We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

Luk for Monday hammer use it nd hit ur gf for chest,if her chest rip open den u hv successfully broken up wit her.


Congrat in advance bro


Pls guys Wats so special about dis FTC stuff?

U see! these are some of the problems related with long time relationship
concerning relationships: mine do end bluntly . the1st left my sch and state( back den in sec sch)
the 2nd was triple dating so I withdrew same to the third and 4th . though they claimed to have shake those guiz off, my mind was made up so u c







Op pardon my initial obtuse idea

gentlesinna:
Luk for Monday hammer use it nd hit ur gf for chest,if her chest rip open den u hv successfully broken up wit her.


Congrat in advance bro

Lol, no matter how serious a situation is, when humor is thrown at me, I can't help but laugh... which I am doing right now. but at the end of the day bro, the problem won't be solved. So you can share an experience on how you ended a relationship with a girl before and I can learn from it. I haven't formally initiated a break up before and that is why I ask.

Same goes to you @Pennah

I have to take this time out to thank every one who has contributed in one way or the other to this post. I have read through all the comments so far and they've been very helpful. I used to make her read Nairaland a lot then and probably she may stumble into this, she may relate but might not be able to figure out its me. I wish I could tell her "we made Front Page" but its a serious matter. To every one out there... communication is very key in every relationship; be it friendship or one that is intimate. I have been overwhelmed by your response and I think Nairaland has a lot of relationship dr's... Thank you once again Family...

If I were u, I'll commit murder and commit suicide, in that case, no winner, no vanquished!
Anyways, today's my bday. Me and shalewa go f_ck ourselves until there's nothing left of us

let me read

Just break up.

Don't worry, you don't have a single problem.

very simple just gradually start to CARELESS that settles it. Thank me later alright.

Hmmmmm... You or your girl should relocate and sieze all contacts with eachother. If that's done for like 5 months. The feelings you've for one another ought to vanish..

Go on exile bro

Lol I didn't read sha I just glanced through hope u don't expect an advise from me

tell her u have repented and cant fornicate anymore coz its end time.

Change ur sim card

Just harden your heart,,Gaddammit!!

Abeg

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Have you guys been banging each other?

Stop!!!!!

If you keep going between her legs, u can't get away.

If you need to jerk off so badly, explore other options.

Just stay away from her p**

Just end it

Will comment later...

dovetark:
We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

You can go back there.

tell her you are gay

..... Hmmmmnn... Just call her and tell her: Bae i wouldn't know if u will be able to continue with me..coz i've got a bad news here, (mind u by this time u will be sobering and almost wanna cry) Now tell her: Bae i just tested positive to HIV (now break down in so much tears) and see her reaction.... Thank me Later bro....lol
On a serious note ...every relationship has two sides and most definitely u gonna have some share of both parts i.e Sweeten part and d sadden part...Baba it's not how far but how well...if u truly love ur bae stick to her and try to make things right... since u guys had once been Love birds certainly u can always be..... Talking from Xperience Man....Ladies are just too flexibke

Op, please one quick question:

Is a woman -another woman- now involved?

Honestly?

Sometimes, ''officially'' ending a relationship doesnt mean ur out of the relationship. Sometimes, u just find out ur more in the relationship and more connected even if ur officially not in a relationship.
Simply put, ma nigga, work that sh*t out cox from what I read, it doesnt look like u guys are tryna work nothing out. U dont care about ur bullshit no more

op dnt end it na, u guyz shud go 4 a holiday or trip

Lalasticlala,Farano,pls,help him with this by pushing it to FP..

Well,well...I feel sad for this story. Looks like a beautiful relationship going down the drain..after how long..3 years? That's something! It's obvious a break up is inevitable,since u've always suggested it. So it's best u get it over and done with ASAP...U've postponed too long. If u guys want this relationship to get somewhere,u'd only realise it being apart.. not as a couple. That's the only time both of u will be able to objectively decide on what u want,find out what went wrong and how to fix it...But the breakup's got to happen. Ur gf ought to understand. At least she can see for herself that the spark's gone...there's no need clinging to a dying flame. U either make a new fire or go out there to find out how to rekindle the dying one..sth that'd keep it burning for a real long time.
Just make her understand all these. Tell her the relationship isn't working anymore.And yes,u'll be hurt...u'll wonder if breaking up was the best solution,but u'll get over it if u decide to. If she still refuses to understand,then perhaps u'd have to take measures to enforce the break up and keep her away.




Mind u,break up only if u think the relationship is never going to be salvaged by sticking together.

....

first, you have to decide if you want to stay or leave, then,


you just leave or stay.


Truth is no matter how long the epistle anyone writes on advicing you to do either, you'd end up doing just that you have resolved to do.

What do you truly want?

G

End time relationship