pappilo:
She is 43 not 47

seedgrows:
love is all that matter's there's nothing like a wife material op
there's is nothing like a perfect woman out here, u guz still have the chance of having ur own kids
show her more love and care
forget about the past people will always talk the fake life we live is the people, love ur wife no matter what she have done, as long you guz are happy together
there's nothing like being happy. have faith all will be just perfect in time bless u both op

Sagamite:


It is not her signature as it is not in every post she makes.

She puts it up in every first post she makes on a thread especially if it is on the first page.

Senseless and dumb childishness as typical of the many fooools that now straddle this site.

Even if it is her signature, it would still be senseless and dumb.

seedgrows:
love is all that matter's there's nothing like a wife material op
there's is nothing like a perfect woman out here, u guz still have the chance of having ur own kids
show her more love and care
forget about the past people will always talk the fake life we live is the people, love ur wife no matter what she have done, as long you guz are happy together
there's nothing like being happy. have faith all will be just perfect in time bless u both op

Dannyabu:


I need matured and sincere advice please!

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

kevinberry:


Oo please,someone that love you won't lie to you,from the post you can easily deduct what the man wants,he wants a child of his own,not through surrogate or IVF,secondly he wants a beautiful young lady,he already said he has become a subject of mockery in his hood people are mocking him because he married his mother age mate....

How would you say he should love,when the woman is not the type of person he wants...

xertyy:
KILL HER

seedgrows:

there are things u will never understand experience is d best teacher happiness is greater than whatever u are thinking right now I still insists he should stay with his wife, and wen have u become God that tells wen to have children, stop misleading people they still have d chance of having children

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35.... assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

adconline:

Only gullible men think this.. Most women are more strategic about marriage than men. Most men marry without considering if the woman is loaded or not but women consider who's going to offer the most help in marriage..

kevinberry:


Oo please,someone that love you won't lie to you,from the post you can easily deduct what the man wants,he wants a child of his own,not through surrogate or IVF,secondly he wants a beautiful young lady,he already said he has become a subject of mockery in his hood people are mocking him because he married his mother age mate....

How would you say he should love,when the woman is not the type of person he wants...

kevinberry:


Crap,they still have the chance of having children,that probably was what the lady was thinking hence why she lied and four solid years has gone by,the issue is not that of having children alone,the man wants a young and beautiful lady has the mother of his children,not outdated blood,from his write-up you can deduct that,he his being mocked for marrying his mother age mate...

Op,divorce her and sue her for fraud,she must pay you back,financially,emotionally and mentally...all the money you spent trying to treat her and she know fully well her problem must be returned

darlenese:


@ bolded , its not always true. I've seen ladies who got married as virgins, but yet find it difficult to conceive .its God that gives children.

seedgrows:

u sound like u are in same shoes with the op okoro be very careful don't destroy someone's happiness at of selfish interest maybe u have someone that will be loving and caring as the op have written about his loving wife u are free to introduce her to d op
am advising d op at of experience wat do u know about marriage and relationship's be very careful don't mislead a man that needs ur hell due to stupidity

Cutehector:
If girl do me dah kyn tin eh, gosh. D animal in me will resurrect frm d dead...

GboGboAye:

Mother's age mate ke? You don exaggerate the matter. Is your mother 7 years older than you? Because he told us that she was 7 years older. Are there not women who marry their father's best friends or men old enough to be their grandfathers? This age difference is very tiny compared to those ones.
Secondly when did he say that the woman is not the type he wants? Did you read his post at all? Did you not note what he spoke about her- "she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady". Does this sound like a wife that any man would not want?
Homie, before you run your mouth get your facts straight. Haba.

kevinberry:


Crap,you forgot where he said that he have become a subject of mockery,that she looks way older than him,if the man didn't marry the woman taking her beauty as part of his choice he won't bother saying she looks way older than him...you wants me to support someone that puts her happiness before that of her husband,knowing fully well that menopause is right behind her,she can be doing those stuffs to make up for her lies, the man wants a beautiful young lady,someone that he would be proud to show off to his friend,someone that even after three children will still be as a lady in her 20's..

The lady is a fraud and should be dispose....everybody should take responsibilities for his/her mistake,she knows her past,let her reap her labour...let me even Pm the op and get in touch,I want to personally see that the woman pay for her selfishness...

Larablink:
I feel ur pains,but how beautiful was she when you married her ,wasnt she aging.well age is just a number,forgive her and Forge ahead.put it in prayer.

joseph1013:


I keep asking myself if she is actually employed. Maybe she's a student, but even at that, why would a sound person be on every post looking to be the first to comment.

So many things are wrong with my people. Kids in civilized societies will not think of doing these. Beats me, honestly.