steppin:

Inferiority complex? Nah! If you're actually in the UK and you can mess up the english language like this, e go better make you come home, cos you're wasting your life over there.

You see your problem, when I mentioned inferiority complex. I meant it in relation to English Language.

What if I did mess up English? My tutors have never complained so far about my essays and exams which by the way I take time to edit.

You could be right though, maybe I should come back home but the thing UK is also my home.

What do I do?

Justfollowit:



You see your problem, when I mentioned inferiority complex. I meant it in relation to English Language.

What if I did mess up English? My tutors have never complained so far about my essays and exams which by the way I take time to edit.

You could be right though, maybe I should come back home but the thing UK is also my home.

What do I do?

Don't waste your time studying? You know the answer to the question you asked.
I got a thick skin dear. Your sarcasm is noted.

Justfollowit:


SMH

It is not your fault, it is ours

I wish more women would be direct, decisive, firm, disciplined, decent, intelligent, ambitious and humble to know the shaft from the real deal

Your shaft is another woman's gold and she's smarter than you.

Truckpusher:
Your shaft is another woman's gold and she's smarter than you.

Steppin already made the correction for me

It is chaff and not shaft

Lol

Maybe
Maybe not

Yet you blame us, you just wrote on that an indecent woman maybe smarter than a decent one

donphilopus:


I tell you. Such is life though...But it can be very painful if he later finds out sha!

Find out what? digging into a woman's past is like opening a Pandora's box.

Justfollowit:




Stepping already made the for correction
It is chaff and not shaft

Lol

Maybe
Maybe not

Yet you blame us, you just wrote on that an indecent woman maybe smarter than a decent one

Lol, I guess I got caught up with your own spelling and hit the same shiit.
Back topic: by what standards do you measure a woman's decency, that one should be classified as indecent and another decent ?

Truckpusher:
Find out what? digging into a woman's past is like opening a Pandora's box.

E dey give heart attack

steppin:

Don't waste your time studying? You know the answer to the question you asked.
I got a thick skin dear. Your sarcasm is noted.

Really? My admission letter must have been mistakenly addressed to me. I must have cheated through my WAEC, IELTS and admission exams before I finally got to this university. Hmm, who could have known?

Would you like to have my passport and my ID

You know I can't leave them unused

The benefits that come with it must be tapped.

What do you suggest

Truckpusher:
Lol, I guess got caught with your own spelling and hit the same shiit.
Back topic: by what standards do you measure a woman's decency, that one should be classified as indecent and another decent ?

A woman who is neither gullible nor indecisive

christinauju:
OP as long as the feelings stays....I'v got a nigga who's bn hanging on for me for the past 4yrs now and I'm still not convinced about him buh he's still crushing despite the distance....so its up to you.



....If you feel she's worth the time and stressstill stand strong,buh if she's not worth it just check elsewhere jare.

absolute madness,ua just fooling urself,by the time u clock 40yrs,by special grace of God u've reached menopause,then u go know howfar,mtchewwwww!!!!!!!

Justfollowit:


A woman who is neither gullible nor indecisive

How many Islamic feminist active group do you have in the UK?
Help me with the answers please .

visit www.socialwritter..com

Truckpusher:
How many Islamic feminist active group do you have in the UK?
Help me with the answers please .

I don't know about any Islamic Feminist group.

Do I sound like a feminist

Why do you ask?

4yrs and the guy is still hoping when another man is enjoying you. That guy needs to have his head examined.

christinauju:
OP as long as the feelings stays....I'v got a nigga who's bn hanging on for me for the past 4yrs now and I'm still not convinced about him buh he's still crushing despite the distance....so its up to you.



....If you feel she's worth the time and stressstill stand strong,buh if she's not worth it just check elsewhere jare.

christinauju:
OP as long as the feelings stays....I'v got a nigga who's bn hanging on for me for the past 4yrs now and I'm still not convinced about him buh he's still crushing despite the distance....so its up to you.



....If you feel she's worth the time and stressstill stand strong,buh if she's not worth it just check elsewhere jare.

