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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by dinachi(m): 10:29am On Aug 09, 2015
oreos:

Ode!
I knew it was you when I read that shit.
Why are you cursed with this level of stupidity? Get into a rehabilitation program before you harm yourself any further.

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by biz2get(m): 10:29am On Aug 09, 2015
coolsix:


Your signature proceeds you

Dont hate the player , hate the game cool
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by naijaboiy: 10:35am On Aug 09, 2015
misspicy:

Yea,no need to waste space explaining anytyn,coz am already on my lane,wch is no guy is to be seen as 'good'until d excesses of rapist are cubbed or we get a clue to identify dem,i'd rather not visit male acquantances in a confined space.experience dey say is d best teacher.
And this one doesn't just want to be reasonable.

Is it only when you go and see a guy in his house that you can get raped?

Out of 10 rape cases that you have heard how many of them turned out that way? undecided
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 10:40am On Aug 09, 2015
misspicy:

Boyfriends from hell....lol

They be like,why are u collecting my money n u dnt want sexgrin

Guys who think like that are animals. They are a disgrace to the lowest of animals.
With the way things are going, it's now the right to e for women to stay on their own and focus on things that are worth it.There are very many damaged women I n nigeria.Since we are living In a hypocritical society, you can never guess the enormous statistics of raped and sexually abused children/women.Very disturbing, disgusting. Pathetic!

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 10:41am On Aug 09, 2015
ebuka440:
Classicb, I think that you are wrong about a guy taking you to an eatery. Is it after enjoying the things that he bought for you, then you will look at him so stupid not to have sex with you. I bet you that you are very much wrong.
The way its painful for him spending his money for you is the same way he will enjoy making love to you by force. Am I wrong?
So, go and sit down
Your ear just raise when u see the word "eatery" can't u just buy table water and have your discussion?? Na by force to buy food??
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by soonest(f): 10:41am On Aug 09, 2015
From the comments i see here and the way some persons carry this matter for head, it's obvious many of them are rapists on the prowl. They know themselves
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by yemcoguy(m): 10:42am On Aug 09, 2015
classicB:

That isn't an excuse. I can deem it fit to dress scantily, that doesn't give u the right to rape me. Do u think we girls don't get moved with some male features?? Shud we now rape u people cos of that
what u wrote jst counter d gud point u raised thru dis post, how on earth will u dress scantily, I mean wat for, u shld knw dat some folks can't jst stand it. Best tin to avoid rape is dress decently and smartly. Educate urself first nt d guys in dese case
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by ahamonyeka(m): 10:43am On Aug 09, 2015
oreos:


Weren't you not the pervert that mentioned that rape cannot occur unless a weapon is introduced? You should kill yourself. Your daftness is beyond redemptioncheesy

yes,that's why I use the word...I use to think not until a colleague of mine narrated her own odeal but,must you rape a woman that has come to visit you?I think you need to go to computer village to reset yoyr brain cos I suppose the hemp you smoke us really having an adverse effect on you. undecided
oreos:


Weren't you not the pervert that mentioned that rape cannot occur unless a weapon is introduced? You should kill yourself. Your daftness is beyond redemptioncheesy

yes,that's why I use the word...I use to think not until a colleague of mine narrated her own odeal but,must you rape a woman that has come to visit you?I think you need to go to computer village to reset yoyr brain cos I suppose the hemp you smoke us really having an adverse effect on you.
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 10:44am On Aug 09, 2015
dinachi:

Why am I cursed with this level of stupidity?
I shall get into a rehabilitation program before I harm myself any further.

That would be perfect. And if you are lucky you might live up.to your 40s

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 10:44am On Aug 09, 2015
No woman deserves to be raped however they say prevention is better than cure. Women should endeavour to act responsibly to prevent stories that touch.
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by naijaboiy: 10:44am On Aug 09, 2015
misspicy:

Whatever way u try to degrade my replies,dats ur business in short ur cup of akamu,buh I still maintain until I sleep off tonyt dat a woman's NO is no,even if she has started giving u a head,u still have no right to rape her,and rape is still not justified
How can you define "No is No"?

