BABE3:
We're at a crossroad. Do we stick to the old ways (husband-provider, wife-chores) or the new way (no/same roles) ?

The male gender wants the perks of the old ways (no chores), the female gender love the perks of the new way (half chore and financial independence).

The "husband-provider, wife-chores" model works in a household where only the man works full time. But in most households today, both man and wife work full time, so it's only fair they share the chores.

Plus, what hell is the big deal in cleaning up after yourself (man and woman) and cooking ?

I hear white men and AAs complain about this too, not only Africans. They complain that women don't do chores anymore. I smh.

If everyone just cleans up after themselves we wouldn't have this problem. It's that simple. Pigs!

bukatyne:


@bold: Who are

This is sometimes as a result of the belief that women are inferior to men and chores (the dirty work) is the woman's purview. Even a husband who stays @ home would still expect a working wife to tend to the chores.

Some wives also think chores is beneath their husbands

Some don't think dirty/inferior and are just stuck to gender roles.

Funnily, men were chosen as Deacons in the Bible to serve widows food

Truly if people clean up after themselves, the chores would drastically reduce.

BABE3:


who are the pigs? Men who think they shouldn't do chores coz they have a pènis.

abi o. Clean up after yourself (man, wife and kids).

- whoever wakes up last lays the bed.

-when you brush your teeth, wipe the sink. When you shave or comb your hair, wipe the sink clean.

-when you poop, flush and check the toilet bowl for any poop marks. If you find a poop mark, wipe it off.

-when you take a shower, rinse tiles/walls afterwards. Remove your hair strands from drainage thing before stepping out.

-if you see dirt on the floor pick it.

-if something isn't in its place, fix it.

-wash your clothes regularly so it doesn't pile up.

-wash your dishes as you drop them in the sink; no pilling up.

-whoever cooks, should wash the pots and utensils as they're cooking.

-if you see a dusty surface, grab a napkin to clean it.

......this way, there are no actual "chores", coz everything uses their commonsense and no one waits on anyone to do what's right.


I get time sha.

BABE3:


who are the pigs? Men who think they shouldn't do chores coz they have a pènis.

abi o. Clean up after yourself (man, wife and kids).

- whoever wakes up last lays the bed.

-when you brush your teeth, wipe the sink. When you shave or comb your hair, wipe the sink clean.

-when you poop, flush and check the toilet bowl for any poop marks. If you find a poop mark, wipe it off.

-when you take a shower, rinse tiles/walls afterwards. Remove your hair strands from drainage thing before stepping out.

-if you see dirt on the floor pick it.

-if something isn't in its place, fix it.

-wash your clothes regularly so it doesn't pile up.

-wash your dishes as you drop them in the sink; no pilling up.

-whoever cooks, should wash the pots and utensils as they're cooking.

-if you see a dusty surface, grab a napkin to clean it.

......this way, there are no actual "chores", coz everyone uses their commonsense and no one waits on anyone to do what's right.


I get time sha.

BABE3:


who are the pigs? Men who think they shouldn't do chores coz they have a pènis.

abi o. Clean up after yourself (man, wife and kids).

- whoever wakes up last lays the bed.

-when you brush your teeth, wipe the sink. When you shave or comb your hair, wipe the sink clean.

-when you poop, flush and check the toilet bowl for any poop marks. If you find a poop mark, wipe it off.

-when you take a shower, rinse tiles/walls afterwards. Remove your hair strands from drainage thing before stepping out.

-if you see dirt on the floor pick it.

-if something isn't in its place, fix it.

-wash your clothes regularly so it doesn't pile up.

-wash your dishes as you drop them in the sink; no pilling up.

-whoever cooks, should wash the pots and utensils as they're cooking.

-if you see a dusty surface, grab a napkin to clean it.

......this way, there are no actual "chores", coz everyone uses their commonsense and no one waits on anyone to do what's right.


I get time sha.

coogaluta:



I wish this was possible with men and kids

bukatyne:


Lols @ First sentence...

This should be Babe3's guide to having a choreless house

What's up, you are scarce in that Chilli's thread

BABE3:


Lol.
I dey. I just read the thread as a guest nowadays. Don't want to bore people with my bland foods.

BABE3:


who are the pigs? Men who think they shouldn't do chores coz they have a pènis.

abi o. Clean up after yourself (man, wife and kids).

- whoever wakes up last lays the bed.

-when you brush your teeth, wipe the sink. When you shave or comb your hair, wipe the sink clean.

-when you poop, flush and check the toilet bowl for any poop marks. If you find a poop mark, wipe it off.

-when you take a shower, rinse tiles/walls afterwards. Remove your hair strands from drainage thing before stepping out.

-if you see dirt on the floor pick it.

-if something isn't in its place, fix it.

-wash your clothes regularly so it doesn't pile up.

-wash your dishes as you drop them in the sink; no pilling up.

-whoever cooks, should wash the pots and utensils as they're cooking.

-if you see a dusty surface, grab a napkin to clean it.

......this way, there are no actual "chores", coz everyone uses their commonsense and no one waits on anyone to do what's right.


I get time sha.

bukatyne:


What makes it impossible?

coogaluta:


You wanna train a grown man who hasn't done all those things in his life to suddenly start? Good luck!


