Rose2014:

And to think that men also tongue lash their wives these days.
Men beginning to rant more than women, yet take offence when women beat them in the mouth game. so much for a lawless country

That is
Until u encounter a man with loose mouth, u will never understand.
Woman own is even better.

One of my cousins has a very bad mouth.
Don't ever try engaging this guy in tongue lashing context
Sure he will win
Even coogar will bow down
I don't know how he can manufacture so many insultive words in a short time and d way he dish them out eeh,osuofia is a learner .

Don't ever look for his trouble. After severally warning u, if his head is full, na u go run

I hope and pray he has stopped.

coogar:


when he calls her oponu X2, who do you think is more likely to go physical between the two? it's the woman. she gets hurt & locks the man's shirt.

"you must kill me today, you must beat me today". why are you pretending you dunno women are the primary aggressors of domestic violence 70% of the time?

Coogar it's a lie.
I don't believe u. Though she might(few)like to go physical,some will withdraw and cry, but u will do ur best to evade her or leave the house. She must cool down by force and has seen she will be d looser if she continues.
Next time,she will think twice.

There r many ways to deal with women like this now, everything is not about going physical.

Let me tell u, she will respect u by force.

It's psychological.

She will wanna go phsical so she will have evidence against u and u know once people see wound or blood,u r are always at fault.
So why not use ur sixth sense and outsmart her?

moca:

Coogar it's a lie.
I don't believe u. Though she might(few)like to go physical,some will withdraw and cry, but u will do ur best to evade her or leave the house. She must cool down by force and has seen she will be d looser if she continues.
Next time,she will think twice.

in most of the cases i have seen, the woman starts the nagging, starts the abuses, start throwing things or start destroying his things. i have seen women locking shirts, standing in his way, preventing him from going out to cool off.

yet, you think she doesn't deserve to be thrashed.

There r many ways to deal with women like this now, everything is not about going physical.

men don't beat about the bush or working out formulas to deal with women. the only quick fix most times is a brain-resetting slap.

Let me tell u, she will respect u by force.
It's psychological.

once a woman uses her mouth to abuse her hubby, the respect is gone! there's no point salvaging any respect any more. the man should just walk away & if she prevents him from leaving, then a slap should suffice.

She will wanna go phsical so she will have evidence against u and u know once people see wound or blood,u r are always at fault.
So why not use ur sixth sense and outsmart her?

now you are starting to speak the truth.

women will never accept that verbal abuse is destructive

see all sorts of justification

I will keep saying it.

If a woman hits first then she invited whatever she gets, the judge doesn't care who hit harder, he just wants to know who started it.

The issue of domestic abuse is not as one sided and simple as people make it out to be, I have grown enough to realize this, let us face facts please.

pickabeau1:
women will never accept that verbal abuse is destructive

see all sorts of justification

it's a woman's nature to abuse. God designed their mouth differently from men. now, when you tell them it's also in a man's nature to use his hands when provoked, they don't want to accept that.

moca is saying verbal abuse should be retaliated back with verbal abuse. why? my retaliation doesn't have to be weighted equally with what i was attacked with. if a pedöphile rapës my child, does it mean i must do the same thing to his child?

instead of them to admit verbal abuse is wrong & should be condemned like greatgod has succintingly put it, they are running from pillar to post to justify an evil behaviour. 21st century women can never handle responsibility.

coogar:


in most of the cases i have seen, the woman starts the nagging, starts the abuses, start throwing things or start destroying his things. i have seen women locking shirts, standing in his way, preventing him from going out to cool off.

yet, you think she doesn't deserve to be thrashed.



men don't beat about the bush or working out formulas to deal with women. the only quick fix most times is a brain-resetting slap.



once a woman uses her mouth to abuse her hubby, the respect is gone! there's no point salvaging any respect any more. the man should just walk away & if she prevents him from leaving, then a slap should suffice.



now you are starting to speak the truth.

Coogar, have u not seen a nagging man before?
Jeez!

Have u not seen a man who does all these u r mentioning?

What of if she is the stronger type physically or haven't u heard of women beating men up before?

The thing is this, all are bad but physical is very deadly and most men have the upper hand there cos of their strength.

coogar:


it's a woman's nature to abuse. God designed their mouth differently from men. now, when you tell them it's also in a man's nature to use his hands when provoked, they don't want to accept that.

moca is saying verbal abuse should be retaliated back with verbal abuse. why? my retaliation doesn't have to be weighted equally with what i was attacked with. if a pedöphile rapës my child, does it mean i must do the same thing to his child?

instead of them to admit verbal abuse is wrong & should be condemned like greatgod has succintingly put it, they are running from pillar to post to justify an evil behaviour. 21st century women can never handle responsibility.

