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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by knightsTempler: 3:27pm On Mar 07, 2016
Trypa:




and so fucking what? what if u was ur sister?and a guy said dat n U overheard him? huh

Don't take the guy serious, you can tell from his post that he is still a kid, probable 14 or at most 16.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by drololaaof: 3:28pm On Mar 07, 2016
For her to let you know is very good ,it is better than telling you lies that the little innocent girl is her cousin or younger sister for you to know the trutht after maraige. Take her as she is

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Sleekyshuga(f): 3:29pm On Mar 07, 2016
This is a very sensitive case as it involves an 8 years old child.. I am always of the opinion of baring it all (especially, the most important aspect of courtship) before going into something serious to avoid stories that touch..

But seriously, why hide a child save you have an ulterior motive.. A man/woman who will love you will trail along if Mr. A wasn't cool with it..

@ OP, the ball is in your court.. Weigh your options.. If you can, why not!

ariyike23:

she was prob tryna decipher if ur relationship wid her was worth it,u cnt go about telling evryone who approaches you for a date u av a kid untill yu see that d person is worth it..
This is where we get it wrong.. It changes nothing, trust me.. You don't have to wait to know if a man will date you or not before you spill something this sensitive.. It's seriously no biggie.. Even in the process of knowing yourselves, you can chip it in..-- 'Look, I have an 8 years old daughter.' bla...bla...bla... It saves you from later regrets..

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Laredojohn(m): 3:29pm On Mar 07, 2016
in as much as i see nothing there marrying a single mum, but you need to be determined to do so, dnt do out of pity, do because you are ready and sort of willing to take responsibility of a child that is not yours before and after she gives birth to your, i know some would say what if the father of the child wants to take responsibility , thats true , but would you like to expose your wife to going back to her former anytime there is a need for the child just think properly and be sure u can handle all that is involved .

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by ladyF(f): 3:30pm On Mar 07, 2016
I don't blame the OP sha. It's the same way ladies don't want guys with kid(s) Some of us don't want any form of baby mama drama.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by cool318(m): 3:30pm On Mar 07, 2016
She said the Truth so encourage her cos she is Sincere. My Cousin never knew that the Woman she wedded had an 8 years old giurl child until 6 years into their marriage.

Women can be Little Devils.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by ipledge10(m): 3:30pm On Mar 07, 2016
godoluwa:
will become sagged someday
atleast you will know that you the author of d sagness grin and mind you it won't just flat like bathroom slippers on one day,it's a gradual process and you will always adjust grin
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Ifebazz(m): 3:31pm On Mar 07, 2016
doughziay:
I dated this young lady for some months and things were going on fine until recently she told me she would like to discuss something with me and told me to promise her that it wouldn't change my attitude towards her.

She said she Has an 8year Old daughter already which made her drop out of school to take care of the child. The father of the child didn't take responsibility. She and her parents have been taking care of the child who's now 8yrs Old.

MY QUESTION: What would you do if you were in My shoes. Marry a single mom or Let her be.
At least respect her for having the courage to tell you before it was too late. Many desperate girls will wait till you marry them and bring the child into your home as her aunts child. If she is a good person, go ahead son. It's no biggie, lots of guys sire children with other women before they get married.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by dammytosh: 3:31pm On Mar 07, 2016
Some are just unlucky.

They are way better than some virgins.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by lana1878(m): 3:31pm On Mar 07, 2016
Wonder when being a single mother has now become a crime or plague. She's human and if she has all the attributes you want in a woman marry her and take the child as yours. That's the pure defination of being a man. Man up

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by ajalawole(m): 3:32pm On Mar 07, 2016
Every girls out dea are single mama's and mothers. It has happend to me twice bro, infact am now dating the second single mother (me praying its not from my village sha grin). The first lady i meet told me same story like urs, but after i have helped her and even send the 4yrs old child to school, she then told me that she is not the true mother of the child. That was after she finished her ND program. Not again i meet another single mother from the same school i met the first one, infact it make me not to trust gurls those days.

