She doesn't love you,she just want to imprison you and have you to herself.I am sure she still have a lot of dirty secret worst than the age.

You know what's best for you,if you want to continue with her please do,but I beg you to make decision that will only make you happy.

I know you are a weak man.

A liar can kill. But didnt u observe her family bfor marriage, u d hav seen it. Am sure she just repackaged herself for a mugu. A whole 8yrs,haa
Anyway, the harm is done. Now, u just have to really really forgiv her. If u shower her wt love,forgivness and mercy. She ll bloom again, then she wil conceive. Ur forgivness is paramount. Am sure providence made her loose the babies so she can make amends. Bet me,she ll conceive,deliver safely and also look younger wt ur support.

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist. After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness. She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is. I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception. Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work. I need matured and sincere advice please!

MY man, it depends entirely on, why u got married to her and what is obtainable....
PEOPLE get married for several reasons
1)companionship /help mate.
2)procreation.
3)Sociopolitical reasons.

Now these reasons have respective age groups accrued to them.
... For COMPANIONSHIP and PROCREATION... pls, go for a Very young lady, if possible VIRGIN at 22.
They are less likely to come down with subfertility maladies.

... For SOCIOPOLITICAL... The social class of the lady in question matters and not really how viable she is.
For e.g some matured men may crave to have patience ozokwor, just boost their political profile.

... For PROCREATION SOLELY... u must settle for a very young lady.

So my man, U made your choice, on the background of what you want. U just have to LIVE WITH HER, then consider ADOPTION..

Since she LIED to u, u can also keep a mistress and have your kids without informing her.

@OP, you deserve a good slap from me if you were my son! So,you mean that you approached,dated,courted,proposed,and married a lady without even seeing her national ID card,voter card,or even her birth certificate? Guy,she hooked you with lies,so your marriage is built on deception. You are fighting a losing battle. Menopause is not friendly. Ask any doctor about the risk of having an autistic child when a woman is close to menopause! Good luck !

peeparty:


You need only one advice:
Have faith miracles still exist.

i like this your comment

Hmmm a marriage built on a foundation of lies cannot stand,its as simple as that..chances of her having kids are slim..and the older a woman is the chances of here child having downs syndrome are higher..evaluate your options but the final decision only you know it..wish you the best of luck...

Start frying eggs

8,years difference ?

Your wife is wicked an heartless, she was 43 when u got married to her knowing fully well that she was close to menopause , hmmn na wah o, just forgive her sha but don't forget the lies

If you have money, travel abroad and do a test tube baby

Hmmmm! This one is strong oo. Forgive her. Nobody lives forever..
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Nah today but 8yrs no be moimoi... Age is just a number, just overlook it

Abugab:
If you love her as you said stick with her.
Forgive her from the dept of your heart and show this to her so that she will be relaxed. Due to her age she doesn't need to be under any tension so she can conceive and give birth without any issue.
She is obviously a wife material and I am confident she will make a good mother too. Just make her relaxed and put the past behind.
Wish you the best

That marriage is built on lies. The guy should divorce her to find true happiness.

Is 47 not 3 years short of 50 years? Is that not Obasanjo's age? How can you marry someone that old and think she's 35? It seems you married a granny bro

On a more serious note, its your decision to make. If it's still possible for you guys to give birth naturally the. You can forgive her. But you won't be in the wrong if you decide to take another wife. I hate lies.

Womeeeeeeeeeeeeeen

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

The marriage is a fraud .
You can get a divorce and run for your life.
Or you can forgive and work your way out.

47yrs?
Pls go and adopt if you want a child abeg.
Let her not even try again to get pregnant. She should be retiring at this age.

ladyF:
Chai dis one worse pass football age scam
Its [size=20pt]LadyF[/size] again

Smh...una no go kill person for here.

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

/
Do you know what a 47 years old unmarried woman looks like?

You are telling me that the wrinkles, vericose veins and Christian mother hand couldn't give it away?