Do you know the legal standards of rape?

Is verbal disagreement a standard of rape?

So when the sex has already started and a woman all of a sudden starts saying "No" and the man continues then he has raped her?

How the fuçk do you reason? undecided

You are among the class of females that just want to "preach" even when you know nothing about what you are saying.

You and the dumb Op that created this thread.

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 10:45am On Aug 09, 2015
ibietela2:


My Father

Pele!
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by DeeMain(m): 10:46am On Aug 09, 2015
Brugo:


Let me state it clearly for the benefit of those who (like you) cannot make inferences from a few paragraphs; I don't support rape.

If you actually believe this emotional outburst of yours is logical then I have no business with you. Now go back and read my initial comments with my disclaimer in mind.

Brugo:
Girl dresses scantily to visit a guy who is sexually active. They get cuddly and start kissing and touching then she says no when he makes further moves to take off her clothes. Not all guys have the will to stop when the process has been initiated.

Ladies if you don't want to get raped, stop setting yourselves up. Don't get to the point of heavy petting then pull away. You may be dealing with a guy who has little control when aroused. You can't put hot coal on your lap and hope it won't burn you.

This is an example of your beautiful nonsense, the warped logic you displayed ubiquitously all over this thread. You call this a disclaimer??

My friend, once a woman says NO, it does not mattter what has happened prior or if she was half naked or led you on or kissed you first or was responding initially, STOP!!! The property you are trying to access is hers. She has a right to tell you to stop whenever she deems fit. You are NOT an ANIMAL. You are a man, with a body that has been given a brain to control the body. Know who you are. Use the damn brain well! Not knowing that you can control your behaviour or your body or your response, no matter the cause, is a terrible type of ignorance.

I'll leave you with this quote:

In other living things, ignorance of themselves is nature, in man it's a vice - Boethius

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by vickie1900(f): 10:47am On Aug 09, 2015
This is one of the reasons why I carried and still carry a licensed gun. I don't take such bullshit from guys. It's called self defense! And most times, since they knew I carry a licensed gun, they behaved themselves! This is also one of the reasons my dad made all his six girls go through self defense martial arts. And now I have started teaching my kids self defense martial arts.

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 10:47am On Aug 09, 2015
yemcoguy:
what u wrote jst counter d gud point u raised thru dis post, how on earth will u dress scantily, I mean wat for, u shld knw dat some folks can't jst stand it. Best tin to avoid rape is dress decently and smartly. Educate urself first nt d guys in dese case
Some guys are simply animal, they will rape you regardless of how decent you dress, so far you are a female
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 10:49am On Aug 09, 2015
ebuka440:
Classicb, I think that you are wrong about a guy taking you to an eatery. Is it after enjoying the things that he bought for you, then you will look at him so stupid not to have sex with you. I bet you that you are very much wrong.
The way its painful for him spending his money for you is the same way he will enjoy making love to you by force. Am I wrong?
So, go and sit down
Lol. She didn't force you to spend your money, same way you shouldn't force sex on her

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by misspicy(f): 10:50am On Aug 09, 2015
naijaboiy:

And this one doesn't just want to be reasonable.

Is it only when you go and see a guy in his house that you can get raped?

Out of 10 rape cases that you have heard how many of them turned out that way? undecided
The only time I will reply all this ur mentions again is if u type sometyn reasonable, read the thread properly and understand wat the Op meant and wat I have been replying every oda rapist like you,i wunt even giv u d luxury of explaining mysef to u,u dnt worth it,If u like cuss me out,it is only NL,am not botheredtongue

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by yfo: 10:55am On Aug 09, 2015
classicB:

Let assume some girls dress scantily to get raped. What about those underage girls?? What about that innocent housemaid that get raped daily by Oga simply.because Madam isn't available, those men that rapes their own daughters nko??