But if u truely love her, Go and meet some of her family members, cux if she started staying with u now and anything happend to her child now, people will think u used the child for blood money. The truth is that, single mother love to sleep outside once u are a caring guy. So dont let her go bro if u love her:
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by misreal(m): 3:34pm On Mar 07, 2016
doughziay:
I dated this young lady for some months and things were going on fine until recently she told me she would like to discuss something with me and told me to promise her that it wouldn't change my attitude towards her.

She said she Has an 8year Old daughter already which made her drop out of school to take care of the child. The father of the child didn't take responsibility. She and her parents have been taking care of the child who's now 8yrs Old.

MY QUESTION: What would you do if you were in My shoes. Marry a single mom or Let her be.
you cant ignore what caused the break up oh.and why would a man abandon his own child just like dat.be wise my friend,make sure u find out a lot about she and her family before you enter that ship.else what wrecked her previous relationship will surely wreck dis one.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by petiteee(f): 3:36pm On Mar 07, 2016
doughziay:
I dated this young lady for some months and things were going on fine until recently she told me she would like to discuss something with me and told me to promise her that it wouldn't change my attitude towards her.

She said she Has an 8year Old daughter already which made her drop out of school to take care of the child. The father of the child didn't take responsibility. She and her parents have been taking care of the child who's now 8yrs Old.

MY QUESTION: What would you do if you were in My shoes. Marry a single mom or Let her be.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by petiteee(f): 3:36pm On Mar 07, 2016
doughziay:
I dated this young lady for some months and things were going on fine until recently she told me she would like to discuss something with me and told me to promise her that it wouldn't change my attitude towards her.

She said she Has an 8year Old daughter already which made her drop out of school to take care of the child. The father of the child didn't take responsibility. She and her parents have been taking care of the child who's now 8yrs Old.

MY QUESTION: What would you do if you were in My shoes. Marry a single mom or Let her be.
If you like
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Aringon(m): 3:39pm On Mar 07, 2016
doughziay:
I dated this young lady for some months and things were going on fine until recently she told me she would like to discuss something with me and told me to promise her that it wouldn't change my attitude towards her.

She said she Has an 8year Old daughter already which made her drop out of school to take care of the child. The father of the child didn't take responsibility. She and her parents have been taking care of the child who's now 8yrs Old.

MY QUESTION: What would you do if you were in My shoes. Marry a single mom or Let her be.
For her to tell you is a mark of integrity and sincerity from her. U r lucky mehn
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by xendra: 3:42pm On Mar 07, 2016
misreal:
you cant ignore what caused the break up oh.and why would a man abandon his own child just like dat.be wise my friend,make sure u find out a lot about she and her family before you enter that ship.else what wrecked her previous relationship will surely wreck dis one.
pftt...men do it all the time, lazy men everywhere. It doesn't have to be the woman's fault.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Kassidy90(m): 3:43pm On Mar 07, 2016
If u love her n see some gud things in her no big deal, OK what if she aborted the pregnancy then and had complications making her not to able to conceive again and she didn't tell u about it nko...n u end up marrying her

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Skills10: 3:44pm On Mar 07, 2016
What about the father of the Child? If he comes in the future to demand for full custody of his Child. Also, some believe (especially Yorubas) that the mother of One's Child is more or less One's wife even without the proper marriage.
You have to make the right decision. Love is not the only factor to consider.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by remexy(f): 3:48pm On Mar 07, 2016
Absolutely not a big deal. She didnt tell u initially because u may have judged her amd that would not have given ur relationship an oportunity. Also she was protecting her child. Now she feels u are worth it.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by misreal(m): 3:53pm On Mar 07, 2016
xendra:
pftt...men do it all the time, lazy men everywhere. It doesn't have to be the woman's fault.
hello miss,i didnt dismiss the fact that it may not be her fault.that is why i adviced the op,to ask questions abt her in other to find out abt her....."lazy men"??i just hope u werent refering to me.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by falconey(m): 3:54pm On Mar 07, 2016
Morountodun:


Yes! Someone's mother

If your father has died or divorced your mother when you were young, will you appreciate it when men tell her that they cannot date her because she has you?

