Answer to the question.....

Have kissed lots of frogs before I met you prince charming

Tashaamania:


I'm right. People like Lagunna I know, infact all men, wants one thing- not to be cheated upon yet they want to cheat..

Lagunna I know, yes I know
Someone told me and you know

. You have been making sense till dis point...what do u mean by generalizing that all men don't want to be cheated upon yet they want to cheat,please be specific when you are making assertions, all girls are not sluts neither are all guys dogs....chai!!!!

I don't think it is necessary though but my question is; what should someone do when your partner is still in touch with his/her "X" and he/she keeps telling you they are just friends no string attached but they still have intimate chat and as well with some other guys who they claim are just friends? I need advise please because is eating me up!!!

Silly question

Lagunna:


Leave matter for matthias joor.. It's not wrong to want to know intimate details about your partner.

Would you rather that he or she finds out the truth from someone else? Or may be you'd rather tell a lie and lie awake at night wondering what would happen if they knew the truth?
Honesty is the best policy here.

To love someone is to know that person". That means that for true intimacy based on love and trust to unfold, you have to get to that place where you know everything about someone and love everything you know, unconditionally. That includes his or her past. After all we are to some degree a by-product of our past experiences.

and that includes finding out "how. Many pple he/she has slept with" that ur urge for his Or her past details definitly means u careless abt the relationship cos hUman don't have the heart to hold the truth unless if we are being lied to, asking h many Pple ur partner had sex with? Dumb qestion

emperorchedda:
The past defines the future
If you don't know history you can't understand the present/future

A girl who has slept with bunch of men before you date her will continue the trend because her body can no longer adapt to a single diick. Like they say Once a soldier always a soldier

And u think she will tell you exact amount?

Why is it always Nairaland has ten or more topics about sex per day? Are Nigerians sex addicts or sex deprived?

It is kinda appropriate if you guys (the couple) are being totally sincere and open with yourselves. Its the past but alota things in the past affect the future, oh and the past can replay itself. So, for me its a sensible and appropriate question.

HirstMOG:
I don't think it is necessary though but my question is; what should someone do when your partner is still in touch with his/her "X" and he/she keeps telling you they are just friends no string attached but they still have intimate chat and as well with some other guys who they claim are just friends? I need advise please because is eating me up!!!

She's cheating on you. You probably need to hack her phone to get prove of what i've just said.

[size=14pt]In a serious relationship, both lovers will want to know what they have experienced in the past and what they have not.

To my psychology thinking it is normal to ask

...but what's the use when people will lie about their past.[/size]

ronald4lif:


Thank you jare. Daalu rinne

It's a two way thing, we always think men are free to play around but quick to call women names

Nobody has said so, so far. The truth is somewhere between asking and not asking. I personally would like to know how you have lived your life if I am thinking of marriage. I don't wanna go home with a girl that has slept with half of the city. Old habits die hard.

On the other hand, it might just not be necessary to dig if you can't handle the findings. Believe me, if you are a guy, just know that 99 out of 100 naija girls will lie to you. You will be number 2 or 3. Unfortunately, from the rear.

It is a good idea to have some kind of knowledge of whom you are dealing with. While what you don't know will not hurt you, it could kill you. There's a reason why our fathers and ancestors inquired before marriage. Know whom you are dealing with. It might save you a coin or two.

softysparky:

And a man that has slept with bunch of women?

Just like if a key opens different padlock, it's master key , but if different keys opens the same padlock, that's an ashawo padlock

It's good to ask... If your partner is not that experienced in bedmatics equation, you will know. Same, if your partner sabi bedmatics equations raised to power 2 you would know..

It's best to know the history of the person you are going out with, if you know their history from them it's far better to learn about it from outsiders. Because the past if not handle properly would fuvk up your present and consequently your future..

Renylee:
It is always advisable to leave the past where it belongs.

na lie ooooo.

Classicalmusic:
She's cheating on you. You probably need to hack her phone to get prove of what i've just said.

Thanks a lot m grateful!

I only meet virgins. I've no reason to ask such a nefarious question.

....ion really support too.much of prying into.d past.....what u do is as d relationship.grows u let it awt slowly......uon.wanna discover some deep shitty things from anoda source!!!

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Revealing ur past to ur partner as a lady is not something bad or a mistake but the thing is are u sure ur partner loves u enuf to 4giv and 4get ur past? Or are u sure ur partner is matured enuf to handle it and move on wit u like he met u a V? And are u sure dat he is ready and prepare to know everything abt u and still treats u like a queen dat u are? And if no to all dis questions then 4get abt tellin him and enjoy ur rltshp like u both neva had pasts. My opinion!

Lagunna:


Leave matter for matthias joor.. It's not wrong to want to know intimate details about your partner.

Would you rather that he or she finds out the truth from someone else? Or may be you'd rather tell a lie and lie awake at night wondering what would happen if they knew the truth?
Honesty is the best policy here.

To love someone is to know that person". That means that for true intimacy based on love and trust to unfold, you have to get to that place where you know everything about someone and love everything you know, unconditionally. That includes his or her past. After all we are to some degree a by-product of our past experiences.

Revealing ur past to ur partner as a lady is not something bad or a mistake but the thing is are u sure ur partner loves u enuf to 4giv and 4get ur past? Or are u sure ur partner is matured enuf to handle it and move on wit u like he met u a V? And are u sure dat he is ready and prepare to know everything abt u and still treats u like a queen dat u are? And if no to all dis questions then 4get abt tellin him and enjoy ur rltshp like u both neva had pasts. My opinion!

