skyladon22:




Please just involve yourself in the word of God

Forget wonderful sexual activities from him

Not even your pastor can convince him

He will only tell them he don hear but wont change

I am sorry you are married to him so you have to endure it.

I feel for you sha at your age

One of the reasons it isnt advisable to marry a far older man

at that time i thought as an expirience man he will knw better, he first marry when he was 25, this my complain is what he made me to know his exes complain, some time if i probe more or having discussion, or some time he just say it by mistake, hmmmm

oweniwe:


if ur wife starve you of sex for months, you will remember "for beta for worse"?


Dymondgurl

chai..... Fine babe

Oweniwe I see you!...thanks anyway.

Dymondgurl:
Oweniwe I see you!...thanks anyway.

do u kno ur pix is my wall paper right now? I appreciate.....
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A beautiful smile cos it makes me smile too.

Pepunis:
he was like there is no need wasting time, i knw u are my wife already

Don't worry he will change

skyladon22:


You are still asking why no courtship

Aint you going through the same thing despite your courtship?

The question would have been "why didnt they sample during courtship"?

Mins is different, this is why I hate to be real here

Pepunis:
if u tell him he do not own his body he will tell u that is the only chapter u knw i the bible, he will quote levitus where it is written when a man have intercourse wit his wife he is defile for 24hrs, he really need re-orientation, but how?, will he give in?

hmmm! First of all, your hussy is wrongly interpreting the scriptures: lev 18:23 says a man should not have sexual relationship with an animal lest he defile himself. Not his wife but an animal( bestiality)

Most likely, he had a poor sexua.l orientation while growing up and also maybe the kind of church he grew in was one that shy away from se.x. But lemme leave the past and look at the present.

Sorry am saying this o, but I see your husband as one that doesn't give much room to the feeling or opinion of his wife( I may be wrong though). If that is the case, what I'll encourage you to do is to get his attention: there must be something that excites him or catches his attention or there should be a time of the day when he is quiet and ready to listen. Take advantage of that opportunity and pour your hearts out to him but mind you, not rudely or loudly but with wisdom and reason making him know that he's being unfair to you.

If it still doesn't work, get your spiritual head involved( not your family members or friends) I am sure he would give him. They may have to compel him into doing his responsibility. He may not like it, but he'll have to do it because of the respect he has for them.

I won't advise you to involve marriage counsellors that are. Not really "christian" because I doubt if he would listen to them.

It takes two to be married and both are responsible for the other.

Phillipians 2:4: "don't just think about your own affairs, but be interested in others, too, and in what they are doing."

Why I said talk to your pastor of Spiritual/marital guide because I want to believe you have a couple you are both looking up( more like a discipler or role model) and am sure they should have a very sound knowledge on the Bible's stand on this matter and so they can exercise a level of authority over your husband.

It is not bad to compel people to do their responsibilities when they are not willing to.

Also, take up the matter in prayer I know God is able to turn his heart aright. But cheating on him or breaking up, shouldn't be an option because it is possible that God has pit you in that marriage, so that you can help that aspect of his life.

#marriageIsaboutMutualedification

brito:






Don't worry he will change

Amen

oweniwe:


do u kno ur pix is my wall paper right now? I appreciate.....
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A beautiful smile cos it makes me smile too.

thanks, but wall paper?! Kinda scary. Don't wanna get implicated tho...

brito:






Don't worry he will change

for wia? A man in his 50s?

I assume he is thinking he is already "spent" so no need trying.

But he may be hiding something about his past too sha.

Pepunis pls check ur inbox

Dymondgurl:
thanks, but wall paper?! Kinda scary. Don't wanna get implicated tho...

no no no no....
Am a gentleman.

Just that d pix makes me smile whenever i look at it. . . . Why should i overlook what makes me happy?

So i decided to "keep it"......!!...

JEITO:
hmmm! First of all, your hussy is wrongly interpreting the scriptures: lev 18:23 says a man should not have sexual relationship with an animal lest he defile himself. Not his wife but an animal( bestiality)

Most likely, he had a poor sexua.l orientation while growing up and also maybe the kind of church he grew in was one that shy away from se.x. But lemme leave the past and look at the present.

Sorry am saying this o, but I see your husband as one that doesn't give much room to the feeling or opinion of his wife( I may be wrong though). If that is the case, what I'll encourage you to do is to get his attention: there must be something that excites him or catches his attention or there should be a time of the day when he is quiet and ready to listen. Take advantage of that opportunity and pour your hearts out to him but mind you, not rudely or loudly but with wisdom and reason making him know that he's being unfair to you.

If it still doesn't work, get your spiritual head involved( not your family members or friends) I am sure he would give him. They may have to compel him into doing his responsibility. He may not like it, but he'll have to do it because of the respect he has for them.

I won't advise you to involve marriage counsellors that are. Not really "christian" because I doubt if he would listen to them.

It takes two to be married and both are responsible for the other.

Phillipians 2:4: "don't just think about your own affairs, but be interested in others, too, and in what they are doing."

Why I said talk to your pastor of Spiritual/marital guide because I want to believe you have a couple you are both looking up( more like a discipler or role model) and am sure they should have a very sound knowledge on the Bible's stand on this matter and so they can exercise a level of authority over your husband.

It is not bad to compel people to do their responsibilities when they are not willing to.

Also, take up the matter in prayer I know God is able to turn his heart aright. But cheating on him or breaking up, shouldn't be an option because it is possible that God has pit you in that marriage, so that you can help that aspect of his life.

