lezz:
You just can't get enough of me. 1 month without quoting me is just too much asking for you

joseph1832:
Hey bro. I'm actually thinking the time is almost right for I and you to have a menage a trois with daretodiffer. LMAO.

cococandy:

Why don't you go back in time and get you some 16th century women who love your godly slavery.
Instead of fighting this your already lost battle?

joseph1832:
Hey bro. I'm actually thinking the time is almost right for I and you to have a menage a trois with daretodiffer. LMAO.

lezz:


Lolz @ menage a trois. Will that cure her acute lack of good judgement and chronic obsessive-compulsive disorder?

daretodiffer:
Your mum will do just fine

Now fvck off. I am through with you for today

joseph1832:
I believe it may. Remember, lack of good sex can cause serious deviant behavior.

However, before we engage in the deed, I'll have her do us the deed of shaving her vagina. A bushy vagina is known to be home to all manner of pest, rodents, cats and arachnid.

Lolz, my ribs.

I shudder to think of the vast materials of hijab I will have to shove aside to get to her centre.

She may well be a freak awaiting fuel to burn.

I just wonder how wide she's going to part her legs; in complete surrender or in partial reluctance of hesitation.

I've never predicted a depressive maniac aright!

lezz:




Lolz, my ribs.

I shudder to think of the vast materials of hijab I will have to shove aside to get to her centre.

She may well be a freak awaiting fuel to burn.

I just wonder how wide she's going to part her legs; in complete surrender or in partial reluctance of hesitation.

I've never predicted a depressive maniac aright!

joseph1832:
If her hijab material frightens you, I'll have you know, I cringe at the sight and smell of her vagina. Just imagine it, her vast array of hijab material, couple with her bushy vagina, mixed with the seeming heat, will make her vagina and its surrounding stink to the point of resurrecting dead corpses.

Small wonder why she display her frustration all over the net cos she must have murdered numerous men by virtue of parting her legs.

To think a woman can carry a weapon more deadly than a nuke beats me. I just hope she doesn't give the C.I.A a grand idea...

Not so brutal , bro.
She likes me alright but has an odd way of showing it. and she's in Scotland, can't travel that distance for a püssy I ain't certain of its moistness or elasticity.

I think her tuition fees didn't cover house heating. She wants to get e-warmed but employed a rude way in going about it.

lezz:


Not so brutal , bro.
She likes me alright but has an odd way of showing it. and she's in Scotland, can't travel that distance for a püssy I ain't certain of its moistness or elasticity.

I think her tuition fees didn't cover house heating. She wants to get e-warmed but employed a rude way in going about it.

Acidosis:
It's simple!


Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands.



Husbands love your wives.


This principle has worked for all successful marriages I know. It worked for my grandparents; it worked for my parents (over 30 years in marriage, yet I've never seen them fight/yell/or shout at each other).

This same principle/ethics will I uphold in my family, and same would be passed to my children. Even if Obama legalizes marriage between man and pig, my own ethics and principles STAND.

lezz:


Not so brutal , bro.
She likes me alright but has an odd way of showing it. and she's in Scotland, can't travel that distance for a püssy I ain't certain of its moistness or elasticity.

I think her tuition fees didn't cover house heating. She wants to get e-warmed but employed a rude way in going about it.

lezz:


Thank you for your unpretentious and simple truth.

The majority here are carried away by the modern fad of moral vapour. In their failed attempts at being seen as liberated of mind and morally mature, they have been blown away with every passing jazz of moral inclusivism.

All who have opposed african marriage here have equally given adhesion to faggøtry, homosexuality and other fads which has not only defied logic but nature.

The new mental slavery that has enveloped the black man is in the books!!! Isn't it ironic.

We were illiterates and were colonised and enslaved.

Now we are lettered and are enslaved by the needy compulsion to be seen as liberated and sound in mind.

Dklef:


LOL.. I 'think' i sent you a mail (not very sure it went through)

Please do check.

Mindfulness:

Another beautiful compilation of masterful rhetorics.
I am inclined to agree with everything you have written above and also believe that you will share my opinion that we are called to offer alternative views to what we (choose to) read here about marriage and other controversial topics. In a nutshell, more solutions and less criticism

Mindfulness:

So - in the context of this thread - what should be the values of African marriage?
And of course why?