Even kids, who are supoosedly 'trainable' will just take you for a witch if you try all those things she mentioned with them.

Ideally, that's how things are supposed to be but in the real world

funlord:

A real nigga like me should know how 2 cook, clean and do laundry! It is called home training, and my mom and dad did not raise any fools! My dad cooks 4 me and my mom when I'm on xmas break with my family till date and my mum sits down in a corner with her stout waiting 4 the chow 2 be ready! These are things you can even teach your kids in the future and sometimes your wife may be to tired or 2 sick 2 cook, should she starve? All this culture crap is bullshite as far as I'm concerned, being a decent, caring and hardworking person has nothing 2 do with culture, it should be normal for a human being! A wife and husband should both share and do chores FAIRLY! The 1 wey I no understand be say when I cook 4 her it would be a "romantic dinner" but when na time 2 cook 4 me e go turn 2 "chores and suffering?" Wahala go dey dat time abeg!

MarvellousGod:
Aahhhhh?? Thought you said you were a feminist? ? ... No be you dey yarn for the other thread few days ago about equality et al? .. Now I believe some of these feminists on nl are jokers and don't do what they preach..

Sorry, but this is what I feel...

coogaluta:



I wish this was possible with men and kids

bukatyne:


You know that's is sooo not true

[size=2pt]You want me to sike you abi[/size]

Nice combo you usually make

Can't keep up with the continental dishes so I just modify my local dishes.

That thread is really an inspiration

BABE3:


60% of my food are bland. No Maggi, no salt. I just eat for nutrients most of the time. It pays off though.

I'm becoming a vegetarian. I've successfully done away with meat and fish. I can't let go of milk and eggs just yet. By december, I should be a complete vegan.

My mother thinks I need deliverance.

misssclassy:
First of all you should bear in mind that we live in a contemporary African society. And as such we have cultures and traditions that we live by.
As much as I would opine that a woman shouldn't be the one doing all the house chores and all that , you can't deny the fact that there are some certain things that is expected to be performed by an African wife.

You don't expect the man to be the one cooking dinner when the wife is around or the husband should be the one washing his own clothes when he has a wife.
These things are primary roles a wife is supposed to tend to.

However, this doesn't mean the husband should try to lend a hand in the chores around the house.
And some men could be so lazy and inconsiderate most times and just sit and watch as their wife does everything.

But like I stated earlier, there are primary obligations a wife should fulfill. It's has and has always been our culture and it shouldn't change.

The importation of western material especially through media is one of the major reasons why women these days are beginning to have a change of mindset, which isn't supposed to be so.
The westerners have their culture and we have ours. We shouldn't throw away ours just because we feel their's is cool.

ronald4lif:
This stem from the deep rooted culture that has been in place for ages that a man is meant to be a bread winner while the woman stay at the confines of the home performing house chores. But all that seem to be changing as women are ambitious and career driven.

Although most women still prefer to observe household chores as their traditional role, it's tasking combining house chores after a vigorous day at work. A man should assist in ensuring the chores and household is conducive. A man can cook, clean and wash their plates too. It doesn't make him any less of a man.

I've realised some women actually don't mind if their men don't share in household work, they are comfortable performing them but needs some form of appreciation from their man for keeping the home tidy. Let's admit it, we all need to feel appreciated after a job well done. But some men are too bossy to do this and think it's a woman's job after all. Appreciation and encouragement goes a long way to making a woman moan less about chores.

Your friend is fortunate, he's got a good wife. Most women wouldn't condone domestic abuse and would have rang the police.
He'd have been in a hot soup.

FrancisTony:

I think she has a personality disorder.

Preach one on a thread, Preach differently on another.....

freecocoa:
And someone was talking crap about me wanting to be superior or whatever, when I say that not all who claim 'feminist' actually know what they are on about, una don see am na.

Kimoni:




Na you sabi. Why don't you say this on threads where she is advocating feminism??

FrancisTony:

That's because I haven't seen a thread she contradicted herself.

Even a non-feminist or someone oblivious of feminism, won't type that....

By the way, i'm not a feminist but a supporter of what's right devoid of hypocrisy.

Kimoni:


Now I am confused. didn't you just say she has a multi personality disorder??

The same bug has bitten you

FrancisTony:

You asked why I didn't quote her on a thread she was advocating for feminism - as of that time, I haven't seen her contradict herself.
I'm less aware of that moniker.

Can a male be a feminist? According to its wikipedia definition, YES.
But, I don't like the name as it sounds feminine; [b]femini[/b]sm.

I'm a huminitarian

Kimoni:


Oh ok, I get you now
Hahahhahahahhahahaha

Now that is funny!

There is only one humanitarian I know though - my mentor, Dr Tai Solarin - dude live and died for humanity. I'd like to see you become the next great one

FrancisTony:

Still working on my way of becoming one.

You'll be shocked if I tell you my age - let me keep it to myself before some people will use against me when I type.

Kimoni:


Now my curiosity is awakened What is your age? Whisper it to my ears

edwife:


Freecocoa now you see what i mean?



****back to my confused and laughing state****

FrancisTony:

If a girl of my age gets married, she'll still be considered as an underage.

Go figure. Ciao!

Kimoni:




You are indeed wise for your age. I'll sit back then while you become the next great one