As in
See the way they lynched the lady when all she said was mutual respect between the sexes

coogar:


it's a woman's nature to abuse. God designed their mouth differently from men. now, when you tell them it's also in a man's nature to use his hands when provoked, they don't want to accept that.

moca is saying verbal abuse should be retaliated back with verbal abuse. why? my retaliation doesn't have to be weighted equally with what i was attacked with. if a pedöphile rapës my child, does it mean i must do the same thing to his child?

instead of them to admit verbal abuse is wrong & should be condemned like greatgod has succintingly put it, they are running from pillar to post to justify an evil behaviour. 21st century women can never handle responsibility.

U are a very good example.
Ur mouth is razor.
Why are u e abusing all the time,coogar?
so u believe there r not men like u outside there?

Don't worry, we r still here.
One day, a case of man tongue lashing the woman will soon come up and I will alert u.

moca:

Coogar, have u not seen a nagging man before?
Jeez!

nope!
i have never seen a nagging man. if you have seen one then his woman made him so.

Have u not seen a man who does all these u r mentioning?

men who nag & lock the wrapper of their wives? stand in their way & prevent them from going out? on which planet do men attempt such?

What of if she is the stronger type physically or haven't u heard of women beating men up before?

hahahaha
women beating men, women abusing men - they are all domestic violence.

The thing is this, all are bad but physical is very deadly and most men have the upper hand there cos of their strength.

don't qualify one higher than the other.
a baboon's shyte, a man's shytë - it's irrelevant. shyte is shyte. verbal abuse & physical abuse are all bad.

moca:

U are a very good example.
Ur mouth is razor.
Why are u e abusing all the time,coogar?
so u believe there r not men like u outside there?

my mouth is razor to the people who deserve it. i was voted the most likeable gentleman in my neighbourhood recently. i don't look for trouble but if anyone looks for my trouble, the outcome can be very unpretty.

Don't worry, we r still here.
One day, a case of man tongue lashing the woman will soon come up and I will alert u.

you will find out in most cases, the woman started it & the man retaliated harder than he got. retaliation doesn't have to be weighted equally to the initial attack.

coogar:


my mouth is razor to the people who deserve it. i was voted the most likeable gentleman in my neighbourhood recently. i don't look for trouble but if anyone looks for my trouble, the outcome can be very unpretty.



you will find out in most cases, the woman started it & the man retaliated harder than he got. retaliation doesn't have to be weighted equally to the initial attack.

Who voted u coogar?
I still prefer ur type than d those that beat.
At least, I will be in sokoto replying u word for word until I'm tired.

I don't know why u always believe women start all these things all the time?
Haba!

If I'm married to FFK,nobody will tell me what to expect
Or amechi


Abeg, go and bring chaircover back.
I'm missing her so.

Double post

moca:

That is
Until u encounter a man with loose mouth u will never understand.
Woman own is even better.

One of my cousins has a very bad mouth.
Don't ever try engaging this guy in tongue lashing context
Sure he will win
Even coogar will bow down
I don't know how he can manufacture so many insultive words in a short time and d way he dish them out eeh,osuofia is a learner .

Don't ever look for his trouble. After severally warning u, if his head is full, na u go run

I hope and pray he has stopped.

We see them everyday in nairaland.

moca:

Who voted u coogar?
I still prefer ur type than d those that beat.
At least, I will be in sokoto replying u word for word until I'm tired.

na you go tire.

I don't know why u always believe women start all these things all the time?
Haba!

women start trouble 95% of the time.
remember, she constantly wants attention - that is her opium. ordinarily seeing her man enjoying a football game is enough to get her pissed. add her constant PMS into the equation and it's not hard to see that women are the number one cause of domestic squabbles.

If I'm married to FFK,nobody will tell me what to expect
Or amechi

hehe!
those ones are babies. wetin dem sabi?

Abeg, go and bring chaircover back.
I'm missing her so.

chaircover is in ibadan - working with PDP.

babygirlfl:


We see them everyday in nairaland.

Infact sometimes I wonder if the person is man or woman
You don't fight a verbal war with a weapon
You use your nought and trash it out
There are many who attempted the beating angle and are happily sitting in prisons eating beans
Many of these ones wouldn't dare what they are advocating in any civilized country

moca:

U are a very good example.
Ur mouth is razor.
Why are u e abusing all the time,coogar?
so u believe there r not men like u outside there?

Don't worry, we r still here.
One day, a case of man tongue lashing the woman will soon come up and I will alert u.

Gbam!
The one that saw a message sent to the wife and started talking like a market woman nko until he beat her down
If they say women are hormonal
There are many hormonal men on this site

freecocoa:
I will keep saying it.

If a woman hits first then she invited whatever she gets, the judge doesn't care who hit harder, he just wants to know who started it.