#marriageIsaboutMutualedification

thanks so much for ur lovely post, it will help, i pray he change oooo,

Pepunis:
i dey that is why am induring, praying for a change

pray well well.btw smtin tells me u've already started to knack kpekus outside or dat u want to start.and ur looking for reasons to justify ur already guilty as charged conscience.IMO

oweniwe:


for wia? A man in his 50s?

I assume he is thinking he is already "spent" so no need trying.

But he may be hiding something about his past too sha.

Pepunis pls check ur inbox

i have checked thanks

successking401:
pray well well.btw smtin tells me u've already started to knack kpekus outside or dat u want to start.and ur looking for reasons to justify ur already guilty as charged conscience.IMO

i will tell him i saw his twin, God bless though chief judge

oweniwe:


for wia? A man in his 50s?

I assume he is thinking he is already "spent" so no need trying.

But he may be hiding something about his past too sha.

Pepunis pls check ur inbox

He may change one day

Pepunis:
i will tell him i saw his twin, God bless though chief judge

brito:
how do you think a 50s church eccentric woman will react if her husband tells her to start wearing jeans trousers like a young gal cos it turns him on....

Do u think she will start wearing trousers?

Pepunis:
thanks so much for ur lovely post, it will help, i pray he change oooo,

you are welcome.

But you don't sound positive Well, I don't blame you for that. But it is important you believe it and confess it only then would you see it happen.

Play your part, a wise wife builds her home: every woman has a weapon, potent enough to turn her husband's heart to her- discover yours and begin to use it positively.

Pepunis:
What do i do, when my husband has no interest in sex, after several conversation on the issue, he told me point and black that he drive no happines in sex, that sex is not his life style, that if not for children he will remain enuch till death. This sex issue destroyes his first and second marriage, He made me to know that the prevous was caught wit different men to the extend of them getting pregnant, mine is the third marriage, now i know he is the cause of their unfaithfulnes, for me i don't want to sleep with another except my husband, but he is starving the madness out of me, like once in a month, if u ask him either he has prayer or he has major problems not sex, i inquire and was made to understand that, that is his life right from youth, am 33 he is 50, please am dying silently, but i know he is a good man but this sex is the prob i have with him, and i love sex at least 3 times a week,

Choi.. third marriage

When he courted you, did u even bother asking why he had 2 previous marriages

You a young filly married a man in MANopause

As coogar says, better go procure a vibrator cos if u are a caught..its out the window!

marriage no 4!

Pepunis your best bet here is to invest in intimacy gadget, yes that. Even married ones with quite healthy sex life uses it. He will likely not agree but who will he report to? He is even hiding under scriptures when the problem is his mindset(ego-he got plenty). Did his previous marriage not produce kids? Why did a 'scriptural man' remarried after divorce if not for society? Unless your prayers makes him accept to see a counsellor he will not change...at 50 how much and long can you hope. Stop killing yourself over this, put your feet down if he resists and get the gadget then invest the remaining energy for more productive things. One more thing, do not allow him to transfer this mindset to your kids.

Pepunis:
What do i do, when my husband has no interest in sex, after several conversation on the issue, he told me point and black that he drive no happines in sex, that sex is not his life style, that if not for children he will remain enuch till death. This sex issue destroyes his first and second marriage, He made me to know that the prevous was caught wit different men to the extend of them getting pregnant, mine is the third marriage, now i know he is the cause of their unfaithfulnes, for me i don't want to sleep with another except my husband, but he is starving the madness out of me, like once in a month, if u ask him either he has prayer or he has major problems not sex, i inquire and was made to understand that, that is his life right from youth, am 33 he is 50, please am dying silently, but i know he is a good man but this sex is the prob i have with him, and i love sex at least 3 times a week,

invest all your next month's salary on dïldos & duracell batteries.

Pepunis:
i will tell him i saw his twin, God bless though chief judge

Epic response!

So much conveyed in a simple sentence

Seriously this man is old, let him be before he breaks his waist. You swore to celibacy the day you chose a man almost two decades older. For better, for worse....

beeevan:
Seriously this man is old, let him be before he breaks his waist. You swore to celibacy the day you chose a man almost two decades older. For better, for worse....

be nice!

beeevan:
Seriously this man is old, let him be before he breaks his waist. You swore to celibacy the day you chose a man almost two decades older. For better, for worse....

You wicked!

sorry u hv to go thru dis.my advice serve him groundnut and carrot and see if he will b on fire,if he still doesnt comply then get a Love Machine or vibrator and help urself out

coogar:


be nice!

Am trying.

edwife:


You wicked!

Nah true nah .

A 50yr old ma change?!!!!!!

Nairaland is just so optimistic , the man is set in his ways by now. Just forget or put it at the back of your mind.

fluffyz:
sorry u hv to go thru dis.my advice serve him groundnut and carrot and see if he will b on fire,if he still doesnt comply then get a Love Machine or vibrator and help urself out

Please inform me here,because i am seriously confused.

What are their benefits?

Eyah
*sobs*
Erm madam, if u want intimacy gadget, u can holla ehn, I will give u plentiful varieties
Don't cheat with a man oo
I can also get u a male figure

Bt honestly I feel u
And again u can't do nothin

Don't forget to send the mail ko

Guguru and carrot

pickabeau1:
Guguru and carrot

Do you know anything about it?

I need to know.