealing too much of their corrupt past. Men don't have that same problem . Our society does not require men to be chaste.

Most men can pick up on these behavioural cues, so they play along for the ride until it suits them to walk away.
A man can read and analyse a lady on the first date , no matter how pretentious the lady tries to be.
By the second date, the relationship is already over and the woman is hardly even aware.

gbam

plaetton: Unfortunately, everything seem to work against the female gender in our semi-primitive pre-industrialized society.
The economic system , the political system are built in favour of men.
The women always need to depend on men for sustenance.

Also, we have a very corrupt system that has over the many decades, infiltrated our domestic and social relationships. Corruption seem to have a greater and more devastating impact on a society when the economically disenfranchised females get corrupted. This is because the females are the pillars of society, so when they are corrupted, the society begins to lose its moral cohesion.

So what we have today in Nigeria is that because of entrenched system of economic and political disenfranchisement, women have become more needy, more desperate, and therefore much more corrupt.

Another unfortunate thing for women is that, unlike men, a woman's sexuall history is often permanently imprinted on her psyche , and this leaves long lasting behavioural cues in the way of attitudes, pretences, deceit and secrecy.
In other words, ladies are afraid to reveal their true selves to their prospective mates out of fear of revealing too much of their corrupt past. Men don't have that same problem . Our society does not require men to be chaste.

Most men can pick up on these behavioural cues, so they play along for the ride until it suits them to walk away.
A man can read and analyse a lady on the first date , no matter how pretentious the lady tries to be.
By the second date, the relationship is already over and the woman is hardly even aware.

and the only way the female folk can free themselves of this is by econonic independence instead of obseesing about marriage.a financially and intellectually independent woman is very difficult to take advantage of except if she chooses to be a victim.more often than not once a woman is not economically dependent on a man and is not looking for his approval to boost her self esteem,the world will literarily be at the palm of her hands,but what do we have today,women who have little or no self development,economically and intellectually,depending on a man for almost everything and looking up to him for approval,why wont they always be the victim

Any women that has clocked 30 and she is not yet married had had a dirty past,maybe she was into runz or what so ever,because the good ones are married on every weekends,you are 30+ and you have a man-friend no (longer boyfriend)then what is stopping you,just tell him to marry you,as simple as A.B.C.

.....and besides most women are not even bothered sef,thats why I dont pity all those old retired or repented ashawos when I see them in the church,sitting at the front pew.

kulyie: and the only way the female folk can free themselves of this is by econonic independence instead of obseesing about marriage.a financially and intellectually independent woman is very difficult to take advantage of except if she chooses to be a victim.more often than not once a woman is not economically dependent on a man and is not looking for his approval to boost her self esteem,the world will literarily be at the palm of her hands,but what do we have today,women who have little or no self development,economically and intellectually,depending on a man for almost everything and looking up to him for approval,why wont they always be the victim

This is true but there are stumbling blocks and greater challenges for women to make it career wise. This is why it is not as easy to follow a career as a woman.

How will you marry early when you want a rich,handsome,tall,God fearing,caring,gentle,intelligent,pointed-nosed,sexy eyed,generous and faithful man for a husband. Common wake up because no man can posess all those qualities... That's all

@op seriously I cant stop laughing.

All that time that a guy would approach a girl and the next you will hear is I will think about it.

Atheist:-D:


This is true but there are stumbling blocks and greater challenges for women to make it career wise. This is why it is not as easy to follow a career as a woman.

that is not true.the world is getting more easier and straightforward for serious minded ladies.females tend to get the jobs faster than their male counterparts.sometimes the rule is bent to favour women.men dont have that opportunity

my cousin was jisting me years back before she got married that when she went for a job interview,the oga there was just fascinated by her complexion,he didnt really look into detail to check her c.v.the following week,she got the job.the man who was even more qualified than her was displaced.one thing i have noticed about as a woman is that if you are actually serious with your life and aim for self development,circumstances will work in your favour but if you decide to chase penis up and down,the men will help you turn you into a intimacy gadget

kulyie: that is not true.the world is getting more easier and straightforward for serious minded ladies.females tend to get the jobs faster than their male counterparts.sometimes the rule is bent to favour women.men dont have that opportunity

my cousin was jisting me years back before she got married that when she went for a job interview,the oga there was just fascinated by her complexion,he didnt really look into detail to check her c.v.the following week,she got the job.the man who was even more qualified than her was displaced.one thing i have noticed about as a woman is that if you are actually serious with your life and aim for self development,circumstances will work in your favour but if you decide to chase penis up and down,the men will help you turn you into a intimacy gadget

For some. Not all.