Ishilove:

What is oko 'Gbewudani?'

Acidosis:


Exactly bro. They really do not understand the implications of recolonization.

The good thing is not all Nigerians who live abroad subject themselves to this mental and marital 'enculturation.'

Enculturation means: the process by which an individual learns the traditional content of a culture and assimilates its practices and values.

If these categories of anti-african folks travel to a continent where females sleep with dogs, they'll stand by it, defend it, and beat you with their understanding.

They live in climes where men kiss fellow men on the streets, so they've over time blend to belief a man can actually burst the anus of another man.

Acidosis:
It's simple!


Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands.



Husbands love your wives.


This principle has worked for all successful marriages I know. It worked for my grandparents; it worked for my parents (over 30 years in marriage, yet I've never seen them fight/yell/or shout at each other).

This same principle/ethics will I uphold in my family, and same would be passed to my children. Even if Obama legalizes marriage between man and pig, my own ethics and principles STAND.

darkenedrebel:


Thank you

And of course, I'm in complete consonance with the afore.

And also, positive discrimination against posters who are yet to plight their troth nor have any immediate desire of doing so should be heavily frowned upon. I find such affirmative actions rather degenerative.



I wouldn't feign to be an aficionado in marital affairs. What I would do instead, is border on the point instinctively, and with a conscious effort try to keep my thesis in tandem with a chain of episodic experiences and based on personal observations.

First up, I think there is the need of a slight reformation of the ethics of the African marriage. And I would like to have my focus riveted, this time on the 'Nigerian Marriage' as speaking on the 'African Marriage' would open the floodgates to a lot of generalizations - and as you know, that's never the ideal way of going around such matters.

Permit me to reiterate: certain values need to be revised and reviewed, and if the need arise, should be streamlined with novel ones that are more adaptable to the complexities and nuances of this modern age.

If only the inherent provincialism in the 'set-in-stone' traditionalists can be allayed a little, it wouldn't seem so difficult.
In the past, we used horses, donkeys, camels etcetera to tread afield and also to commute from one village to the next.

Herein lies the significance of the animal analogy: We, humans, realized the need for improvements in our standard of living, and thus, the feverish need arose for mediums that would not only bring a definite end to the tardiness encountered when travelling on a Carmel etc, but which would also go a long way in lessening the discomforts that usually trailed along with traveling on an animal's back.

The invention of bicycles, cars and other modern means of transportation were resultant of such needs.

Just as we thought it necessary to invent machines that would prove remarkably in sating our needs in transportation, and ergonomically too, so also is the reassessment of the mores guiding family/latter-day marriages meant to be above-the-fold in our to-do list.

This would not only bring about a rekindling of of marital values amongst couples, but also be conveniently suited for the '2016 marriage'.

No oars should be stuck into the bedrock of the marriage institution, and which for me are: love, trust and mutual respect betwixt partners.

St. Augustine of Hippo also included bonum sacramenti(indissolubility) in what he thinks wedlocks should be about.

I beg to differ, because I think domestic violence and a busload of imponderables can be considered a valid excuse for the dissolving of any marriage) I'm guessing men rarely turned their wives into punching bags in St.Augustine's time.

Men should also stop seeing women as properties or creatures bereft of feelings.

The recent Tiwa Savage and Tee Billz episode that rocked the entertainment world would be the most apt exempli grata in this scenario.
Let's just all suspend all disbelief and pretend that all Tiwa relayed in that video was true. Having done that, it'd come to the cognisance of any even-handed fellow that this so-called rule which states that a woman's total submission to her man is unnegotiable is a bit arbitrary and beyond the pale, especially when expected to be done without questioning in some very straitened circumstances.

Still on the Tiwa/Teebillz saga, I'm not trying to take sides here, but I don't think it's fair that after a woman(who is principally the sole provider of the house in Tiwa'Teebillz case) has expended ENERGY, both physically and mentally in performing on stage, or in studio sessions, from morn till dawn should return home only to be subjected to another spate of work by a layabout hubby, especially when it's sommat that could have easily been executed before she made it home.

