My fiance called me on thursday that she's converting to a moslem.

Actually,she was a muslim,but when the mum was going through financial difficulties while growing up,she and her brother went to stay at her uncle's place,who happens to practice christian,which made her practice the family's religion.

She has gone back this year to her mum's place,because her place of industrial attachment is very close to her mum's place.

I thought she was joking,till she came to my side yesterday,and observed her prayer the muslim way.

I haven't made any comment,or taken any decision on that,but my fear is that

1. This is a lady I want t get married to in few months' time.

2. I practise christianity,and I know the importance of uniformity of religion to married couple,and children.

3. I have been worried since,am I over reacting to it?

4. Has anybody been in this situation before,whereby hubby,and wife practise different religion?

5. Should I be worried,or I insist on her to practice christianity?

I need contribution,and advice on how to handle the difference in religion,if eventually we get married.

CC: lalasticlala.

If you are not comfortable with her decision, talk to her about it and your preference.

If she doesn't change and you can't live with it, best bet is to let her go.

It is as simple as that.

Alhamdulillah.

If she wants to practice islam allow her and support her if you truly love her.

She must have seen the light in Islam.. so why don't you ask her to show it to you.

Nawa oh! #Speechless

it's no problem bro but watch her carefully make she no leave u go syria

bellong:
If you are not comfortable with her decision, talk to her about it and your preference.

If she doesn't change and you can't live with it, best bet is to let her go.

It is as simple as that.

Seconded jare

bellong:
If you are not comfortable with her decision, talk to her about it and your preference.

If she doesn't change and you can't live with it, best bet is to let her go.

It is as simple as that.

actually I haven't made any decision on that.

I was surprised when I saw her in bedroom praying the muslim way.

I really do love her,I want advice on how to handle it,so that went next she comes,I want us to discuss it.

Yomieluv:
actually I haven't made any decision on that.

I was surprised when I saw her in bedroom praying the muslim way.

I really do love her,I want advice on how to handle it,so that went next she comes,I want us to discuss it.

What you saw is a proof that she has taken a decision and may probably not rescind it.

What you can do is to discuss with her to make her understand where you stand and why. If after all things, she insist, let her know you wouldn't be able to go further with the relationship if it is what you want or can do.

Yes you love her. Love also involves letting go when needed.

It depends on how liberal you are. Mind you, have you considered the role of the family members? All things being equal, let her practice it. If not equal, part ways.

Lastly, don't be fooled. Love doesn't conquer all.

Personally don't see anything wrong in it, because of my upbringing. However I still advice same religious path for both parties.

I know people nowadays marry from different religions.

It is a good thing that your fiancee made it known to you before you marry her.

It is left to you to make your decision but I will advise that you should never force your religion on anybody.

MuhdG:
Alhamdulillah.
If she wants to practice islam allow her and support her if you truly love her.
She must have seen the light in Islam.. so why don't you ask her to show it to you.

Them done start again.... This is hw they start religious war.... Who told u say there is no light in Christianity?

Mind u, I'm a muslim

K

Bro no problem with the religion.. We are all praying to God. What matters is love.

Follow your heart

THERE WILL BE PROBLEM. ISLAM NEVER PERMITS A MUSLIM LADY TO MARRY A CHRISTAIN MAN. A STAUNCH CHRISTAIN AND A STAUNCH MUSLIM CANNOT COHABIT SUCCESSFULLY UNDER THE SAME ROOF. PEACE AND VIOLENCE CAN NEVER ATTRACTS.



ITS NOT ALL CRISES THAT CAN BE SOLVED DIPLOMATICALLY. YOU MAKE USE OF FORCE WHERE NECESSARY.


A MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY, AUTOMATICALLY HIS RELIGION SHOULD BE THE FAMILY RELIGION.



THIS IS THE ADVICE I CAN GIVE YOU.

bro simply talk to her about it and discuss the effect her decision could bring on the union of the two of you. Then get to see her response. from her response you can get to know better on the next step for you to take

Before addressing the question I'll first congratulate your fiancee for receiving guidance to the right path.