I don't believe the story. A woman that old may look fresh facially but when the clothes come off, evidence of 47 birthdays will show.

If you want to marry another woman because of the conception problems of your wife, do it. But don't feed people with the BS that you thought your wife is only 35.

/

Forgive her bro. There is nothing new under the sun . Stick with her

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

Any refurbished runs girl will depict all those traits.

The real question I wish she could answer is to tell you how she spent her teens, how she spent her early 30s to her late 30s, how many abortions she had, I think after saying all these and assessing her, you should be able to decide if you need to continue in trusting God for the fruit of the womb or you bid her farewell.


Be strong bro.

shadrach77:
Forgive her bro. There is nothing new under the sun . Stick with her

good one

Larablink:
I feel ur pains,but how beautiful was she when you married her ,wasnt she aging.well age is just a number,forgive her and Forge ahead.put it in prayer.

Lol, how is age just a number when the woman can't keep a pregnancy obviously because she has aged
y'all should stop deceiving yourselves.

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

First of all, the part I highlighted is a profoundly steeeewpid statement to make.

Pure moronic.

Secondly, considering she lied on such a critical matter to get what she wanted, as far as I am concerned, the only solution to get what you want is to find a side dish outside that can procreate for you.

If you like your wife that much, she can still remain your wife while you have a girlfriend outside willing to conceive.

47 No way! Dats past menopause, no miracle can come quicker befor she hits 50(golden age)

If its mature advice you want on Nairaland, then you are on a long thing! Lol! At your age, 80percent of the advice will be from dudes that you are at least 15years older than!

This case is very complicated and sincerely, I don't even know where to start. 8years is quite a lot to deceive your partner with.... In anycase, I believe it all still falls back to you..... You alone knows how it pinches....

I can tell you still love her but the truth is that this matter is ALWAYS going to come up in the course of your marriage.... One advice will have been to adopt but you have already made your stance known about adoption.

Again IVF is another good option. I have heard of cases where even above 50 year old women have been able to give birth to twins and triplets with it. If you choose this option, then please support her fully during the process and make sure her mind is at rest. Be prayerful about it and believe there is nothing God cannot do.

ladyF:
Chai dis one worse pass football age scam

Its [size=20pt]LadyF[/size] again

If I was Seun and owned this site, I would have given you like a month's ban for this your moronic and constant "Its LadyF again" in every first post you make on a thread.

Something tells me you are not mentally sound upstairs or you are one of those useless kids this junk site is attracting nowadays.

hahaha, op don marry ur mother's age mate lol. Jux forgive her. Age is jux a number. Love is whats important.

My brother, Move on.

InvertedHammer:




/
Do you know what a 47 years old unmarried woman looks like?

You are telling me that the wrinkles, vericose veins and Christian mother hand couldn't give it away?

I don't believe the story. A woman that old may look fresh facially but when the clothes come off, evidence of 47 birthdays will show.

If you want to marry another woman because of the conception problems of your wife, do it. But don't feed people with the BS that you thought your wife is only 35.

/

Let's do a little calculation.

He thought she was 35yrs but was 7yrs older.
4yrs ago at 35 but was 7yrs older
This mean she was 42yrs+ 4 years ago.
Her current age = (42yrs+) + 4= 46yrs+

The above mean, the woman was 42 when he married her thinking she was 35 and now she is 47.

@OP, Move On.

jamex93:
Kill ha na

As age don turn food wey u dey chop

Nonsense

No pray make God give u pikin soon

What a moronic fuuktard.

So he should not worry about her age, he should worry about prayer?

Products of failed education system with their constant, useless prayers but no sense.

Sagamite:


If I was Seun and owned this site, I would have given you like a month's ban for this your moronic and constant "Its LadyF again" in every first post you make on a thread.

Something tells me you are not mentally sound upstairs or you are one of those useless kids this junk site is attracting nowadays.

Hmmm.. been watching her for a while always on every post I think she should lay low she's becoming a nuisance.