What your "friend" didnt tell you is that she had to sleep with the guy who was fascinated with her complexion . If she didnt she would not have got the job.

when she went for a job interview,the oga there was just fascinated by her complexion,he didnt really look into detail to check her c.v.the following week,she got the job.the man who was even more qualified than her was displaced.

royal doesnt see things like this, but must open threads to present black as white and vice versa.

i'm sure that man was dark skinned to boot.

anyway, now we see why nigeria refuses to progress.

we also see why women prefer to be lighter skinned?

Nwa Teacher: I will suggest a national protest by all naija ladies over the refusal of men above 30 yrs to marry but rather prefer to hire and pay them off. Men do give excuses of not having money to marry but i have come to see it as a deceit because marriage is not all about money. Women have 45years reproductive years while men have 100years. Why is it that naija men are wicked to an extent that 40 years men are still not thinking of marriage? Who will marry all this single ladies all in our streets. I suggest naija single ladies with the assistance of the ministry of women affair to go on mass protest to national assembly and beg them to pass a law that will mandate any man above 30 to marry. If not that, i pity ladies because men are not really serious this time for marriage.

u day craze

another proudly bachelor guy.

tpia@:
another proudly bachelor guy.

thank u is not easy

HURUCHI:

thank u is not easy

abi, cant be easy maintaining that status unless you're a champion sprinter.

tpia@:


abi, cant be easy maintaining that status unless you're a champion sprinter.

well as I have said is not easy thank u

Atheist:-D:


For some. Not all.

What your "friend" didnt tell you is that she had to sleep with the guy who was fascinated with her complexion . If she didnt she would not have got the job.

everyone does not have to use their vaginas to get a job.bottom power is not always the key to unlock job opportunities man

hmmmmmmmmmm new one

HURUCHI:

u day craze

Guy if you don't have anything to contribute you leave the thread. What bring the insult?

kulyie: true.there are a lot of flashy looking girls everywhere these days that lack self respect

Yeah even though a man is 40 years old?Do you think he will marry a single Nigerian lady of 35 years old?Do you think that kinda of lady would still know the meaning of LOVE considering her past lol?Moral,Men of this days wanna marry girls with cold blood btw 18-25,So ladies wise up and treat your guy right cos no time.It can be easy for you to have a boyfriend cos you get alot of toasters but never easy to find a future partner,Its not just a day job to get someone who is serious willing to spend rest of his/her rest life with you.Yes you have met that guy that was ready to marry you but when those kinda of guys approach girls of 21 wanting to sit her down and plan the future with her,The answer he get is i am not ready for that now.Do not think it is easy to get married just because you have alot of toasters.I bet it,All of them just wanna get in btw your legs.

I understand what the op is trying to say, and its commendable anyway, cos it would go a long way in reducing the rate of infidelity, prostitution and national unhappiness.

But I think, if the Nigerian girls are really serious about this and they truly are concerned and want things to change, they should rather campaign for the high rate of unemployment and under-employment we have in Nigeria, I think, those two are the major reasons why we have delayed marriages amongst Nigerian guys of today.

You know, NOLLYWOOD helped to contribute to this problem by continuously encouraging the Nigerian single ladies to raise their dream man's qualities and standard through their nonsense movies that shows Emeka Ike, Ramsey Noah, etc live in a mansion, drive luxury cars, go out with portfolios and comes back, and later to marry Ini Edo, Rita Domnic, etc and buys them luxury cars and they stay at home, drive to malls, to luxury places and give birth, and from those scenes, Nigerian ladies began to see it as the ideal scenario:

A man must have luxury cars, a mansion, and must be wearing suit and carrying big portfolios for him to qualify to become a husband or to propose to them, and in so doing, the Nigerian guys all went after getting the money to be like the actors portrayed in NOLLYWOOD movies before they can then start thinking of getting married, and before most of them achieve that feat, they have clocked 40yrs or more.


What am I trying to say? We need a total national re-orientation on family and societal values, and the movie and musical industries must be at the front runner of addressing the problem they propagated by staging films to re-orient both male and female Nigerians, including parents.

And then, the nigerian women must start to advice themselves for good and lower their greed and expectations from guys by being more realistic with the present national and global economy situations.


The bottom-line problem still remains: massive unemployment and under-employment. Tell me how u want a guy who isn't working or gainfully employed to think of getting married to bring up kids again to suffer like him

How do you expect a guy earning below 40,000 naira a month to save enough money to even live a standard/decent living to then talk of walking up to a lady of his dream to say- pls marry me? Where will he get the money for the dowry, for the family upkeep, for the childcare, and for meeting up with his wife's most often insatiable needs

You ladies should start with campaign against mass unemployment/under-employment of young men.

Well done.

