Lol this story Na cartoon
Am a married man. No man will leave his wife o. No dull. Them force am marry. All Na wash

THE TRUTH...DIG DEEPER ABOUT HIM..FIND OUT IF HE IS TELLING THE TRUTH.ALL THAT GLITTERS ARE NOT GOLD.YOU NEED TO BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR DECISION COS WHAT YOU DECIDE NOW IS A PATH TO YOUR DESTINY..NO BIG DEAL IN BECOMING A SECOND WIFE,IT HAPPENS.ALL THAT MATTERS IS JUST YOUR HAPPINESS.HOWEVER,YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN DESTINED THAT YOU WILL BE A SECOND WIFE IN LIFE.ARE U A CHRISTIAN OR MUSLIM,WHY NOT SEEK SPIRITUAL GUIDANCE AND LET YOUR PASTOR OR IMAM TELL YOU ABOUT THE UNSEEN CHALLENGES LIKELY TO BE FACED WITHOUT ANY FORM OF BIAS MINDS..I DON'T HAVE ANY BUT JUST TELLING YOU THE STEPS YOU CAN TAKE.I HAVE FEMALE FRIENDS AND YOUNGER ONES I HAVE ADVISED AND THEY ARE DOING WELL TODAY.
IM NOT A PASTOR OR SPIRITUALIST BUT I THINK I HAVE A GIFT IN HANDLING RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE ISSUES.

U CAN STIL WHATSAPP ME MICHAEL(08082201708).NO CALLS PLEASE..IM MARRIED..THANK YOU
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freecocoa:
For not keeping his vows na.

How many times have I told you that it is inherent in the men from this part of the world due to cultural affiliation, tradition and a defined way of life that has existed for thousands of years to keep more than one woman and there are lots of factors that supports this particular culture and last time I checked it wasn't a taboo and against the laws of the land even that of the federal republic of Nigeria.

The fact that Christianity , dwindling subsistence farming practices ,challenges in the economy,westernization and modernization has really discouraged it to an extent doesn't make it an immoral abnormal practice.

kadunasouth:
I give thank to almighty Allah made me a Muslim
because Islam is d way out of this issue because it permit marry more than one wife even advice would ve not needed

sharap. It's not easy these days for Muslim families too.
I have a colleague. Nupe. Muslim. She has a child that's a university undergraduate. Her husband, nupe and Muslim too. Last year the man wanted to marry another woman and this woman refused. She was so emotionally traumatised. Lost so much weight in a couple of days. Our office had to grant her compassionate leave to go and sort out her family worries. The marriage didn't hold again. And she's back to her elements, cheerful and relieved.
A friend of mine in Kaduna, fulani Muslim that married his cousin, had been trying to marry a 2nd, but the wife refused. And he wount marry again, because of what he faces whenever he mentions it.

MzRoyalHighness:
"I'm In Love With A Married Man"
and you no shame to talk am

shut up dear, allow the lady to say what is on her mind, nobody wld knw if she didnt. Live n let live

Truckpusher:
How many times have I told you that it is inherent in the men from this part of the world due to cultural affiliation, tradition and a defined way of life that has existed for thousands of years to keep more than one woman and there are lots of factors that supports this particular culture and last time I checked it wasn't a taboo and against the laws of the land even that of the federal republic of Nigeria.

The fact that Christianity , dwindling subsistence farming practices ,challenges in the economy,westernization and modernization has really discouraged it to an extent doesn't make it an immoral abnormal practice.

So you are saying it's okay for a man(married in this case)to cheat on his wife whenever he wants? I'm not saying these things don't happen, am saying it's not fair to the wife involved, since the man has done nothing wrong, what has the girl done wrong?

Wait for our own and all will be well. You are 25, not 35. God is good.

freecocoa:
So you are saying it's okay for a man(married in this case)to cheat on his wife whenever he wants? I'm not saying these things don't happen, am saying it's not fair to the wife involved, since the man has done nothing wrong, what has the girl done wrong?

It was clearly stated by the op that the man in question wants to marry her and of course you and I aware that you don't just bundle people out from the streets and get married to them - They could date ,court and even have sex before eventually getting married.

Once again I do not blame any party and I will not call him a cheat - He simply wants a second wife which is his right as defined by the culture and the law of the land.What part is too hard for you to understand?

Mind you, I'm not planning on becoming a polygamist.