A little Islamic fundamentals for you:
A muslim is one who worships God alone without associating partners in worship with him.
Now what is the religion of Abraham, Jacob, Moses, Joseph, David since they all came before Christ. The answer is Islam(People who submit to God without associating partners in worship with him).
Jesus Christ the Messiah, Son of Mary is a blessed prophet and messenger of God. His creation is a display of God greatness.
God created Adam from nothing(Clay), Eve from Adam (man), Jesus from Mary (woman), and you and I from our parents (Man and Woman). This indicates that God is indeed able to do all things.
Abraham was sent as a messenger, same was Noah, Moses, David, Jesus, and Mohammed. And we're given scriptures as a guidance to their people. Jesus Christ was given the gospel as a guidance for the people of Isreal. And whoever doesn't follow his guidance would not be successful in the hereafter. The guidance of the gospel as revealed to Jesus is the true guidance. But with all due respect man has added some words into the Bibles we have today. But the pure scripture that God revealed to Jesus indicates Jesus saying:
My Father is greater than I. Jesus never called himself God in the bible.
Back to the question would muslims enter paradise. Yes they would by the Grace of God. But only those who are obedient to the commandments of God and do not take partners with God and believe in all the books revealed to all the messengers, believe in the angels, preordainment and seek forgiveness from God with sincerity hoping for the best in this life and the hereafter

Now to the question :
Inter religious marriage could be very hard. From Islamic perspective I'll advice that you marry someone who share the same believe as you do. Because when it comes to praying together and raising children problems would develop.
Islam believes if you ascribe partners with God you wouldn't make paradise and Christianity believe if you don't accept that Jesus died for your sins you wouldn't make paradise. The love between couples should extend to the hereafter. So husband and wife with same believe would have faith in attaining the paradise that they aspire.
But I'll advice you learn about islam who knows you might be the next revert.

For me, I prefer a one religion marriage.
The decision is yours....
If you can live with her no problem
But if you can't, let her go.
My aunt who's a muslim married a staunch christian and all her children practises Islam, not even one deviated, so what matters is the heart & love.

Yomieluv:
My fiance called me on thursday that she's converting to a moslem.

Actually,she was a muslim,but when the mum was going through financial difficulties while growing up,she and her brother went to stay at her uncle's place,who happens to practice christian,which made her practice the family's religion.

She has gone back this year to her mum's place,because her place of industrial attachment is very close to her mum's place.

I thought she was joking,till she came to my side yesterday,and observed her prayer the muslim way.

I haven't made any comment,or taken any decision on that,but my fear is that

1. This is a lady I want t get married to in few months' time.

2. I practise christianity,and I know the importance of uniformity of religion to married couple,and children.

3. I have been worried since,am I over reacting to it?

4. Has anybody been in this situation before,whereby hubby,and wife practise different religion?

5. Should I be worried,or I insist on her to practice christianity?

I need contribution,and advice on how to handle the difference in religion,if eventually we get married.

CC: lalasticlala.

Bro, it's up to you.

If u are cool with it and dont see a problem, marry her but if her change wont make u sleep at night abeg just drop her , but if you are dropping her be careful sha cos i no wan hear story of how a nairalander was *lipsealed*

What's with humans and this religion slavery mehhhhhn. I dongerrit mehhhhhhn

I guess she only converted to christainity under duress by the uncle. Guy, you better look else where.

Religion = Cancer of the brain

Its a very simple decision to make;If you can tolerate it,let her be,but if you can't,let her go.

hmm

[size=14pt]Do you know that in Islam muslim women are only allowed to marry muslim men? Does she know that?

If so then she's supposed to breaking up the engagement, no?

OP I'm sorry I think your lady is confused.

youre not overreacting at all.

so if she has to move back to her uncles place will she turn to Christianity again?

you should give it time to see if she's really serious about this.

anyway without meaning to sound judgemental its a sin to be in relationship with somebody who is not at least showing a bit of interest in walking with Christ.

not that I am much of a Christian but at least if I met a guy he should try and attend service once in a while, and we can build it from there. not somebody who believes your religion is fundamentally wrong. you should be on the same spiritual page at least basically, because following any religion is hard enough without your other half not being in support

anyway maybe this is a challenge for you to overcome. maybe when she is more settled you can try and minister to her and bring her back. otherwise for me that kind of relationship doesn't make sense.

if people could just go and marry whichever religion they wanted without it being a problem most people would be doing it na, myself included
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