That "nigga" must be the most dumbest f.o.o.l that ever walked the planet. 4 precious years...they never born the girl wey I go toast for 4 weeks

Haba! Are you that stingy? If he's your best friend, add some benefits na.

christinauju:






Nah not offended at all..... He's actually my best friend and I'm scared of loosing my bestfriend,cos we v to drop some things and start up some things if we should date... buh he doesn't want to understand that part.

seedorfg:
ten year, i think

That is for ugly dudes like you

Raiders:
I met this beautiful girl last year on a public bus and she decided to give me her number. She is 22 years and a final year student of a major university. We have been texting and calling back and forth for the past 2 months and she told me she is single. I have been trying to woo her to be my girlfriend for over 2 months but she insist on us just been friends and she don't want a relationship.

I really like this girl and would love to date. but I feel like maybe she don't want to date me so yesterday I told her we should end our friendship because if she feels that am not good enough to date her then we shouldnt remain friends. I really don't want to waste another month trying to win her heart and later find out that she end up with another guy.

My last 2 previous relationships too me less than 2 weeks to woo my previous girlfriends so I am kinda surprise that after 2 months of trying to win her over she still insist on not dating me. At first, I thought maybe she was playing hard to get but I think 2 months is long enough.

My questions to nairalanders is how long should a guy try to woo a girl before giving up and moving on?

Say what..for what now..is she a drug undergoing preparations in the lab...lubbish

Justfollowit:


I don't know about any Islamic Feminist group.

Do I sound like a feminist

Why do you ask?

Ok, but you sound like a closet feminist to me but what I can't figure out is how you intend to pull through with Islam on your neck like yoke.

Truckpusher:
Ok, but you sound like a closet feminist to me but what I can't figure out is how you intend to pull through with Islam on your neck like yoke.

I am not a feminist

I am a Yoruba African lass :

I am also a Muslim

Over the years I have realized that the reason we have issues with the position of women in the society is attributable to the West and its history.

I know my rights in Islam and in my traditional Yoruba setting. Those are the rights I focus on. I believe the guy is the head of the family and the woman primary role is to maintain the home. In fact I don't mind being in a housewife for the sake of my family. My problem is when people fail to realize that these roles are very flexible with the type of society were are in.

I may appear to be a feminist when I see men being inconsiderate because of a stereotypical view of women. Like the issue of polygamy, I hate being told that it is islamically acceptable do I have to agree to it when we all know it is not obligatory and God himself said the best is sticking to one wife. Yet some would see it as some sort of a birthright. Those kind of men to me are extremely selfish and I don't like extremely selfish people- to me they are simply not human.


And I am more of a nature person (over nurture). I believe in the natural order of things and its consequences but of course with common sense. Therefore I wouldn't mind the death sentence for a rapist. Anything that directly or indirectly violates anyone's integrity should be subject to the absolute consequence.

So tell me how can I be a feminist?

After I talk to her on day one. After that first convo. And that's it. Anything else is extra n pointless. 7 billion people in the world. 3 billion are women.

Truckpusher:
Ok, but you sound like a closet feminist to me but what I can't figure out is how you intend to pull through with Islam on your neck like yoke.

My issue with African men is this argument
‘our mothers were sunmissive and so you have to be submissive' submission in their context is basically unrealistic. I believe in being a submissive wife but in that context.

Have you ever died to examine the women roles over the years:

In those days A new marriage starts with a young child/teen moving in with the wife, even at that they will not move into one big house. Rather they moved into a big family compounds filled with many wives, children and teens. Obviously, some house chores would be shared. They did not have everything in excess. Grinding with their hands does not count as a chore ( used to that almost every weekend before I left for UK-it wasn't a chore then). The only thing that counted was farming which is still subjective. The women contributed to the upkeep of the home though may not be in the same proportion. The women could travel miles to trade while leaving the husbands asking for weeks.

When the colonial masters came, the men were mostly in employment- and the women took care of the home. Yet the practice of having a young family member or more was still the norm. And they did not have everything in excess.

