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Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by Nobody: 9:57am On Nov 18, 2014
Seems like people are just here to judge. Its not all about money. For a genuine young woman, it's about the commitment and time. The promises made and loyalty she gave. If a man promises that he would marry u and she commited her time, her love and every other thing to you and suddenly the man wakes up and say I am not interested. That to me is being used and dumped. You don't no what it feels to commit your life into a relationship of 5 years. Doesn't mean the woman was not working or earning her own money. It's all about commitment. I am upset that some I to know women commenting on this thread are busy blaming women to. Whether we accept it or not women are always at the receiving end. Nobody is perfect and people are different. We were not all made to be morally strong when it comes to abstaining from sex. But a woman who is loyal to a man believing that all will work out well should not be blamed when the man decides to live her because he found someone better or he suddenly lost interest in her. That to me is a bridge of trust and loyalty.

People enter a relationship for different reasons and it is stupid to think a woman who feels used is because she doesn't work or because she is dependent on the man. No matter how u guys colour it. What is wrong is wrong. Do not make promises u cannot keep same goes for women. Love is about loyalty and commitment. Anybody who made a promise and did not fulfill that promise is a user. Period!

A woman always feel used and dump because most times she is at the receiving end. If the woman is still in love wiv u and u just decided to leave her, is she meant to be happy. A virgin can feel used because of the time she must have invested in nurturing the relationship. Or maybe I am not getting the point or being used has a different meaning.

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Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by sabyab: 9:58am On Nov 18, 2014
Gals wil be shouting dey used and dumped dem.wat abt gals dat ar collecting money from d guys without touch dem,at d end dey wil run,buh guys wil not shout......
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by herrdeustch: 10:02am On Nov 18, 2014
I want to see this use and dump issue from a biblical perspective.When God created a woman because of Adam , it was so that she could be a help for him.Then the Bible further said that Husbands must love their wives as Christ loved the Church ,for the wives , the bible said that wives should submit to their husbands.My submission is that any man in a relationship with a woman owes her love and care and nurture.The period of his relationship with her, he must pursue her development emotionally, intellectually,health-wise, financially , spiritually , socially,career-wise and any other positive way.If he does these things, then even if they are not together any longer, the guy has played his part in her life by adding value and so he is fair.It is worthy of note that sex is not the only way a man uses a woman-it could be emotionally, financially, socially,etc,but a major way that hurts women the most is in terms of the time,commitment,love and sacrifices they make for their guy.Summarily,guys pls dont commit a womans emotions when you know that you are not going all the way with her,girls don't give what will hurt you till he takes you to the altar coz all this will amount to using and dumping whether na guy or girl

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Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by zubby29(m): 10:03am On Nov 18, 2014
FLAWLES:
.my head/memory no de too work in d mwnin...........ask me leta in d day
lol,pls change ur signature,u r 2 pretty to call urself dat
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by uruomostephen(m): 10:03am On Nov 18, 2014
most girls give it out 4 free & she don't kw if the guy love her or not,the nest word you will ye 4RM them is that guy dump me
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by mosesakoja: 10:04am On Nov 18, 2014
This girl took my moni no sex n she left she used me WHY God deoooooooooo
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by mosesakoja: 10:04am On Nov 18, 2014
This girl took my moni no sex n she left she used me WHY God deoooooooooo
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by Nobody: 10:05am On Nov 18, 2014
SpaceGoat:
why you no make your picture full? angry

Put your own na. I will personally dedicate the full pic to you.

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Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by Nobody: 10:09am On Nov 18, 2014
Kachisbarbie:


Put your own na. I will personally dedicate the full pic to you.

Someone has pretty eyes.
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by FLAWLES(f): 10:10am On Nov 18, 2014
zubby29:
lol,pls change ur signature,u r 2 pretty to call urself dat
.hehehehe
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by hapiness44(f): 10:11am On Nov 18, 2014
dopedealer:
The one wey dey vex me pass... even gurl wey you just manage chop make he no be like waste go dey tell you say shebi you have gotten what you want!! that question makes me feel sad... like foreal ? so you mean i have no other punanies or is your puna going to make me rich .. embarassed
no offence please..I hope you have a sister!
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by Nobody: 10:11am On Nov 18, 2014
herrdeustch:
I want to see this use and dump issue from a biblical perspective.When God created a woman because of Adam , it was so that she could be a help for him.Then the Bible further said that Husbands must love their wives as Christ loved the Church ,for the wives , the bible said that wives should submit to their husbands.My submission is that any man in a relationship with a woman owes her love and care and nurture.The period of his relationship with her, he must pursue her development emotionally, intellectually,health-wise, financially , spiritually , socially,career-wise and any other positive way.If he does these things, then even if they are not together any longer, the guy has played his part in her life by adding value and so he is fair.It is worthy of note that sex is not the only way a man uses a woman-it could be emotionally, financially, socially,etc,but a major way that hurts women the most is in terms of the time,commitment,love and sacrifices they make for their guy.Summarily,guys pls dont commit a womans emotions when you know that you are not going all the way with her,girls don't give what will hurt you till he takes you to the altar coz all this will amount to using and dumping whether na guy or girl
cool