Lagunna:


Your left yansh

This is one of those issues that you will get arguments for both sides but in my opinion, YES you have every right to know because it could possibly affect your health or future if he/she has anything to spread. The sad part is that most if not all will lie about it when asked. People (female especially) don't want to expose their shame and regrets, especially to the guy they like and don't want him thinking less of her. But If you are going to build a relationship together and be intimate together than you have every right to know!!!
[b]Shikena :[/b]P

Shame? ??
Hian!!!!!
Anyway, I have been asked severally by guys and I have never asked a guy how many ladies he has slept with as I THINK IT AINT MATURED.To whom TOOTO and PRICCK is given, Bleep is expected.My ex asked me this USELESS question one very romantic night and this was EXACTLY the outcome.

Ex:HHow many men have you been with?
Messurprised, vexed) Really? What kind of question is that?
Ex:NNothing! Just curious to know (ssmiling mildly to get me to relax and spill)
Me:I am not gonna talk about that.that.Its my personal .......
Ex:I have the right to know! Just in case I happen to meet someone I know who must have blah blah. ?..
Mesensing he was challenging me, I stood up, brought out a biro and big long note sheet) I Wil call names, then you write.




Na so I start to dey list names of people wey Bleep me, the one I Bleep, the one wey I give BJ , the one wey give me Head down, the ones wey na kiss them chop, the ones wey na toes Dem lick, there are ones that will only insist on eating my sushi iiiiii (I go just spread the legs for their face, ENGOYYYMENT), The ones wey toast me, the ones wey I toast, the ones wey , huh hahaha, e get the ones wey na BOOBI b their Specialty alone, the ones wey we dey blow weed enter mouth dey too.The idiooot book kon fulfull.I could see him getting uncomfortable as I gave EXPLICIT JINGOLISM.By the time the names don dey pass 60, his hand writing kon change for paper .O boy, I know stop oooooooooooooo. I started adding my male siblings too. My guy finally asked me to STOP.

ME:Baby, you are yet to add your name
Exssqueezing the paper)I don't believe you anyway..
Me:Well, most people don't...
Ex:Are you for real...
Me:WWhy would you ask for truth you can't handle.
ExSad faced) I still insist I don believe you slept with over 60 men...

Silence everywhere
more silence
Two eyes looked at two, one was smiling while the other was looked very worried.
Anyways, he didn't believe me, and he wasn't the last.

TOOTO wey Baba God personally give me, na him person go dey cry inside, The person dey CRAZE? ?


Hi Lagunna.

evegran:
It is kinda appropriate if you guys (the couple) are being totally sincere and open with yourselves. Its the past but alota things in the past affect the future, oh and the past can replay itself. So, for me its a sensible and appropriate question.

Revealing ur past to ur partner as a lady is not something bad or a mistake but the thing is are u sure ur partner loves u enuf to 4giv and 4get ur past? Or are u sure ur partner is matured enuf to handle it and move on wit u like he met u a V? And are u sure dat he is ready and prepare to know everything abt u and still treats u like a queen dat u are? And if no to all dis questions then 4get abt tellin him and enjoy ur rltshp like u both neva had pasts. My opinion!

silibaba:


na lie ooooo.

Revealing ur past to ur partner as a lady is not something bad or a mistake but the thing is are u sure ur partner loves u enuf to 4giv and 4get ur past? Or are u sure ur partner is matured enuf to handle it and move on wit u like he met u a V? And are u sure dat he is ready and prepare to know everything abt u and still treats u like a queen dat u are? And if no to all dis questions then 4get abt tellin him and enjoy ur rltshp like u both neva had pasts. My opinion!

Lagunna:


Leave matter for matthias joor.. It's not wrong to want to know intimate details about your partner.

Would you rather that he or she finds out the truth from someone else? Or may be you'd rather tell a lie and lie awake at night wondering what would happen if they knew the truth?
Honesty is the best policy here.

To love someone is to know that person". That means that for true intimacy based on love and trust to unfold, you have to get to that place where you know everything about someone and love everything you know, unconditionally. That includes his or her past. After all we are to some degree a by-product of our past experiences.

Well said..

People don't understand that in a relationship, not the rubbish gf/bf ish, openness is particularly essential.
How do you expect someone to accept who you are if he/she doesn't really know you.
There should be no holds barred.
If you haven't gotten to the point where you are comfortable talking about whatever, then you can't truly say u love that person.
A guy that loves u WILL accept you... Truth.
Y'all will never know the benefit of openness till u try it.
..but make sure it is to someone worth it.

As f me, my wife knew my no even while dating n we even talk about the sexual details at times.

It's beta/less wahala

Only one person.

Question for the gods, if u love ya gf it shud be about NOW and d FUTURE. Sure u ought to know about certain aspect of d person buh no bi how many ppl don bleep ha.

Am sure I must have lost counts
So I can't ask
And I can't be asked shikina


But there are other ways to know this
Without this question.

softysparky:

And a man that has slept with bunch of women?

you took the words ryt out of my mouth!

i no dey ansa that kain yeye question...

anyone who ask such question do not see the relationship ending in a marriage. coz the answer will always be a basis in which u guys part. there won't be trust of any kind. imagine ur babe told u she slept with 12guys before meeting u, or u told her u'v had sex with 18 girls. how do u want trust to exist?

Nt really... Well it depends oo