...and one more thing, op, you and other concerned ladies can still use internet via forums and social platforms like- facebook, twitter, BBM, whatsapp, digg, pinterest, etc to create more awareness on this topic becos its a vital one and if u take it up seriously, u will be celebrated and remembered.

As you know, 60 to 80% of Nigerian youth population now have access to the internet and are regular users of any of the aforementioned social network platforms, which means u will reach a huge number during your campaign.


But pls, focus on- campaigning against massive male unemployment and under-employment along with your campaign for guys to marry not later than 35yrs at most, if u want to achieve great result.

Once again, well done.

Godson201333:



Yeah even though a man is 40 years old?Do you think he will marry a single Nigerian lady of 35 years old?Do you think that kinda of lady would still know the meaning of LOVE considering her past lol?Moral,Men of this days wanna marry girls with cold blood btw 18-25,So ladies wise up and treat your guy right cos no time.It can be easy for you to have a boyfriend cos you get alot of toasters but never easy to find a future partner,Its not just a day job to get someone who is serious willing to spend rest of his/her rest life with you.Yes you have met that guy that was ready to marry you but when those kinda of guys approach girls of 21 wanting to sit her down and plan the future with her,The answer he get is i am not ready for that now.Do not think it is easy to get married just because you have alot of toasters.I bet it,All of them just wanna get in btw your legs.

yeah, you are right too, and that's why they said: make the hay while the sun shines, but still, I am not a fan of guys marrying girls below 25yrs.


Honestly, mass unemployment and under-employment of guys are the bane of the society nowadays, and the reason for delayed marriage amongst the male folks.

And becos of the mass unemployment and under-employment of naija guys, we now have very few eligible Nigerian bachelors, and so the few qualified bachelors now do shakara and some now have up to 20 different classic single ladies calling him fiancee and waiting on him to come propose, how will he when he knows that he is a popular demand In fact, most guys that are eligible bachelors in Nigeria are even confused on which lady to marry amongst their numerous number of classical girlfriends


If we have plenty eligible bachelors in Nigeria, which can only happen when male unemployment is massively reduced, then this issue will be solved.

So it has com to this? To marry now becoms a force? Ok, i think gej must set up panel to look into this.

Ladies, pls one thing u can do to grant u automatic ticket 4 marriage is self-reliance. Girls r just to parasitic on guys.I mean wtf! No man wants 2 marry a liability in dis present economic situation.Nothin lik housewife again now. Evryone must work to bring in income 2 cater 4 d family. That's d truth. Stop sitting down doing nothing and u are expecting that rich guy to emerge frm nowhere and marry u. It does not work again now and i dont think it wil ever work again. U are dating a guy and the guy is hustling day and night telling u what he's doing and what he wants to be in d future but in ur own side, ur future seems ambitionless. How do expect such a guy to think of marrying who seems so ambitionless. Wake up girls! I know ur populatn times that of men, but even then, if things begin to go well and guys start getting married by 25 and above, it wil really help in dis matter. God bless

kulyie: and the only way the female folk can free themselves of this is by econonic independence instead of obseesing about marriage.a financially and intellectually independent woman is very difficult to take advantage of except if she chooses to be a victim.more often than not once a woman is not economically dependent on a man and is not looking for his approval to boost her self esteem,the world will literarily be at the palm of her hands,but what do we have today,women who have little or no self development,economically and intellectually,depending on a man for almost everything and looking up to him for approval,why wont they always be the victim

You know kulyie, it doesn't always happen like that. No matter the financial and career fulfilment, everyone (man and woman) crave for marriage.

A man or woman can hardly be happy and fulfilled if he or she ends up unmarried for life. No matter his or her career and riches, he/she can never be totally happy and fulfilled, that's nature for us.

Or why do u think presidents, billionaires still marry? They wouldn't have.

Or don't u see plenty ladies nowadays who have wonderful careers and are working in high places, who are single and unhappy and searching desperately for a soulmate to marry? That's to tell u that no matter the career and financial fulfilment, a woman's pride is in her ability to sustain a happy marriage and family.

Some ladies have made that mistake of thinking that getting the best career and immersing wealth was all that they needed to be happy in life, and they did achieved their wish but are still unhappy and running up and down in search of a man to marry them, and still can't find.

You know, I had this late aunt, my dad's elder sis, she had money but couldn't marry. She did had kids out of wedlock, but she was always unhappy and angry. So my father told us its cos she didn't marry, and her daughters do say same until she died.

You know, y marrying early doesn't bother guys is cos even at 70yrs, a man can still scramble around to get a young girl to marry and have kids, and if he then has money, the more chances he has of getting a pretty young girl. But its not always so for women due to menopause and other natural phenomena, and that's y a reasonable woman shouldn't follow a man to be singing- I won't marry now, I am still pursuing my career, pls don't follow him o pls.