VICTORIA91:
I once said abuse is allowed......is not my fault, all blames on blind love. :- Thank you.I
appreciate your kind advice

its ok babe. Thank God u stl have some conscience left. Its always better to be no1, so the choice is urs.
As for those castigating her, there're thousands of married aristos n sugar daddies out there with numerous sidechicks attached to each n every of them. Pls are those sidechicks ghosts or some of them are not on NL or among those insulting the op? Pls the insulters(insulting the op) should spare us of their hypocritical attitude, abeg.

Did u ever asked him how he impregnated the woman before being forced to marry her. Was he forced to sleep with her in the 1st instance? Am sure the ans is NO, he was inlove with her then the same way he is in love with u now. My dear what goes around,comes around.

U will neva hv a home of ur own as a second wife.

Hazardd:
Your case strong Walahi, you are dating a married man with 3 kids and you are proud enough to said it.... Who God had join together let no man put asunder...next patient pls

Lol.. Next patient indeed. U be doctor?

do unto other wat u want odas to do to u,y wil u b inlove wit sumone else husband and moreova u r nt inlove wit him buh his beauty nd mony.wake up frm ur slumber dear sis.....der r lot of single men out der nd wu wil take care of u

Truckpusher:
It was clearly stated by the op that the man in question wants to marry her and of course you and I aware that you don't just bundle people out from the streets and get married to them - They could date ,court and even have sex before eventually getting married.

Once again I do not blame any party and I will not call him a cheat - He simply wants a second wife which is his right as defined by the culture and the law of the land.What part is too hard for you to understand?

Mind you, I'm not planning on becoming a polygamist.

Did he tell his wife before marrying her that he would take a 2nd wife? did he tell her the day he decided to start dating this other lady? Why did he not tell the lady he was married before they started their affair? If this isn't cheating then I swear by my balls that I don't know what is.

Become a polygamist na, why aren't you planning on it?

I c many things wrong in it and I c nofin wrong in it if u ask me
Let me ask u d followng questions
1)Have u ev tot u ll neva make it in life?
2)Why r u moved by his materials wealth wch cn varnish anytym?
3)How did u know u love him, cos all I'm seeing is lust?
4)Put urself inside the man's wife shoe,will u b api if u r d one?
5)He said they force him to marry her,how true is that?
6)Above all Will God be api wt u?
If u cn answer the above questions my dear sis u r good to go
D yoruba ll say " To ba koju sie ko ta,To ba keyin si e Ko Ta, To ba kun iwonikan ki o tun ero ara pa"
#Ire o I c many things wrong in it and I c nofin wrong in it if u ask me
Let me ask u d followng questions
1)Have u ev tot u ll neva make it in life?
2)Why r u moved by his materials wealth wch cn varnish anytym?
3)How did u know u love him, cos all I'm seeing is lust?
4)Put urself inside the man's wife shoe,will u b api if u r d one?
5)He said they force him to marry her,how true is that?
6)Above all Will God be api wt u?
If u cn answer the above questions my dear sis u r good to go
D yoruba ll say " To ba koju sie ko ta,To ba keyin si e Ko Ta, To ba kun iwonikan ki o tun ero ara pa"
#Ire o

if he is forced to marry,is he forced to impregnanted her also..




men wit der lies


jst wise up b4 u fall into his hand and moreova he may impregnated u also and run away frm u..

jst leave him for d beta man dat is cuming

freecocoa:
Did he tell his wife before marrying her that he would take a 2nd wife, did he tell her the day he decided to start dating this other lady? Why did he not tell the lady he was married before they started their affair? If this isn't cheating and then I swear by my balls that I don't know what is.

Become a polygamist na, why aren't you planning on it?

There was never where it was stated that a man requires the permission of his wife to take a second wife and not telling the other lady that he was married is something I can't speak for or on behalf ,as our convo here is basically based on whether he was right or wrong,so what transpired between both of them shouldn't be subjected to any form of scrutiny as that part is a negligible aspect of the crux of the matter.

To answer your last question : Polygamy is no longer economically sustainable.

Hahahahahahahah na. Real. Unlonve him ;DASAP

ammyluv2002:
Pls unlove him ASAP

anytaij:
Hahahahahahahah na. Real. Unlonve him ;DASAP

zanga420:
its ok babe. Thank God u stl have some conscience left. Its always better to be no1, so the choice is urs.
As for those castigating her, there're thousands of married aristos n sugar daddies out there with numerous sidechicks attached to each n every of them. Pls are those sidechicks ghosts or some of them are not on NL or among those insulting the op? Pls the insulters(insulting the op) should spare us of their hypocritical attitude, abeg.