Why can't he go into the kitchen and fix himself a plate and why would he be so inconsiderate to the plight of someone who has been out all day ploughing the fields.
That to me, is just the height of wickedness and also one of the matters I think needs to be addressed in premarital counselling sessions.

The ideal marriage should not be like a Military system government, but rather be akin to a football team where each of the persons involved are merely team players working towards a goal and for the commonweal.

It could be remarked in passing that the tradition of women being much more industrious than men has also accelerated the current process of equalization between the sexes, since the African woman in the modern working situation will generally outdo the man(I stand to be corrected).

In light of that, we men should develop some superego and try to adjust adequately to the patently obvious paradigm shift.

Gone are the days when the average woman is quintessentially a kitchen workhorse and a mobile baby-factory .
Times have changed and unless people change with them, the impasse would be unbreakable!.

A man should have no qualms in helping out in the kitchen without the fear of being described as 'stringed to his wife's aprons' or whatchamacallit?. . .yeah, without being labelled as 'henpecked'.

He also shouldn't refuse to help out with domestic affairs because he feels it is below the office of manhood.

Stone the crows!, I find this quite risible because I don't think I would find anything more fulfilling than in helping my soignèe mistress with some domestic chores and even with cooking; hands on her tender hips, nape-kissing and doing all that cosy lovey-dovey stuff whilst helping her out in the kitchen.

This is just one side of the coin being addressed and it's mainly hinged on we men learning to adapt to the changing times. My fingers are weary and my brain is addled, perhaps I would, if time permits, state in what ways I think women should also consider adjusting to the changing times in order to foster marriages in these modern times.

shaybebaby:
For the time being, I owe you a drink. Bravo... You sir, deserve a standing ovation for this.

lezz:


I have done cursory check, all the Western marionettes here are all domiciled abroad except the male phoney kid who is a compulsive liar and shammer.

Do I add that other than TV, who I see has stood and called the Western culture for what it is, the rest traded their morality to leverage their economic destitution.

These ladies are socio-cultural terrorists like the brainwashed suicide female bombers in the north. Only difference is that they think they are innocuous to the blast.

bukatyne:


@bold:

Are they 'African' values? If anything, they are the 'white man's values; afteral, he brought the Bible you quoted.

Cc: lezz

darkenedrebel:


Thank you. I am no marriage expert though. I'm merely a curious observer.

postmann:


You just killed all of them without firing a single shot

Did you see that teary-eyed lamenting griever?

lezz:
[b]Firstly, Christianity isn't the white man's religion. Second, headship of the husband has been an African virtue reaffirmed by Christianity and other religions.

Today's Western standing denies man this headship and depicts marriage as a "two-way traffic ".
Same ideology that takes the control of children out of the parents.
The hypocritical fallacy and irony is that no woman wants a man who isn't her superior. Every woman wants her man to lead her.

Women are genetically programmed to depend on men.

The blackmailing phrase of " our mothers were slave" has been amply employed to hurl people into the bandwagon of this new liberation movement.

Have you ever wondered why violence against women her high in the West? 2008 statistics shows 500 women are raped in America daily.

And a Western stooge told me we lack accurate stats here. True that. But does it wioe away the fact that the father of female liberation is still worst oppressor of the female gender?

I keep saying it, some decades ago, phoney Western accent of British or American English is the sure way of proving how westernised one is. Well since both akara sellers and gala hawkers have mastered that act, our domiciled borothers and sisters have upped the requirements to endorsing controversial Western norms
as conventional mode of conduct.

When is the idiocy going to stop?

[/b]

lezz:
Did you see that teary-eyed lamenting griever?

postmann:
@lezz
Hold your fire. Don't take that visa-hunting, economy-refugee-seeking, failed 419er, to the cleaners yet.

bukatyne:


Headship has always been a part of our culture however Loving of wives is from the Bible/West.

In fact, Acidosis' quote is directly from the Bible. The kind of love inferred to was imported with Christianity.

shaybebaby:

Please observe away. We live and learn everyday, no one has a monopoly on knowledge nor is the process one that ever ends.

shaybebaby:

have a read of Maslows hierarchy of needs, you'll find that the average nigerian is firmly stuck between the first and third level.
You I'm sure will know where you are placed.

postmann: