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Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by frankoben(m): 12:07am On Apr 15, 2016

Even person wey dey do election campaign no go fit provide all these items, shey na IDP camp the family dey try open ni?

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by habsydiamond(m): 12:19am On Apr 15, 2016

why he go propose. if na me eh. if i marry her finish i no won see any of the lady family for my house na slave trade list them issue. that is na cash and carry.

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Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by TrumpDonald(m): 12:29am On Apr 15, 2016

MilesLamar:
Our Igbo sisters ain't cheap..

Na like dis u take dey value them?

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by Merelyn(f): 12:32am On Apr 15, 2016

ciggarete no de the list ooooo

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by donhils: 12:57am On Apr 15, 2016

Adaowerri111:
Been dating for years and today I decided to go through my Bf's pics/gallery...I found this, is it for real?

Tah gbafuo there. This is not true any where. Not only female antelope and female grass cutter, you'll provide female hippopotamus too.
This is made up. Tell us the name of the village that demands all these things.

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by Penco2020(m): 1:10am On Apr 15, 2016

I'm certainly sure d lady is for money rituals.

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by somegirl1: 1:25am On Apr 15, 2016

gracevile:
then u people should marry ur girls because u are rich,stupid u find ibo men fighting to marry girls from other regions other than their own WHYYYY??

Not true.
Igbo men are less likely to marry outside their group. When they do, they are more likely to marry women from cultures with equally high marriage costs e.g Efik, Ibibio, Ijaw.

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Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by hitz: 1:27am On Apr 15, 2016

DaGC:
I highly doubt any parent will issue such a list.

Probably just a comic relief to scare some peeps of Igbo girls.....and yes I know some family demands can be extreme, cause I've been to a few of the weddings.

As for me, there's always the power of negotiation.

Its real. That list is even fair.

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by somegirl1: 1:29am On Apr 15, 2016

booqee:
some of the things we practice in this Nigeria are just dumb and insensible.. this is 2016. sh!ts like this should be dumped... seriously?!

whoever introduced that unreasonable bride price thingy? what is there if two families simply come together and respectfully reach a happy agreement for their son and daughter to get married after assessment..end of story

I admire some part of the west who also have refuse the drop 'money for bride buying tradition' too, but would demand something as low as just N1000

that money part is just not okay

The actual bride price taken by the bride's family could be as low as N10. The items in the list are for the villagers not the bride's family.

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Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by Danfuster(m): 1:34am On Apr 15, 2016

nevilbot:
For those of you saying this list is not possible, attached is the list gotten by my brother from his father in law who are from anambra state. Mind you, this list was just collected two weeks ago and the wedding is in July. We are from ondo state and ondo don't make such ridiculous lists. Did you notice the note written after the long list still saying the list does not contain some things again? I don't know if Igbo people view dia daughters as commodities cus des lists are just outright ridiculous

Choi! I am completely finished . Shey na wetin me sef go see be this when I go Awka for my Obianuju.

Bros abeg... Shey na Nnewi or Okuzu she? Make I know how I go start my Kaya for idumota

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by BlackOnassis(m): 4:31am On Apr 15, 2016

Are you guys serious? I was expecting an expensive list. dis is nothing abeg.

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by diva90: 4:36am On Apr 15, 2016

Adaowerri111:
Been dating for years and today I decided to go through my Bf's pics/gallery...I found this, is it for real?

It's real, my village list was 3 pages and each page was longer than that list you posted. Somethings can be negotiated or substituted with its monetary value. The list is usually divided into what the man will do for the girl's father, her mother, the umu Ada( elder women) and the elders, also things he will buy for the bride. It's just inevitable Igbo tradition and this is not even the bride price, he will still do the list and pay the bride price. Pride price can range from N5 to thousands of naira depending on brides village and family demands

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Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by lastpage: 4:46am On Apr 15, 2016

Adaowerri111:
Been dating for years and today I decided to go through my Bf's pics/gallery...I found this, is it for real?

This is fair enough! let the guy propose, sharp-sharp

I did not see things like
*(x2 Units) of latest model of Rayleigh Bicycle!
*Train two Boys from her family and set them up in Lagos! grin

*Open Shop for Wife's Mother and stock with provisions
*Italian Shoe for Daddy! shocked

*Two pairs of Wahl Shaving Clipper (Original WAHL.... not China!)
* e.t.c

Back then, my friends own has such things and the guy just broke into "sweat" when he was given. grin

Lastpage!