Summarily,guys pls dont commit a womans emotions when you know that you are not going all the way with her,girls don't give what will hurt you till he takes you to the altar coz all this will amount to using and dumping whether na guy or girl [/quote] cool
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That is exactly my point. Why should they blame women and remove men from the equation. It all boils down to trust, loyalty and commitment. People are not trustworthy anymore. Even when a relationship is defined from the beginning. The man or woman still ends up messing up. Who ever is at the receiving end would feel used. Simple. Men should stop making promises they cannot fulfill. Define your relationship from the beginning. If u no its sex u want and u don't want commitment, there are a thousand and one girls outside who equally wants sex and doesn't want commitment. Look for such girls and don't go hurting innocent ones. Same as women who is all about money and not love. Don't hurt an innocent guy. Chop all his money and then realise he is not fine enough for u or he is not your taste. If we all are loyal and truthful, nobody will be using anybody. Till thy kingdom come, people will be getting used. Nobody is the smartest. We just pray we don't get caught in between those lines.

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Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by Nobody: 10:12am On Nov 18, 2014
churchboy004:
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Well guys like to fell all macho and don't care like its not a big deal and i agree with you guys get used as well.
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by iykedare(m): 10:21am On Nov 18, 2014
moreeni:
Most grown girls don't say or think that. They are usually wise enough to be objective in their thoughts and perceptions. Sometimes, the best that could happen to a relationship is for it to fall apart so other good things could fall together. After all, not all relationships lead to marriages.

story for the gods
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by Nobody: 10:21am On Nov 18, 2014
SirShymex:


And what's bad in selling a dream to someone who's a willing buyer, especially folks in deep sleep? grin

Tell chics to step their game and brains up.

And real nyggahs don't get used, only manginas with tampons and emotional problems get used. When you meet a chic, you should be able to see through her in no time, if you're observant. Chics give too many hints.

So if a chic is sleeping you use her? This is why society has prostitutes to meet your randy needs not "use" the sleeping beauties. My humanoid friend you need to start paying for services. tongue

The game is never going to be stepped up but men can choose who they want to be Real men or man boys.

Which real nyggahs? take a quick browse through the romance section.
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by Nobody: 10:25am On Nov 18, 2014
youngice:

I observed that most comments were devoid of truth

the term use and dump most rightly refers to when the Lady in question is a novice , which means she is still a "learner".
A guy will approach her, caox her in to thinking that he loves her, he can even go as far a promising marriage, the guy then drains her emotionally,physically,spiritually some times financially
The guy now elopes or dumps her , leaving her a shell or Shadow of who she once was
This leads to the term " use and dump"


I thank you for noticing.
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by bukatyne(f): 10:34am On Nov 18, 2014
FrancisTony:


Average Nigerian girls know nothing but marriage, that's why they sob whenever a guy dump them.
You will see a girl in her late twenties doing anything(both good and weird), to please a guy because of marriage.

A Nigerian girl would rather marry than to be hardworking.
It's cool that we now have women who don't depend on any man or allow what society would say get to them.

That's a perfect woman.

I think you all are not fair to Nigerian ladies...

The same people expect them to get married et al turn around and castigate them for trying to get married. Don't you see the amount of BS posters spill on Rita Dominic threads?

@OP: You guys are just being funny as usual. Who started the use and dump talk?
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by lalasticlala(m): 10:43am On Nov 18, 2014
FLAWLES:
.and u ll claim u er a student(graduate)d last time i checkd scientist concluded dat female enjoy sex more...........+you both ad d sex'she pound u pound'she suck u suck'so who is being use here?abeg getta life


Hahahahahaha
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by logica(m): 10:47am On Nov 18, 2014
youngice:

I observed that most comments were devoid of truth

the term use and dump most rightly refers to when the Lady in question is a novice , which means she is still a "learner".
A guy will approach her, caox her in to thinking that he loves her, he can even go as far a promising marriage, the guy then drains her emotionally,physically,spiritually some times financially
The guy now elopes or dumps her , leaving her a shell or Shadow of who she once was
This leads to the term " use and dump"

No wonder I have been a shadow of myself (and I therefore have no shadow since a shadow cannot form a shadow). The woman who took my virginity used me! I spent money on her, and got drained. This also applies to men right? Or is it for only women? Sebi we are equal na?
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by FLAWLES(f): 10:48am On Nov 18, 2014
lalasticlala:



Hahahahahaha
.why er laffing na
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by bukatyne(f): 10:48am On Nov 18, 2014
youngice:

I observed that most comments were devoid of truth

the term use and dump most rightly refers to when the Lady in question is a novice , which means she is still a "learner".
A guy will approach her, caox her in to thinking that he loves her, he can even go as far a promising marriage, the guy then drains her emotionally,physically,spiritually some times financially
The guy now elopes or dumps her , leaving her a shell or Shadow of who she once was
This leads to the term " use and dump"


God bless you for this

I wonder who started the phrase...