Nature favours him in that aspect. As a lady, act fast, be wise, make the hay while the sun shines, not all guys coming to toast u really want to keep u till old age. Sorry, men are cunning, just use ur head.

May God help our generation.

RedBenson: So it has com to this? To marry now becoms a force? Ok, i think gej must set up panel to look into this.

Ladies, pls one thing u can do to grant u automatic ticket 4 marriage is self-reliance. Girls r just to parasitic on guys.I mean wtf! No man wants 2 marry a liability in dis present economic situation.Nothin lik housewife again now. Evryone must work to bring in income 2 cater 4 d family. That's d truth. Stop sitting down doing nothing and u are expecting that rich guy to emerge frm nowhere and marry u. It does not work again now and i dont think it wil ever work again. U are dating a guy and the guy is hustling day and night telling u what he's doing and what he wants to be in d future but in ur own side, ur future seems ambitionless. How do expect such a guy to think of marrying who seems so ambitionless. Wake up girls! I know ur populatn times that of men, but even then, if things begin to go well and guys start getting married by 25 and above, it wil really help in dis matter. God bless

you have good points, but its not only being liability or parasite that's it the problem why most ladies are single.

Believe me, if its just that, most guys wouldn't mind seriously. There are guys with lots of cash looking for a lady to even help them spend it, but that's if they are sure of her mission.

You know, all men want and crave for respect. But unfortunately, most of our today ladies don't have respect for guys seriously. Its even common amongst the working class ladies earning good income. And no man wants to marry a lady who can't respect him.


If you want him to propose ASAP, show him some allegiance. Respect him, come on, Bible said- worship him, so do that and watch him beg for u to marry him. Respect! Respect! Humility! Obedience! Understanding! Being realistic and reasonable are some of the major qualities real guys are searching for in a single lady. Just let go of all those gender equality nonsense Americans and Europeans brought to us, which failed them and even created more divorce cases and single mothers for them, let it go and learn from your mother and stop reasoning like a feminist or else, u may find it hard to get a husband or even if u get one, it may end up in a divorce, God forbid pls.

Any woman, who is yet to marry above 30, would had been a poor man if she is a man. The same rule that governs looking for money by a man is the same rule that governs looking for husband by a woman.

mecussey: Any woman, who is yet to marry above 30, would had been a poor man if she is a man. The same rule that governs looking for money by a man is the same rule that governs looking for husband by a woman.

Even those 30 year olds would turn their nose at the poor man. They would also refuse to marry a guy younger than them. So their options are somewhat limited.

Nosyke: Interesting thread.

*buys popcorn and la casera, grabs chair and enjoys the show*

*teambachelors*

You shouldn't be happy on other people's problem. This is a national problem that even concern your sisters or cousin sisters. So don't joke with it because is a problem that needs urgent solution

Nwa Teacher: You shouldn't be happy on other people's problem. This is a national problem that even concern your sisters or cousin sisters. So don't joke with it because is a problem that needs urgent solution

So what is your solution?

Nwa Teacher: You shouldn't be happy on other people's problem. This is a national problem that even concern your sisters or cousin sisters. So don't joke with it because is a problem that needs urgent solution

Honestly, that's y I always feel concerned about this issue.

You know, we maybe laughing and lollying around today cos we are the bachelors benefiting and not worried, and thinking that it doesn't concern us since we are guys, what about our sisters, cousin sisters, nieces, and possibly our own daughters tomorrow

We will definitely be the one she will run back to, to cry- daddy, I hate guys, he broke my heart again. Tell me, at that point would you still be laughing at single ladies

You will then turn to an angry daddy hunting after guys dating or eyeing your daughters.

Honestly, guys let's not laugh or rejoice over this situation simply becos we feel we are guys cos its also affecting us one after the other- directly or indirectly.

These are crazy times. Got involved with a lady about 31 and am 29 and seriously, told her straight up I wanted marriage... First, she said I must prove it. I was reduced to an errand buy to buy stuffs. I use my car to get her around town n she doesn't care how I fuel, but I must fill her bigger gen with fuel, pick up laundry, buy bottled water and all time we ate out, I do the paying... When we discussed marriage, she said we would need 4 to 5 million. Okay, no problem, let's save towards it, as she earn well too( 250k), she said I should take care it. Then cut down on guest list, as mine is no more than 20, she said the least she would expect is 250 so we must plan for that. Thank God, no sex... It was easy for me to take a walk. 1 year on, she is still single. I know I will find a wife soonest... As my new biz picks up properly. most Ladies want the best wedding to post on facebook...