So where did the youths of today get the notion that their ‘foremothers' did everything without breaking a sweat? I will tell you where

It was between after the colonial era and now


Today, basically both parents work, 9am-5pm. Yet most men would say the woman should be responsible the 100% maintenance of the house with everything in excess because the guy contributes 100% to the upkeep of the house. That they she say is not submissive. If her job requires her to travel here and there, they will also say she considers her job to be more important than her family.

Why can't we have that toe of family setting again?

Why would the man contribute 100% of his income, what's up with the wife's?

Why can't the wife ask habitually for her husband to help her out in the house of even allow him to choose what he would like to do?

If all these reasonings make me a feminist, so be it then

TAKE MY WORD FOR IT,THAT GUY HAS CHANGED HIS MIND,HIS STILL AFTER YOU JUST TO GET HIS POUND OF MEAT

christinauju:
OP as long as the feelings stays....I'v got a nigga who's bn hanging on for me for the past 4yrs now and I'm still not convinced about him buh he's still crushing despite the distance....so its up to you.



....If you feel she's worth the time and stressstill stand strong,buh if she's not worth it just check elsewhere jare.

christinauju:
OP as long as the feelings stays....I'v got a nigga who's bn hanging on for me for the past 4yrs now and I'm still not convinced about him buh he's still crushing despite the distance....so its up to you.



....If you feel she's worth the time and stressstill stand strong,buh if she's not worth it just check elsewhere jare.

Four years and you're not still convinced ... You wicked o, Na medicine the guy dey read for your life ni? . I pray his feelings for you doesn't become weak when you finally submit your heart to him.

christinauju:
OP as long as the feelings stays....I'v got a nigga who's bn hanging on for me for the past 4yrs now and I'm still not convinced about him buh he's still crushing despite the distance....so its up to you.



....If you feel she's worth the time and stressstill stand strong,buh if she's not worth it just check elsewhere jare.

u r selfish!

Menh...try be close to her like close friendship

ALKARULEZZ:
shuuu! DELSU harsh anyhow o......me go sight d hard copy tomoro na

#no tym for the now o...... Na to cut chain follow book win am dis period o

Abeg if u sight am holla me abeg.....d vexnation were guys wan tk 4low awoko ehh..

Raiders:
I agree with you that 2 months is a long time to woo a girl. This is why I decided to end our friendship and told her to stop calling and texting her. I think it takes a girl less than a day to decide if they would date a guy or not but some girls just like playing hard to get.

You made a mistake, firstly that was selfish on your part. Your action has revealed that the only reason you wanted to know her was to date her

To know is to love & the best way to know someone is thru friendship & not relationship, because in friendship pretense is reduced compared to when one is in a relationship

If she doesn't want to date you, remain friends with her, she might come around later, you might get another thru her or she might turn out to be a trusted, reliable friends with no strings attached

you a slowpoke @Decryptor

humilitypays:
I get your point so well but to me, the girls are not to be blamed but the FOOLISH guys who keep chasing them for ages and giving them sense of entitlement and importance!

Any guy that chases a girl for more than one month (maximum) is either:

1. Jobless
2. Not lovable
3. Paranoid
4. Idle/lonely
5. Frustrated and unfocused
6. Partially insane

Or he has a bad mission; probably revenge.

No sane man should chase a girl for more than 1 week because that girl u are wasting time, effort and resources trying to convince to date u is dying for one guy somewhere to ask her out or she is being messed up, used mercilessly by one low-class guy somewhere, so why the hassle?

Guys are to blame

God bless you sire. chai

Enegod:
I never woo any woman for any length of time. If I find one interesting, I let her know that I find her interesting. She then gets one chance to respond suitably from there. If she does respond suitably, something may develope. If she does not respond in a suitable way, I move on to the next.

Life is too short to waste any of it trying to go where you aren't wanted. If you have to woo a woman for so long, it just means that she is not interested in you,
and you are too dense to realize it..

da comment z jst 4me....