Ok, let's be real... (What do guys mean when they say use and dump)?
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by bukatyne(f): 10:50am On Nov 18, 2014
youngice:

U never jam devil

I have heard of cases where guys date a lady for years just to access her honeypot and ends the relationship after the deed
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by lalasticlala(m): 10:50am On Nov 18, 2014
FLAWLES:
.why er laffing na

Quite hilarious
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by lalasticlala(m): 10:51am On Nov 18, 2014
dopedealer:
The one wey dey vex me pass... even gurl wey you just manage chop make he no be like waste go dey tell you say shebi you have gotten what you want!! that question makes me feel sad... like foreal ? so you mean i have no other punanies or is your puna going to make me rich .. embarassed


Lol. Nawa o. Una wan kil person with lafta
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by lalasticlala(m): 10:53am On Nov 18, 2014
alaura:
Guys also say they were used and dumped,esp if he has spent his savings on a girl. And on ur question on why girls feel they've been used, its becos they feel they have given their all to a guy wen they have sex wit him,and esp if they thot u were going marry them. And its mostly d ones that really love d guy that feel used and dumped, cos if a girl does not love a guy, she would not feel it if they go their separate ways.
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by cupidhero(m): 10:55am On Nov 18, 2014
disloman:
LIAR DETECTED.
oga na true o,i wish i was like you o. wish i could just do it with them and dump them easily. it is so bad my default character is still the same after all i have been through. before you scream "busted",just check your lie detector,it might be busted.
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by Neroanna(f): 11:03am On Nov 18, 2014
TheNaijan:

Dude! I guess you are a ReturnofKings or RooshV reader-- but anyway-you are spot on...I'd have said something similar...
i think he is a red pill reader too.... He made some valid points.

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Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by Nobody: 11:06am On Nov 18, 2014
pussyaddict:


Be sincere, if a girl isn't lied to, would she give in? What do you think those sweet words really are, truth? In my lifetime of experience, only few girls really understand guys though they all claim to do and going by the truth to get a girl ends u up with no result

No she wont give in if you just meet her and tell her you want to hit it but you know what there are girls who are slutty and will even get turned on by your directness look for those also there are prostitutes for men they don't need to con a girl to give it up. Use prostitutes and pay! different kind of prostitutes sef high class, low class, roadside ones, runs gals anyone that suits their fancy but you men won't because you like it free, disease free, you want the illusion of romance and love, this is why you lie. Men like to think they are above doing cheap hoes but want to devalue the good gal who gave up her prized possession in hopes of satisfying her darling.

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Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by Nobody: 11:07am On Nov 18, 2014
Reason I will always ask ladies to liberate themselves. All these stupid guys around are not worthshit.
You don't have to f##k him to please him,do it to please yourself. Buy some good stuffs for yourself and be happy. When you feel Hot again,call him over and end it there. You can then face your own normal business.
Love is a sham for those that care to know.

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Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by blaise26abj(m): 11:09am On Nov 18, 2014
People are generally selfish and unfortunately this trait doesn't take a backseat in relationships.

So till this world ends, people will be used. The dumping is the dependent on how fast the victim soji (wise up) himself/herself.
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by deleo16(m): 11:10am On Nov 18, 2014
When Expectation is higher your disappointment will be higher. thats the problem of many of them
Re: Why Do Women Always Claim They Have Been Used And Dumped Once A Guy Leaves Them? by NOLONGTIN1(m): 11:12am On Nov 18, 2014
cupidhero:
OP God will bless you,i have asked a million girls this question and they have never given me a good answer. my ex GF wanted to sexually relate with me but declined and gave stupid reasons. imagine a dude running away from such opportunity. she had no idea i was only doing it cos of what or how she might feel like after we seperate. you can't tell where this things are heading,you might just hit a rock anyday. This particular comments from these ladies is why i stay away from so many relationships i could have had. give me a green light and watch me break traffic laws with my space car. ladies always feel used,dumped and whatever anytime we say it is over. i tire for una o.

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Really, are you telling me you refused your GF offer of sex to protect her? because you didn't want her to claim that you used and dumped her.

Wait oooooo, You did that to protect her and not because of d many sexual problems you have? tlk true.

Pls this story does not fly.

Abi you think say we be Adamus' 4 here?
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