The issue of domestic abuse is not as one sided and simple as people make it out to be, I have grown enough to realize this, let us face facts please.

thank you o.
The same thing you typed here is what i also typed up there and the op asked me to face the topic as if my post was off-topic.

Honestly, ok, let me not talk, before they start misinterpreting me and saying women are the enemies of their fellow women.

Why would a quarter of nigerian women think physical abuse is ok?
That is the pertinent question that ought to be burning in our minds but sadly that mindset is rife on this thread
When a woman believes her man can hit her,there is a fundamental flaw in her upbringing

greatgod2012:




thank you o.
The same thing you typed here is what i also typed up there and the op asked me to face the topic as if my post was off-topic.

Honestly, ok, let me not talk, before they start misinterpreting me and saying women are the enemies of their fellow women.

Lol, this has nothing to do with being enemies of women or whatnot.

It's very one sided to condemn physical abuse and ignore verbal abuse , verbal abuse is very bad just like physical abuse and the truth of the matter is, is that, anyone who is verbally abusive possess traits of being physically abusive.

People who leave their mouths running like taps, always look for other ways to hurt or try to win you even if you match them words for words, and the next thing on their list is to hit you or start destroying properties, some when you even ignore them, go as far as poking you, to make sure you know they are actually referring to you.

I'm sorry but it's very myopic to think that, anyone who has no issues insulting his/her spouse like no tomorrow will have issues hitting them.

babyosisi:
Why would a quarter of nigerian women think physical abuse is ok?
The mindset is rife on this thread sadly
When a woman believes her man can hit her,there is a fundamental flaw in her upbringing

babyosisi........i know you're going to bounce on me for this, but you know me now, i won't reply you, because i know that truth is bitter.
Don't be one-sided, physical abuse is bad, no normal person should encourage it, so as verbal abuse too, it's as well very bad, it shouldn't be encouraged too...........but i know that you won't see anything bad about it because you're a professional in that aspect, you can verbally finish a person, you throw insults around like gifts, you are good, infact, very good at tongue-lashing people, especially those who do not share the same opinion with you..
Don't see me as a foe, i'm just saying the obvious truth, i know it's bitter, but swallow it....lol

freecocoa:
Lol, this has nothing to do with being enemies of women or whatnot.

It's very one sided to condemn physical abuse and ignore verbal abuse , verbal abuse is very bad just like physical abuse and the truth of the matter is, is that, anyone who is verbally abusive possess traits of being physically abusive.

People who leave their mouths running like taps, always look for other ways to hurt or try to win you even if you match them words for words, and the next thing on their list is to hit you or start destroying properties, some when you even ignore them, go as far as poking you, to make sure you know they are actually referring to you.

I'm sorry but it's very myopic to think that, anyone who has no issues insulting his/her spouse like no tomorrow will have issues hitting them.

God bless you jare.

And some people who will not want to resort to responding to the verbal abuse, and yet could not stomach the insults, because it's beyond their elasticity limits becomes suicidal.
Is that what should be overlooked.
I fight against physical and verbal abuse equally and with the same strenght, except one want to be hypocritical.

greatgod2012:




babyosisi........i know you're going to bounce on me for this, but you know me now, i won't reply you, because i know that truth is bitter.
Don't be one-sided, physical abuse is bad, no normal person should encourage it, so as verbal abuse too, it's as well very bad, it shouldn't be encouraged too...........but i know that you won't see anything bad about it because you're a professional in that aspect, you can verbally finish a person, you throw insults around like gifts, you are good, infact, very good at tongue-lashing people, especially those who do not share the same opinion with you..
Don't see me as a foe, i'm just saying the truth, i know it's bitter, but swallow it....lol

Everyone who makes a post on nairaland believes their post is the truth
If you doubt me read musiwa
He believes everything he writes is the truth,so you are in good company.
If a survey says that in 2003 44% of women like you believe physical abuse is justifiable and the same survey gives that number as 22% in 2013 and you come on that topic,a woman and all you cared about was to tell us about women tongue lashing men,you are of all women most miserable.
This thread is on physical abuse but as usual you have managed to shift the focus for whatever your intents are to suit your purposes.
2/3rd of nigerian woman are victims of physical abuse from men
90% plus of women in Afghanistan say it is ok for their husbands to beat them for burning their food!going out without permission etc
But oh no
Miss great God missed all that
That doesn't concern you
You are more interested in woman tongue lashing their men and in your skewed mentality men don't tongue lash abi?

Igbos say uche wu akpa,Onye obula bu nke ya
Intelligence is like a bag,everyone is carrying theirs

moca:

My dear, if ur wife call u opunu(whatever it mean)call her and her generation opuno times two. Tomorrow she will think twice b4 she open her mouth again to abuse u.
It's that some think it's unmanly to match a woman with bad mouth,mouth for mouth.