Would youv for men like yourself for your wife if anything should happen to you if your marriage?

What about your sister? Or your daughter?

It is your right to be close minded however do not forget that you are surrounded with people who may have the same issue years from now. How are you going to act towards those men? How are you going to feel about their situation?

In those circumstances i can, now on the subject matter the op stated clearly the father of the child is alive.

He didnt take responsibility ni.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by misreal(m): 3:54pm On Mar 07, 2016
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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by ylaa(f): 3:54pm On Mar 07, 2016
how are we sure he too is not a single papa
if he cant stand being with a single mother
he should take a walk.
better to be a single mother than commit abortion
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Guyman02: 3:57pm On Mar 07, 2016
If you like her and she promised to love you forever dont let her having a kid out of wedlock stop you. Adopt the child as your own as part of the conditions with her family and let her call you daddy.
Like someone mentioned earlier you must not let third party into the union or they will make you see reasons why you should not go along with her and her child.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by falconey(m): 3:59pm On Mar 07, 2016
knightsTempler:

lol, this fellow here has comprehension problem. Sorry!
Take your speculations and shove it up your a**!!!!
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Morountodun: 4:02pm On Mar 07, 2016
falconey:


In those circumstances i can, now on the subject matter the op stated clearly the father of the child is alive.

He didnt take responsibility ni.

In those circumstances, you would not. There are many husbands (not baby father's) who do not take responsibilities of the children, will you tell me that their wives (if they eventually divorced); should not remarry because their exes do not take responsibility.

Will you rather own daughter abort her pregnancy if a man do not take responsibility or will you ask her not to leave an irresponsible husband because men will not marry a woman whose baby father do not take responsibility?

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by falconey(m): 4:05pm On Mar 07, 2016
Morountodun:


In those circumstances, you would not. There are many husbands (not baby father's) who do not take responsibilities of the children, will you tell me that their wives (if they eventually divorced); should not remarry because their exes do not take responsibility.

Will you rather own daughter abort her pregnancy if a man do not take responsibility or will you ask her not to leave an irresponsible husband because men will not marry a woman whose baby father do not take responsibility?

You are trying to change my perception but i've already told you i would in those circumstances.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by jalay(m): 4:11pm On Mar 07, 2016
Love or no Love but aftermath or the future will tell.
As for me being a guy in that scenario, My fear is that;
1. She may later have feelings for the guy when he start showing up to the lady and apologizing
2. The child may start having awkward feeling of not being the legitimate father and would like to go after the father someday after you must have shown the child ur fatherly love, care and upbringing.. lol story that touches the heart
3. The feeling of ''Baby Mama crisis'' will arise when there's disagreement after weeks, months, years you decides marrying her
4. The feelings that the baby not your biological father

Those are what you will face
All this depends on you if you can take it. I am also in your shoes. Same thing here i am experiencing in Uk.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by eightsin(m): 4:13pm On Mar 07, 2016
I wonder how she expects you not to change when has changed the game and the rules
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Morountodun: 4:13pm On Mar 07, 2016
falconey:


You are trying to change my perception but i've already told you i would in those circumstances.

I am not trying to change your perception. I want you to know that those circumstances could happen to anyone. No one is above mistakes.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by knightsTempler: 4:14pm On Mar 07, 2016
Morountodun:


In those circumstances, you would not. There are many husbands (not baby father's) who do not take responsibilities of the children, will you tell me that their wives (if they eventually divorced); should not remarry because their exes do not take responsibility.

Will you rather own daughter abort her pregnancy if a man do not take responsibility or will you ask her not to leave an irresponsible husband because men will not marry a woman whose baby father do not take responsibility?

God bless you for taking your time to school that ignorant fella called falconey, i only wish he 'll open up his mind to learn.

Being educated does not clean up ignorance, you can be educated and still be ignorant.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by falconey(m): 4:17pm On Mar 07, 2016
knightsTempler:


God bless you for taking your time to school that ignorant fella called falconey, i only wish he 'll open up his mind to learn.

Being educated does not clean up ignorance, you can be educated and still be ignorant.


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