I wish I had seen this thread earlier but this girl is just shifting goal posts now...you were talking bout those visiting weren't you
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 10:58am On Aug 09, 2015
@classicb ..i nor go blame you sha..and please dont generalise your assumptions ok?...let me tell u a story.and i will be blunt with everything...now listen up..

my very good female friend visited me....and besides..she was even the one craving to visit me...as a guy what do u think should be on my mind??..huh??...i was like woooo...this one wen this girl dey come so..hope am safe??...that was my words...

and so i gave her a date to visit..and she did came....and dat day..we ccoked together...went to the market together to get fruits...we ate together and alota things...and at night(cos she passed the night in my room)..she took her bath and also i took mine....and we shared same bed....before we slept off....we gisted alot and talked of things...as it got to almost 11pm..i told her..babe na sleep i dey see so oo...and she was shocked...cos she was expecting me to touch her and do the needful....but i slept off...i noticed she dint sleep well that night...she later slept at about 1am...she told me so...


the morning of it...she took her bath..walked in to my room almost unclad..so i will see her shape wella....i turned a blind eyes...she did all and all..until she left....she went to her school later..and told her friends that its like am impotent...or i dont like her..and even if i dont like her the way we slept together in bed that night if its a normal guy...he would have touched me and on....these were her words... her own friend told me thats exactly what she said...and she asked me if its true that i dint touch her......I WAS SO EMBARRASSED!!

tell me classicb...did i do wrong by not touching her??...and besides....this is one of the reason WHILE GUYS THINKS IF A GIRL WANTS TO VISIT A GUY THAT MEANS THE GIRL IS READY FOR S*X..
u wont blame most of the guys..cos even some of the ladies that will still visit guys from today and hence forth even after this your thread might still experience rape....cos as long as u visiting as a girl..the guy may think u realy need s*x....believe me

but it take a guy with self control and integrity and maturity to look beyond s*x thing....cos we still have guys out there dat will not even kiss a girl when she visits..not to talk of rape..

and for the ladies..please just go with a friend wen u want to visit a guy..please do....it will not give room for any form of harassment..or rape issue....but when u are visiting a guy..and went there alone...it implies u looking for something...yes i said so... you are shooting urself on the foot....MANAGE WETIN YOU SEE.. and stop ranting!!!
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by kaka74: 10:59am On Aug 09, 2015
@ op and tge ladies here one guy/man cannot rape a woma #fact# so if am working on d road I see girl carry am enter bush u wan tell me say the girl no fit bite off my ear at least ah ah before I can believe a girl was raped by jst a guy I must have seen that the guy in question beat her silly to a state of submission if not the girl wanted the sex but can't say yess she was saying no while meaning yeah @ heart #@op one guy can't rape a woman#
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by naijaboiy: 11:00am On Aug 09, 2015
misspicy:

The only time I will reply all this ur mentions again is if u type sometyn reasonable, read the thread properly and understand wat the Op meant and wat I have been replying every oda rapist like you,i wunt even giv u d luxury of explaining mysef to u,u dnt worth it,If u like cuss me out,it is only NL,am not botheredtongue

How sensible! undecided

When a guy reasons objectively and not reason with his emotions like majority of you female folks do you tag him a "rapist".

Your male relatives should be the best of rapists.

Only you have had up to 3 encounters and you have not settled down to check why it is so?

Are you the only girl in Nigeria? undecided

You people should not come here and generalise bullshit all in the name of rape.

Is it today that rape started happening?

If you are scared of making male friends because of that then simply become a fuçking lesbian.

Nobody will give a flying fhuuck! undecided

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by ibietela2(m): 11:00am On Aug 09, 2015
oreos:


Pele!