It's still better than beating.
Besides, some women have complained here how their husbands abuse them emotionally.
My answer is always go and learn how to abuse and give it to him back if he don't want to reason with u.
Voila.

But beating?
My hand no dey.
I've even seen a woman that plumelled the husband. Still a no no.

Still better than beating? You see what we have been saying.

Most men are not made to respond with words. We are created to be physical and take actions(maybe good or bad). It is nature. If you won't caution the instigator and carry a campaign that no woman under whatsoever condition should abuse her partner then I am afraid none of you should come here and talk nonsense when a woman gets beaten for verbally abusing her partner. It's that simple.

We would always caution men not to hit their partners but I would abstain from blaming a guy in situations where a lady was the harbinger of what befell her. For every action there's an equal and opposite reaction.

greatgod2012:



God bless you jare.

And some people who will not want to resort to responding to the verbal abuse, and yet could not stomach the insults, because it's beyond their elasticity limits becomes suicidal.
Is that what should be overlooked.
I fight against physical and verbal abuse equally and with the same strenght, except one want to be hypocritical.

You are right.

greatgod2012:



God bless you jare.

And some people who will not want to resort to responding to the verbal abuse, and yet could not stomach the insults, because it's beyond their elasticity limits becomes suicidal.
Is that what should be overlooked.
I fight against physical and verbal abuse equally and with the same strenght, except one want to be hypocritical.

If you were being physically abused and learned your lessons by lessening your tongue lashing why don't you share that with us so we can understand where you are coming from.it seems to me you may be speaking from a wealth of experience.
My own experience is that when an argument gets heated up the man walks away to cool off.
What is yours?
I could never justify a man striking a woman
Never in a million years

Babyosisi I would want to know what empirical data was used in this research.2/3rd of Nigerian women?

That's 2 out of every 3 women.

So that means for every 3 Nigerian(or women of Nigerian descent) women on NL (me and you inclusive ) 2 are in a abusive relationship?

I find it very difficult to believe those statistics. P.S I am not saying there is no domestic abuse I am saying that 2/3rd statistics is an exaggeration.

johnny1980:


Still better than beating? You see what we have been saying.

Most men are not made to respond with words. We are created to be physical and take actions(maybe good or bad). It is nature. If you won't caution the instigator and carry a campaign that no woman under whatsoever condition should abuse her partner then I am afraid none of you should come here and talk nonsense when a woman gets beaten for verbally abusing her partner. It's that simple.

We would always caution men not to hit their partners but I would abstain from blaming a guy in situations where a lady was the harbinger of what befell her. For every action there's an equal and opposite reaction.

There is something called self control
Those same men have disagreements with their fellow men and they don't punch them out
You don't give excuses for bad behavior
If he can go to the work place and conduct himself professionally when offended,he sure can keep his hands to himself when he feels an argument is not going his way.

Nawaa o!
, it has not come to this now.
U guys should stop doing this.
It's very immature abeg.

Johnny, abeg swerve one side
My initial post started with a response to what coogar said.
He understands where I'm coming from and where I'm going.

I hv never condoned abuse of any kind and will not.

I've written extensively on verbal abuse with my lost moniker.

But as it is now, I wan lash out to coogar cos he is an abuser

Rose2014:


Before now, I would have agreed with you but now men run their mouth too just like women
They also say hurtful words to their wives and still expect them to take it

And we all utterly condemn it.

It's very rare to see a man that verbally abuses his partner but all the same. It is very wrong and sane men condemn such act by any man. We don't believe bad behaviour as such is because of nature, hormones, stereotypes or his environment and would not excuse such irresponsibility.

A man who verbally abuses his wife is a bad man. No two definition for such. The difference is clear.

babyosisi:


There is something called self control
Those same men have disagreements with their fellow men and they don't punch them out
You don't five excuses for bad behavior
If he can go to the work place and conduct himself professionally when offended,he sure can keep jphis hands to himself when he feels an argument is not going his way.

But is it a bad thing if women control themselves too? Why does it have to be the men who have to learn self control?

babyosisi:


There is something called self control
Those same men have disagreements with their fellow men and they don't punch them out
You don't five excuses for bad behavior
If he can go to the work place and conduct himself professionally when offended,he sure can keep jphis hands to himself when he feels an argument is not going his way.

And self control is alien in the dictionary of a woman?

If a disagreement should ensue between two men go check it, it's never a case of someone verbally abusing the other. They are either disagreeing technically or have differences of opinion which is normal in everyday life. Any of them that even resorts to verbal abuse is seen as a pvssy. Go confirm that.