BTW: I think the "Gender Bill" should have things like this (Dowry and items) expressly proscribed and criminalised, what say you women? shocked

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by lastpage: 4:52am On Apr 15, 2016

nevilbot:
For those of you saying this list is not possible, attached is the list gotten by my brother from his father in law who are from anambra state. Mind you, this list was just collected two weeks ago and the wedding is in July. We are from ondo state and ondo don't make such ridiculous lists. Did you notice the note written after the long list still saying the list does not contain some things again? I don't know if Igbo people view dia daughters as commodities cus des lists are just outright ridiculous

Hahahahaha!
Your Brother do enter "half" Chance for this one!

Im go talk how im waka reach that side!

I hope he will ahev time to take care of his won parents, who laboured on his head, day and night?

Anyway, if that is who he wants to marry, he should cop-on and cough out the dough!

Lastpage!

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by Mty4real(m): 6:18am On Apr 15, 2016

For those that were not born then, it will interest you to know that this is technically called trade by barter,

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by sinceraconcept(m): 6:18am On Apr 15, 2016

Flashh:
These massive items are only valid if they are selling their daughter for money ritual.

they better call Tony Umez to come get her

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by MilesLamar(m): 6:28am On Apr 15, 2016

TrumpDonald:

Na like dis u take dey value them?

Ah dey tell u

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by HirstMOG(m): 6:48am On Apr 15, 2016

I will gladly pay if you are for sale!!!!!

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by Blessograo(f): 6:49am On Apr 15, 2016

LMAO some things are excluded like:
lace for her parent,
money for aeroplane that he will pay during engagement,
money for her siblings, aunt and uncles,
a basket of fruit and sweet
10 litre bottle of honey (original)
3 bags of rice,
a cow
3 baskets of tomatoes, and all cooking ingredients
250 tubers of yams
money for door knocking
money for the housewives grin

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by DaGC(m): 6:59am On Apr 15, 2016

oguego:
oga its not funny, its real, and the family have nothing to do with the list, it is the community that prepares the list, we were given something like dis last year during my bro trad wedding

Well, I'm an Urhobo and ours is way way way more less than that.

I have attended a few weddings in Igbo land. I actually never thought the men paid this high before the marriage is agreed.

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by walker1994(m): 7:02am On Apr 15, 2016

If u ask me that is reason enough in fact go meet ur papa mak e marry u God!! ar u for sale

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by DaGC(m): 7:02am On Apr 15, 2016

hitz:

Its real. That list is even fair.

Fair? Wow. Had no idea.
With the few I attended, never knee the groom passed through such.

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by DaGC(m): 7:05am On Apr 15, 2016

AdoreKIZITO:

Parents don't issue list, the kinsmen do

Ok. Thanks for that, but what's with the 2 antelopes and 3 grasscutters on the list?

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by Baroba(m): 7:10am On Apr 15, 2016

Three grasscutters?, get out of here..

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by olajizz01(m): 7:13am On Apr 15, 2016

MilesLamar:
Our Igbo sisters ain't cheap..

yes,they are for sale.

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by TrumpDonald(m): 7:20am On Apr 15, 2016

MilesLamar:

Ah dey tell u

U funny

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Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by Mcowubaba: 7:23am On Apr 15, 2016

Lol... Too Female Antelopes, u sure say no be Ritual them wan do cheesy

....
Even cartons of Viju milk, d wan open Shoprite for my guy head

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by sinaj(f): 7:24am On Apr 15, 2016

Donpuzo:

You see why I never finalize our marriage plans...

lol

Keep planning till someone else finalize b4 u tongue

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by Nobody: 7:34am On Apr 15, 2016

JhimmySpark:
This is too much na

Too much??! You need to see my list below:

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by Bethelwealthy(m): 7:41am On Apr 15, 2016

............who tell you say i love you. Na joke abeg..................... grin

Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by pacino26(m): 7:45am On Apr 15, 2016

That list could be from Mbano. cool

#500k and this whole thing is off the way. Then you get set for entertainment. But with a good father in law you could just hand them #300k and go your way.

On the Awka list, man that's not too bad o. You didn't get to dress her parents which would be costing around #150k for both.

Gender equality bill got nothing to do with this, we're Africans with a set of tradition before the white men came. You'd wrestle your fellow man for a beautiful maiden those days na, cultivate their land, pound fufu, do some real hunting to prove you can really take care. No doubt the economy is.. ....and youths of marriageable age lay siege on the doors of classy weddings.

It's common psychology that they'd want to see if you're prepared or not. Talk to your fiance or be and let him take a step even with the little he has. Carry-over is allowed.

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Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by victorazy(m): 8:03am On Apr 15, 2016

Kenzico:
This kinda dowry is capable of making Ladies to remain spinsters till further adjustments.

This is why most ladies remain single

The one who want to.

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