Animalistic imbe.cile
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by ibietela2(m): 11:02am On Aug 09, 2015
vickie1900:
This is one of the reasons why I carried and still carry a licensed gun. I don't take such bullshit from guys. It's called self defense! And most times, since they knew I carry a licensed gun, they behaved themselves! This is also one of the reasons my dad made all his six girls go through self defense martial arts. And now I have started teaching my kids self defense martial arts.

Picture of you and your gun OR
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by dfrost: 11:03am On Aug 09, 2015
EggovinMma:

many home based guys needs proper orientation. They think and behave like lower animals.

So how can you help them (all of us) get the orientation? We are ready to listen.
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by DeeMain(m): 11:04am On Aug 09, 2015
EggovinMma:


God bless you, your parents really train you well.God bless your mother more and more.


Truth is, there are many rapists a d potential rapists here on NL.Those who spent so much time defending rapists here have actually molested or try to molest a woman/women before.

Thanks dear.

The level of support (covert and overt) for rape on this thread is frightening.

We all need to speak out and educate our menfolk and the women on this scourge.

Smh.

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 11:06am On Aug 09, 2015
dfrost:


So how can you help them (all of us) get the orientation? We are ready to listen.

Well I think the system should start by giving your likes lethel injections. Una don dey plenty, it's better for una to reduce small.

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 11:08am On Aug 09, 2015
classicB:

I met the wrong guy, like that that 18year old girl met the wrong man, just like those kids that get raped daily met the wrong guy undecided
the thing with you ladies is that when a decent calm guy approaches you, you turn him down and decide to go for the tough agbero/ player then when he tries to rape you or rapes you or beats and cheats on you, you term all guys the same..... you forget that a decent guy who adored you and was willing to do anything for you even if it meant waiting till you get married was turned down by you..... tomorrow I know you will still turn down another good guy and enter another trap by another idiot then come back and wail...... I used to date a girl back then in Abuja... I had to travel every month from Benin to Abuja to see her, we would spend days in same house, sleep together even naked, somee times had our baths together but she had a wish of no sex before marriage and I stuck to that rule without cheating on her... whenever I was had an erection, I jerked of without her knowledge and till we broke up, we never had sex and I don't care cos I know I earned her respect and trust...... you may not believe me but I don't care. I just want you to know that there are great guys out there willing to make you their world and anchor... it's not fair when ladies judge every guy based on things that the wrong guy they chose over the good guy did to them like its our fault....

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by misspicy(f): 11:10am On Aug 09, 2015
naijaboiy:

How sensible! undecided

When a guy reasons objectively and not reason with his emotions like majority of you female folks do you tag him a "rapist".

Your male relatives should be the best of rapists.

[s]Only you have had up to 3 encounters and you have not settled down to check why it is so?

Are you the only girl in Nigeria? [/s]

You people should not come here and generalise bullshit all in the name of rape.

Is it today that rape started happening?

If you are scared of making male friends because of that then simply become a fuçking lesbian.

Nobody will give a flying fhuuck! undecided
You are either blind or daft @cancelled, buh I biliv u r both blind and daft.

I still have nothing to type to you unless u reason with you d little sense God gave you,until then keep chilling with my SIGNATURE....mofo tongue

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by naijaboiy: 11:12am On Aug 09, 2015
patrickdarlins:
@classicb ..i nor go blame you sha..and please dont generalise your assumptions ok?...let me tell u a story.and i will be blunt with everything...now listen up..

my very good female friend visited me....and besides..she was even the one craving to visit me...as a guy what do u think should be on my mind??..huh??...i was like woooo...this one wen this girl dey come so..hope am safe??...that was my words...

and so i gave her a date to visit..and she did came....and dat day..we ccoked together...went to the market together to get fruits...we ate together and alota things...and at night(cos she passed the night in my room)..she took her bath and also i took mine....and we shared same bed....before we slept off....we gisted alot and talked of things...as it got to almost 11pm..i told her..babe na sleep i dey see so oo...and she was shocked...cos she was expecting me to touch her and do the needful....but i slept off...i noticed she dint sleep well that night...she later slept at about 1am...she told me so...