Thank you for this sensible speech....Hypocrite everywhere!!!

Truckpusher:
There was never where it was stated that a man requires the permission of his wife to take a second wife and not telling the other lady that he was married is something I can't speak for or on behalf ,as our convo here is basically based on whether he was right or wrong,so what transpired between both of them shouldn't be subjected to any form of scrutiny as that part is a negligible aspect of the crux of the matter.

To answer your last question : Polygamy is no longer economically sustainable.

Really? So even people that get wed in the church or court don't agree to stick to their partners? But it was written somewhere that a woman can't up and leave to be with another man? How does this seem right to you? I will never be able to understand it.

Y do u wish to destroy a peaceful home? Indeed the thunder way go fire u dey do prrss up[i][/i] [color=#000099][/color]

There is nothing more to say.opt out..THERE ARE BETTER DAYS AHEAD.

Shebarh:

Is that a yes?

Cutehector:
chai we men and our lies! I laffed wen I read that part...

imagine the lie...then she believed

Now, other comments have really told you the hard truths. I would like to say this truth to you. The man wanted to test the power of your freewill. He asked you to make up your mind to either date him or end the relationship. You on your own volition prefered to continue the sinful, wicked and unholy union. By this, he has measure and rated the kind of woman you are. That you are a CHEAT. You have 101% cheating tendencies. If you could hold unto him after knowing his marrital status, he has marked down who you are. It is now that he is carefully collecting the facts and data about the real you. Then again, i want to say this. WOMEN ARE WOMEN'S PROBLEM IN THIS WORLD. I used to ponder much on the meaning of the sentence. From your story, i see its true. Women mess around with husband's of fellow specie consciously.

My dear, by the time the mist of ur infactuation for the man must have entrained, and you both have zero entropy between you, then you will know how far. By the time, u would want to retrace your steps; u would have had a blood link (baby) for him. Then you will know the mess you made to your life.

GodblessNig247:

I believe and stand for the truth. Hope u do.

Yh

Iamthoney:
Is that a yes?

maybe

[quote author=silverr post=38284761]Dear victoria91,
I understand you well well, I've been in a very similar case. This Bobo just left me to fall in love finish before telling me he's married with 3 kids.

I initially felt the same way you feel, I was ready to marry him especially as he also told me how it was a one night stand and she got pregnant and his conscience and family couldn't let him kick her out. He claimed the other set of twins were born cus the lady got desperate after 4yrs of him not even kissing her and drugged him. So I felt: this woman wicked o! So what I wish to do can be forgiven after all she trapped a man against his wish. But......... for the love I have for God, I refused to be the tool karma/the devil will use against her. That's how I backed out.

E pain me o, I cried to myself for weeks. Only for me to find out when I was coming out of the trauma that my so called Mr right was dating my friend and had made docs for her to fly out of the country (she was already pregnant sef). I went into another shock. For like 2yrs +, I was forming I don't need love.

Now, the guy I'm dating is 10x better than my ex and he's single with no strings attached. Could I ever have forgiven if I went to be 2nd wife for a lesser man? Did I say the energy of those lonely years took my biz to a new height?

Please learn from me and don't quote me.[/quote
]...NOTED.THANK U

freecocoa:
Really? So even people that get wed in the church or court don't agree to stick to their partners? But it was written somewhere that a woman can't up and leave to be with another man? How does this seem right to you? I will never be able to understand it.

The laws of the land supersedes that of the church.

The marriage act that was enacted years back isn't even at a loggerhead with the old customary court as long as the three different conditions are met, the same court where you did your court wedding still recognizes the same polygamy.

The factors are namely :

1) If the second marriage is not for repugnance to punish the first wife.
2) Abandoning your primary obligation to your first wife
3) And if your culture accepts polygamy
Once these three factors are well demonstrated in their perfect order then anyone in this country can have a second wife, even an affair and if push comes to shove he would claim that marriage is what he is pursuing.

Women should do more and demand that such laws should be scrapped and not trying to arm-twist innocent men to stop exercising their right that was bestowed upon them by the culture and the system.

Hazardd:
Your case strong Walahi, you are dating a married man with 3 kids and you are proud enough to said it.... Who God had join together let no man put asunder...next patient pls

this ur english eh,fit make blind man see

FtLawi:
you have not done anything bad . move on jare. its not bad islamically. but don't allow him to have sex with you without paying your bride price.

Very funny comment,so what have they been doing since if not having sex?

You are just a 'bronze digger'
I pity that man for he knoweth not what he bringeth upon his household.