the morning of it...she took her bath..walked in to my room almost unclad..so i will see her shape wella....i turned a blind eyes...she did all and all..until she left....she went to her school later..and told her friends that its like am impotent...or i dont like her..and even if i dont like her the way we slept together in bed that night if its a normal guy...he would have touched me and on....these were her words... her own friend told me thats exactly what she said...and she asked me if its true that i dint touch her......I WAS SO EMBARRASSED!!

tell me classicb...did i do wrong by not touching her??...and besides....this is one of the reason WHILE GUYS THINKS IF A GIRL WANTS TO VISIT A GUY THAT MEANS THE GIRL IS READY FOR S*X..
u wont blame most of the guys..cos even some of the ladies that will still visit guys from today and hence forth even after this your thread might still experience rape....cos as long as u visiting as a girl..the guy may think u realy need s*x....believe me

but it take a guy with self control and integrity and maturity to look beyond s*x thing....cos we still have guys out there dat will not even kiss a girl when she visits..not to talk of rape..

and for the ladies..please just go with a friend wen u want to visit a guy..please do....it will not give room for any form of harassment..or rape issue....but when u are visiting a guy..and went there alone...it implies u looking for something...yes i said so... you are shooting urself on the foot....MANAGE WETIN YOU SEE.. and stop ranting!!!


[b]Thank you for this detailed explanation.

A girl who is not your girlfriend will come and visit you and still choose to spend the night at your house and expect that a guy won't think other wise.

Naso una friendship plain reach?

Now on the other hand I believe if i'm inviting a girl to come over to my house and I want to have sex with her I must have let her know my intentions right from when we started to get to know each other and i'll notice her response.

If she responds in the affirmative i'm gonna invite her and make a move on her. That's the natural thing to do. A guy won't sit down on the bed and wait for the girl to start kissing him and all that. Even the girls have accepted it to be that way.

Now here is the problem. Sometimes when a girl says "No" it may just be a weak defence put up for you to keep trying before she finally agrees. Not necessarily that she doesn't want it.

I believe if a girl truly doesn't want sex she'll put up a strong resistance,,very visible for the guy to notice. Not the one that you'll be saying "No" and still moaning at the same time while his kissing your neck.

If we go by that logic then it means every guy all over the world has raped a girl unconsciously.

My major point is we should really settle down to define what rape is and not take anything that happens to be rape just because a supposed victim has cried out.

How do you expect us to just believe hook line and sinker?

In the profession i'm following,,nobody is guilty until proven other wise.
[/b]

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 11:12am On Aug 09, 2015
DeeMain:


Thanks dear.

The level of support (covert and overt) for rape on this thread is frightening
.

We all need to speak out and educate our menfolk and the women on this scourge.

Smh.

From the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. Not surprised though. These people don't need education no more, what they need is a tough justice system that will handle them properly and without sentiments. I advice any raped woman should first undergo a medical assessment to obtain proper DNA. I advice also they continue to report to relevant authorities, mist especially human rights organisations for support.

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Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Nobody: 11:12am On Aug 09, 2015
naijaboiy:

How sensible! undecided

When a guy reasons objectively and not reason with his emotions like majority of you female folks do you tag him a "rapist".

Your male relatives should be the best of rapists.

Only you have had up to 3 encounters and you have not settled down to check why it is so?

Are you the only girl in Nigeria? undecided

You people should not come here and generalise bullshit all in the name of rape.

Is it today that rape started happening?

If you are scared of making male friends because of that then simply become a fuçking lesbian.

Nobody will give a flying fhuuck! undecided
abeg help me tell her and make u still help me pray make oluwa dash d mu.mu sense of reasoning to find out wetin make people won rape her.
Re: My Opinion: We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys. RAPE Is Real!!! by Antoinne: 11:12am On Aug 09, 2015
oreos:


That is differentundecided
Not so different. Not when she deliberately puts herself in the path of rape.

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